LUCRARE DE ATESTAT

LIMBA ENGLEZA

THE BEAUTY
OF GOOD MANNERS

STUDENT: Meșină Luminița Alexandra

CLASA: a XII-a E

PROFIL: Filologie-engleză intensiv

TEACHER: Ursei Alice

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ARGUMENT

Etiquette is the set of conventional rules of personal behaviour in polite society,

usually in a form of ethical code that delineates the expected and accepted social
behaviours that accord with the conventions and norms observed by a society, a
social class, or a social group. In modern English usage, the French word
étiquette dates from the year 1750.

I have chosen this subject because I have always wanted to be a well-mannered

person and I do everything I know to have a good etiquette around everyone.
For me, good manners are really important, they can define who you are, how
educated you are and how respectful you are.

Through this presentation, I want to highlight some of the positive aspects of

good manners and the advantages that they have in any situation we would find
out. I respect the good manners and the people who use them. Thus, I would like
to introduce to you the things we all can do to gain the respect of others, but also
the self-respect that comes with polite behavior.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD MANNERS

The clearest mark of a truly educated person is politeness or good manners.The essence of
politeness is that you respect yourself and you respect other people.People who do not respect
themselves and other people are impolite and ill-mannered.It is utterly disgusting having to
deal with such rude people. Indeed, you can recognize them the moment they open their
mouths, for language is the most obvious means of expressing politeness.

In fact, everything we say, in any situation, shows other people whether we are polite or
not.There are, especially, four little expressions which are the pillars of politeness.They are
‚excuse me’, ‚please’, ‚sorry’ and ‚thank you’.These are four wheels on which the vehicle of
good manners moves. Anyone who wants to drive smoothly through life must make sure that
these wheels of polite speech are firmly fixed on their car.

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Almost everyone understands that there's a reason for etiquette guidelines and rules for good
manners. After all, most parents start teaching polite words and phrases to their children early
in life. They know that they're giving their children an advantage that will carry over into
social, educational, and eventually professional situations.

Throughout their lives, people face behavior rules and the consequences of ignoring them.
Schools have written rules that they expect students and teachers to obey. Employee
handbooks are loaded with policies of etiquette and showing respect to coworkers.

Manners are important to make a good impression on others in everyday life. They also help
you to feel good about yourself and your identity. No matter where you are, at home- with
kids, at work- with colleagues, or with friends, practicing good manners is important. If you
practice good manners, you are showing those around you that you are considerate to their
feelings and also respect them. You are also setting standards for others’ behavior and
encouraging them to treat you with similar respect.

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BASIC EXAMPLES OF GOOD MANNERS AND

ETIQUETTES

Choose your words wisely and don’t rush to comment about things you don’t know much
about. Being a good listener is often better than speaking. You don’t need to have an opinion
on everything.

Think things out before you speak, especially if you are a person who may be poor at
finding the right words to say. Don’t start a sentence, with ‘ums’ and ‘ers’ in between, it
seems awkward and you should try speaking to yourself in front of a mirror, it works! It
increases your confident in speaking.

Don’t speak loudly. You will quickly lose respect if you do, as this can be seen as
overbearing and rude. It can also make other people angry and upset with you before you even
establish some kind of relationship with them. They will see you as a ‘big mouth’ who cannot
be trusted with anything confidential. So practice turning your volume down if you tend to
have a loud voice.

Speak with respect to and of others. You can do this by avoiding negative remarks that may
insult someone else. The general rule is- if you don’t want someone to speak about you that
way, you don’t speak about them to others.

Do not ever speak of bodily functions even if it is a casual conversation, such as using the
bathroom or telling rude jokes, this shows sign of immaturity and often creates a bad
impression of you with your friends, family, and co-workers.

Always respect older people and listen to them and learn. This applies to all elders and not
just parents and grandparents.

Using the terms ‘Thank You’, and ‘You are Welcome’ shows that you have good manners.
People who lack manners do not use these terms.

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Hold open a door for anyone following you closely. This is a sign of a good manner and has
never changed. There are no strict gender rules in this day and age.

Speak highly of your parents respect them, even if there are things about them that you do not
like. If you cannot do that, stay away from speaking about them at all. It looks bad to insult or
speak badly of the people who brought you into this world or raised you. Don’t wash dirty
family laundry in public. It is negative and rude.

Do not swear to use filth language and curse words. It is unprofessional! People who do this
are usually very immature and have no self-control or respect for themselves and others!

Good manners imply respect and consideration for others or being aware of the needs of
others. They are the oil which lubricates the friction of interpersonal relations and creates a
happy and successful society. So, Give Respect and Take Respect!

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WHY HAVING GOOD MANNERS?

Without proper etiquette, society would be a mess with free-for-all behaviors that would have
rude people dominating those who care about others. People would say whatever is on their
minds, regardless of how crass it is. Forks would fly, and elbows would rock tables in
restaurants and homes. Diners would be grossed out by people who speak with their mouths
full of food.

Most parents don't want to contribute to bad behavior in society, so they teach etiquette to
their children at a very young age, starting with saying "Please" and "Thank you." They
encourage their kids to share and not be selfish with their toys, and then as they get older, they
progress to some of the more complex manners concepts, such as how to properly introduce
someone and how to make a good first impression.

Having proper etiquette is essential in all aspects of life if you want others to respect you.
Here are some of the many advantages of having good manners:
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Being nice at home sets the stage for better behavior. Your children watch how you react to
various situations, so parents need to set examples and have good manners. If you are polite to
them and consistent in following proper manners guidelines, they are much more likely to do
the same.

Professional manners get positive attention. Skills on the job are important, but knowing how
to do the work isn't the only thing expected of you. Following the etiquette rules at work will
help you earn respect and possibly even contribute to promotions and raises.

Being kind to customers increases sales. Show your customers your good manners by
speaking to them politely and giving them an opportunity to express their needs, and you are
more likely to earn their future business.

Being polite to your friends will keep them calling.

When your friends know you care enough to have good manners with them, they are more
likely to include you in activities and events.

Romantic relationships are stronger when couples respect each other. Men and women who
are polite and selfless are a lot more pleasant to be around than those who are selfish and rude.

Treating other people with respect makes them want to be nice back to you. Whether you
need help at the grocery store or you have a complaint about a product, showing good
manners will make the store employees want to work with you. Holding a door for a young
mom or older person can make their day much better. Smile at someone, and that just might
be the bright spot in his or her day.

Driving with good manners can help prevent accidents. Road rage has never been good for
anyone. Remember that all drivers make mistakes. It's up to you to maintain an even temper
and avoid accidents by being aware of everything around you when you're behind the wheel.

Others will listen if you give

them a chance to speak. Being a

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good conversationalist involves more than knowing the right words or talking all the time.
The person you are speaking to will feel that you care if you take a breather and hear what he
or she has to say.

Good social etiquette will keep your name on the guest list. If you RSVP, show up when you
say you will be polite to others, have good table manners, know when to leave, and thank
your host for inviting you, there's a good chance you'll be invited again.

Knowing and using proper etiquette regularly can help with confidence. If you are in the habit
of using good manners all the time, you won't have to worry about whether or not you're
doing or saying the right thing. It will come naturally to you, and others will respect you more
for it.

HOW TO BE POLITE IN 20 DIFFERENT

COUNTRIES

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GOOD MANNERS AROUND THE WORLD

If you’ve done any traveling at all, you’re likely quite aware that customs and etiquette differ
from one culture to another: what may be perfectly innocuous in one place may be hideously
offensive in another, and vice-versa. Granted, even if you haven’t traveled at all, you’re
probably aware of the fact that certain types of behavior aren’t exactly acceptable in other
countries: belching at the table may be a sign of gratitude in some places, but in most areas of
North America and Europe, such a display will earn you a fair bit of ire. Here’s how to be
polite in 20 different countries:

Japan

When dealing with Japanese clients, be sure to dress fairly conservatively, and make sure that
you bow lower than they do upon meeting them. Accept gifts with both hands (and open them
later, not in front of the giver), and never blow your nose at the dining table. Avoid asking and
answering direct questions: it’s better to imply rather than ask, and to answer with vagueness
during conversations.

Sweden

Keep personal distance and don’t touch people when you talk to them. Ensure proper table
manners, never discuss religion or politics, and try to maintain a level of quiet dignity.
Silences during conversations are not considered uncomfortable, and it’s better to be a bit
quiet, rather than overly verbose. When dining out, don’t drink before the host offers a toast,
and don’t get drunk.

Mexico

When meeting others, women should initiate handshakes with men, but all people should
avoid making too much eye contact; that can be seen as aggressive and belligerent behavior.
If sharing a meal with others, keep your elbows off the table and try to avoid burping at all
costs. Keep your hands off your hips, and make sure you never make the “okay” sign with
your hand: it’s vulgar.

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Kenya

When greeting someone older or of a higher status than yourself, grip their right wrist with
your left hand while shaking it; it’s a sign of respect and deference. Do ask questions about
their health, family, business etc. before getting to major topics, as skipping these niceties is
seen as impolite. If sharing meals, do not begin eating until the eldest male has been served
and starts to eat.

Jordan

Keep your voice low and quiet when conversing with others, as that is seen as being mature
and respectful. Be aware that people will speak to you at a closer distance than you may be
used to, and you may be touched on the arm or shoulder during conversation. Polite jokes are
acceptable, as is inquiring about family members. Never show the bottoms of your shoes.

Germany

Much like Scandinavian people, Germans tend to be reserved and polite. Ensure that
handshakes are firm, and always address people with Mr. or Mrs. followed by their surname
(“Herr” or “Frau” if you’re confident that you’ll pronounce them well). Decent table manners
are of great importance, and be sure to say “please” and “thank you” often.

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China

Be generous with saying “thank you” when someone does anything from pouring you tea to
offering you a gift, and if or when you receive a gift, take it with both hands. If someone
makes a comment about your weight/appearance/idiosyncrasy, try not to take it as offensive:
it’s merely an observation on their part.

Barbados

Years of British rule in Barbados established a high degree of politesse, so be sure to greet
people as Mr./Mrs./Miss and say “please” and “thank you” often. Formal table manners are a
must, as is modest dress anywhere but at the beach. Avoid discussing religion and politics,
and stick to neutral-yet-friendly topics of conversation with others.

Pakistan

Be sure to dress modestly (especially if you’re female), and if you go out for a meal, eat with
your right hand; the left is considered unclean. Sit on your left hand if you need to, but keep it
away from your food. Don’t show anyone the bottom of your shoe, and try not to touch
anyone with your feet.

France

Be sure to say “please” and “thank you” often, and always thank people for their time. If you
need help at a shop, apologize to the staff for bothering them with a question, and be sure to
thank them before you leave. Make sure that you chew with your mouth closed during meals,
don’t speak when your mouth is full, and for goodness’ sake, don’t slurp anything!

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Korea

Don’t be offended if a Korean woman merely nods instead of offering her hand to shake, and
don’t extend yours to her. Never touch a Korean person while talking to them (unless you’re
on very friendly terms), and maintain a respectable distance: personal space is rather vital. Try
to avoid talking too much during meals, and offer to pay even if you know that the other party
is treating you.

Argentina

This is another country in which people will lean in close when they speak to you, and touch
you often during a conversation. Pulling away is considered rude and “cold”, so be prepared
to sacrifice your own personal space for the sake of social courtesy. Maintain strong eye
contact, and don’t put your hands on your hips.

The Netherlands

Shake hands with everyone, ensuring that you smile and make eye contact while doing so.
Make appointments for meetings and social functions well in advance (like, a couple of weeks
in advance), and be punctual when you show up. Feel free to bring gifts such as chocolate or
flowers when visiting people.

Russia

Turning down an alcoholic drink is considered terribly offensive in Russia, so it’s a good idea
to fortify yourself with some greasy food before heading out for a meal with Russian or
Ukrainian clients. Don’t smile at strangers or they’ll think you’re deranged, and when paying
for items, place your money on the counter rather than trying to hand it directly to the cashier.

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Canada

Canadians are (for the most part) polite, respectful, and fairly reserved people. It’s important
to remember social niceties such as saying “please” and “thank you” when dealing with them,
and if you open doors for people and offer firm handshakes, you’re sure to stay in the good
books. When ordering food or drinks, never begin with “I want…,” as it’s considered rude
and ignorant to do so.

Italy

Dress formally and respectably in churches and upscale restaurants, and ensure that your table
manners are impeccable. Be punctual, always be generous with social niceties, and under no
circumstances should you ever be drunk in public. Say “please” often, and if possible, try to
make at least a bit of an effort to learn a few Italian words and phrases.

Nepal

It’s best to dress modestly when traveling around Nepal, and if you end up exchanging gifts
with others, never do so with your left hand. When it comes to sharing meals, use utensils so
you avoid contaminating anything with implements that may have touched your mouth, and
take care to remove your shoes upon entering someone’s home, or a temple.

Israel

Greet people with a warm handshake and ready smile, and invite them to address you by your
first name. Don’t be offended if someone shows up 15 to 20 minutes late, or if they take
phone calls during your meeting with them. If asked personal questions, answer with
generalizations. If you’re male, don’t speak to another man’s wife if she hasn’t been
introduced to you.

The U.K.

Like in Canada, people in the United Kingdom tend to be fairly polite and reserved. Possibly
more so. Be very courteous in your speech, never address anyone by their given name unless
invited to do so (always address them as Mr./Mrs./Miss followed by their surname to begin
with), and ensure that you use proper table manners when sharing meals.

Brazil

Smile often, don’t be afraid to touch others during conversation, and be generous with the
“thumbs-up” sign. Avoid the “okay” gesture (it’s offensive), and if you eat a sandwich, use a
napkin to hold it rather than your bare hands. Don’t use a toothpick without covering your
mouth with your free hand, and if you’re going to wear a tiny string Speed on the beach, be
sure to strut around in it.

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CONCLUSION

 Having good manners brings respect from other people;

 Being polite is the most attractive qualitty of someone;
 Respecting others will bring us more respect and confidence;
 Children must be taught from a young age the rules of good
manners;
 A well-mannered world is a peaceful place for our mind and
body!

THANK YOU!

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BIBLIOGRAPHY
1. https://www.thespruce.com/how-you-benefit-from-proper-etiquette-1216688
2. https://www.kenyaplex.com/resources/3802-the-beauty-of-good-manners.aspx
3. https://www.jobcluster.com/blog/importance-of-good-manners/
4. https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-polite-countries.html

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

1. ARGUMENT..................................................................................................................2
2. THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD MANNERS...............................................................3
3. BASIC EXAMPLES OF GOOD MANNERS AND ETIQUETES...............................5
4. WHY HAVING GOOD MANNERS?...........................................................................7
5. GOOD MANNERS AROUND THE WORLD............................................................10
6. CONCLUSIONS...........................................................................................................15
7. BIBLIOGRAPHY.........................................................................................................16

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