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Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma Staci K. Haines , Traci Odom
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The first encouraging, sex-positive guide for all women survivors of sexual assault — heterosexual, bisexual,
lesbian, coupled, and single — who want to reclaim their sex lives. While most books on the topic broach
sexuality only to reassure women that it is all right to say “no” to unwanted sex, Healing Sex encourages
women to learn how to say “yes” — to their own desires and on their own terms. This mind-body approach
to healing from sexual trauma was created by Staci Haines, who has been educating in the area of sexual
abuse, sex education, and somatic healing for over 15 years. Her techniques are ideal for anyone looking for
a new way to heal from trauma, beyond traditional talk therapy.

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma Details

Date : Published November 28th 2007 by Cleis Press

ISBN : 9781573442930
Author : Staci K. Haines , Traci Odom (Narrator)
Format : Paperback 320 pages
Genre : Psychology, Sexuality, Nonfiction, Self Help, Health, Mental Health

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Abilouise says

The best thing about this book is it has near the beginning a few pages of "here's the minimum of self-care
that you should have in place in order to tackle this work". It's a nice baseline for everyone, really, and it's a
nice warning, frankly!

Alex says

this is a great, VERY accessible guide for survivor's of sexual abuse, especially child abuse. i found it both
insightful and incredibly down-to-earth. Staci Haines helps survivors take control of their sexual lives again,
and move forwards on the path of healing. the book is written mainly for women, but even as an ally i gained
a lot from it.

Molly Octopus says

This book is an updated version of Haines' previous book about healing from child sexual abuse... it just has
a different title. I read it expecting a different book and was rather disappointed. I think releasing the same
book under a different title is misleading, but oh well. I'll give it 4 stars, like the previous version. They're
really the same.

Amelia says

One of my most recommended books in my therapy practice. Really helpful and practical somatic
experiencing-based guide to sex after trauma, focusing on childhood sexual abuse, but relevant to all sexual
trauma.

Nicole says

This book has a lot of sound advice about healing from sexual trauma.

My main takeaways are:

trust your instincts,
take time to discover who you are,
be aware of your physical body and how trauma is stored within it,
don't be afraid to ask for what you need,
most of all, you're worth it

There are many quotes from different clients the author has worked with over the years spread through out

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the book. At first it was nice to read. After a while they were interfering with the content for me. Overall, this
is very good book for healing trauma. It provides a solid foundation on how to begin with probing questions
to consider. There aren't right to wrong answers to the questions. This is your journey into healing. The
author makes a strong effort to help you own it.

Before reading the book be aware that the book is written for any sexual orientation/preference. It was
helpful for me to skip around in the book rather than reading in a chronological order. Some chapters are
more intense with information than others. As with any part of a healing journey, remember you are in
control of your pace and direction.

Cherokee says

I found this book to be excellent. This book is ideal for someone much further along in therapy.

Most of the books out there for childhood sexual abuse survivors cover emotional issues that many
experience and need to deal with first. The topic of sex is a difficult one and something that those books
barely devote 1 page to, if that. Unfortunately many survivors associate sex with something negative and
painful as a result of the abuse they survived. This book provides hope that sex can be positive (alone or with
a partner) if it's something you want for yourself.

To have an entire sex positive book specifically for those struggling with sexual issues as a result of
childhood sexual abuse is very important. I personally liked all the lines in quotes on different thoughts and
struggles that individuals have gone through.

Jonathan says

I found Staci Haines writing about trauma to be very hopeful and inspiring. Reading this book helped center
me and focus on the important act of healing. I found it was easy to relate to as a guy.

Tinea says

This book takes a physical, body-based approach to healing trauma from sexual abuse or assault. It's about
identifying emotions and feelings in your body and discovering how they were caused by or relate to your
abuse. The idea is that when you can connect your present physical andT emotional feelings to memories of
past trauma, you can begin to understand the present day feelings and work through them, heal them. The
book has excellent sections on dissociation, handling triggers, and figuring out what kind of support you
need. It walks you through common emotions and physical responses experienced by survivors; at times I
felt like Haines took a really babying, hand-holding approach, but honestly I think it's an effective way to
write a book like this-- very validating, very basic, making no assumptions about the reader's knowledge or
experience.

Healing Sex, as the title suggests, focuses on sex. Half the book is basically just a how-to manual for sex:
cunnilingus, fellatio, intercourse, safe sex, etc. The author explains that what with growing up in a sex-
negative culture and growing up abused on top of that, a lot of one's issues with sex stem from ignorance and
shame. Education can help that. All the educational chapters focus on how to have sex as a survivor, getting

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very specific about how to overcome fear, shaking, dissociation, and lack of intamacy, all common issues
many survivors deal with.

My main problem with the book was that some of the touchy-feely emotional language was completely
beyond my scope of understanding. I was just all "Wha--? Huh?" a lot of the time. Also, Haines provides a
lot of exercises at the end of each chapter, and it's obvious the book should be read slowly and digested. I
blazed through it, but I hope to come back to it again.

HeavyReader says

Here is the review that I wrote for the Feminist Review blog.

I’ve wanted to read this book since it was first published in 1999 as The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to
Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse, so I was pleased to review this updated second
edition.

I had forgotten that the focus is on survivors of childhood sexual abuse, and the new subtitle obscures that
detail. However, I think this book could be helpful for any woman recovering from any sexual abuse, no
matter what her age when the assault happened.

The healing offered in this guide is based on somatics, a “new paradigm” which views “the mind, body, and
spirit as one integrated whole” or “one interconnected biological system” while treating “the body as an
essential place of change, learning, and transformation.” Somatic practices aim to help survivors learn “new
ways to address their need for safety and connection” while supporting the mind/body in learning “new ways
of being and acting.”

Information presented is comprehensive, with chapters devoted to desire and pleasure, dissociation, sexual
response and anatomy, masturbation and self-healing, consent and boundaries, penetration, oral sex,
embracing triggers, sex toys, intimacy, S/M, spiritual sexuality, and the emotions of healing. There is even a
chapter for partners of survivors of sexual abuse. The bibliography and resource list includes details for
learning more about childhood sexual abuse, various aspects of trauma, somatic healing, and sex education,
as well as advice on acquiring sex positive materials,

Emphasizing many points made by the author are quotes from real women recovering from child sexual
abuse. These quotes give true-to-life examples of the ideas the author is asserting and allow the book to
include many voices. I appreciated being able to witness the experiences of a variety of women.

At the end of each chapter are two to six “sex guide exercises” which reinforce the ideas and techniques for
healing presented in the preceding pages. The reader is encouraged to reflect on or write down answers to
these questions, or to have conversations about them with a support person. These assignments give the
reader concrete ways to work towards healing.

I recommend this book to every woman on the road to recovery from sexual abuse, especially if that abuse
happened to her when she was a girl. I also recommend it to partners and counselors/therapists of women
recovering from sexual trauma, as well as anyone interested in healthy, empowered sexuality.

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Hannah says

this is a good one: gentle, embodied, and in line with a lot of my existing approaches to healing trauma and
being in relationships around and with trauma. i wish there was more out there for when you have no actual
memories of abuse or specific triggers. i read this one really slow & tried not to take it too linearly or like i
had to do every exercise for it to "count". there is always a way we integrate anything we take in! also, note
that this book always refers to survivors as "she".

Jenna says

I'd recommend this book to anybody, not just the survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Repeated images of
gruesome rapes and murders locked within our culture's collective memory does damage.

Alex says

I picked up this book after it was recommended to me because I am a massage therapist who works with
trauma survivors. The book is obviously written for the survivors themselves, and as such there were "self-
help" techniques that I don't anticipate using in my practice, but which seem like they would be helpful. That
being said, it's still a resource I turn to years later, and I think it's very well written.

Lauren Grousd says

Great sex-positive book for survivors of sexual abuse or assault. A reminder that you're not "broken" and that
you can experience your sexuality as a positive, healthy, enjoyable part of who you are!

emily says

I'm not a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, but I am a survivor of an adult abusive relationship, and
currently in my first relationship since the abusive relationship ended several years ago. My partner read this
first and recommended it, and I'm glad she did. Overall it was hit-and-miss helpful for me, some topics more
applicable than others. I really appreciated the chapter on working through triggers; for that alone I felt the
book was worth it. As an aside, I listened to this on audiobook, and the narrator sounded like a new-agey
kindergarten teacher-- fine, but not for everyone.

Callie says

A very helpful and insightful book. Could be better-written, but that's easy to forgive with a book like this.
Helped me resolve a lot of confusion, and normalized what was happening with me which also helped me

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gain confidence. Very grateful I found this book.

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