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A FABLE ABOUT KILLING YOUR EGO AND ACCEPTING THE TRUE YOU
“Start where you are, and
do what you can with what
you already have.”
INTRODUCTION
You may think you know who you are, but can you ever
really know?
You may think you are your job… until you have to get
another job.
You may think you are your body… until all of your cells
replace themselves.
You may think you are your name… until you change your
name and find out you’re still the same person that you
were before.
Not who you wanna be. Not who your parents want you to
be. Not what society wants you to be.
But who you actually are — right here, right now, in this
moment in time.
What if the people I’ve come to love and respect don’t love
the new-and-improved me? What if I realize that I’m gay?
What if I have to let go of all of my old friends and start
over new?
You will mourn the loss of who you once were — or at least
who you thought you once were.
Good luck.
Reality continued, “I’m not tryin ta be rude, kid. I’m just sayin…
you’ve never been out in the real world. You’ve never cared
about anyone else more than yerself. You’ve never paid
the bills. You’ve never even had a full time job. How, can you
know, who you are?”
None of that mattered to the boy. What mattered to him
was the feeling of knowing who he was. And when you’re
young and dumb, you always feel good.
“So what?” said the boy. “I can still know who I am. I sing. I
dance. I write. I act. I play the guitar, the ukulele, the drums,
the harmonica, and the saxophone. I’m gonna be rich and
famous one day! You just wait n see…”
“I —“
“Wait, don’t tell me, I already know. Yer a pot smoker. Yer a
beer drinker. Yer a socializer. And yer a masturbator. Typical.
In yer defense, though, yer also a reader and a writer. But
even those you don’t do every day. Just most.”
“You don’t know whatchyer talkin about,” said the boy. “I’m
gonna do amazing things. They’re gonna write books about
me one day. They’ll make movies about the boy from the
small town who defied all the odds and made it big. Maybe
I’ll even go down in history with all the other Greats like
Genghis Khan and Napoleon and Dr. Martin Luther
King.”
“I don’t know, and what does it matter?” said the boy. “I don’t
wanna limit myself. If I can do it all, then why should I
specialize in any one thing? I wanna be a jack of all trades.”
Reality thought for a minute, then said, “I mean… You can be
more than one thing, sure, but you have to be one thing at
a time — hone one skill at a time — carefully and
meticulously. You could start with your singing or
dancing or acting.”
“I already told you,” said the boy. “I’m gonna be rich and
famous. I won’t even know what to do with all my money.”
“Whaddayou know?” said the boy. “I’m not exactly like other
people, if you haven’t noticed by now.” The boy shook his
head in disbelief and continued, “Yer just like all the other
doubters. I don’t need you. I don’t need them. I don’t need
anybody. I’ll be a self-made man, and you and all
the others will be sorry. Just don’t come asking me for
money when I’m successful.”
Reality raised his eyebrows in surprise. “Ya got passion, kid,
I’ll give ya that. But ya got naive passion, and there’s a
huuuge difference between naive passion and actual
passion.”
“Yer the one ta talk,” said Reality. “But yeah, I know how it
sounds. And I understand why you’d be hesitant to listen to
a guy like me. But… if I may be so bold… d’ya wanna know
what I really think?”
The boy pursed his lips. He would never admit it, but the
boy was starting to recognize himself in the mirror — not
who he wanted to be, but his True Self, as he was, right
then and there. The boy thought for a while, but said
nothing for once.
When Reality was sure that the boy wasn’t going to short-
circuit, he said, “And last but not least… I think that maybe —
just maybe — whenever someone else gets too much
attention, you do something drastic to draw the spotlight
back to yerself. Because yer insecure about who you are.
And when yer insecure about who you are, you need
constant reassurance that whatever you are, whoever you
are, it’s someone worth attention… someone worth
admiration… someone worth love.”
The boy gulped. Reality was seeing right through him and
the boy didn’t like it. He didn’t like it one bit. The boy didn’t
know what to do, so he processed his feelings the only way
that he knew how.
CHAPTER 2:
ANGER
The boy punched the mirror, which shattered into a
thousand pieces before another one magically appeared
to take its place. Blood ran down the boy’s hand and
dripped onto the floor.
“Yeah, fuck you! Fuck this, man! Why did you even come
here? Huh? I was doin just fine before you came along.
Now I don’t even know who I am anymore!
The boy stormed out of the room, slamming the door on
his way out.
Over the next couple years, the boy took his anger out on
anything and everything that came across his path. He got
into fist fights. He vandalized federal property. He broke into
people’s houses and cars. He drank more alcohol and
smoked more weed.
Reality was there every step of the way, shaking his head in
disapproval.
“Come to think of it,” said the boy with a stroke of his chin,
“I’ve been pissed off my entire life.”
“Look…
If you had…
One shot…
Or one opportunity…
To seize everything you ever wanted…
Would you capture it?
Or just let it slip?”
The boy acted out the lyrics in front of his mirror. He lip-
synced the words. He sauntered up to his own reflection.
He snarled the Ice Cube Snarl.
The boy, not in the mood for Reality’s antics, turned back to
his mirror, took it off the wall, shook it, and shouted at his
reflection, “WHO AM I???”
“Easy for you to say,” said the boy. “If I don’t go to college,
then my parents will disown me, my friends will laugh at
me, and Sarah will break up with me. They’ll think I’m a
loser.”
“Naaaah,” said Reality with a dismissive wave of his hand.
“Yer parents will come around eventually. They just want
you to be happy. And if yer friends and yer girlfriend really
love you for who you are, they won’t really care what you
do for a living. Just because you don’t wanna go to college
doesn’t mean you don’t have any ambition.”
“No, I wanna go to college,” said the boy. “I’m just not sure if I
wanna go right now. I feel like I’m just going through the
motions, doing what everybody else does, adopting other
people’s identities instead of trying to find my own, ya
know? I smoke weed when my friends smoke weed
even though it makes me anxious. I drink when my friends
drink even though I feel like shit the entire next day. I wear
the same clothes. And I watch the same mindless TV
shows. But the more I try to fit in, the more I feel like an
outsider, watching the ‘normal people’ go about their day.
And I feel like I have to say club passwords like, ‘Have a nice
day’ and ‘Hi, nice to meet you. What do you do?’ When
really I wanna say things like, ‘tell me something that makes
you cry’ or ‘what do you think deja vu is for?’ I don’t know…
does any of that make sense?”
“Totally,” said Reality as he smiled to himself, thinking back
to the first time that he met the boy. “Have you talked to
any of your friends about this? What if they’re all thinkin the
same thing? Maybe you should speak up and tell em how
you feel.”
“I don’t know.”
“Then do that!”
“I can’t…”
“Why?”
Over the past two weeks, the boy had dropped out of
school to avoid going further into debt, moved back in with
his parents, got a job as a pizza boy in order to continue
paying for the expensive house on campus that he was no
longer living in, and on top of all of that, to make matters
worse, Sarah broke up with him, just as he had feared.
The boy laid in bed for hours on end, sometimes for days
at a time. He ugly cried in the shower. Eating felt like a
chore.
One day, when the boy couldn’t take it any longer, he sat
up in bed and said, “I’m going out to the Hickory Ridge Fire
Tower.”
“Dude,” said the boy. “Aren’t you supposed to tell me that it’s
all gonna be okay or I’m being over-dramatic or some
other bullshit, like committing suicide is selfish? Or that I
should think of the people that I’ll leave behind?”
Reality shrugged. “Looks like I don’t have to tell you any of
that… Look, kid, life is hard. I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t. And
you never asked to be born in the first place. Maybe you
should be able to opt out whenever you want. And I’m not
gonna sit here and try to say that I know exactly what
yer going through because I don’t. All I can do is offer you a
little bit of perspective. And if you ask me, yeah, suicide is
always an option. But ya can’t un-kill yerself. Once it’s done,
it’s done. So take yer time. Think it over. And, if, in the end,
that’s what you really want, then by all means, kill yerself.
Just give it six months, why don’tcha.”
“I don’t think I can make it another six months,” said the boy.
Just then the boy’s mom came into his room and sat on
the edge of his bed. Though the boy had never given her
any indication that that day was to be his last, his mom
grabbed his hands and said, with tears in her eyes,
“I don’t want to lose my son. Listen… look at me… I can’t lose
my son.”
CHAPTER 5:
ACCEPTANCE
“If I can’t get through this for me,” said the boy, “then I can
get through it for my mom.”
“Yeah, I guess you’re right,” said the boy. “Well… now what?”
With that, Reality stood up, put on his jacket, and climbed
back on to his motorcycle, which purred as Reality pulled
out onto the dimly lit streets and rode off into the night.