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Discussion Custom Connected With Marriage
Discussion Custom Connected With Marriage
Weddings in the United States were once based out of commodity, rather than desire
or love. The word "wedding" implied the security the groom's family provided to the
family of the bride when the couple married. Brides were chosen based on their
economic worth. This trend lasted until the 19th Century, when couples started to
marry for love.
In the 19th Century, weddings were typically small, intimate ceremonies at the home
of either the parents of the bride or the parents of the groom. The announcement of
the newly married couple took place at their church on the Sunday following the
wedding. In the 1820s and 1830s, weddings became more elaborate, when upper class
couples had wedding ceremonies similar to modern custom. The bride usually wore
the best dress she owned, so her dress was not always white, as white dresses were
impractical to own. Not until the middle of the 19th century did brides start buying a
dress made specifically for their wedding day. At the same time, couples began to hire
professionals to prepare floral arrangements and wedding cakes, rather than making
them at home.
Today, couples in the United States are waiting later in life to get married. The
average age for males getting married in the United States is 27 years old, whereas,
women's average age is 25.
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Sharing the first piece of wedding cake is still a ritual in weddings, but it originated as
a way to ensure fertility for the bride in her attempts to have children. Superstition
says that a bride cannot bake her own wedding cake or taste it before the wedding, or
else risk losing her husband's love. If she keeps a piece of the cake after the wedding,
she supposedly ensures that he will remain faithful.
A way that guests at a wedding can participate in giving the bride and groom a lucky
future is by the tradition of throwing rice. The superstition originated when guests
would throw nuts and grains in the hope of bringing the couple a good harvest and
many children to help with the harvest.
As a symbol of luck, the newly married woman traditionally throws her bouquet to
the unmarried women at the wedding. The one who catches the bouquet is supposedly
the next to be married.
Throwing the bride's garter to the single men at the wedding is a tradition similar to
the bouquet toss. The groom must remove the garter from his new wife's leg and toss
it to the single men at the wedding. It is commonly believed that this man will be the
next one to marry. An older custom in England involved guests raiding the bride's
chamber for stockings. These stockings taken from her room would then be thrown at
the groom. Whoever landed their stocking on the groom's nose would be the next one
to marry. Even earlier than these traditions, it was an ancient custom for the bride or
groom to throw the bride's garter to the marriage witnesses to confirm that their
marriage had been consummated.
American traditions
Weddings in the United States are the most varied and flexible in the world. There are
not many wedding traditions that are unique to the United States because most are
derived from other cultures. Most of these customs stem from Europe. Indeed, it is
considered an American tradition to follow the traditions of one's culture or
religion. That said, some wedding traditions remain as the default the U.S.
It is customary to give newlyweds gifts for their new home together at the wedding
reception. To prevent duplicate gifts and having to return gifts that are not liked, many
couples "register" at department stores. Couples pick out items they would like to
receive as gifts and their friends and family can choose to buy one of those items.
Religious traditions
Jewish
In a Jewish wedding both the bride and the groom are walked down the aisle by both
of their parents, which is different from other religions.
Jewish couples are married under the chupah, which resembles a decorated tent like
structure. This symbolizes that the bride and groom are coming together and creating
a new home. This religious tradition comes from the Biblical wedding of Abraham
and Sarah.
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The ketubah is a Jewish wedding contract. Traditionally, the ketubah was written in
Aramaic, but today many Jews use Hebrew instead. Many couples frame their
ketubah and display it in their home. The rabbi reads this contract under the chupah
after the ring exchange.
Christian
Christian weddings have many traditions that are commonly associated with weddings
in general. The most important traditions for Christian weddings are the blessing and
exchange of wedding bands and the bride and groom each offering his or her own
wedding vows.
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The ushers who are in the armed forces traditionally form an "arch of steel" with their
swords or sabers. However, only active duty servicemen participate, as they can only
carry their sword or saber if they are active duty. The arch is usually formed at the
conclusion of the ceremony, and the head usher signals the formation by yelling
"center face." After the bride and groom pass through the arch, the ushers return to
their bridesmaids to exit with them. Civilian ushers may or may not stand at the arch,
a decision usually made by the bride and groom.
Elopement
To marry by elopement means that the wedding ceremony is done in secret, usually
with just witnesses. Even though eloping seems simple, the marriage's secrecy can
complicate family relationships.
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Main Differences:
The marriage contract (aqd-nikah) takes many forms, but its most basic purpose is to
cement the bond between the bride and groom. Often, it will contain the details of the
mahr, or dowry, the groom must pay the family of the bride. Ratifying this contract
usually involves some kind of ceremony—the practice of which varies greatly across
Islam.
Conclusion
The world’s billion or so Muslims practice a faith that is in many ways similar to the
other great religions but that maintains its own unique, sometimes fiercely defended,
traditions. In contrast to Christian and Jewish marriage practices, marriage in Islam
tends to be less individualistic and come in a wider variety of forms and
arrangements. The ceremonies celebrating the union range from something as simple
as a meeting and brief conversation to a lavish public spectacle. Islam’s attitude
toward divorce is at once realistic and regretful. Where it comes to matters
matrimonial, Muslim marriage customs are broad enough to fit nicely into just about
every society on Earth.
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Birth, marriage and death about Islam
Islam Birth and Childhood The first word a Muslim baby hears is Shahadah, the first
pillar of Islam:
―There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.‖ Although the
circumcision is not mentioned in the Koran. A child’s head is shaved, and he or she is
given a Muslim name. Many boys of course are named Muhammad. Girls are often
named Khadijah, after Muhammad’s first wife, or Fatimah, one of his daughters. The
Koran is central to the education of a Muslim. The most popular phrase translates ―in
the name of Allah the compassionate, the merciful.‖ These words are used as daily
prayers when entering structures and before meals.
Marriage
Marriages are always arranged by families. Some husbands marry 4 wives but most
people don’t follow it. People debate if husbands should marry 4 wives. The marriage
is always simple but the celebrations are fun and joyous. However for men and
women they celebrate separately.
Death
From the 36th surah of the Koran are recited in the final hours of a Muslim’s life. The
funeral is prepared by washing and being wrapped in white sheet. A coffin is not
required.
Moreover, Death is
Up to the point of death relatives will gather around the dying person and recite
verses of the Qur’an with the intention that the Divine reward of the reciting is added
to the good deeds of the dying person. It is hoped that the last words on the lips of the
dying are the Muslim statement of faith, confirming that he or she has indeed died as
a believing Muslim.
There are a number of situations where sudden death of a practising Muslim is treated
as shaheed, (i.e. equivalent to a martyr in battle) such as a violent accident, death
under a collapsed wall or by drowning or by burning.
Miscarried fœtuses over four months into term should also be buried ceremonially.