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Final Integrative Essay
Final Integrative Essay
College is arguably the most formative years of growth for a young adult-- to explore
themselves in a dynamic environment filled with unparalleled diversity, rich forms of culture,
intellectual rigor, and a new sense of freedom. For many students, being in college is the first
time in life they are prompted to be truthfully aware of themselves, discover their capabilities
and needs, develop their understanding of their self-worth, and attempt to answer the big “life
questions”. College not only plays a vital role in cultivating inward reflections of college
students’ self-identity, but other fundamental aspects of college like college culture reinforce
socialized perceptions of life norms and moral principles. Thus, this alludes to the importance of
campus culture and how it plays a fundamental role in consciously shaping our lifelong personal
One of the most controversial aspects of college culture is the hookup culture and how it
affects the greater campus culture. Moreover, how does the phenomenon influence the personal
identities of those students who participate and do not participate in it? It is common to attribute
objectification, the perpetuation of gendered norms, sexual violence, the inhibition of free
consent as reasons why the hookup culture is intrinsically flawed. Essentially, the hookup culture
can undermine the ability of young adults to reflect on meaningful college experiences which
shape their formative development. If the hookup culture distorts the consciousness of self-
awareness and exploration, then there needs to be an emphasis on what college students should
get out of the hookup culture. Therefore, I will focus on the central topic of how a college
student should navigate the hookup culture. I will apply the sexual ethics of Margaret Farley and
Marvin Ellison to develop the framework of how college students should navigate the hookup
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culture in which enhances the formative development of their identities and values. Ultimately,
college students deserve to be in a campus culture environment in which they have the potential
college campuses. Take for instance, Santa Clara University; the university is no stranger to the
typical and prevalently-flawed hookup culture. As a college student who has navigated the
defining aspects of the hookup culture on campus, I believe three overarching aspects define the
At Santa Clara University, I found the manifestation that most college students
participating in the hookup culture are blindly following the hookup script. This script defines
how partners should behave while hooking up based on obligations that need to be met without
thinking or resistance (Freitas 80). Because the script obligates students to value the question
“What am I supposed to do?”, we just blindly go along with hookup norms to prove we can
“perform” the play of hookup. As a result, the script neglects college students of conscious
does not exist in the script, thus college students are deprived of developing the essential values
of free choice and self-agency. The script then also fortifies the idea of the ambivalent shrug
between two partners: a competition to see who can be more ambivalent about the sex and care
less about the other partner (Freitas 82). The idea of the ambivalent shrug has detrimental
consequences as it socializes college students to believe that sex shouldn’t impact them
emotionally. But internally, students struggle to justify this ambivalence because, in reality, most
expect the hookup to turn into a more intimate and stable relationship. In the hookup culture, it
is understood that the basic end goal is sex. When sex becomes the defining aspect of the hookup
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experience between two partners, it perpetuates a culture of objectification since the partners are
considered as a means to satisfy oneself’s end goal. Not only is the partner’s self-worth
diminished, but it also diminishes the individual's self-worth as emotions and the importance of
connection are neglected. Students are taught to suppress caring about the hookup experience in
favor of emotional detachment. Thus, there is a huge gray area in understanding their sexual
The impact of these defining aspects of the hookup culture negatively impacts students’
sexuality and their views on the value of sex and how relationships should be. They are
socialized to conform to the script rather than utilizing self-awareness and other forms of senses
to develop their sexual identities. The hookup culture renders individuals powerless, by
eliminating communication between partners, personal choice to favor obligations, and emotions
to develop meaningful connections. Overall, the hookup culture denies the ability for college
students to experience the full potential of sexual fulfillment and develop a clear sense of their
own sexuality. At the end of the day, college students are just actors and actresses performing the
play and following a script of expectations. But college students are much more than just actors
and actresses, and the hookup culture should reflect and enhance some of the most formative
How do students then navigate the hookup culture in being more than just actors and
actresses, by utilizing sexual agency and developing an empowering kind of sexual identity?
First, it is important to discuss what justifies the need for all college students to all have sexual
agency and an empowering kind of sexual identity. According to Ellison, sexuality “is a mode of
communication….we depend upon sensuality to grasp and value the world” (Ellison 247).
Accordingly, he alludes to the idea that sexuality is an intrinsic part of humanhood, making
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sexual desires and experiences morally justified and necessary in life. By exploring our
sensuality and pursuing “the actions [that] fit the value of what is the deepest and strong and
richest within each of us” (Ellison 249), we have a greater understanding of ourselves and make
moral decisions that lead us to fulfillment. Furthermore, Ellison’s argument implies that when
we explore our sexuality, it allows us to reflect on our feelings, learn about our own bodies, and
express our sexual needs and pleasures. By pursuing the actions that are most necessary for
ourselves, we avoid oppressive and unjust experiences such as sexual abuse and shame. We can
distinguish the difference between the sexual needs we want to pursue and ones we do not want
to pursue. In other words, sexual freedom and liberation can be seen as moral guidance in
guiding us towards actions that empower and enhance our self-worth. Furthermore, sexual
The importance to feel empowered through our sexual identity also intertwines with the
fundamental component of sexual agency. The essence of sexual agency derives from the what
Farley upholds as a basic feature of humanhood: autonomy. Farley contends that humans are
autonomous in the sense that “they have a capacity for free choice...to determine the meaning of
their own lives and their ends, and within limits, our destiny” (Farley 212). In other words, one
can comprehend Farley’s idea of human autonomy as that an individual can set his or her own
agenda, one that is not violated by others using the individual as a mere means. This
understanding of autonomous becomes the basis of what sexual agency should be; sexual agency
in its simplest understanding is the freedom and autonomy to pursue our own agenda and make
morally-just, sexual decisions about its use. It invites the opportunity for us to see who we want
to become in life.
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For college students, pursuing their sexual agency encompasses principles that help them
navigate the ramifications of the hookup culture. Sexual agency includes the ability to define
their sexual needs and desires based on their own terms, especially in regards to free consent and
decision-making to deliberately choose not to follow the hookup script. On a further note, this
new kind of self-awareness requires students to explore what they need and demand themselves
Lastly, sexual agency instills the idea for college students that they have the full
autonomy to set their own agenda and terms of what brings them sexual satisfaction and
fulfillment. Thus, instead of asking “What must I do?”, performing obligations to fulfill the
partner’s needs, or letting the partner control their needs-- sexual agency empowers students to
take responsibility for setting an agenda to fulfill their own happiness and gain a sense of what
brings them sexual satisfaction. Sexual agency, moreover, liberates students from being
socialized into a restrictive ethical sexual code (such as the hookup culture) because it values
ways to meet the needs of the complex human nature. Overall, sexual agency can cultivate an
empowering kind of sexual identity for college students that is not inhibited by the depriving
Sexual agency relates to and is accompanied by other values that all college students
should uphold in developing an empowering form of sexual identity. The values include doing
no unjust harm, free consent, mutuality, equality, self-care, and fruitfulness. These values, which
I believe are necessary for navigating the hookup culture, are developed on the basis of Farley’s
and Ellison’s sexual ethic norms. The first one of doing no unjust harm relates to the
fundamental humanhood feature of autonomy, in not violating individuals as who they are as
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ends. When students explore their sexuality and open themselves up for greater intimacy, it also
invites the prospect of vulnerability. Due to the script and the end goal in the hookup culture,
students are socialized in believing sex is meaningless and to use their partners as a means to the
end goal. Thus, it is highly critical for college students to not only recognize themselves as ends
but respect their partners as ends, rather than disposable objects, to avoid the likelihood and
The next value is free consent, which Farley recognizes as a safeguard for the “autonomy
of persons embodied and inspirited, as transcendent and free” and “respect for the intimacy of
the sexual self” (Farley 219). Ellison also defines free consent as the freedom to choose what to
do in relation to one’s body (Ellison 251). In other words, free consent relates to the overarching
value of sexual agency in having direct control and a self-agenda of how to use one’s own body,
rather be manipulated by others’ personal choices. Free consent enhances students’ abilities to
make conscious decision-making, in recognizing that the questions asked in sexual engagements
are never “What should I do?” or “I have to do this”. Instead, free consent cultivates the central
mindset of pursuing their own personal agendas and answering the question of “What do I
want?”. Free consent is also a safeguard against the hookup culture’s damaging repercussions in
suppressing communication, personal choices, and emotions. Equally, free consent safeguards
the negative aspects of the hookup culture, such as coercive sexual situations which devalues a
student’s self-worth and confidence. Overall, students are then able to develop a personal kind of
empowering sexual identity which fosters important lifelong qualities such as confidence,
The value of mutuality, as Ellison defines, is “the dynamic, open-ended process in which
each person is powered to give to and receive from the relationship in a fair, respected, and non-
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exploitative manner” (Ellison 251). The dynamic give and receive relationship is fostered on the
foundation that the partners have mutuality in desires and decisions. This is a critical value to
uphold since in not fostering mutuality, it could limit the other partner’s autonomy and curb
his/her’s self-agency. In displaying and fully disclosing mutuality through sexual desire and
needs, it prevents hooking up from being the only option. In addition, it prevents the coercion of
actors and actresses to play the hookup performance that they may not want to perform. Because
mutuality fosters an open dialogue of desires and needs, it creates greater intimacy and a
fulfilling sexual experience between two partners, contradictory to the self-emptying nature of
the scripted hookup experience. Instead of the stifling nature of the ambivalent shrug type of
hookup, mutuality can usher in a meaningful and lasting relationship for college students to
experience. Thus, intimacy and sexual fulfillment play an underlying role in shaping and
There is no doubt that there are inequalities in campus relationships, due to the concept of
the hierarchy of bodies on campus. Certain bodies are valued and on a higher pedestal (Freitas
111), and thus students are socialized to interpret and treat each other differently on the basis of
what value and respect a body can command. The hierarchy of bodies is intertwined with
unequal relationships, both of which contribute to the pervasive issue of sexual violence on
campus. College students should then recognize that they shouldn’t have a mindset that certain
bodies are worth more attention and that others are more disposable-- because it limits the judged
student’s ability to cultivate self-agency. This is because inequality factors such as vulnerability
and shame are manifested. Subsequently, these inequality factors deny students to fully explore
their sexuality in depth because they are seen as inferior, therefore treated as means rather than
ends.
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Another value that college students should engage in is bringing fruitfulness to their
relationships within the hookup culture. Fruitfulness brings a new level of meaning and life to
the relationship, in which the positive benefits of the relationship spills over externally in other
relationships (Farley 226). It allows students to develop into better people and can enhance their
moral, intellectual, and emotional development. Because the script eliminates the existence of
feelings and emotions in having a checklist of meaningless obligations, the value of fruitfulness
can never be fostered. In recognizing that sexual agency invites the opportunity for people to
discover who they can become and their potential to foster personal growth, fruitfulness can
The last and commonly overlooked value that students should honor is self-care of the
body. Ellison maintains that in honoring the goodness of the body, the self-care value champions
students to have sexual experiences that emphasize love and care for each other (Ellison 251).
On a further note, self-care and looking internally into our bodies and minds allow us to resolve
vulnerability issues that are often perpetuated in the hookup culture. In finding ways to empower
ourselves, self-care is a powerful opportunity for college students to learn, appreciate, and
for the first time. Self-care may help students to discover suppressed areas that need to be
resolved internally and thus allows them to find ways to develop in sexually maturity. In
addition, self care provides a dynamic aspect to one’s sexual agenda as a college student can
The four years of higher education is an unparalleled period for college students to
discover themselves, shape their identities, and cultivate lifelong values and skill sets. For such a
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critical chapter of a young adult’s life, the campus culture plays an underlying role in allowing
development, empower their self-identities, and allow them to discover a sense of self-
awareness. However, one aspect of campus culture which undermines the fostering environment
of campus culture is the hookup culture. The hookup culture unconsciously restrains the sexual
freedom and potential of college students. To navigate the hookup culture, students should utilize
sexual agency as a moral guidance and apply sexual ethic values which allow them to develop an
empowering form of identity. Those values include doing no unjust harm, free consent,
mutuality, equality, self-care, and fruitfulness. Sexual agency and the sexual ethic values
champion college students to explore their sexuality, develop meaningful experiences in which
fosters sexual empowerment, pursue new depths of their sexual agenda, and add to their overall
formative college experience. Sexual agency and the sexual ethic values should be fostered
among college students, and eventually socialized into a revolutionary type of hookup culture
that strives to embrace sexual liberation and empowerment for all students. This is critical,
considering young adults do not enter college with a formal educational background of how to
explore and navigate their sexual identities. Because sexuality can be a formative moral guidance
for college students, it is critical that universities address ways to enhance their potential to
utilize sexual agency and apply sexual ethic values in navigating the college hookup culture. As
universities are responsible for helping to shape some of the most formative years in a young
adult’s life, the overall college culture (including the hookup culture) should strive to create an
environment that educates, liberates, and cultivates the full potential of the world’s future leaders
Bibliography
Ellison, Marvin Mahan. Erotic Justice: a Liberating Ethic of Sexuality. Westminster John Knox
Press, 1996.
Farley, Margaret A. Just Love: a Framework for Christian Sexual Ethics. Continuum, 2012.