A Journey towards Effective Parenting

Parenting from the Heart

Parenting is a gift of God
 Parenting is Gardening
The Universe blossoms in face of child. By
bringing out the best in your child, you bring
out the best in this universe.
 Parenting is Trust
The biggest trust is being entrusted with a life.
The biggest responsibility is to live that trust
through out your life.
 Parenting is Labor of Love
The sleepless nights, the career sacrifices, the
postponing of your so many activities. The
prize of parenting comes at a price.
 Parenting is Enjoying
Smiling together, singing songs, playing together
with your child…..are most enjoyable
moments of life.
 Overview
• Practical Meaning of Parenting
• Myths and Facts related to Parenting
• Different Parenting Styles and their outcomes
• Effective Parenting Skills (A-Z of Effective
Parenting)
 Practically, Parenting is……
• Meeting the child’s needs to age of 18 or sometimes longer.
• Guiding the child toward the goal of becoming a competent
adult.
Parenting Myths and Realities
Myth #1: All parenting skills are instinctive
Facts:
No one is born with all the preparation needed to
be an effective parent
Many parenting skills must be learned through
gaining knowledge and experience
Myth# 2: A mature adult can be a perfect parent A mature
adult can be a perfect parent
adult can be a perfect parent

A mature adult can be a perfect parent

Facts:
Humans are not perfect, so no one can be a
perfect parent
Mature adults should strive to become competent
parents, not perfect parents
Myth 3#: Good parenting guarantees good children
Facts:
Influences outside the family, such as peers, adults
other than parents, and media affect children in
healthy or unhealthy ways
Myth #4:Parenting is always fun
• Facts:
– Like any other job, parenting can be fun, sad,
exciting, boring, satisfying, and frustrating
– Adults should have realistic expectations about
parenting
Parenting Styles and Outcomes
Authoritarian: Limits without Freedom
These parents are
extremely strict
and are often cold.
They communicate
through lectures,
yelling,
punishment, and
one-sided
discussions.
OUTCOME
•Obedient
•Distrustful
•No expression of
freedom
•Withdrawn
•Unhappy
•Hostile
•Not High Achievers
Permissive: Freedom without limits

On the other extreme of the

parenting spectrum is
permissive parenting. As the
name suggests, permissive
parenting is more of an
"anything goes" attitude.
These parents do not
attempt to exert any sort of
control over their children.
OUTCOME

•Aggressive
•Least self—reliant
•Least self-
controlled
•Least exploratory
•Most unhappy
Democratic: Freedom within limits
Democratic parenting
is the middle ground
approach and is often
considered the
parenting ideal.
Democratic parenting
is based on warmth,
love, guidance, and
positive discipline.
Outcome
•Happy
•Mostly self-reliant
•Mostly self-
controlled
•Content, friendly,
generous
•Cooperative
•High-achiever’
A-Z of Parenting
A-Accept your child for the wonderful
person he or she is
B-Be a good role model in all you
say and do.
C- Communicate respectfully and listen
attentively to your child.
D- Discipline fairly, firmly and with love
E- Encourage good eating habits
F- Find ways to get and stay fit
together
G- Give chores that built responsibility
H- Hug your child to build self-
worth
I- Instill respect for other people
 J- Join PTMs and other school
activities to assess child’s progress
K- Keep your promise or do not
make them
L- Laugh together and enjoy each
other’s company
M- Make family rules and enforce
them consistently
N- Never Use physical force on your
child
O- Offer your help whenever it’s
needed
P- Praise your child for achievements as
well as for efforts
Q- Quickly stop your child from
harmful activities.
R- Read together often and make
reading fun
S- Show patience and remember
nobody is perfect
T- Teach health and safety rules.
U- Use every opportunity to
show your love
V- Value your child’s thoughts and
opinion
W- Wait until you cool down before
disciplining your child
X- Xerox and save records of your child’s
achievements
Y- You can make a difference in your
child’s life….so parent with pride.
Z- Zoom over this ABC again and again.
 What are some appropriate solutions to the
following situations?
• Your daughter/son is throwing a ball in the
living room and knocks over a lamp.
• Your daughter/son leaves dirty clothes on the
floor instead of putting them in the bucket
where they are supposed to go.
• Your child refuses to do homework and keeps
on watching television.
• Your son takes her brother’s money from his
piggy bank and spends it.
Parent’s Pledge
 I Promise…I will
show my children I
LOVE them .
I will listen and
value what my
children say.
 I will praise my
child’s efforts
towards
accomplishment.
I will respect my
children as
individuals.
 And…..
I will enjoy with
my children
everyday.
HAPPY PARENTING