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Abigail
A one month transition became two, four, then six and all this time she
was extremely adamant to do anything in her parents house because
deep down she honestly did not want to be there. In fact she refused to
unpack her boxes saying to herself, this was only temporary. God
eventually took her through a realignment of mind and asked her to settle
in. This was after all a very big house that pretty much had no one living
in it.
What Abigail did not realise was that her need for affirmation and praise
for being an independent queen was fueling her pride and disrupting her
from seeing the blessing she had in a family who loved her and was
ready to help her transition properly. She did not think this was God, there
was no way God would allow her leave her apartment to come and stay
in her parents house. Life is meant to progress forward, going back to her
parents house felt like a demotion. Abigail's perception of success was
defined by ticking the invisible boxes the society has set for what a
woman should be at every stage.
Unlearning: When God comes into the picture He gives us an opportunity
to unlearn the things that once shaped our existence and beliefs, we step
into a greater understanding of our lives and the world around us.
There is a saying; "it is the truth that sets you free", this means that what
you believe has a huge impact on how you behave or respond to life
around you.
Your beliefs shape your attitude. Your perception of circumstances or
even yourself will determine how you react to the situations or people
around you.
"18 When the people saw the thunder and lightning and heard the
trumpet and saw the mountain in smoke, they trembled with fear. They
stayed at a distance 19 and said to Moses, “Speak to us yourself and
we will listen. But do not have God speak to us or we will die.” (Exodus
20: 18-19).
Abigail had a conversation with a friend one day and it struck that this
might actually be a blessing than a circumstance. She had always
wanted to go out and explore new opportunities, she was unable to do
that all this time because she had to take care of her child, now she is in
a family house with people who can help her take care of this child while
she got some room to explore new opportunities and new horizons.
Abigail had a roof over her head, food on the table, a family who
absolutely adored her and understanding that these seemingly little
things around her were indeed placed there by God.
We get anxious and miss out on what God is doing in many ways because
of our own fundamental ideas of what things should be like at different
stages of our lives. We need to learn to open our hearts and minds and see
things from many different perspectives.
We go through life with so many belief systems that shape our behaviour.
We are born into this world with a clean slate, but depending on what
events surround our life, we build a belief system that shapes our actions
and responses to life.
We are made to believe that these ideologies we create of the world
around us cannot change. We conform to the standard of how society has
shaped our thoughts and believes. But it can and God draws our attention
to this all the time.
Samantha
She knew about salvation but truly did not believe in salvation and this was
unconscious of course. Believing in salvation means that you understand
what it has done for you and you live out that reality. This was not the
case for her until she dug deeper to understand this truly immeasurable
freedom and treasure she had in Christ.
Samantha had a problem, she believed she was cursed and could not
keep a relationship (maybe she was, maybe she wasn’t) that’s not really
the point. What she needed was a solution for the problem. She found a
new understanding in Christ that told her she had indeed been set free
because the son of God had set her free.
In moments she did not understand what she read, she received it in
faith and believed that it was going to transform her. She experienced
intimacy with God as the Holy Spirit taught her the word. Sam in a
conversation once said “The Holy Spirit will always ask me if I know what
the verses mean, He explains them to me in the context of my life. When
I struggled, He opened my eyes to see verses that showed me I was His
and I was free”. Sam began to understand true intimacy, and how to
communicate with God. She began to see herself in the words she read
and in no time this became her reality. She took the words from the bible
imaginatively, recognising that God, through His word, is present in her
life today as He was in the lives of those in the bible.
Imagine for a second that you where given pardon for something you did
or maybe did not do, and you had been given an eternal ticket of freedom
from those who bullied you. The mayor of the town has said to you, “You
cannot be bullied, framed or abducted ever again” because you now have
a “Get our of jail card” how would you behave? When the enemy comes
back with those lies again how do you think Samantha would react?
You where bought with a price, it cost God His Son to set you free, it cost
Jesus His blood to gain your freedom. You have been ransomed. There
is a new advocate in town, who stands in for you, making it impossible for
you to remain in bondage as long as you are in Him.
This is what I think, Samantha, maybe, had her first break up which might
have really hurt, and yes, maybe he was a douchebag. Who Knows? She
probably carried this negativity or brokenness into her next relationship. A
mindset that must have made her anxious of being left again or even
fearful. This would have created deep seated emotions that shaped her
behaviour directly or indirectly and caused every other guy after that to
leave. Another possibility is that she was never the problem, perhaps the
men she ended up with where never good men or broken men for whom
she shortchanged herself.
Who knows?
Efe
Efe was really messed up. As a child he was abused by the people
around the house he trusted the most.
This made him become very addicted to sex. Efe was a really smart kid,
straight A’s student but his addiction to sex and pornography took over in no
time. Years passed and Efe was ready for marriage, was this the right move
for this broken man?
Maybe not, but he did it anyway. Marriage didn’t help curb the addiction
to sex and his wife didn’t satisfy him either, so he resorted to getting what
he needed from girls outside his home. This wasn’t what he was proud of
but he did it regardless.
Over time Efe realised sex wasn’t satisfying anymore, it created a deeper
void that truly needed to be filled. He tried drugs, one drag here, one drag
there he became addicted. The drugs gave him a certain high that he
hoped would help him feel better during sex. When it was over, he was
back to square one, feeling even worse off. The shame often made him
withdraw himself, not wanting to face the reality of his irresponsible
behaviour. He hated himself, he could see the hurt he was causing his
family, especially the woman who loved him. He couldn’t control it, or so
he thought.
This was definitely something more and he needed help. Every time he
fell short, he saw himself as useless and less of a man. Efe struggled with
the battle of moral character and succumbing to temptation.
It was Nathan who helped Efe, a college friend who happened to be a
therapist and had strong faith in God.
This is what I learnt to do over time, every time you are faced with that
temptation you speak to yourself the reality of who you are, you
confidently proclaim your identity. For example “I am the righteousness of
God through Christ Jesus”. This gets established in you over time, it
builds up your spirit to resist temptation. Every time you make these
affirmations, you are conditioning your mind and your spirit to a more
positive reality. These affirmations become your identity and it is
established. You will wake up one day and realise that the habit you
thought could never leave is gone.
The bible says for “you shall know the truth and it will set you
free” John 8:32. Understanding and establishing your identity in
Christ is very important in how you think and behave as a
believer. It shapes your very essence and helps you respond
adequately in circumstances or life events.
Romans 5:9 says this, “Much more then, because we have now been
declared righteous by His blood, we will be saved through Him from God’s
wrath.”
A lot of our assumptions and unconscious belief systems are activated
by one life event or the other, it might be negative or positive. Efe was
taught overtime to change the lens through which he saw himself. He
was a victim of abuse, he was not a broken person. Efe had to come
into an understanding that what happened to him was a circumstance
and not an identity. His true identity was in Christ and in God’s eyes he
was righteous and blameless because of the finished work of Jesus
Christ.
Further more, you must learn to understand and accept who you’ve
become, a new creature in Christ, this doesn’t always mean the negative
behaviour stops automatically, but the idea is that you begin to train your
mind into accepting it’s new reality.
The bible says the word of God “is sharp as a surgeon’s scalpel, cutting
through everything, whether doubt or defence, laying us open to listen and
obey. Nothing and no one is impervious to God’s Word. We can’t get away
from it—no matter what" (Hebrews 4:12-13). God always means what He
says. Every word that comes from Him is true, and you can find these
truths in the Bible. It is important we learn to study the bible, it is filled with
God’s truth for us and our world.
If we get better at managing what goes into our thoughts we would learn to
manage our emotions and managing our emotions will help us manage our
behaviour and responses.
We cannot always control the circumstances around us, we cannot always
control the thoughts we get, but we can choose how we respond to those
circumstances and to those thoughts.
Jesus Christ in John 14:16-17a says “And I will ask the Father, and he
will give you another Counselor to be with you forever. He is the Spirit of
Truth”
The Holy Spirit and His fruit which includes self control is one of the
most powerful tools we have in overcoming and thriving in our thoughts
and behaviour. The Holy Spirit helps us process our thoughts and gives
us a choice to either act negatively or positively on them. He’d prefer we
act positively though.
To wrap this up, I’d like to say that we need to learn to take
responsibility for our thoughts and beliefs. The world around us is
directly or indirectly shaped by what goes on in our mind. We can
choose to remain victims of circumstances and a fallen world or live
through life as the victors we truly are. Believing all God has done for us
through His Son Jesus Christ, understanding that we are not defined by
the events that occur in our lives but we are defined by the image and
DNA of the one who created us.
Jesus put it so nicely “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in
God; believe also in me” (John 14:1).
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