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A Boy Discovers His Penis PDF
James A. Kleeman
To cite this article: James A. Kleeman (1965) A Boy Discovers His Penis, The Psychoanalytic
Study of the Child, 20:1, 239-266, DOI: 10.1080/00797308.1965.11823234
The drama implied in the title is in the mind of the adult! and
the title actually refers to a rather undramatic moment in the first
year of the male child." Several authors (Spitz and Wolf, Lampl-de
Groot) have stressed the limitations of studies to date in this area of
autoeroticity and genital manipulation. Spitz and Wolf (1949) state:
"A really unimpeachable study would have to offer continuous 24-
hour observation of the infant during the whole of the first year
of life." Longitudinal studies of individual children offer a partial
answer to this problem. In this paper I shall utilize observations of
a male infant throughout his first year to compare with certain gen-
eral statements in the literature about autoerotic activity, genital
play, and genital discovery and to illustrate certain specific items of
interest about this child which the longitudinal case method makes
possible.
SOURCE OF DATA
239
240 JAMES A. KLEEMAN
Observation 1 (0;8 +
0):3 He was just eight months to the day.
There he sat in the bathtub playing with the rubber mat beneath
himself as the water ran out the tub. Looking down, he spied a small
3 The observations reported here are only selected samples from a much larger total,
and usually only fragments from a given observation are included for the sake of brevity.
A BOY DISCOVERS HIS PENIS 241
object between his chunky, little thighs. He reached down and gently
felt it in his fingers (his initial approach to anything new was usually
a gentle one). He moved it and squeezed it with interest several times.
He released his hand and reached again for the bathmat and then
for the drain plug and, as if he were suddenly reminded, once again
he lowered his eyes and put his hand down to discover anew his
penis.'
Observation 2 (0;8 + 30):5 After his bath William was sitting
undressed on his mother's knee facing a mirror as his mother was
putting on his shirt. He saw his penis in the mirror and looked
intently at it. He made no movement to reach for it or touch it but
stared with interest for about ninety seconds.
Observation 3 (0; 10 +
6):7 After nursing at the first breast and
before starting at the other, 'William explored the nipple of his
4 In this observation which gives the paper its title I have quoted the mother
directly.
5 Between the initial observation and Observation 2, William did not again direct
attention to his unclothed genitalia.
6 This was a baby who at a very young age was observed to be remarkably aware of
form: he reached with his mouth for nipples, toys, mother's nose, fingers. breast, etc.
When he began to utilize his hand at eleven and a half weeks, he then reached with
his hand as well as his mouth for these positive forms. He would regularly grasp his
mother's facial features and fingers.
7 In contrast to his other two nursings, which preceded sleep, the initial nursing of
the day was carried out in the light. The mother, hoping this might enhance a feeling
of separateness and encourage weaning, permitted William to examine her breast some-
times at this feeding.
242 JAMES A. KLEEMAN
Observation 5 (0; 10 +
10): In the tub on this day William
touched his penis with his forefinger. He rubbed his thighs together,
which appeared stimulating to the genitals. He had an erection part
of the time.
Observation 6 (0; 10 +
11): Today in the bath, William did not
touch his genitals. At one point he was on all fours looking back at
himself. This was the third consecutive day he had an erection in
the bath. It was clear this time it occurred spontaneously. He also
paid special attention to his knee, touching and rubbing it.!"
Observation 7 (0; 10 +
14): William showed tumescence through-
out the bath.P He examined his penis with his forefinger and then
stroked it with his forefinger and thumb back and forth four times.
8 The quality of this fingering. its intensity. and his facial expression were reminis-
cent of his "discovery" and examination of his penis at eight months.
9 This is again a direct quotation from the mother.
10 The intensity of the interest in the knee seemed about equivalent to that shown
for the genitalia or for certain external objects at this time and represented his increas-
ing awareness of this sector of his body.
11 The mother thought prolonged tumescence might indicate a full bladder. She
stated that when changing him as a newborn. she would wait before putting on a dry
diaper (but would keep him covered) when he had an erection. She said he usually
would urinate if she waited a few minutes, and the erection was her clue.
A BOY DISCOVERS HIS PENIS 243
bled his behavior at this time with the nipple of his mother's breast.
The mother felt that the nipple was similar to the penis in color,
temperature, erectile tissue, and, to the baby boy, similar in size. The
day following this observation William began walking unaided.
Observation 8 (0; 10 +
18): On the three previous days there
was no genital touching in the bath. This evening William showed
interest in his penis as soon as he was in the tub and remained inter-
ested throughout the bath. While sitting, he bent over trying to look
at himself. He touched his penis with the thumb of one hand. Then
with the other hand he held the penis with his forefinger and thumb.
After additional clutching of the whole genitalia and squeezing of
the penis, William started to get an erection. Near the end of the
bath he was holding the penis between his thumb and forefinger. He
began tugging at it back and forth in a more vigorous fashion than
had previously been observed. After he stopped, he bent over again
and tried to see.
Observation 9 (0; 10 +
27): In the bath William approached his
genitals with an open hand and partly enveloped his scrotal sac and
penis together. Bending over, he looked at his penis, tugged on it,
and continued to look at it off and on throughout the bath. While
holding his penis, he looked up at his mother's face with a facial
expression she interpreted as "Isn't it wonderful!" She responded,
"That is your penis; you like that?"
In diapering William afterward the mother retracted the rem-
nant of his circumcised foreskin to clean the area. He giggled as she
did this.
It is fairly apparent that by this time the genital area had sensa-
tion of a special quality. However, it was not yet clear whether the
degree of sensation was markedly different from the sensation that
produced laughter when he was "tickled" in other sensitive parts of
his body.
Observation 10 (0; 10 +
28): As warm water came flowing in
around William sitting in the bath, both testicles retracted upward
and the penis seemed to bob up and become partially erect. At this
point William grasped his penis in his fingers. The penis remained
erect. He bent over, presumably to look at itP
12 Earlier the same day William had again fingered the mother's nipple during the
nursing period in a way very similar to the above fingering of his penis. Though I have
assumed that his bending over was always co look at his penis, the breast-penis equa-
tion here leaves open the possibility that bending over also involved a wish to suck
on the penis.
244 JAMES A. KLEEMAN
this moment" Several times he lightly put both hands to his lap,
perhaps touching his genitals. He then held his penis between his
thumb and forefinger, squeezing it gently, as the water came into the
tub. Shortly thereafter, he was observed to have a 3+ erection, and
both hands dropped to his lap, one still holding the toothbrush. The
hands lightly touched his erect penis but did not grasp it. (The move-
ment seemed to be a response to the erection.) During the last part
of the bath there was no (0) erection and no more touching of his
phallus. He sucked his thumb actively in his mother's lap after the
bath. She permitted him to play, unclothed, in his crib for a few
minutes, which included his lying face down and rocking his pelvis
on the crib sheet several times. This seemed pleasurable to him,
though he did not reach for his genitals. In being diapered William
squeezed his thighs together while extending his legs.
+
1;0 15: The mother put her hand inside his diaper to see if
it was wet; her hand touched his penis. His immediate response was
to stroke her cheek and say "Ni" (making nice). (This is a striking
example of a passivity-activity connection and a reversal of the proc-
ess whereby general affection from the mother leads to genital sen-
sation [d. Kris, 1951, p. 100].)
I; I + 20: William had a 3+ tumescence in his bath which was
followed immediately by detumescence (0) after urination.
+
I; 1 21: William stood for quite awhile in his bath so that it
was possible to observe without difficulty spontaneous tumescence
and detumescence occurring without any tactile stimulation of the
genitals.
+
1;1 25: After bending over on all fours to look at his genitalia
three separate times, William was sitting in the bath. His mother
named body parts, which he knew, suggesting he wash his knee. As
she pointed to the knee, he stroked it with the washcloth. She en-
couraged him to wash his belly, touching it as she pointed to it. He
did not acknowledge her but instead reached for his penis and tugged
at it. She again pointed to the belly and suggested he wash it, and he
repeated the same behavior. This time his tugging aroused an erec-
tion (3+).
DISCUSSION
Body-Image Learning
My primary intent was to make behavioral observations. Then
secondarily, I wished to compare these data with existing psycho-
analytic developmental propositions.v
In the papers of Spitz dealing most extensively with "genital
play" in the first year of life he approaches the data from the stand-
point of a selected aspect of existing psychoanalytic theory; i.e., he
views the observations under the heading of autoerotism. While his
work in this area has given us very valuable information, this method
would obscure one of the more important findings derived from the
observations of William; though his genital touching in the first year
had a gradually increasing autoerotic element in it, the autoerotic
did not seem the most significant aspect of the behavior. Rather the
discovery of a part of his body and emerging delineation of it over-
shadowed the drive gratification or pleasure element (d. Provence
and Lipton, 1962). Several authors have criticized the tendency of
psychoanalysts to stress autoerotism in the self-stimulation of the
first year and to minimize body-image learning in this behavior
(Kinsey et aI., 1948, p. 498; Escalona, 1963).
A. Freud (1953), Kris et al. (1954), and Greenacre (1953, 1958)
have emphasized the emergence of body image and the establishment
of a body self through self-stimulation (see also Loewenstein, 1950,
P: 48). For example, A. Freud (see Kris et aI., 1954) states: "Here ap-
14 Hartmann, Kris, and Loewenstein (1953, p. 16) rightly raise a question about such
an approach when they remind us that the collection of observable data is always influ-
enced by explicit and implicit assumptions. However, it is also patent that too strict
an adherence to a theoretical framework or segment of that theory can lead to mini-
mizing certain aspects of behavior observed.
A BOY pISCOVERS HIS PENIS 249
periences. Yet, "An infant learns by doing. The more he applies what-
ever he is capable of at the time by way of orienting and adapting his
behavior to what he perceives, the more does the very act of prac-
ticing push him toward the next step" (Escalona, 1963, p. 219). In
addition, the genital self-stimulation is an expression of the multiple
factors of maturational processes, progressive awareness of one's own
body, the quality of maternal care, and the interaction between the
baby and the mothering person. Therefore, the genital self-stimula-
tion both reflects and facilitates the development of the awareness of
the body (Provence and Lipton, 1962, p. 119) and, to a lesser degree,
libidinal development in general and genital sexual activity in par-
ticular.
tivities increase and fill the void when gratification from the mother-
ing person falls short of what the child normally experiences (see
also A. Freud and Burlingham, 1944). However, she notes, as men-
tioned above, that "baby masturbation" is not one of the activities
showing such increase, suggestive, at least, that first year genital self-
stimulation is more an expression of the child's relation to his own
body. The fact that autoerotic activity tends to replace what is miss-
ing from the mother is one form of the infant's expressing actively
what was formerly passively experienced. This and other forms of an
activity-passivity relationship have been applied to autoerotic activi-
ties by Freud (1905, p. 188), Kris (1951), Mahler (see Kris et al., 1954,
p. 66), Provence and Lipton (1962, p. 121), and Escalona (1963).
Although several observations of William (0; 11 + 12; 1;0 + 15 and
1;2 + 5) illustrate this, under normal conditions the active carrying
out precisely what has been experienced passively does not seem to
contribute as much to genital self-stimulation as it does to some other
first year autoerotic behaviors. In the case of Sylvester (1947) an ab-
normal situation, a generalized overstimulation (without any specific
mention of genital stimulation or seduction), resulted in masturba-
tion as a cause for referral at eleven months.
Spitz and Wolf (1949) make some observations relevant to this
issue, concluding: "There is further evidence that genital stimulation
in itself is not sufficient to provoke genital play . . . our material
shows that eczema and genital play are independent of each other. ...
Thus we have at present no adequate explanation why a 'close'
mother-child relation, without particular genital stimulation should
result in genital play when local stimulation does not" (p. 101£.).
Kris (1951) directs himself to this very point: "The transfer from
general affection to the genital zone itself is a complex process; it
need not only come about by the direct contact of the mother with
the genital region of the child during her ministrations, an experi-
ence the child would repeat by self-stimulation. It may also arise as
consequence of the general bodily closeness to which, we assume, the
child tends to react with sensation in the genital region. . . . The
genital self-stimulation could then replace the more general stimula-
tion which had produced the pleasurable sensation in the genital
region" (p. 100£.).
Based partly on observations not included here, I suggest adding
A BOY DISCOVERS HIS PENIS 255
so that she was able to walk, sway, hop, or dance to radio music. She
would sometimes bump his buttocks against the wall lightly and
rhythmically which enabled him, on occasion, to relieve himself of
rectal gas. This truly exhausting procedure for the mother for a 15-20
minute nursing was greatly preferred to the interrupted feeding, cry-
ing, gastrointestinal distress, and frustration for mother and child
that was frequent without it. This went on between four and eight
months. When William was eight months, I made the prediction
that at about one year, it would find expression in some rhythmic
autoerotic activity. However, this did not occur, possibly because
nursing continued through this period (much less kinesthetic activity
was needed). William rocked some in his crib around nine months,
but the dominant mode of self-stimulation was thumb sucking, some-
times with a soft diaper pressed against his face. There was occasional
playful head banging at a year, but no significant rocking, head bang-
ing or other major rhythmic activity. Escalona anticipated the com-
plexity of such a prediction. In conjunction with point 3 quoted
above she added: "In this area, too, the facts are such that knowing
how the mother tends to stimulate her infant does not predict the
preferred modality for autoerotic activity in the baby. Nor is there
a consistent relationship between that modality to which the infant
proves most reactive and the modality he chooses for conspicuous
self-stimulation" (p. 241£.). Retrospectively, it is not difficult to un-
derstand why this infant utilized thumb sucking and a soft diaper
pressed against the face as his preferred modes of self-stimulation,
expressing his experience (his innate characteristics and his mother's
style of caring for him). In addition to the kinesthetic stimulation
offered him, the mother was richly oral herself. She kissed him a lot,
talked to him with the use of a variety of facial expressions, sang
freely, and offered him the breast to satiety. She also exposed him to
much tactile pleasure.
Below I discuss four items specifically derived from the observa-
tions of William:
Age of Onset
l. The age of onset of genital self-stimulation could be pre-
cisely stated. Two points are of interest, knowledge of the exact age
of onset and the prolonged interval before it was resumed more con-
258 JAMES A. KLEEMAN
sistently. The first genital touching occurred on the day he was eight
months old. This was not repeated until he reached ten months nine
days.
Spitz, after extensive bibliographic research, comments: "In the
literature on infantile autoerotic activities collected by us, references
to exact age of the inception of genital play are almost absent" (Spitz
and Wolf, 1949, p. 91). Spitz shows a chart of the age of onset in
the twenty-one "institution" infants who showed "genital play," one
beginning at six months and over 60 per cent starting after ten
months. In children reared in families with "excellent" mother-child
relations Spitz found that sixteen out of seventeen infants studied
manifested genital play within the first year, at ages which were on
the average two months earlier than those observed in the institution
(p. 95). Bender (1939) declares genital play begins between the eighth
and ninth month in normal children. The infant reported by Loew-
enstein (1950) was ten months old and so was the boy described by
Casuso (1957).
Bornstein (1953) states that pleasurable self-manipulation may
occur in the fifth or sixth month. Levine (1951) reports that between
five and six months an infant rarely finds his genitals, but the finger-
ing is not purposeful or continuous. After six months the fingering
of genitals begins to occur with greater frequency. Bell (1961) notes
an infant, at about six months, who, making random movements to-
ward the genital, manipulated the scrotal sac as his first encounter
with his genitalia; only later, when more directed movements had
developed, did he reach for the penis. Her observation and the fol-
lowing one from Halverson (1940) are of a different order from the
"discovery" at eight months by William and the genital play re-
ported by Spitz; the latter involve coordination of purposeful hand
and finger movements and visual focus. Halverson describes a fifteen-
week-old infant: "M's tumescences were usually of long duration and
the cause of considerable annoyance to him. He repeatedly reached
for his penis and scrotum and grasped or clawed them violently."
Role of Trauma
2. It is well established in psychoanalytic theory that various pre-
genital experiences or traumata can precociously erotize a zone or
organ (Greenacre, 1965), but it is still a task of infant observers of the
A BOY DISCOVERS HIS PENIS 259
T high Pressure
3. A number of times on his changing table William was ob-
served stretching his legs and squeezing his thighs in a way stimulat-
ing to his genitalia. The pleasure he seemed to derive from this was
moderate at most; it appeared to be a transitory and normal phe-
nomenon in his total development. It was of about as much im-
portance as his infrequent head tapping (part of his varied explora-
tions and stimulations of his surroundings and himself). Freud
(1905, p. 188) refers to this form of self-stimulation, and Greenacre
(1941) discusses it (see also Levine, 1951, p. 120). In a rarely quoted
paper Rachford (1907) described this in detail. He cited a number
of cases, documented its occasional early onset in the middle of the
first year, and noted its predominance in females.
20 Frequent warm baths, the treatment which seemed to offer the baby maximal
relief through relaxing him, were not specifically zonally directed.
21 It is evident from the following observation that, because of the augmented
genital sensitivity and conscious awareness of it, the same genital attention at four-
teen months would have had a markedly different impact: 1;2 + 5: William had a
slight irritation around the urethral meatus. His mother applied ointment to the spot
three times during the day, and on each occasion this minimal stimulation aroused an
immediate (3+) erection. At one of these times he pushed his mother's hand away and
stared quite intensely at her. At another he responded to the tumescence by squeezing
his thighs together.
260 JAMES A. KLEEMAN
Visual Component
4. The visual component of William's genital exploration not
only was important, but actually tended to supersede the tactile in
later observations. Because of their location, the genitals and back
are the last major external areas of the body discovered. Apprehend-
ing any object (external or body part) simultaneously in various
modalities, such as touching or manipulating it while also looking at
it, promotes a more distinct awareness of the thing or its properties
than is possible through a single modality (Escalona, 1963, p. 221).22
In the case of a body part there is the additional sensation created
by the stimulation in the part itself. Greenacre (1958, 1960) has writ-
ten extensively about the role of vision in developing a sense of
identity, as an indispensable adjunct in establishing the confluence of
the body surface, delimiting the self from the nonself, and integrat-
ing body parts into an organized central image. She points out that
for a girl touch and vision play less of a part in forming the image of
her own genitals than they do for a male.
several investigators have shown that rocking in the first year can
arise in a number of different circumstances expressing different
meanings, and at times with very little pleasure apparent (Provence
and Lipton, 1962; Kris, 1951; Kris et al., 1954; Wolff, 1964; Brody,
1960; A. Freud and Burlingham, 1944).
I believe that a future classification of the behaviors which have
been subsumed under autoerotism will have to heed David Rapa-
port's warning (1960) that (1) psychoanalytic theory conceives of such
a concept to explain behavior; (2) there has been a tendency to use
explanatory concepts as though they referred to specific behaviors
rather than to specific aspects of behavior. It is suggestive that one
could and should describe genital touching, for example, theoreti-
cally in terms of the following propositions: dynamic (sexual or ag-
gressive drive or both and tendency for excitation or discharge),
economic (amount of pleasure or energy involved), structural and
adaptive ("auto" aspect, reality testing, development of sense of self,
etc.), genetic (regressive quality, history of the behavior), and psycho-
social (the behavior will be subject to what the environment wishes
to make of it and will be molded by the culture-bearing parents).
Future classifications should include the not yet adequately sys-
tematized suggestions of several writers:
Hartmann (see Kris et al., 1954) recommends the study of the
pleasure potentialities in the three psychic systems and their changes
on the different levels of growth and development." (In this regard,
William, in the first year, seemed to derive the ego pleasure of self-
discovery, body reality testing, and the visual-tactile delineation of
his penis more than the gratification of the sexual drive. At the same
time his thumb sucking before bedtime conveyed the impression of
23 After writing this I discovered that Nagera has made an initial effort of re-exam-
ining the concept of autoerotism (1964). Tracing the writings of Freud he distinguishes
"autoerotism" (a phase in the development of object relations) from "autoerotic" (a
term used to describe a specific type of sexual activity and gratification). He differenti-
ates three levels or types of autoerotic phenomena corresponding to the level of ego
and self development present in the phases of autoerotism, primary narcissism, and true
object relationships. Ernst Kris (1951) encouraged such a view: "The psychoanalytic
approach to an understanding of early autoerotic activities is bound to relate these
activities to various overlapping aspects of the problem of growth, particularly to the
sequence of maturational processes, the development of the ego as a psychic organiza-
tion, and to development and vicissitudes in the infant's and child's relation to his
love objects. In studying any concrete phenomenon we are faced with a merging or
interacting of these and other factors" (p. 96).
262 JAMES A. KLEEMAN
CONCLUSIONS
24 Historically the term autoerotic was applied before our dual drive theory had
evolved in its present form, but the term autoerotic has not similarly been kept up
to date.
25 William exemplified the rapid alternation of the dual roles, observed at one
moment with the bath-drain plug in his mouth (clearly primarily exploratory in mean-
ing), and moments later sucking his thumb while in his mother's lap as .she dried him
(withdrawing interest from the outer world and soothing himself in preparation for
sleep).
A BOY DISCOVERS HIS PENIS 263
the first year primarily fosters discovery of a body part and helps the
establishment of a body self. The erotic aspect is secondary.
2. Mild to moderate pleasure characterizes the activity as time
progresses without self-absorption or mounting excitement. Orgastic
intensity or masturbation are inappropriately precocious indications
of disturbance.
3. Although there is great individual variation in erogenous zone
sensitivity, the genitals do not usually have the pleasure potentiality
of the mouth at the end of the first year; however, there is a gradual
increase in eroticity. Self-stimulation of the genitals does not usually
serve as an autoerotic activity substitutive for the mother's stimula-
tion in the way that other means, such as thumb sucking, do.
4. The factors of tumescence and testicular movements add to the
sensation differentiation of the genital area from other body parts.
5. Genital exploration of a meaningful kind, as opposed to ran-
dom tactile contact with the genitalia, is a development relatively
late in the first year (from eight to ten months on) after the infant
has developed skills of manual-visual coordination and forefinger-
thumb dexterity, and has used them on his foot and toes, his mother's
body, and other objects in his surroundings.
6. Whereas tumescences are largely reflex throughout much of
the first year (partly associated with the function of micturition), late
in the first year and increasingly in the first months of the second year
they can be aroused also by tactile stimulation of the penis.
7. Of the factors contributing to the genesis of genital self-stimu-
lation in the first year maturational processes and good infant-mother
relations seem to playa more essential role than the direct process of
the infant's repeating actively the genital stimulation which he re-
ceived passively from the mother. In addition, self-stimulation seems
partly reflective of an early identification process. A slightly different
way to conceptualize this is that good maternal-infant relations facili-
tate the discharge of maturational drive representatives in the form
of self-stimulation.
8. In the case reported, focused stimulation early in the first year
because of dermatitis did not appear to affect subsequent normal
emergence of genital self-stimulation. Observation suggested that the
same trauma in the second year would have a more significant im-
pact.
264 JAMES A. KLEEMAN
SUMMARY
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