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Healthy Notes 4-23-2020 420
Healthy Notes 4-23-2020 420
-ask yourself why you are bringing this up - why do you intend to say what you
intend to say?
is it
a) do you want your partner to comfort you because you feel bad
b) do you mean to actually tell them "this is not ok" and that partner could
be better, and needs to know this
c) do you want to apologize because you feel bad and think you've acted
unfairly
d) is it because you just can't stop yourself? stop being on retard autopilot
emotion spitting, it's bad for you
(d) means you really want (a)
from cheering up feel (who tried to cheer up honestly, who had to be cheered up? X
= stay upset, Y = try to cheer up other person)
-when person A brings up X, that person B is responsible for bad thing X (non-
specific examples: bad will: behaviour, action,, situation - a "fuck you")
(this is especially true if X feels to be in response to person A's self-
perceived good thing Y (non-specific good behaviour examples: good will: behaviour,
action, situation - an "apology"))
sometimes person A may hold in equal regard
the precise opposite opinion
(that person A itself is responsible for bad thing X, and person B has
tried
BOTH PARTIES INTERFACE WITH EACH OTHER W.R.T. "IS THIS STILL PRODUCTIVE??" AS
OFTEN AS NEEDED TO CONTINUE TO AVOID THE ROPED-IN FEEL
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