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Muriel D. Lezak
To cite this article: Muriel D. Lezak (1988) Brain damage is a family affair, Journal of Clinical and
Experimental Neuropsychology, 10:1, 111-123, DOI: 10.1080/01688638808405098
ABSTRACT
Address for reprints: Muriel D. Lezak, Ph.D., Department of Neurology, L.226, Oregon
Health Sciences University, 3181 SW Sam Jackson Park Road, Portland, OR 97201,
U.S.A.
similar family problems have come from other parts of the world (e.g., Oddy,
Humphrey, & Uttley, 1978, in Great Britain; Rosenbaum & Najenson, 1976 in
Israel; Thomsen, 1974 in Denmark) and regarding other kinds of cerebral
disease (dementia: Goldman & Luchins, 1984; stroke: Artes & Hoops, 1976;
Mulhall, 1981; Schulz, Tomkins, & Rau, in press). However, some cultural and
subcultural differences do exist. For example, Carlo Semenza (personal
communication, 1979) studied the adjustment of older Italian women whose
chief role had been the care of their children and who were now wives of stroke
patients. Some who did not report the stress frequently experienced by
American wives of stroke patients, seemed to find that nursing their husbands
allowed them once again to resume activities that had given them dignity and
responsibility when raising their children.
Most brain damaged patients suffer from two different kinds of behavioral
disturbances. (1) Tissue destruction and associated metabolic and neurohumo-
ral alterations effect concomitant behavioral and emotional changes. By and
large, as the severity of the organic damage increases, the capacity for self-
awareness, and particularly for accurate self-appreciation decreases. Thus, the
most profoundly impaired patients, such as those with advanced dementia or
severe traumatic injuries, are typically only dimly aware of their dysfunctions, if
at all. Their behavioral problems can be best understood as direct consequences
of their organic conditions.
At the other extreme are persons who sustained little tissue damage as, for
example, persons who have had mild concussions or a slight stroke. In most
cases their capacity for self-awareness has remained virtually intact. While
experiencing only minimal emotional and personality alterations on an organic
basis, many are acutely aware of their reduced mental efficiency, weakened
emotional control, or other residual impairments such as occasional clumsiness
or effortful speech. Many mildly impaired patients experience these changes as
fatiguing, embarassing, frustrating, and even frightening; and react appropri-
ately with anxiety, irritability, bewilderment, or social withdrawal. Depression
affects most of these patients, at least transiently; for some, depression becomes
chronic. The psychological disturbances of these mildly impaired patients best
demonstrates the behavioral alterations that may be thought of as indirect
consequences of brain damage or secondary reactions to their altered mental
status.
Psychological alterations that occur predominantly as the direct or the
indirect consequences of brain damage can be distinguished most clearly at
either end of the continuum of severity. Most brain damaged persons, however,
are situated somewhere in-between these extremes. Typically, the moderately
impaired patients’ psychological status and behavioral repertoire evolve in a
sequence of secondary reactions to perceived or misperceived deficits, in
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gical burden for family members. Rather, the most burdensome behavior
problems tend to be those that are common to many patients, regardless of the
site or nature of the brain lesion.
Impaired social perception and social awareness. Most persons who have
suffered a significant personality change as a result of brain damage display a
childlike egocentricity. Their world view takes on a Copernican perspective
with themselves in the center: around them revolve persons important to them.
These patients can view or understand others only as others relate to them. This
is similar to the social perspective of a 4- or 5-year-old who has dim awareness if
any of mother or father as distinct personalities with activitiesand needs of their
own. These patients have lost the capacity to imbue others with self-hood, to
understand other persons as subjects in their own right. This lost capacity has a
number of important ramifications for patients’ families.
Patients whose egocentricity is a product of brain damage may be compro-
mised in their capacity to be aware of social signals or to interpret them
accurately. Those who can not appreciate the social requirements of a setting,
such as “church” or “restaurant”, are likely to embarass their companions with
noisy or crude behavior. Those who no longer understand socially meaningful
gestures, facial expressions, or metaphoric verbalizations require frequent and
tediously explicit explanations, directions, or reminding. Their capacity to
empathize with others or to recognize others’ emotional reactions and needs is
typically diminished if not lost altogether. Patients unable to appreciate that
their caretaker is tired or depressed, or that their behavior frightens their minor
children or disgusts their teenagers lack the ability, on an organic basis, to
recognize when they are being inconsiderate or taking advantage of the
goodwill or dependency of those around them.
Commonly associated with egocentricity is diminished self-awareness. Many
significantly impaired brain damaged patients cease dressing or grooming
themselves in a socially appropriate manner, and seem unaware that their
appearance distresses the family or that their loudness or rudeness, vulgarity or
sillyness is out of line.
These problems have many implications for the family. Patients who lack the
capacity to be socially sensitive and considerate of others can place a constant
burden of demands on the caretaker or engage other family members in endless
struggles for the caretaker’s attention, while the caretaker feels pulled in many
different directions, frustrated, and weary. These patients’ misbehaviors make
family gatherings unpleasant. Social outings with the patient cease to be worth
the effort or embarassment. Old friends and even close relatives no longer visit,
thus isolating patient, caretaker, and dependent family members. The family
experiences emotional abandonment, for the patient cannot provide emotional
support or encouragement, the caretaker is often worn out, and others who
could give comfort no longer come around. The emotional plight of many
caretakers is poignantly revealed in the often-repeated complaint that the
patient shows no gratitude no matter how hard they try to please. A not
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untypical extreme of this insensitivity to the feelings and needs of the caretaker,
coupled with rigidity and a background of good manners, was displayed by an
elderly stroke patient who required a great deal of care. He thanked his wife for
every least attention she gave him, but insisted that she say, “You’re welcome”
each time he thanked her. Regardless of how tired or busy she was, or how slight
or oft-repeated the service, he persisted in saying, “Thank you,” in increasingly
angry tones, until she appeased him with still another, “You’re welcome.”
Impaired control. Control problems show up in different ways, each
distinctively burdensome to the family. Impulsivity is the most obvious
manifestation of impaired control, and anger outbursts the most commonly
reported form of impulsivity. Relatively few patients act out anger impulses
consistently, although many grab or kick or jab when frustrated or tired. Most
patients take their anger and frustrations out in shouting, gestures, or diatribes
which, when virulent, can be as distressing to a conscientious or sensitive
caretaker or a bewildered child as a physical blow.
Almost any activity can be affected by impulsivity. Some patients become
impulsive eaters, fattening on whatever is in sight. When the physician
prescribes dietary controls, it is the caretaker who must be vigilant about hiding
food while coping with the patient’s unreasonable demands for more. Sexually
impulsive patients are at best a nuisance; at worst a constant worry. A teenage
girl could not bring her school friends home because her brother inevitably tried
to kiss and fondle them. An elderly woman complained that her husband felt for
her breasts whenever she bent over to pour his coffee. And the mother of an
attractive young head trauma victim was unwilling to allow her irresponsible
and easily aroused daughter out of the house alone for fear she would come
home pregnant. Patients who spend money impulsively must have their charge
cards destroyed and bank accounts closed to preserve the family’s finances, an
undertaking that is not easy to accomplish when patients are sensitive to
assaults on their dignity or authority. Others run up huge telephone bills, go for
taxicab joyrides, or pick up items in the supermarket. Many brain damaged
patients, particularly young, ambulatory head trauma victims, seem unable to
resist alcohol or drugs, so that substance abuse becomes an additional
complicating problem.
Control problems also show up as restlessness and agitation.Some patients
seem to be in perpetual motion--pacing, jiggling a foot, or fiddling with
something. The pacers, in particular, are difficult for the family to handle, both
because they create a constant stir and because 24-hour surveillance is needed
for those who tend to wander out and get lost.
Impatience is another burdensome characteristic of many brain damaged
patients. The impatient patient’s agitated nagging adds to the general uproar,
while impatience feeds the patient’s frustrations and increases the likelihood of
irritability and temper outbursts.
Another control problem shows up not in acting-out, but in inability to act
spontaneously and flexibly. Many patients become confused or helpless in the
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face of change of any kind, thus forcing their families into unwavering schedules
and routines. They may be caught up in rigid, often repetitive behaviors which
keep them from responding appropriately to new situation or entertaining new
ideas. After a while, family members tend to respond to the patient’s repetitive
acts as if they were another form of Chinese water torture. The “thanking”
patient described above is a good example of how a small, frequently repeated
demand can become excruciatingly annoying. Perseveration, the inability to
terminate a response, represents this kind of control problem in its most
extreme form.
Dependency. Dependency too can take many forms. Most moderately to
severely impaired patients are in fact dependent on their families or caretakers
for at least some important aspects of their physical care or financial support,
and few families begrudge the help they are able to give. Physical and financial
aspects of the patient’s dependency are most likely to create emotional
problems for the family when the family must relinquish its care. When the
patient’s needs exceed the family’s capacity to provide and the patient’s care or
subsistence must be obtained outside the family, many family members - and
particularly many caretakers - feel guilty for what they perceive as their failure
to care for the patient properly, and ashamed of their felt inadequacies.
The patient’s emotional dependency is typically experienced as much more
burdensome than physical dependency. It is not surprising that many brain
damaged patients develop strong dependency ties to their caretakers. The most
severely damaged tend to relate to the caretaker much as a young child to its
mother. Less severely impaired adults may develop reactive attitudes and habits
of emotional dependency that go well beyond their realistic needs. Rather, their
dependent behavior serves emotional needs occasioned by feelings of inade-
quacy, loss of control and authority, anger and retaliation, and fears of further
dilapidation or abandonment.
Dependency relationships established with the caretaker can set up vicious
circles which tend to sustain and strengthen the patient’s dependency. For
example, many stroke patients who keenly feel their loss of independence and
dignity attempt to maintain a sense of autonomy and authority by using
dependency tactics to force their spouses to wait on them hand and foot. The
price they pay for being boss, of course, is in greater invalidism and dependency
than their condition actually warrants, a price which forces them to work every
harder at revalidating their authority by controlling their spouses through
needfulness created by their condition as it deteriorates through lack of activity.
In another common scenario, ambulatory patients troubled by feelings of
worthlessness because they no longer earn a living or contribute materially to
the household, dog their spouses’ footsteps for fear of being abandoned. In
keeping jealous watch of their spouses’comings and going, these patients allow
the spouse neither peace nor privacy, increasingly alienating them in their often
frantic efforts to keep the spouses’ attention and affection. The more the
patients cling, the more obvious becomes the spouses’ impatience and
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dissatisfaction, and the more frantic the patients’ efforts to keep their spouses
under their immediate surveillance and control.
Some other forms of dependency reflect underlying organic deficits. Certain
disorders involving both cognitive and emotional components of behavior
reduce the capacity for spontaneous recall and forethought, and thus restrict the
patient’s mental existence to thc here-and-now. Other patients can look both
forward and backward in time but have difficulty organizing, ordering, and
integrating their thoughts and experiences. Still others have a greatly dimin-
ished capacity to entertain ideas spontaneously or initiate activities. All of these
patients have difficulty planning and therefore are unable to take charge of their
lives. They can be described as structure-dependent; i.e., they need external
guidance and support in those areas which normally require planning or
organization.
The degree to which a patient is structure-dependent tends to vary with the
severity of impairment. This can be seen most clearly in head trauma victims as
many patients who have sustained only a mild to moderate amount of damage
are able to accomplish their usual and familiar routines with little or no help but
have difficulty undertaking new or complex activities independently; severely
damaged patients will usually be unable to perform all activities of daily living
without instructions or prompts. The same gradations in structure-dependency
can be seen in dementing patients as they go from being relatively independent
in personal care and even decision-making in very familiar areas such as grocery
shopping or choice of familiar activities, to increasingly greater loss of ability to
think or d o for themselves.
The demands placed on the family by a patient’s structure-dependency
differs, of course, with the extent of that dependency. Severely impaired patients
who are able to live at home may require daily reminding to brush their teeth,
change their clothes, and come to the table at dinner time. After years of
regularly repeated instructions in a family setting rigidly routinized to
accomodate to the patient’s susceptibility to confusion and frustration, many of
these patients do assimilate frequently repeated routines into their limited
behavioral repertoire; but they remain unable to cope with change or novelty on
their own. Their families must not only develop a structured setting, but are
condemned to the monotony and rigidity of the highly structured living
conditions that make it possible for the patient to function at least semiautono-
mously.
Families of patients with only mild or circumscribed structure-dependency
face a different set of problems. In the familiar home setting, these patients
generally take care of themselves and go about their usual activities without
difficulty, giving the family little cause to suspect a problem, at least at first. In
fact, this condition may create no problems for elderly retired patients whose
lives had settled into a comfortable routine before they sustained brain damage.
For younger people, and those who had once carried family responsibilities,
their newly acquired inability to initiate new activities or to carry out such
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patients’ emotional makeup are family members’ assumptions that the patients
could control themselves and conform if they would just put their minds to it. At
one level or another, most people feel that the patient’s misbehaviors are
deliberate, an assumption that breeds annoyance and anger when the patient
doesn’t act appropriately.
the brunt of his frustrations and anger and become the target of his competition
for the mother’s attention. Older children and teenagers who have more
freedom of movement are likely to avoid the father’s belittling and bullying by
running away, delinquency and truancy, dropping out of school or getting
pregnant.
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