Understanding your Physical Self
 There is always a pressure in our society
to look good.
 This has given rise to beauty products and
enhancement procedures for the purpose
that we could fit in, be accepted, and be
beautiful.
 Our physical selves have become so
dependent on the judgment of our
appearance and not with the celebration
of it.
 There is always a pressure in our society
to look good.
 This has given rise to beauty products and
enhancement procedures for the purpose
that we could fit in, be accepted, and be
beautiful.
 Our physical selves have become so
dependent on the judgment of our
appearance and not with the celebration
of it.
Why do I look like myself?
Our biology dictates that our looks are a result
of the genes transferred to us by our parents.
(Gregor Mendel)
 Are there more positive traits than
negative traits written on your chart?
 Are there more physical traits than non-
physical traits that have been recorded?
 Are you happy for having those traits?
Cultural Standards of Beauty
 Define BEAUTY.
 Different cultures have different standards
of beauty.
 How about the Philippines?
Our concept of physical selves as Filipinos is
largely associated with our skin color.
We were forced to believe that they were more
superior people, more civilized, and how they
look were deemed as standard of beauty.
Body Dysmorphic Disorder
 Patients worry that there is something
wrong with the shape or appearance of a
body part – most often breasts, genitalia,
hair, or the nose, or some portion of the
face.
 The ideas they have about their bodies are
not delusional, rather they are overvalued
ideas.
 Frequently request for medical procedures
or plastic surgeries but are often
dissatisfied with the results.
The Filtered Self
 Why filter?
 Today, our self-approval is dependent on
the likes, shares, and comments, of our
social media posts
 The more we approve of the filtered us,
the more we disregard our real, unfiltered
physical selves
 Perhaps, at one point in our lives, we have
been implicitly or explicitly criticized or
even ridiculed for how we look.
 Who is bold enough to share the time you
were mocked and how did it made you
feel?
 You can PLAY or PASS.’
  Clothing is a form of self Clothing is a form
of self-expression. We choose and
Understanding our Understanding expression. We choose and wear clothes
our Material (Watson, 2014)
 The more investment of self is given to the
“We regard our possessions as part of
particular thing, the more we identify
ourselves. We are what we have and ourselves.
ourselves
We are what we have and what we possess.”
 “A man’s self is the sum total of all what he
Belk (1998)
can call HIS.” (James, 1890)
 The possessions that we dearly have tell
something about who we are, our self our
past, and even our future.
 We develop an attachment with most of the
things we buy because we accord the same
to the resources that enable us to
accomplish the transaction.
 In the face of material loss, there is a
shrinkage of the personality (James, 1890).
 That is why we “die a little” every time we
lose some of our possessions.

The Calvinist Principle

“If we are only to pass through earth, we ought

undoubtedly to make such a use of its blessings
as will rather assist than retard in our journey.”
-John Calvin

 For him, it is through the consumption of

 “Any time we bring an object into the material goods that people can truly fulfill
surface of our “Any time we bring an object God's desires.
into the surface of our body, we invest that  He justifies that a person's hard work
object into the consciousness of our body, justifies his/her consumption.
we invest that object into the consciousness  Though consumption and wealth
of our personal existence taking in its accumulation are divine acts, still, these
contours to be our own personal existence must be done in moderation
taking in its contours to be our own and
making it part of the self. and making it part
of the self. –(Lotze)
 The fabric and style of the clothes we wear
bring The fabric and style of the clothes we
wear bring sensations to the body which
directly affect our attitudes sensations to
the body which directly affect our attitudes
and behavior. and behavior.
Emotional Self
• What was the craziest thing you did for
love?
• When was the last time you felt really,
really mad?
• What makes you sad?
We are created by God to feel emotions. It is a
blessing to feel such emotions. When a person
loses in touch with reality, nawawala ang
emotion. So if you feel anything, even pain,
thank God. It means, you are still in good shape.
Ex: lawyer na wala nakapasa sa bar (comment)
What is the condition of your heart today?
It’s not the heart that feels emotions (limbic
system) from fist heart to finger heart
BASIC EMOTIONS
Robert Plutchik (2003)
1. Emotions are related to one another.
 Adjacent are closely related. love = joy +
trust
 across are conceptual opposites (sadness
and joy, anticipation and surprise)
 they come in a variety of intensities
(nearest to the center are most intense)
 you can feel mixed emotions
Ex. Uyab2… happy but guilty sa mama, Laag sa
mall with ex, chocolate and diet
FEAR
• A negative emotional response and
considered one of the most troublesome of
all emotional reactions.
• Common and prominent physical
manifestations : pounding of the heart,
sinking feeling in the stomach, trembling
and shaking, weakness, faintness and
tensions
• Fear of a specific object or situation may
have been acquired through conditioning.
• It can be learned but it can be controlled
and eradicated. (Example: past traumatic
experiences)
ANGER
• A manifestation of a negative feeling
towards a person, object, or event.
• It is a strong emotion that can result to rage
and can be disastrous. Attacking is a
possible reaction.
• It can be misdirected. If the aggression
aroused by frustration cannot be directed
against the situation itself, it may be
displaced and vented upon a substitute.
• It can be controlled. The more educated
the individual, the more he can control his
emotion.
LOVE
• Mainly involves a focusing of strong positive
feelings on a person.
• It can have a sexual desire as an important
component, although people can feel love
without the sexual element.
• It can be displaced from its original object
and transferred to substitute or symbolic
objects.
Example: Young men may fall in love with
women who resemble their mothers or vice
versa.
• Love between individuals of the opposite
sex has, through the ages, been often
characterized by a disruption in the
behavior.
• Sometimes, it is the cause of failure in an
exam, a missed important meeting, lost
friendship, or quarrel with parents.
EMOTIONAL CONTROL
• Directing and managing emotional
experiences such that they will not have
negative consequences.
• Achieving emotional control is one
indication of emotional maturity.
Avoid emotion-provoking situations
• Emotional responses are caused by stimuli.
• If a child is exposed to harrowing stories or
exciting movies on TV, he will have less
chances of putting his emotions under
control.
• At best, children should be exposed to
these in small doses.
Re-interpret the situation
• Sometimes the oversensitive type of
person needs to analyze the actions and
words of others.
• He has to be convinced that his fears
are groundless.
• Helping him achieve his goal will build
his ego and restore his self-confidence.
Find substitute outlets
• Substitute goals may give temporary relief.
• They may not solve the emotional problem,
but they may lessen the tension.
• Teach the individual to sublimate desires
and goals.
Develop a sense of humor
• Laughter often solves an emotional problem
to satisfaction.
• The person who has a good sense of humor
makes light of tensions.
• The emotionally mature person should be
able to laugh at himself and his follies.
Smile to make yourself feel good.
Smile to make others feel good.
Breathe.
Talk to someone.
Get up and move.