HOW SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES DAMAGE OUR LOVE LIFE

Mavy: Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to our TedTalk, entitled: How Social Networking
Sites Damage our Love Life and today, we are your speakers.
/Isa-isang introduce/
I. Introduction
1. Cheska will briefly explain SNS and love life.
Cheska: In this modern world, almost everyone is using SNS or Social Networking Site.
Sa ating bansa, about 76 million are using SNS in the year 2019, that is according sa
isang reporter na si Gelo Gonzales, 75 million neto is Facebook users.
: Now, let us define what is SNS, SNS and social media ay magkaiba (slide). As
you see, SNS is a sub-category of social media, where in social media is all about one-
way communication and Social Networking sites has interaction, dialogue or a two-
way communication.
: As for love life, it is the romantic relationship(s) of a person, the relationship
part is hindi lang nalilimit between a guy and a girl, meron na ngayon diba na same
sex relationships like babae sa babae, lalake sa lalake and many other cases involving
LGBTQ+ community.
2. Sharing a real-life story by Mavy and Lance.
Mavy: So, I want to share something about my titas, base sa kwento saken ni Mama,
most of my titas met their husbands or my titos through chatting. Even then
nangyayari na talaga yung landian online. So antagal non na puro chat lang sila at

Lance: Saken naman, may kaibigan ako na nameet nya yung girl through Neargroup,
so same usual, harutan sa chat, nagkadevelopan ng feelings pero ang problema is LDR,
never silang nakapagmeet at yun ang isa sa mga cause kung bakit nagkalabuan sila
and in the end humanap na lang ng iba si girl.
3. Ella will state the two reasons on how SNS negatively affects love life (transition to II).
Ella: Hearing their stories, let us look deeper kung paano ba talaga naaapektuhan ng
SNS ang buhay pag-ibig. The first one’s Roles in a Relationship and the Online
Relationship.
II. Body
1. Roles in a Relationship
a) Mavy will discuss about the so-called roles and attitude of the ‘girlfriend’.
Mavy: Being in a relationship requires more responsibility or so-called
obligations to your partner. In an article by Dr. Rachna Jain, exposure to social
networking sites while on a relationship will make you prone to the contagious
effect of adopting to behaviors, attitude and beliefs in our social network.
: Halimbawa na lang nyan sa mga ‘girlfriends’ Diba nakikita nyo sa
Facebook yung mga posting na tinotoyo? Some people might think that’s cute
na aawayin partner mo tapos magpapasuyo, tampu-tampuhan kase may period
ka, but for some people, that is immature and irritating.
: Meron pa, yung mga magmemessage, call or video call na gusto lagi
dapat sagutin or else paghihinalaang may iba na si partner, marami kayong
nakikitang ganyan diba. Tinawagan si babe e in-game, busy sa ML tapos rank
game pa, so para d mabawasan star reject muna. For some they will
understand, and some others will not. This is an example how some toxic
 behaviors in SNS might get adopted by couples within the social network and
cause a relationship’s downfall.
b) The boyfriend part will be talked about by Ella.
Ella: Next, kung may pang girlfriend meron din sa mga boyfriend, dito naman
papasok yung mga nakikita nyo online about Monthsaries and Anniversaries
kung saan expected na may celebration kayo, magdedate sa kung saan,
romantic gifts or foods and bigay ng boquet na either bulaklak laman,
chocolates, Stitch merchandise etc. Almost all of this is the guy’s duty, kase this
is what romantic means daw in SNS, though may mga babae na gumagastos den
para sa partner nya pero kahit may mga ganon, karamihan pa ren naman lalake
gagawa ng ganitong mga bagay.
: Isa pa, nakakita na ba kayo ng lalakeng binigyan ng bulaklak ni girl? Hindi
pa diba? Napaka-rare at isa pa kung may mangyari bang ganito, ang tingin ng
iba weird, gay or funny kase this is not what they see in their social network,
this is not what others usually do. Now, on how do this negatively affect our
love-life? Well, couples are obsessing themselves to the relationship concept in
SNS, that materialistic things define a relationship even though there are tons of
way to show affection than expensive stuffs.
c) Lance will explain the disadvantages of SNS account exchange.
Lance: Another so-called obligation relationship is yung palitan ng account. In
Kenadie Wilkerson’s article, social networking sites provide an easy inspection
when in doubt in your relationship to your partner. Couples exchange account
kase it is a sign of trust kuno pero this is already an act of breaching someone
else’s privacy. To avoid more suspicions, no choice, magpalit na lang kayo
passwords ng account.
:Upon exchanging, eto na yung kakalkalin kung sino mga pinagsesearch
mo sa search box, mga nilike mong dp ng ibang lalake or babae sa activity log,
mga minessage or nagmemessage sayo sa chat, mga shared posts mong naka
friends-except sa jowa mo, lahat ng bagay na pwedeng pagselosan. Pero not all
cases naman yung mga sinabi ko is an act of cheating, pagpalagay na lang
nateng maissue si partner at masyadong seloso at selosa, nilike mo lang picture
ni Ivana sasabihen nangangaliwa ka na agad, see? This palitan ng account may
put an assurance in your relationship but also create jealousy or a problem.
2. Online Relationship
a) The internet affairs will be elaborated by Lance, which includes ideal partners and
online courtship.
Lance: Internet Affairs are not so strong and may easily break apart because of
infidelity o pagiging unfaithful or simply cheating in a relationship. Pero saan
nga ba sa tingin nyo nag sisimula ang online affairs? Sino dito yung pag may
nakakitang maganda or gwapo tamang wave agad? Again with Dr. Jain, she
mentioned about the informal nature of Social Networking Sites and how easy it
is to connect to someone in particular. So, kung gusto mong i-chat yung
natitipuhan mo dahil sa itsura, madali lang. Kinatagalan nyan either isa sa inyo
magsisimulang manligaw na, online courtship, walang personal bond kesyo
magkakilala na kayo through chat. Again, relationships built in this case will not
last long lalo pat wala kayong interaction in real life. Ang mangyayarin niyan,
madali lang mag-break apart kase hindi ganon katibay ang relasyonng nabuo.
Iba pa ren ang intimacy ng personalan at hindi lang sa chat.
b) Cheska will tell about the unhealthy effects of relationships built in Role Play
World (RPW), Online dating sites and texting.
 Cheska: So hindi lang nagtatapos ito sa online courting/courtship. Some may
have already encountered it, being ghosted, blocked, ignored and such right?
Because SNS is just one click/message away lang pwede ng i-end ang
relationship na meron kayo, it is okay, but the problem is the unhealthy effects
of it like our emotional capacity and even our physical health. Specially in our
daily lives minsan para maka chat or maka text nag skip na ng meals, ng tulog,
kahit mga responsibilities napapabayaan na din makapag chat/text lang
(addiction). Tulad nalang sa RPW maraming kabataan ngayon ang nag rorole
play through internet, Role Playing World is where millenials are using different
identities to roleplay, and they will meet their friends, bf/gf on fb without
knowing their true identity because that's the golden rule of roleplaying online,
not to reveal their real account or identity on facebook. Then masyadong na
aattach kahit hindi pa ganon kakilala nag iinvest na tayo ng time, effort and
trust. Then hahantong lang naman sa cheating/conflict/break ups, and we'll
eventually becomes frustrated, broken hearted, jealous, insecured,
traumatized, depressed
c) Ella will discuss about relationship privacy that turns into publicity.
Ella: In facebook, you can make an official announcement of your relationship
status. Eto yung ise-set mo yung status mo na in-relationship ka kay ganito
ganyan at makikita ng mga friends mo. According to Dr. Gwendolyn Seidman,
women are more likely to be into this kind of online label, for them, or us,
women, this is a mark of exclusivity or possession. For some, kung may ganito
parang pinapahiwatig na nila sa mga Facebook friends niya at ng sa partner niya
na may jowa na tong taong to at hindi mo na pwedeng maharot. However,
publicizing your relationship status or this kind of info may not be mutual.
Malay naten yung partner naten is not into public showoffs or mas gusto ng
pribado lang, this may cause a problem since the two of you are not in the same
page.
III. Conclusion
1. The main points of the Roles in a Relationship will be summarized by Cheska.
Cheska: To summarize our points in roles in a relationship, the causes of Social
Networking sites damaging our love life, are adopting behaviors of people in social
network and account exhange
2. Mavy will sum up all the key ideas in Online Relationship.
Mavy: As for the Online relationship, to sum it all, the reasons are superficial
relationships without real-life interaction and relationship privacy that becomes public.
Mavy: Social Networking Sites ruin our love life in different ways, however, with wise usage
of its features and right balancing of your online and offline life, we may be able to prevent
having such issues. Ang pagiging aware sa nangyayari sa ating sarili at yung mga
nararamdaman naten will also help. Hindi naman masama ang maki-uso at ipagmalaki sa
lahat ang buhay pag-ibig mo, we just need to limit ourselves and as for online dating, its not
that bad as well but the two of you need to spend time in real life with each other and not
just on social networking sites.