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AllisonDavies ChildAdditionalNeeds
AllisonDavies ChildAdditionalNeeds
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by Allison Davies, RMT, NMT
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TABLE OF CONTENTS:
3 A note from Alli
5 Neuro diversity
7 My autism experience
9 Waiting for diagnosis
13 To diagnose or not to diagnose
17 Why I left therapy
19 Understanding brain function
20 Resources
21 More about Allison Davies
22 Terms & Conditions
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A NOTE FROM ALLI
If you are reading this it most likely means you suspect your child
requires support beyond what we would consider within the typical
realm of children’s needs.
That there is something about them that you need more clarity
around, so that you can support them to thrive and absolutely nail
their best possible life!
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And whether you wrap up this journey with a diagnosis, multiple
diagnoses, a support plan to help your child thrive, or simply the
knowledge that what they are experiencing is a typical part of their
development and you are already doing all the things – you will be
richer for the deeper understanding that this book will bring.
And remember, parents, you are never alone. Even when you feel you
are.
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ONE TERM I REALLY NEED TO INTRODUCE TO YOU
IS NEURO DIVERSITY.
This is something you may not have heard before and it is absolutely
giving perspective and context to the fact that Autism, ADHD,
Tourette's Syndrome, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Sensory
Processing Disorder, all of these and more - are just a part of the big
reality that we are all diverse. And diversity is normal.
We are all individual. We are all unique.
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BEING NEURO DIVERSE IS A WONDERFUL THING
And you will find when you start thinking of your child as part of a
neuro diverse culture, you will notice people in your lives, people in
your school environment, people in your workplace who are completely
alongside you, celebrating your child for who they are and what they
can be in the world.
If you look for discrimination you will find it. If you look for celebration,
strength, acceptance and understanding amongst people in your lives
you will also find it.
I ask you to consider the concept of neuro diversity.
Understand that we are all different and all unique. And understanding
or identifying your child’s specific neuro diverse needs - whether you
value the idea of a diagnosis, or you don’t - is absolutely invaluable to
understanding your child's specific individual needs, have clarity
around them, and be able to support your child to love themselves and
thrive in a world that can be quite difficult to thrive in.
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I myself am autistic.
And for me personally, the neuro diversity movement has absolutely
allowed me to recognise that who I am - which includes the things that
I'm good at, the things I struggle with, the things that I find easy, the
things that I find difficult – is normal.
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contribute to their community, to their family and to society. To be a
hugely valuable part of a classroom, and to have a life that brings them
joy and is a life by design.
I truly believe that all children have the capacity for this, whether they
are verbal or not, whether they are independent or not or whether
their needs are considered by their culture to be functional or non
functional.
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THINK OF NEURO DIVERSITY LIKE ICE CREAM
Can you imagine how boring the world would be if we only ever had
the option of vanilla?
Our brains are absolutely no different. They all stick to the basic game
plan. They have the same basic functions. They ‘basically’ do all the
same things, but they have their own flavour.
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And I don't know about you, but I would never, ever choose an ice
cream bar with one flavour at it, over an ice cream bar with all the
possible flavours you could ever imagine.
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Patience is paramount.
But what I didn't realise at the time is that the waiting would not
change anything important.
It would not change who my daughter is. It would not change how we
love her and the fact that we were supporting her the best we could
anyway. She was autistic from the moment she was born and she will
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be autistic for the rest of her life.
The two years of us waiting for someone else to clarify that did not
change who she was or who we are and how we supported her.
In the meantime, while you wait, your child is getting everything they
can from you right now, and that is enough.
By all means, rant with your friends who are also on waiting lists!
Because it's frustrating, and it can feel super validating to complain
about the system with others who are experiencing the same thing.
But always keep in mind that this will not change who your child is, or
how you support them.
In the long run, the waiting list stage is a very short period of your life.
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TO DIAGNOSE OR NOT TO DIAGNOSE
You may be seeking therapy, or professional opinion, but you still may
not be decided whether you want to access an official assessment and a
diagnosis for your child, and this is one of the dilemmas that people ask
me about more than any other.
I lived what looked like a relatively typical life, I worked out ways of
managing my childhood, and I did this in ways in which no one would
have ever suspected that I was autistic.
But with a life of self management that no one else knows about, social
masking and trying to fit in, came a lot of confusion, a lot of feeling
that I was different.
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That led to self talk such as “If only they knew what you were really
like”, “How can you be so smart but so dumb?”, “You are a fake."
However it does give you something to consider when you are going
through the pros and cons of deciding whether to seek a diagnosis.
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It was commonplace, and we remember that. So the thought of
discrimination, and potentially our child being thought of as different
or teased by their peers, is automatically living within us as a fear.
When we cast ourselves back to our own childhood, that was a reality.
I do believe, and hope, that our children are going to be the first
generation of people to go through school with multiple neuro diverse
children in their classroom, with everybody knowing about it and
nobody thinking any differently of anyone as a result of it.
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And finally, the word diagnosis in itself can feel pathological.
If you can move away from the thought of diagnosing your child, and
move towards the idea of identifying their needs, you will see the
value in identification.
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WANT TO KNOW WHY I LEFT THERAPY?
But nobody had taught them how, showed them how or encouraged
them to do it.
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There is absolutely a place for these
therapy sessions.
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PARENTS, YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND HOW YOUR
CHILD’S BRAIN WORKS
The behaviour
CHILDREN'S is never the problem.
BRAIN DEVELOPMENT?
The meltdowns, the shutdown, the screaming, kicking, biting, running
away, self harming - it's never the problem.
When you understand the brain, how it functions, and how to support
it to function at it’s best, so many of the behaviours that we think of as
problematic tend to sort themselves out and disappear.
Often your child will stop running away when you can support their
brain in what it needs to function at its best.
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Until you understand the basic
functioning of their brain, you are
unable to know how to support it.
I run a 10-week eCourse called Brains = Behaviors, and across the ten
weeks I teach you about emotional regulation, executive functioning,
hyperactivity, and anxiety, as well as sensory processing and
meltdown management.
BRAINS = BEHAVIOURS
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I have a number of digital resources on
my website to give you further insight
into your child’s brain.
Click the images below to learn more about each course.
The Meltdown
Series
Sensory
Overload
What is
Anxiety
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Allison Davies
Neurologic Music Therapist & Brain Care Specialist
Allison has enjoyed presenting and guest speaking for more than 15
years and is renowned for her ability to entertain a room in her unique
‘storytelling mixed with science’ approach to educating, as well as
sharing enlightening excerpts of her lived experience of Autism
Spectrum Disorder and Sensory Processing Disorder.
She was named a 2016 National AMP Tomorrow Maker for her
contribution to creating a better tomorrow for Australian families, and
in 2018 Allison received third place in both the ‘Women Will Change the
World’ and ‘Making a Difference’ National AusMumpreneur Awards
.
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