-SLIGHT EMOTIONAL TURBULENCE CAN BE SAFELY IGNORED (HOW ABOUT WHEN IT'S REMINISCENT

OF PAST SITUATIONS CAUSING UPSET?)

THIS IS THE REASON I FELT MORE THAN "IM JUST TALKING I.E. I
DONT HAVE A POINT TO PROVE"
I FELT IT WAS DOWNPLAYING YOUR POINT, WHICH IS VERY
VALID AND I AGREE WITH
AND EVEN MAKES ME CHANGE MY OPINION ABOUT
MY OWN POINT
COMMON THEME, MAYBE: I DONT WANT TO FEEL LIKE I'M "MORE CORRECT" IN AN
OPINION
THAT IS, I DON'T WANT YOU TO FEEL LIKE YOU ARE "LESS
CORRECT" WITH YOUR OPINION,
WHEN I AM EITHER AGREEING WITH YOU, IN WHICH CASE YOU SHARE
THE EXCITEMENT
OR IF I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND/IF I AM IN FACT "WRONG"
- I.E. IT INDEED MAKES IT LESS SURPRISING THEY'RE
ALL IN ONE PLACE
SO WHEN I SAY "IT IS SURPRISING!" I AM ACTUALLY
WRONG
(CAUSE YOU SAID IT WAS SURPRISING, BUT YOUR
MAIN POINT
IS A GOOD ARGUMENT MAKING IT LESS
SURPRISING)
COMMON THEME, MAYBE, TAKE 2, MAYBE: MISCOMMUNICATED/MISREPRESENTED
ARGUMENT/STANCE/THESIS/TOPIC SENTENCE
-CLARIFY WHAT EACH OTHER'S IDEAS ARE SO WE ARE NOT CONFUSED
ABOUT
WHY THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING WHAT THEY ARE SAYING
(WE MAY DISAGREE, BUT WE WOULD STILL UNDERSTAND THAT
THEY'RE ARGUING THEIR POINT)
(AS OPPOSED TO "THAT ARGUMENT HAS NO RELEVANCE FOR OR
AGAINST MINE, WTF?")

-BE MORE STRAIGHTFORWARD WITH WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY FEEL AND THEN EXPLAIN IT AS
SPECIFICALLY AS NECESSARY
(I MAY NOT HAVE ANY ISSUE WITH THE STRAIGHTFOWARD FEELING BUT MAY BE CONFUSED
BY A DETAILED/SPECIFIC EXPLANATION)
(WHICH IS WARRANTED UNNECESSARY, USUALLY, BY AGREEMENT WITH THE
MAIN FEELING/POINT)

-PERHAPS EXPLANATIONS FOR THINGS WITH WHICH I AM IN FULL AGREEMENT GO OVER POORLY
BECAUSE I AM UNSURE AS TO WHETHER YOU ARE INTRODUCING A NEW POINT