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Learning Memorization Booklet - Presence by Amy Cuddy - PDF
Learning Memorization Booklet - Presence by Amy Cuddy - PDF
Learning Memorization Booklet - Presence by Amy Cuddy - PDF
What is Presence?
Is Presence the same
as charisma?
Presence is bringing your boldest self to No. Presence has nothing to do with be-
the most challenging times of your life. ing an extrovert. It is not sociability. Sim-
ply put—it is being in tuned with your
Presence is: core values, and then expressing them
effectively.
• Nailing the interview
• Making the final shot How will this help me?
• Getting the promotion
• Confidently sharing your A study done of Silicon Valley entrepre-
honest opinions neurs showed that everyday people were
• Having a wonderful first date able to predict with 80% accuracy wheth-
er or not someone would receive funding
“Entrepreneurs’ grounded enthusiasm from potential investors, solely by watching
is contagious, stimulating a high level of their body language during a presentation.
commitment, confidence, passion, and
performance in the people who work for In other words, more important than
and with them.” their ideas, was how the presenter carried
themselves during their presentation—the
winners simply exuded more Presence.
PRESENCE
Application to Life
QUESTION
Who would you hire?
What is
Self-Affirmation
Theory?
“Focus less on the impression you’re making on others and more on the
impression you’re making on yourself.” - Amy Cuddy
PRO TIP
When the stakes are high and there’s ob- Too often we clam up, not because we’re
vious judgment present (like in an inter- not prepared, but because we’ve created
view or date)—you can put yourself in the a life or death situation out of something
right state of mind by reminding yourself that, in the long run, will not fundamen-
of who you are, regardless of the outcome. tally change who we are. The solution,
then, is to remind yourself of who you are
deep down.
Application to Life
ACTIVITY | Write down QUESTION | Now choose
three values that embody one. Which value is the
who you are: most YOU?
“When our body language is confident and open, other people respond
in kind, unconsciously reinforcing not only their perception of us
but also our perception of ourselves.” - Amy Cuddy
Application to Life
QUESTION | What is something you’re QUESTION | Why do you believe that?
deeply passionate about? Is it an idea? A Write down an argument for your belief.
value? Write down an example of some-
thing you truly believe in. Example: Well the evidence is pretty over-
whelming. In one study, for example…
Example: I know it seems controversial and
maybe even not all that important, but I’ve
always been a huge believer in filtered water.
Ever since I was a kid my parents taught me
how many chemicals are in the water we
drink from the faucet.
EASY | DIFFICULT
Yes! You may be wondering why we’re fo- “When we are truly present in a
cusing on confidence more than content.
Isn’t it true that competence matters? Do challenging moment, our verbal
we really want to trick people into think- and nonverbal communication
ing that we’re proficient, that we are good
for the job, when we’re really not? Of
flows. We are no longer
course not. occupying a discombobulated
mental state — simultaneously
Mastering Presence isn’t about having
power over or deceiving people, it’s about analyzing what we think others
having power over yourself. It’s not a sub- think of us, what we said a
stitute for skill, it’s a complement to it.
minute earlier, and what we
think they will think of us after
we leave, all while frantically
trying to adjust what we’re
When we are powerful we expand out- saying and doing to create the
ward, are quicker to act, take advantage
of opportunities when they present them-
impression we think
selves, and most importantly—help others they want to see.”
when they are need. - Amy Cuddy
Application to Life
QUESTION | When you think about
power—what first comes to mind?
QUESTION | Why did you feel powerless QUESTION | Now remember a time
in this situation? when you were capable and skilled enough
to perform well, but you didn’t because
Example: I thought that if I spoke up I would you were too anxious. What happened?
fired, or worse…
Example: I remember in high school I studied
a lot for my SAT test, for almost a year I stud-
ied at least once a week, but when it came
down to the actual day of the exam—I don’t
know what happened, but I froze. I knew that
I knew the answers, but my mind was so wor-
ried about being worried that it didn’t leave
room for actually solving the problems…
BIG IDEA #5: THE BODY
MIND CONNECTION
As they say
- goes the body, so goes the
mind.
THE BODY MIND
CONNECTION
Application to Life
ACTIVITY | Imagine that QUESTION | How do
you just won a gold medal. you feel?
Express yourself. What do
you do with your body? Example: I feel like a
Hold it for one minute. champion. Like I just won a
gold medal! Ha.
RELAXED | UPTIGHT
HAPPY | EXCITED
MOTIVATED | LOST
UNCOMFORTABLE | ALONE
ANGRY | LETHARGIC
ENERGETIC | STRONG
Application to Life
QUESTION | How can I encourage ladies QUESTION | How am I going to help the
to take up more space at a young age? girls in my life feel more powerful? List
three ways:
Example: In general, I can stop saying things
like “sit like a lady” or “that’s not lady like”… Example: I will watch female sporting events
with my nieces to show them that female
athletes too can be role models.
1.
2.
3.
BIG IDEA #7: SELF
NUDGING
What is Self-Nudging?
“When you’re excited it primes an op-
portunity mindset, so you think of all
This idea comes up all over the place. Small of the good things that can happen.
steps lead to big gains.You’re probably not
going to reinvent yourself overnight, but
You’re more likely to make decisions
you definitely can choose to constantly and take actions that will make [good
become a better person rather than say- results] likely to occur.” - Amy Cuddy
ing stagnant or worse—losing momentum.
What is an easy yet power-
Here are a few ways to ful self-nudge?
make small gains with
regard to Presence: A study was conducted for people right
before a difficult situation. They were
asked to think about themselves as calm,
1. Before an important event stand in a nervous, or excited.
power pose for one minute.
“We don’t get there by deciding to change right now. We do it gently, incrementally,
by nudging ourselves - a bit further every time.” - Amy Cuddy
SELF NUDGING
Application to Life
QUESTION | What’s a small improve- QUESTION | How can you start to im-
ment you’ve made in the past that has had prove your presence right now? What’s
a lasting benefit in your life? the smallest way possible?
Example: I started playing a game with my- Example: The easiest way is I can start to
self: instead of committing to going to the take breaks at work and stretch out…
gym, I just committed to putting on my gym
shoes in the morning—and guess what hap-
pened? I started going…
Application to Life
QUESTION | What are you most afraid QUESTION | Now imagine you are in
of? What worries you the most? When this situation—and tell yourself that you
you’re the most nervous. Write down the are calm. Does this change how you feel?
ultimate worst case scenario for nerves: Why not?
Example: I am basically terrified of confront- Example: Ehhh not really. I can’t just switch
ing people when I feel offended by some- to being calm.
thing they’ve done. In short—I rarely defend
myself…
NOW TELL YOURSELF YOU’RE EXCITED.
Feel that excitement. In fact—the next time
you are in a difficult situation, tell yourself “I
am excited.” What happened?
Application to Life
QUESTION | How much time do you QUESTION | What of the above
spend looking at a screen every day? methods can you commit to adopting?
Why?
Example: If I’m being perfectly honest…
probably about 6 hours a day. Example: I definitely can, in the least, take
walking meetings. This would help open up
my body and allow me to...
BIG IDEA #10: GET READY
Make a plan!
The literature is unequivocal. If We know that you want to be-
you want to make any serious come more Present in your life,
change in your life, if you want to especially in those moments of
accomplish your goals, you first intense stress—but without ac-
must come up with a plan for tion, all of this is for not.
how to attain that goal.
Application to Life
ACTIVITY | What’s your plan? How will you learn to become more
Present? Finish the following sentences:
At work I will…
Example: …remember to sit up straight and tall.
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At home I will…
Example: …remind myself of my values.
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When I wake up I will remind myself to…
Example: …go on a power walk, arms out, head up…
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