@ Nurtr ~~—Discussion with Parents - 1@Nurtr Being a parent, how to overcome pressure when the child is playing in a tournament? Itis NOT important to overcome the pressure! What is more important is to ‘accept that there is going to be lot of pressure. + Feeling the pressure is a normal human trait when the stakes are high, hence being in acceptance takes care of all negative outcome. + One needs to train the face - which means controlling the facial expressions regardless of the situation or the outcomes.@2Nurtr Price of negative emotions + Children are good at picking and absorbing emotions - if the parent is negative, the child will also emulate the same trait. + This not only affects his performance but also hampers overall innocence and happiness that a child deserves! itati@Nurtr Designing the Perfect Environment A perfect environments brings out perfect outcomes. + Dinner table conversations are important - they should ‘not be only about chess. + Child should not feel that there is nothing else left - do monitor the preparation but don't always keep asking about how well the child feels prepared. + Do not express the expectations too much - it distracts the child and puts him under undue pressure.@2Nurtr Tournaments are Also Chess Games! + Parents often overprepare for the tournaments by creating a hype around those. + One should take a tournament as heartily as one would take any other game. However the competition is tough and so the players are, it still is not a reason to get all worked up and get stressed. uatil@2Nurtr Designing the Perfect Environment + Motivation is like medicine - too much of it, and the significance might be lost. Itis good to motivate as long as it does not add to already existing pressure a child has. + While motivating, focus on effort, not on winning the game. Children don’t make mistakes on purpose, there is always a learning attached to it.@2Nurtr Expectation and Expression + Always encourage the child to keep a fighting spirit. + Ifparents don’t cut the expectations down, the performance of child is also bound to come down. + Understand that every child is different, some players progress fast, some take little more time. + Don't discuss the game too much, after a child has lost. Analysis is acceptable but too much digging deep can be deterrent. even@Nurtr It’s Chess - Not a Battle! Have Fun Learning & Playing