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BECAUSE OF YOUR SMILE, YOU
MAKE LIFE MORE BEAUTIFUL!
Viktor Frankl was a German Psychologist who suffered untold
atrocities at the concentration camps. He lost most of his
family there and in moments of extreme suffering realised
the power of his mind. It’s ability to choose – because even
when he was being humiliated and tortured, his mind
wandered in his classrooms, listening to cheers of his
students.
 BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE
THERE IS A SPACE. IN THAT SPACE IS
OUR POWER TO CHOOSE OUR
RESPONSE. IN OUR RESPONSE, LIES OUR
GROWTH AND OUR FREEDOM.
- VIKTOR E. FRANKL
ATTITUDE SHAPES OUR LIVES BECAUSE
IT IS THE ONLY THING WE CAN CONTROL
IN ALL THE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT LIFE
THROWS AT US.
CHARACTERISTICS OF A POSITIVE
PERSON
• Upbeat and cheerful
• Looks at the glass as half full not half empty
• Can find the beauty in anything
• Thinks of the good before the bad
• Loves life
• Avoids negative words
• May seem silly at times
• Loves to have fun
• Never puts others down
• Genuinely cares about those around him/her
• Looks for ways to make others lives better
• Is a giver, not a taker
• Does not hurt others
• Can see the solution over the problem
• Willing to work towards goals
• Feels healthier
A POSITIVE ATTITUDE STEMS FROM
A
HIGH SELF ESTEEM.
SELF ESTEEM QUESTIONNAIRE
1. What type of atmosphere/environment were you raised in:
positive, negative, perfect, or “contradictory?” Describe it.
2. What are some things you value about yourself?
3. Do you like yourself most of the time?
4. When do you feel best about yourself? Most fulfilled?
5. When do you feel “down” on yourself?
6. Choose an example from your life that fits a positive self
esteem description. Recall in detail your thoughts, feelings
and behaviours.
7. Now choose a situation from your life that fits a negative
self-esteem description. Recall in detail your thoughts,
feelings and behaviours.
EXERCISE: PERSONAL SELF ESTEEM
EVALUATION
This exercise allows you to evaluate your self esteem using this
scale:
5 = Always
4 = Most of the time
3 = Sometimes
2 = Rarely
1 = Never
…. EXERCISE: PERSONAL SELF
ESTEEM EVALUATION
1. I feel successful in my present work/school activities.
2. I feel satisfied with my present work/school path.
3. I consider myself to be a risk taker.
4. I feel that continuing my education is important.
5. I consciously look for the good in others.
6. I can do most everything I put my mind to.
7. I am comfortable in new social situations.
8. I appreciate compliments from others.
9. I feel comfortable speaking in front of others.
10. I enjoy telling others of my success.
11. I am an optimistic person.
12. I am goal-oriented.
13. I am comfortable making decisions.
14. I am in good physical condition.
15. I am respected by others for who I am.
…. EXERCISE: PERSONAL SELF
ESTEEM EVALUATION
16. I project a positive self-image.
17. I am an active listener.
18. I like being responsible for projects.
19. I enjoy controversial discussions.
20. I find obstacles challenging.
21. I am able to ask for help without feeling guilty.
22. I can laugh at my own mistakes.
23. I am responsible for my thoughts and actions.
24. I am direct when I voice my feelings.
25. I am leading a balanced life.
26. I am an enthusiastic person.
27. I use eye contact when talking to others.
28. I genuinely like myself for who I am.
29. I take criticism well and learn from it.
30. I exercise regularly and eat a balanced diet.
WHAT’S YOUR SCORE?
Add up your points and put the total here: _________________

You score indicates:

 120 - 150 = Very high self esteem
 90 - 119 = Moderately high self esteem
 60 - 89 = Average self esteem
 31 - 59 = Moderately low self esteem
 0 - 30 = Low self esteem
EXERCISE : WHO AM I?
This exercise will help you explore yourself. Think about each question before you write
an answer, then write down whatever comes to mind.
1. Write three words that describe you: _______________________
2. How would you describe your self esteem at this time in your life?
_______________________________________________________
3. What factors in your life have contributed to your self esteem?
_______________________________________________________
4. What do you consider to be your greatest accomplishments in life?
__________________________________________________________
5. How would your friends describe you?
__________________________________________________________
6. What was the most positive message about yourself your parents gave you?
__________________________________________________________
....the most negative message? ________________________________
7. What do you like best about yourself?
HOW TO DEVELOP A POSITIVE
ATTITUDE

A positive attitude can go a long way to make you happier

overall. To develop a positive attitude, you need to learn to
control it. You may also want to spend some time learning
to value yourself and your time, as that can contribute to a
more positive outlook on life.
HOW TO CONTROL YOUR ATTITUDE
 UNDERSTAND how your ATTITUDE AFFECTS your life.
 Frame events in a positive way.
 CHANGE your LANGUAGE.
 Be PROACTIVE INSTEAD of REACTIVE.
 Enjoy the SMALL.
 PRACTICE GRATITUDE.
VALUE YOURSELF

 TALK nicely to yourself

 Surround yourself with positive people
 VALUE your own opinion of yourself
 Help other people
LET GO OF YOUR NEGATIVE
ATTITUDES

We all experience negative attitudes and feelings at different

times. It is when those feelings persist and affect your way
of thinking and reacting that problems arise. Low self
esteem is accompanied by negative attitudes.
DO YOU HAVE THESE “SYMPTOMS”?
— finding something wrong in every situation
— being pessimistic about outcomes
— being unhappy because your expectations were not met
— believing that things will go wrong
— being easily distracted by irritations
— being unpleasant to be around
— complaining and finding fault
— believing your attitude is a legitimate consequence of a
negative situation
— believing that positive people are dreamers, Pollyanna’s, or
fools
EXERCISE: CHANGING YOUR
NEGATIVE ATTITUDES AND
RESPONSES
Example:
TO POSITIVE ONES
NEGATIVE Positive
Nothing ever goes my way! – Sometimes things go my way;
sometimes they don’t.
People aren’t trustworthy.
You can’t get good service these days
I can’t ever get ahead
There’s no justice in this world

Add some of your own statements below:

TAKE ACTION TO IMPROVE
YOURSELF
— practice positive thinking
— visualize success everyday
— accept compliments and believe them
— seek counselling through difficult times
— identify your values
— identify your goals
— be honest in expressing your strengths, talents, and skills
— learn from constructive criticism
— write down your accomplishments everyday
— give yourself credit every day
— take action on ideas you believe in
— nourish your physical, mental and spiritual self
— forgive those who have hurt you
— make time for self development every day
EXERCISE: CREATING A NEW YOU

1. List all your positive qualities relating to work, school, other

people (friends, family, etc.)
2. List all your accomplishments up until now.
3. List all the things you are good at.
4. Now list some things you would like to change about
yourself personally.
STORY (TRANSFORMATION OF MIRANDA)
Miranda was quite the pessimistic person. Miranda approached every
situation thinking the worst would happen. She never tried to even
think positive. Miranda rarely smiled and she often spoke negatively
about everyone and everything in her life.
Miranda had high blood pressure, no close friends, a job she hated and
she was deep in debt.
She read an article about how transforming your attitude can help guide
you in life and how that attitude needs to be positive if you want a
happy and productive life. Miranda considered what she had read and
decided to put the idea to work for her. She figured she had nothing
to lose.
The next morning when she woke up, the same negative thoughts began
creeping into her mind. Instead of embracing them as she usually
did, she pushed them away and replaced them with positive
thoughts.
…STORY (TRANSFORMATION OF
MIRANDA)
Instead of anticipating the traffic jam she usually encountered on the way to
work, she thought only about her favourite song playing on the radio and
thought about how lucky she was to be able to hear it that morning.
When she reached her office, instead of simply rushing to her office as she
usually did, she smiled at a few co-workers and stopped to have a chat
with the receptionist.
Her boss even acknowledged her good work on the project she had just
completed when he came in. She noted that if she had rushed to her office,
she would not have even been standing there for him to talk to.
As the days passed Miranda decided to keep up with her “new” attitude. A few
days later Miranda’s boss called her into his office. He talked to her about
how she seemed different today. He said he was glad to see her that
morning because it reminded him of what a good worker she is and he
realized she was perfect for the opening in management that he needed to
fill.
Miranda ended up getting the promotion.
THANK YOU!