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How Healthy Is YOUR Relationship With God TAKE THE QUIZ
How Healthy Is YOUR Relationship With God TAKE THE QUIZ
–TAKE
THE QUIZ!
Rachael Popcak and Dr. Gregory Popcak
The following quiz* is a statistically valid and reliable measure that evaluates the degree to
which a person’s relationship with God is healthy and secure. Most people are surprised by the
results. How will you score?
Directions
Circle the number indicates your level of agreement from DISAGREE STRONGLY (DS) to
NEUTRAL (N) to AGREE STRONGLY (AS). The points assigned will vary from question to
question. Don’t worry about the numbers for now, just view them as place-holders that indicate
your level of agreement/disagreement with each question.
Step 2: Add questions 1 – 14. Write the total on “Subtotal Scale 1” This is your score for the
Avoidant Scale. The LOWER the score the better. The lowest possible score is 14 which
would indicate that you are not at all avoidant in your relationship with God. In other words,
you feel absolutely eager to share your thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams with God and relying
on him in every aspect of your life. A score of 28 or LESS suggests that you are generally very
comfortable sharing your thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams with God and relying on him in
every aspect of your life. A score of 29 or HIGHER means that there may be several ways you
tend to resist sharing your heart with God or relying on him in parts of your life. The higher
your Avoidant Scale score, the more obstacles you tend to put up between yourself and God and
the harder it is for you to let him influence your life and relationships. The maximum possible
score on the Avoidant Scale is 98
Step 3: Add questions 15-28. Write the total on “Subtotal Scale 2” This is your score for the
Anxious Scale. The LOWER the score the better. The lowest possible score is 14 which would
indicate that you are absolutely confident and trusting in your relationship with God. In other
words, you never doubt or question God’s mercy, providence or caring/nurturing presence in
your life. A score of 28 or LESS suggests that you rarely doubt or question God’s mercy,
providence or caring/nurturing presence in your life.. A score of 29 or HIGHER means that you
tend to worry that God may not always be there for you, that you might behave in ways that
could cause him to abandon you, or that somehow, he might forget about you and your needs.
The higher your Avoidant Scale score, the stronger your anxiety is about God either
forgetting/abandoning you or alienating him with even simple mistakes/errors in judgment (i.e.,
scrupulosity). The maximum possible score on the Avoidant Scale is 98
What Does Your Score Mean and What Can You Do?
To learn more about why you scored the way you did, check out my previous post on attachment
styles and their influence on our spiritual lives.
IF you scored higher on the Avoidant Scale. You will need to make an intentional effort to
share more of your life with God. Make a point of talking to him about your hopes, dreams,
fears, concerns, and joys. It will probably feel silly or unnecessary. Do it anyway. God wants to
be part of every aspect of your life. He wants to be one with you (Jn 17:21). It will take effort
to remind yourself that you need God. Cultivate the discipline of prayer and especially of
sharing your concerns even though you tend to feel like everything is up to you in your life. You
don’t have to feel so alone any more. Learn to fight the false thoughts and desolations that cause
you to believe that you don’t or shouldn’t need God’s help. Jesus is standing at the door of your
heart knocking. Make the consistent effort to let him in. A spiritual director or pastoral
counselor can be helpful to you in keeping you accountable for opening your heart appropriately
to God.
IF you scored higher on the Anxious Scale. You will need to make an intentional effort to
remind yourself of God’s past providence, mercy and steadfast love. Keep a gratitude journal to
recall the blessings of each day. Likewise write down the times that God has delivered you from
past difficulties and review this list in prayer often–perhaps constantly. Reflect on passages in
scripture that remind you of your ability to trust in God. Learn to fight the false thoughts and
desolations that seek to separate you from God’s grace and peace. A spiritual director or pastoral
counselor can help you find your confidence in God’s fidelity when you are struggling to find
your spiritual center.
*Attachment to God Inventory –R. Beck & A. McDonald Journal of Psychology and Theology 2004, Vol. 32, No. 2,
92-103