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Troll Spotting Part One
Troll Spotting Part One
Troll Spotting Part One
It's almost enough to make you paranoid, and wonder if there's a cowen plot to
break the will of our most dedicated and ethical people.
A while back, Isaac Bonewits published a review of a book which explored this
subject. The book is called, Antagonists in the Church: How to Identify and
Deal with Destructive Conflict, by Kenneth Haugk (Augsberg Publishing House,
Minneapolis, 1988). Isaac highly recommended this book, in spite of it being
written from a Christian perspective and intended for a Christian audience of
ministers and lay leaders. He claimed the book makes clear much which
otherwise seems mysterious and confusing. He was right.
For a modern Witch or Pagan, reading Haugk's book frequently gets tiresome,
because Haugk honestly views conflicts within Christian groups as ultimately
being the work of the Devil out to destroy the True Church. But putting aside
the Christian apologetics, there's an amazing amount in there which is useful
and incredibly insightful. If you've ever seen the sorts of destructive
conflict described above within a Coven or other Pagan group, Haugk's book
will provide an illumination beyond hope. The book needs to be re-written,
though, from a Pagan viewpoint (a project in which I am currently engaged),
because there are strengths and problems peculiar to Paganism and the Craft
which don't impact the Christian audience Haugk wrote for.
Here's a very important insight: Such conflicts don't "just happen." The
really destructive ones, the really vicious fights which tear apart Covens or
larger groups, conflicts which break the spirit of the most dedicated Elders,
these conflicts aren't accidents, and they aren't the consequence of simple
misunderstandings or miscommunications. No; they happen because particular
individuals made them happen. There is a class of personality traits which
makes certain individuals crave conflict. There are people who need conflict
the way most people need food. When one of these folks gets going, no form of
conflict-resolution process is going to work, because such a person is not
interested in resolving conflicts. Indeed, the more understanding and patient
you are, the worse things will get, because such a person uses your patience
and understanding as opportunities to prolong the conflict.
Fortunately, such people are few and far between, and they can usually be
recognized before they start causing damage. The personality traits they
possess can be identified, and their techniques can be thwarted or rendered
ineffective. To handle them properly takes prior knowledge and preparation,
however. It also requires a willingness to take firm action, and to freely
exercise your legitimate authority as a Coven Leader. Unfortunately, unless
the problem becomes recognized on a wider scale and is appropriately dealt
with in the Pagan community at large, damage can still be done in wider
arenas. You can make your own Coven or Grove almost immune to people like
this. But keeping such people from tearing apart larger umbrella
organizations, or spreading malicious rumors through a local or regional
community - that's quite a lot harder.
Take all this merely as advice. If you know of better ways to deal with the
problems explored here, by all means, use them - and share them with the rest
of us!
The word Kenneth Haugk uses for these sorts of destructive people is
"antagonists." The word was chosen to remind his Christian readers of the
antagonism between Satan and the biblical god. In a Pagan context, it wouldn't
be appropriate to use this imagery of Eternal Conflict. We'd do better with an
image more in keeping with Pagan myth and symbolism.
In much of European mythology and folklore, giants, trolls, and ogres are
embodiments of the forces of Chaos, natural forces which often batter at the
walls of civilization or even at the orderly forms which Nature Herself
creates. Chaos is not an "evil" force. It's simply the flip side of the
creative impulse. Seeing destructive people as chaotic rather than as evil
helps to place them into a useful and meaningful Pagan context. Of all these
chaotic embodiments, trolls are sometimes among the strongest - yet they also
have an unintentionally comic side, as we're reminded by fairy tales such as
the "Three Billy Goats Gruff," or modern stories such as Tolkien's "The
Hobbit". Trolls can be easily outwitted, if you know something about them, for
sunlight turns them into harmless boulders. An understanding of the true
nature of destructive people is the sunlight which renders them impotent and
ineffective.
Inner Drives
Trolls can't help being trolls. It isn't that they want to be destructive,
exactly, any more than a plague-carrying flea wants to cause death, or a flood
wants to destroy a town. It's just in the nature of the thing. Floods simply
spread over the plain, and if you happen to be in the way, well, too bad for
you. Nothing you did either caused the flood, or could have prevented it. In
the same way, destructive people have inner drives which make them act as they
do. No action you take will make them behave differently. The best you can do
is to not be around when the dam breaks.
Trolls need conflict, the way healthy people need food. If people are
responding to them in any way at all, this provides them with a feeling of
having an impact on the world around them. Since they have very little self-
esteem, any reaction at all is far better than none. And since fear and hate
are powerful emotions, if they can inspire fear and hate, this makes them feel
powerful and effective. Further, being hated feeds their paranoia ("See? I was
right! People really don't like me!") and encourages more of the acts which
inspired the fear and hate in the first place ("... so I have to get them
first!"). But being loved and embraced won't stop those actions, since what
they crave is excitement and conflict, not love. And being somewhat paranoid,
they'll think your acts of love are intended to fool them into feeling safe
and comfortable; they'll be convinced your kindness is part of an elaborate
trap. ("I know people don't like me. So why are you pretending you do? What
are you up to?")
Because trolls need conflict, they are very practiced at it. Experience is a
good teacher, and most trolls will have had an enormous amount of experience
by the time they are old enough to join a Coven. If you wind up being the
target of a troll's attacks, fighting back is not a good idea. Trolls are
very, very good at turning any frontal assaults to their advantage. They are
even better at finding and manipulating more subtle responses. One of the most
powerful defensive tricks they have is pretending to be the victim. Once you
respond - in any way, regardless of how measured and controlled your response
is - they begin telling everyone they know about how mean you are, and how
cruel and vicious and vindictive you're being. It's a good way to turn your
own friends against you, and begin making you feel isolated and paranoid. This
tactic has the additional advantage of turning attention away from whatever
unethical acts the troll was doing in the first place.
So, patience won't help; retaliation won't help; love and support won't help.
Explaining the situation won't help, and neither will proposing solutions or
compromises, nor will mediation or engagement in any sort of dialogue. If you
wind up in any dispute or argument with a troll, doing any of these things
will simply make matters worse, and will probably result in incredible pain.
Yet these are exactly the approaches you should use with most people who are
not trolls. Most people are healthy. Trolls are not, and should not be treated
as if they are. Trolls are not healthy; they won't get healthy, they don't
want to get healthy, and keeping them near you will eventually let them harm
you.
The only effective way to handle trolls should be obvious. It's also very
simple, in theory at least. Don't associate with trolls. And if one gets into
your Coven, he or she needs to be ejected as soon as you recognize that it
really is a troll you're dealing with. And you don't want to get involved in
detailed discussions with the troll, explanations of why you're taking the
action you're taking. You want to just do it, and be done with it.
But obviously, you don't want to treat a healthy person this way, someone with
whom you're simply having a genuine disagreement or misunderstanding. So the
trick is not so much in how to handle a troll. It's in how to recognize one.