Identify Solutions

Module 5

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Solutions
A solution is solving a problem
through working together and
agreeing on an answer you and
the other person find equally fair.
As you go through this module,
you will learn skills to help you
solve a problem and come up
with a solution.
Perspective
A perspective is an attitude:

● What someone does

● What someone thinks

● What someone feels

Watch The Tale of Two

Beast on the next slide
and pay attention to each
of their perspectives and
their solution.
 A Tale of Two Beasts
Directions: Listen to A Tale of Two Beasts by pressing play on the video.
 Little Girl’s Perspective
Directions: Hover over each image to learn more about Fang’s
perspective.
The little girl thinks the
beast doesn’t look happy.

The girl feels love toward

the little beast.

The girl’s action is to take

the beast home with her.
 Fang’s Perspective
Directions: Hover over each image to learn more about Fang’s
perspective.
Fang thinks he was taken
by a beast to be her pet.

Fang’s actions show him

jumping out of the window
and back into the deep, dark
forest where he feels safe.

Fang feels he doesn’t like

being with the little girl
 Compare Perspectives
How was the little girl’s perspective and Fang’s perspective the same and
different? Click and drag the answers into the correct circles.

Fang’s Perspective
The Girl’s Perspective
SAME

Fang needed her help,

Fang was taken from the Being together wasn't
he was unhappy in the
forest by a terrible beast. terrible after all.
forest.
 Compare Perspectives
How was the little girl’s perspective and Fang’s perspective the same and
different? Click and drag the answers into the correct circles.

Fang’s Perspective
The Girl’s Perspective
SAME
Fang needed her help, Fang was taken from the
he was unhappy in the Being together wasn't forest by a terrible beast.
forest. terrible after all.
Correct! The girl thought that Fang Correct! Fang thought that the
was stuck in the tree and needed little girl was a beast who
to be rescued. ambushed him.
Correct! Both the girl and Fang
realized that each other was not a
beast.
 Compare Perspectives
How was the little girl’s perspective and Fang’s perspective the same and
different? Click and drag the answers into the correct circles.

Fang’s Perspective
The Girl’s Perspective
SAME Fang needed her help,
Fang was taken from the he was unhappy in the
forest by a terrible beast. forest.

Being together wasn't

Incorrect! This is not the girl’s terrible after all. Incorrect! This is not Fang’s
perspective. perspective.
Correct! Both the girl and Fang
realized that each other was not a
beast.
 Tips for finding a solution
Directions: Click each shape to reveal a tip.

Tip #2 Tip
Tip#3
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Tip #1

Listening Staying Calm Follow Through

What is a compromise?
A compromise is an agreement
reached by each side by
agreeing on a solution. It might
not be what you wanted
originally, but both sides are
happy. In the next few slides,
you will be learning about ways
you can compromise.
Listening

● Listen to the other’s side

● No interrupting
● Listen for feelings
● Repeat what you heard back to
the person
What would you do?
Charlie is unhappy. Charlie doesn’t want to play basketball anymore with his brother
Zaiden. Charlie knows that telling Zaiden is going to upset him. Charlie has asked to talk
to Zaiden. What should Zaiden do when Charlie is talking to him?

A) Listen to what Charlie is saying and listen for Charlie’s feelings.

Correct! When listening to someone, listen for their feelings such as, “I feel, I think”.

B) Interrupt Charlie as he is talking by yelling and screaming at him.

C) Roll his eyes and sigh.

What would you do?
Charlie is unhappy. Charlie doesn’t want to play basketball anymore with his brother
Zaiden. Charlie knows that telling Zaiden is going to upset him. Charlie has asked to talk
to Zaiden. What should Zaiden do when Charlie is talking to him?

A) Listen to what Charlie is saying and listen for Charlie’s feelings.

B) Interrupt Charlie as he is talking by yelling and screaming at him.

Incorrect! When listening to someone, you should not interrupt them or start yelling or screaming at
them.

C) Roll his eyes and sigh.

What would you do?
Charlie is unhappy. Charlie doesn’t want to play basketball anymore with his brother
Zaiden. Charlie knows that telling Zaiden is going to upset him. Charlie has asked to talk
to Zaiden. What should Zaiden do when Charlie is talking to him?

A) Listen to what Charlie is saying and listen for Charlie’s feelings.

B) Interrupt Charlie as he is talking by yelling and screaming at him.

C) Roll his eyes and sigh.

Incorrect! When listening to someone you should be aware of your body language. It's not a good idea
to roll your eyes or sigh.
Staying Calm
● Stay calm during arguments
● Take deep breaths
● Concentrate on your body
● Actively listen: focus all of your
attention to what the person
says
● Ask open ended questions: why
● Keep your voice down
What would you do?
Willow wants to borrow Hayden’s basketball. Hayden tells Willow she cannot borrow it
because he needs it for practice that evening. Willow is upset, how should she react to
Hayden’s response?

Willow should take a few breaths Willow doesn’t listen to Hayden’s

to help stay calm and ask in a reason why and becomes angry
calm voice if she can borrow the by making fists and yelling at
basketball another time. Hayden for being unfair.
What would you do?
Willow wants to borrow Hayden’s basketball. Hayden tells Willow she cannot borrow it
because he needs it for practice that evening. Willow is upset, how should she react to
Hayden’s response?

Willow should take a few breaths Willow doesn’t listen to Hayden’s

to help stay calm and ask in a reason why and becomes angry
calm voice if she can borrow the by making fists and yelling at
basketball another time. Hayden for being unfair.

Correct, Willow is staying calm by

taking a few breaths, having a
calm voice and asking to borrow
the ball another time.
What would you do?
Willow wants to borrow Hayden’s basketball. Hayden tells Willow she cannot borrow it
because he needs it for practice that evening. Willow is upset, how should she react to
Hayden’s response?

Willow should take a few breaths Willow doesn’t listen to Hayden’s

to help stay calm and ask in a reason why and becomes angry
calm voice if she can borrow the by making fists and yelling at
basketball another time. Hayden for being unfair.

This is incorrect because

Willow doesn’t listen to
Hayden’s reasoning why and
she doesn’t control her body
Follow Through
● Follow through with promises
● “Let’s try to find some way to
meet in the middle or split the
difference.”
● “If you’ll do this for me, I’ll do that
for you.”
What would you do?
Greg and Adam both need to use the computer to do their homework. Greg gets to the
computer first but is not fully prepared to write his assignment. Adam needs the
computer to take a 30 minutes quiz. Both boys start to argue and fight about who gets to
use the computer first. What compromise can Greg and Adam agree on?

Greg tells Adam that he was there Greg tells Adam that he has not
first so he gets the computer first. even started on his writing
He tells Adam he can have the assignment so Adam can use the
computer when he is finished computer and he will use the
writing his assignment. computer after Adam takes his
quiz.

Directions: move the slider to the happy face if the answer is a compromise. If the answer is not a
compromise, move the slider to the angry face.
What would you do?
Greg and Adam both need to use the computer to do their homework. Greg gets to the
computer first but is not fully prepared to write his assignment. Adam needs the
computer to take a 30 minutes quiz. Both boys start to argue and fight about who gets to
use the computer first. What compromise can Greg and Adam agree on?

Greg tells Adam that he was there Greg tells Adam that he has not
first so he gets the computer first. even started on his writing
He tells Adam he can have the assignment so Adam can use the
computer when he is finished computer and he will use the
writing his assignment. computer after Adam takes his
quiz.

Correct! Both Greg and Adam

were able to work something out
that both of them agreed with.
What would you do?
Greg and Adam both need to use the computer to do their homework. Greg gets to the
computer first but is not fully prepared to write his assignment. Adam needs the
computer to take a 30 minutes quiz. Both boys start to argue and fight about who gets to
use the computer first. What compromise can Greg and Adam agree on?

Greg tells Adam that he was there Greg tells Adam that he has not
first so he gets the computer first. even started on his writing
He tells Adam he can have the assignment so Adam can use the
computer when he is finished computer and he will use the
writing his assignment. computer after Adam takes his
quiz.

Incorrect! Greg wouldn’t find a

compromise with Adam so that
they both were happy with the
outcome.
Don’t Forget

Compromises can be challenging,

but remember to listen to others, stay
calm, and follow through with
promises. When you work together
with your child in care sibling, you will
help create a fair and equal
environment for you both. You’ve got
this!