CHRISTIAN STUDIES  Knowing Someone

∙Sexual Intimacy
RELATIONSHIPS AND CHRISTIAN FAITH  Knowing someone at deepest level
WE WERE MADE FOR COMMUNITY  Two become one flesh
*1 John 4:7  Expressions of Love
 The Triune God ∙3 Distinct Flames
 Lies at the heart of our Christian experience 1) Reyach
 Trinity  Friend/companion/soulmate
 God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit united in love  Should be our bestfriend
 Social Trinity 2) Ahava
 God is social or relational God.  Deep affection
 The community of the father, son, and spirit enjoys perfect and  Committed
eternal fellowship. 3) Dowd
 Social Reality  Carouse
 Human beings in fellowship  To fondle
∙ Fellowship with God  Physical, sexual part
 Our response with regard to God’s love  The Blessing
 Seek Him for intimacy and relationship ∙May you:
∙ Fellowship with other people  Honor the way God created you
 With the love that we received from Him.  Have profound sense of respect for the fact that you are deeply
 We are able to love one another. spiritual and mysterious being
 Love is ultimate and profoundly spiritual thing
THE ORIGINS OF SEX  Realize the three flames
 “It is not suitable for the man to live alone, I will make a  Discover the big flame
helper suitable for him.
 It is God’s intention for us to live in a community. SEX, THE BODY
 Why the Rib? (Matthew Henry) SEXUAL SIN
 To be equal  Harms the body.
 Under the arm to be protected  Immorality is one of the things that God forgives, but there is
 Next to the heart to be loved heavy price to pay.
 Marriage  No sin is ever right or good.
 Holding fast your partner joining  Controls the body.
∙Friendship  People who bind themselves to sexual sin are always looking for
 Walking side by side
∙Intimacy THE BODY
 Knowing someone face to face  Body is for the Lord and Lord is for the body.
One flesh — two becoming one
 Body is important because it is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Sex in pattern — embodies a profound spiritual reality
 Handiwork of God.
 Sex is Holy.
 Instrument of the Mind.
 Both naked, no shame
 Medium of Expression
 Sex is holy in two ways:
 Medium of Divine Service
1) Embodies a profound relationship: there’s no guilt or
shame or embarrassment attached to sexuality itself
2) Not ordinary but sex is sacred, holy and have profound REASONS WHY TEENS HAVE SEX
power  Internal Forces
  Curiosity 3) Boys will be boys. That is, men can’t be expected to abide by
 Lust/passion the sexual terms that woman may wish to set. You may not
 Taking advantage of the situation as it rises want the double-standard to be there, but it’s there.
 Afraid of losing relationship 4) It doesn’t matter what other people do sexually; you make your
 The need to be loved own decisions.
 External Forces 5) Porn won’t affect your relationships.
6) Everyone else is having sex more than you are.
 Sex saturated culture
7) Sex need not mean anything.
 Peer pressure
8) Marriage can always wait.
 Influence of drugs and alcohol 9) Moving in together is definitely a step toward marriage.
10) Sex in marriage just isn’t as great as extra marital sex.
1 CORINTHIANS 1
IF YOU CAN REMAIN SINGLE AND BE DEVOTED TO 3 TOP ISSUES ON TEENAGERS
THE LORD IN PURITY, DO IT.
PORNOGRAPHY
 Advantages of being Single
 How To Avoid
 Reasons to marry
1) Use computer or device on public place.
2) Develop healthy real relationships.
IF YOU ARE NOT GIFTED FOR CELIBACY, PRAY AND 3) Talk with trusted people about temptations, struggles and
LOOK FOR A GOOD MATE. habits.
1) Focus on personal growth in godliness. *1 Corinthians 6:18
2) Never consider marriage to an unbeliever.  Approaches
3) Guard your moral purity. 1) Don’t watch it.
4) Study and develop godly character qualities. 2) Watching it is fine occasionally, it could give you inspiration in
5) Be wise, ut not super spiritual. your own relationship.
3) Watching it is ok, it doesn’t affect me.
MARRIAGE IS NOT THE FINAL SOLUTION TO YOUR  Real Men Show
1) Strength
PROBLEMS: GOD IS. 2) Commitment
*Ephesians 5:21-32
3) Tenderness
 Honoring Christ 4) Humility
 Putting others first
ABORTION
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A PARTNER *Exodus 20:13
1) Same faith *Psalm 139:13-14
2) Emotionally mature  Approaches
3) Open and transparent 1) Abortion is wrong.
4) Respectful and sensitive 2) Abortion is wrong but there might be exceptional
5) You enjoy spending time with them circumstances.
6) There is spark (physical attraction) 3) Abortion is a choice that can only be made by the mother.

10 MYTHS ABOUT SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS

1) Long-term exclusivity is a fiction.
HOMOSEXUALITY
2) Introduction of sex is necessary in order to sustain a fledging or *Leviticus 23:18-20
struggling relationship *Romans 1:24-27
*1 Corinthians 6:9-10
 God’s View
  God’s view of homosexuality hasn’t changed, even though the
society seems more accepting this “alternate lifestyle”
*1 Corinthians 13:48
*Romans 10:4
 Approaches
1) Homosexual practice is a behavior that God’s people are to
abstain from.
2) Those are contextual difference―monogamous homosexual
relationships are fine, no essential difference from heterosexual
one.
Unsure? Many homosexual people I know are wonderful people! In
the Bible it appears to be wrong to engage in homosexual
intercourse but I’m unsure if it applies today.