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Who Am I?...
“Dharam has been my go-to guy on so many
occasions, the times when we really need a student
to get a result, be it a number or a lay, he always
delivers. In a short space of time he has gone from
student to approach coach to trainer to master
trainer to MPUA and now leads his own sold-out
events. His energy and passion is contagious and
he’s destined for great things.”
Richard ‘Gambler’ La Ruina
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MIDDAY SUNDAY
6PM SUNDAY
APRIL 6TH 2008:
APRIL 6TH 2008:
We start the day with a
recap of the night before, My personal highlight of
I did absolutely nothing the bootcamp arrives, we
except follow a trainer and are all sitting around a big
other students around and table eating dinner and
watch them approach all one guy, a student, turns to
night and now my feet hurt. Gambler and says ‘Hey Can
Other students talk about I have a pickup alias now???’
there success, so I applaud. Gambler looks his usual self,
Then we’re told the next live smiles and says ‘Course,
session will be daygame what were you thinking?’ and
again at 3pm, I am not looking then here it is, highlight of the
forward to it, and when the bootcamp, he turns and says
time arrives, I barely make ‘I was thinking Gandalf, kind
any approaches over the of like the wizard from Lord
hour. I just want to go home, of The Rings and also it starts
but what’s keeping me there, with the letter G just like your
is false hope that any moment pickup alias.’ Now even me,
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Introduction
‘What!! How did he get with never too late to change
her?!?’ your hand.
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Building
Connections
Once I began approaching about her, picture her in
and the more I did it, the your head…. guaranteed
more I realised similarities the first aspects of her you
in the way women, society determine would not be the
and people are. The core personal attributes, but her
principal, which stuck out at conventional exterior; hence
me from very early on, is that the way she looks. Every
if you can build a connection other guy would do exactly
with a woman then she will the same thing, picturing
remember you ahead of all hot women. Wherever a hot
the other guys. What this woman goes, she will always
actually meant took me a be centre of attention, guys
while to put down in to some will want to say hi and she
form of teachable layout, this will always have most of the
being the first introduction of guys chasing her and she
it, although I didn’t want to will spend her time with the
introduce it until I could teach high value guys. If she is at
you to replicate it. a salsa class, the best male
dancer will be the one she
Now I’m going to ask you will choose to spend her
to picture a high value evening with. If she is at a
woman in your mind, think club, the club owner will be
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Introduction To
The Iceberg
THE SURFACE: is to go beyond what
‘Small percentage that is everyone else can see, I
visible to everyone’. have broken this down into
The way to build connections the Iceberg, as follows:
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The Breakdown
Clearly in order to build a TOO MUCH COMFORT:
connection one has to dig
deeper than surface level, This situation is often the
and there are two things mistaken case of the ‘nice guy
one needs in order to build finishing last’ the stereotype
a connection – Comfort & not being completely true,
Intent. it is just a lack of intent, and
this has been the conclusion
It may seem very simple, and of many studies, one of the
it is once you understand more recent being in 2003
it, although most people where Dr.Robert Glover
struggle to grasp a high level published his work and stated
understanding of either one “It’s not because women like
of the two sides, let alone jerks. Women prefer polite
both. The problem there is over rude, and attentive over
that when the balance is distracted. The problem is the
uneven between the two, way nice guys present these
you don’t lead yourself to positive characteristics. In
a situation of choice from order to appear friendly and
an abundance of women, romantic, these ‘nice guys’
instead tend to end up in think they have to turn off
one of two situations: their sexuality.”
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Comfort
It is important to understand BASIC COMFORT:
that all women require
different levels of comfort and This is the comfort that most
intent, and in order to gain guys can often offer in some
choice in your life you have form to some degree.
to learn the art of adapting
and balancing this out. But
before we get technical, here DEEP COMFORT:
is where it all begins, comfort.
What does this really mean? Connections: This is what
How do you get it? Where will make her remember you
does it start? ahead of others.
ASSUMED OR PERCIEVED
COMFORT:
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Assumed Or
Perceived Comfort
This is the comfort that you walking at night in a dark
are perceived or assumed to alleyway and saw a shadowy
have prior to approaching, it figure walking in the distance
isn’t always there although then if she walked into
you can generate this to a McDonalds and saw a clown
high level so that sometimes holding balloons, little does
you can skip the other levels she know that the shadowy
of comfort and go straight figure could turn out to be
for intent, although playing a police officer and the
around with comfort and clown could be a prisoner
intent is covered in a later on parole. Now you can
chapter, for now lets look at see that if she knew those
how we can play this level of two pieces of information
comfort in our favour. without seeing either, she
would immediately feel more
I am going to give you the comfort for the police officer.
most extreme example I Of course this example was
can in order to demonstrate just to demonstrate a point
there are different levels of that various levels of comfort
comfort prior to approaching. exist prior to approaching,
A woman would feel less for game purposes, this can
comfortable if she was easily be influenced in your
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Basic Comfort
The biggest criticism women necessary to use them all,
have of men is that they usually a combination of two
don’t listen, now obviously or three tends to be enough,
a lot of men would disagree although which two or three
with this and it is not a case they are requires calibration
of one being right and one in accordance to the target
being wrong, it is simply and situation.
that the majority of guys
tend to lack the ability to SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE:
generate and convey across
Basic Comfort. This should As the name suggests
take place whilst opening this is in its most basic
and then throughout, done form you applying your
effectively it will ensure the own intelligence in social
interaction moves on swiftly situations. It is something
in the direction of your intent. that is best developed with
experience, and as my game
The aim of basic comfort progressed I realised I was
is to really to build a good no longer applying social
base upon which you can intelligence, it was a part of
later relay your intent off who I am and the way I carry
the back of it, as you move myself. It can begin from being
on to deep comfort. There very basic, for example if two
are many different ways of women are having a deep
portraying this, and it is not conversation, then maybe
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Deep Comfort
Having achieved the first two
stages of comfort, you now
have license to go ahead and
aim to reach the final stage
of comfort at which point
you are looking to stand up
and be counted so that it
is you that she remembers
ahead of all the other people
she may come across. It
is not as difficult as it may
initially sound; in fact it is just
applying yourself fully to a
conversation to demonstrate
you are a high value guy that
genuinely wants to get to
know people.
The best way to explain
this is to show you via two
conversations midway
through, one without deep
comfort and one with. In fact
this is the exact conversation
when I first noticed what I
was doing.
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Conversation 1: Conversation 2:
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Now you see this is a very small comfort and there after you can
exampleofbuildingaconnection build on this, starting by listening
in deep comfort, but when I had to what someone is saying,
that conversation with her, I am keeping the conversation
more than likely the only guy personal to them and then
that she would have told she digging deeper to find out more
lived in Romania for 6 months about who they are, effectively
and worked as a chef, let alone leading to qualification as a
her favourite dish. This will lead by-product of deep comfort
her to remember me and when (Qualification is the process by
other guys speak to her starting which you determine if a woman
off with the same topic thread of meets the standards which you
what she does for work, they will set out to see if she is right for
be unable to recreate the same you and what you are looking
connection I did, as a result she for; by going in to deep comfort
will remember me and they will this is achieved naturally as a
effectively blow themselves by-product as you continue to
out. Also, when I speak to her learn more about someone).
next, I’ll set-up a date using the Building a connection can be
fact she can cook or she enjoys used with all people guys and
moussaka, which will further girls and it leads to people
solidify our connection. enjoying talking to you, as they
feel like they can share and you
Deep comfort cannot be start to become that guy that
achieved with any one or everyone likes and wants to be
two particular missions; it is around. Of course this does not
something that takes time and necessarily mean you get the
practice. Start by aiming to girl, as there is one other thing
achieve the first two stages of you need to add – INTENT.
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Intent
Showing intent is the key that “People talk about how many
unlocks the door, without it, sets they do in a night. Some
no matter how much comfort talk about aiming to do a set
you provide you won’t be every 20minutes....
able to get your desired
outcome. You have to know How many actually count
what you won’t and then though?
show it by going for it. So
two points, the first knowing If there IS NOT a girl in the set
what you want, you may be that you would date or want
thinking this is a book about to have sex with, IT DOES
attracting women so its easy NOT COUNT! You might as
to figure out what you want. well be talking to guys.
However, it is important to
build a healthy social circle If the set you are talking to
and lead a life filled with high has no one of sexual interest
value people around you. In in it AND you are not using
fact, recently I read a post on a the set to get the attention of
‘pick-up’ forum that perfectly someone else in the room. IT
demonstrates exactly why DOES NOT COUNT.”
you should focus on building
a healthy lifestyle. The post My response:
was on the Central England
League Forum by Insanity, This is interesting although I
this is an extract: do not 100% agree with it.
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this almost threw the good is not to say that in all cases
reaction I was expecting off it would be bad to verbalise
course. And having thought your intention, it is your
about it I realised that by judgement call as to decide
verbalising I was conveying whether it would be the right
two things in particular and thing to do or would it be
that was one, that I may not better to show your intention
be confident enough to lead through being seductive and
and show someone I like escalating sexually.
them and we all know actions
speak louder then words and PHYSCIAL ESCALATION:
two, that I was waiting for the
green light before I went in This is now my favourite part
to escalate further and kiss of game and I look forward
her, effectively placing a to pushing the boundaries
lot of responsibility on the of how quickly and how
shoulders of the girl, and smoothly I can do this every
even if someone likes you time. However, this was
there knee-jerk reaction to something that I found to
such responsibility is to take be particularly difficult when
a step back, it is kind of like starting out, and as I began
going for a kiss too quickly, if looking more deeply in to
you lunge in too quick then social psychology and game,
the body’s natural reflex I quickly realised it is because
is that you could be head- it is the one area where the
butting them and the head majority of guys have a lack
goes back as a defence, of experience. That is not to
even if the girl wanted to say all guys lack experience,
kiss you back. However, this in fact one of my best friends
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Trigger! Crash the car! Aim to and through the second thing
Fuck Up!!” I have…
2. EXPERIENCE: ..I know
At this point I made the through doing this enough,
decision to just start going that there are only so many
for it and I found my results ways a woman can react, if
rocketed, from making out the reaction is positive, then
with women in clubs, to that will give me license to
making out with women on go on to the third thing I do:
trains, IN A MINUTE!! From 3. BUILD-UP OF ESCALATION:
taking women home from When the reaction is positive,
dates to taking women home I will not then just lunge in,
from street approaches!! I will instead build up kino
I would like to write here in small steps, with each
about some kind of formula touch being more intimate.
to summarise exactly how If at any stage I experience
I do it, although the truth is resistance, I simply take it
there are only three things I back a step, build it up and
do to achieve these results: try again.
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Game
I have ran through the two for you. For now just shut this
elements I believe are book, go out, live your own
needed: Comfort and Intent. journey, and enjoy every
However true game has a second of it.
third element: Calibration.
You see it is not necessary
to achieve all three levels
of comfort prior to showing
intent, in fact there are a lot of
women out there, with which
if you attempted to generate
deep comfort, they would be
put off as they are not looking
for that in the particular
circumstances you have met
them under, perhaps they are
only looking for perceived or
basic comfort and a strong
show of intent.
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Who Really
Wrote This...
Well I did…But it is about the Snehal, thank you for
journey thus far and it would letting me go, I didn’t quite
not have been possible were understand it at the time, but
it not for some special people you were right, I had a lot of
in my life. growing to do.
Tom you were the one that Richard you opened so many
smashed my limiting beliefs doors for me and if you didn’t
to show that I can achieve take chances on me, I would
beyond my wildest dreams not be where I am today, thank
when I put my mind to it, you you for taking those chances.
taught me to be happy and
free. Thank you. Adam, you took my raw game
and set it off on the right
Vito you looked out for me path. You really looked after
and spent hours listening to me at times when it must
my different game dilemmas, have felt like banging your
always knowing what to say. head against a brick wall,
I will always be here for you no amount of thanks can be
if you ever need anything, I considered enough, but you
owe you so much bro. should know I appreciate it so
much. Thank you.
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Neighbourhood PUA
Dharam ;-)
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