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Meet My Mentor
Meet My Mentor
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Meet my Mentor
Meet My Mentor
PHILIP BAMIDELE
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Meet my Mentor
MEET MY MENTOR
A guide to mentorship
Copyright © 2020
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DEDICATION
I dedicate this book to God Almighty for the privilege
given to me to write this book and to the incoming great
leaders and mentors- the youths.
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ACKNOWLEDGENT
All glory to God for the production of this book. I thank God
for the giving me the inspiration by His spirit to write this
book.
To my brother, thank you for all you did for the success of
this book. To my sister, thank you for the encouragement,
time and advice.
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CONTENT
❖ Acknowledgement
❖ Content
❖ Forward
❖ Chapter 1
o BEDROCK
❖ Chapter 2
o ARE YOU A MENTOR?
❖ Chapter 3
o GOD‟S PLAN FOR MENTORSHIP
❖ Chapter 4
o STANDARD IN CHOOSING
MENTORSHIP
❖ Chapter 5
o MESSAGE TO THE MENTOR
❖ Chapter 6
o MESSAGE TO THE MENTEE
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FOREWORD
The first time Philip told me about „MEET MY
MENTOR‟ as his first book. I was surprised I wasn‟t
expecting such from him at this time. I never knew what
he wanted to write but then I was anticipating. And when
he finally sent me the manuscript to me I knew instantly
that the wisdom that worked in Elihu works in him.
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Shalom.
JOSHUA BAMIELE
Director, LIWEM FILMS
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CHAPTER ONE
THE BEDROCK
First and foremost, I want to begin by giving clarity
and distinctions to some words. I‟ve observed that there
are conflicts that do arise as regards the different terms
used in describing a superior personality whose life has
been a great blessing. The words look similar but are not
the same. The terms include:
1. Role model
2. Spiritual father /mother (parent).
3. Discipler
4. Mentor
Explanations
1. Role model:
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3. Mentor
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Mentors
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Fathers:
1. Fathers develop relationship through love,
identification and affirmation.
2. Fathers are experts on cultivating honhonourd casting
vision.
3. Fathers want their sons around them.
4. Fathers affirm the development of dreams and walk
you through the dark times.
5. Fathers expose the potential in you and encourage you
to walk.
6. Fathers develop relationship through touch and
expression.
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4. Discipler:
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you can talk about the struggles you have and work
through them with a spiritual leader. They can also keep
you accountable by following up with you.
The two terms are closely related, but not exactly the
same. Both involve instruction based on a relationship.
But discipleship involves a call, a direct invitation from
the teacher borders on a command. Jesus told the
fishermen Peter and Andrew, “Come, follow me,” and
“at once they left their nets and followed him” (Matthew
4:19-20). Then he ran into their colleagues, James and
John. Again, “Jesus called them, and immediately they
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— John C. Maxwell
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CHAPTER 2
ARE YOU A MENTOR?
The scope of mentorship, mentor, and mentee has
a great effect in the body of Christ either positive or
negative. However, there is a need for the growing ones
to follow the directions through which God has led them
as well as the corresponding patterns the mentor had
experienced. The inception of mentorship is not far
fetched from the bible both the Old and New Testament
illustrated mentorship. It is s legacy that‟s passed onto
generations. The young a path- a correct to follow
whether physically or spiritually.
Who is a mentor?
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✔ Wisdom
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✔ Must be Trusted
✔ Guides
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✔ Mentors Counsel
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✔ Maturity.
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✔ Commitment
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that individual that is sent to you and stay with him until
he can raise another leader after him.
✔ Man of virtue
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In mark 5:30
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The Prayer life of your mentor will also help raise you in
no distant time. Both mentor and mentees need to
cultivate a habit of consistent prayer life.
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CHAPTER THREE
GOD'S PLAN FOR MENTORSHIP
The plans God has for his children are great and mighty
but it can only be done in due process. God is never in
rush to announce his genuine son or daughter. He takes
time to journey in the process so as to be refined and
upright before him. God is looking for a man to be proud
of, who he can commit himself unto, and who are ready
to do everything pertaining to him.
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How far can God trust you? Can you be trusted to the
extent God will call the devil to take note of you? Job
was tested and trusted. In order for God to bring men
into the journey of becoming a person of a full statue he
then introduces mentorship so as to monitor their
growth. If your growth will be systematic and
progressive, God will have you pass through mentorship.
In the book of (Act 9v 19, 27 and act 11 vs. 25, 30. Act
9v 6-1) in the agenda of God; Paul was destined to be a
great apostle of Jesus Christ. It was in the plan that God
will be using him beyond measures; hence, God arrested
him, and made him pass through the processes of
mentorship to build or develop him to its full stature.
After God struck him and blindfolded him. He led him to
Ananias (v11) for discipleship and nurturing, then
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After Jesus chose the twelve, the first thing He did was
to request that they SHOULD be with him-
INTIMACY… Please note that the word used in that
place was SHOULD, showing how important and
compulsory it is for them to follow. What a great mentor,
a great mentor that desires He fills his mentee first
before releasing them out. A great mentor that desires
intimacy for the sole reason of imparting his mentee. Not
just familiarity but intimacy to build them. He never
desires that they should be a laughing stock outside;
hence he calls them to SIT with him and be PROPERLY
TAUGHT. He desired that first they first learn his ways
before they will go out to deliver.
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Once Jesus sees that the disciples are getting him well he
sent the 12 then the 70 etc. Once Jesus saw they have
gotten him well, then it was difficult for the world to
know about the great commission. In fact at his demise,
he gave them a HELPER… what a great mentor… A
greater helper to help them fulfill purpose.
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1. Selflessness
2. Purity(righteousness)
3. Obedience
4. Sacrifice
5. Love
6. Compassion
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1. Maturity
2. Excellence
3. Greater works
4. Oneness with the mentors
5. Kingdom inheritance etc.
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CHAPTER FOUR
STANDARD IN CHOOSING A MENTOR
There are standard for choosing a mentor because whom
you follow has a lot to determine who you will later be.
There are some points I consider necessary.
Who are you? Who the God call you to be? Which clan
did you belong to? What is you purpose? Etc.
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the Baptist etc got their identity- not from their head but
from their maker- that‟s the appearance.
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3. Your relationship
4. In due time
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5. God’s leading
God should lead you to people who will truly groom and
mould you well in that area of your calling. You might
not know your mentor until you ask for it in prayers. For
every believer there is always a mentor for you
irrespective of your calling. The shoe you are entering
has already been worn by somebody else before. No
matter the grace and anointing bestowed on you there is
always someone out there who will still guide you
properly so you won‟t just waste. Having a mindset that
no one can mentor you due to your current position in
spirit is like digging your grave yourself. Be accountable
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CHAPTER FIVE
MESSAGE TO THE MENTOR
This is chapter is solely dedicated to the mentors and to
intending mentors:
1. Responsibility as a giver
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2. Determinant of growth
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3. A person of Experiences
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● Golden advice
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even afraid of him, his name was without stain. Let‟s just
imagine Elijah failed to recognize his deed and Gahazi
keeps collecting all what Elisha rejected will definitely
tarnish the image of Elisha because people won‟t believe
Elisha was innocent because Gahazi was his mentee.
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2. Unnecessary caring.
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✔ Bridging in conversation
Learn to watch your conversation; nothing kills
like a running mouth. In the expense of making
everything lively; you can begin to say
something that are not necessary, and you might
not be able to reverse the spoken word later.
Things to take note
1. Don‟t go out the box,
2. Don‟t create a conversation you cannot handle
(hear fast with slow response). It‟s dangerous not
to be word-conscious.
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It‟s our ultimate prayer that God would help the body of
Christ in our generation. The generation where self rules,
where self has been granted free course. Here‟s a
generation people stab each other‟s back ha now grown
to be a norm. In the days od the Apostles they did,
shown and thought us what love really is and the power
of unity. They all contributed their quarter to the
development of God‟s kingdom. They were easily
multiply because of their life style in unity and there
character in short they are all connected.
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CHAPTER SIX
MESSAGE TO THE MENTEES
Many a times some people thinks there is a particular
age to have a mentor; once they pass that age they
assume they‟re fit to be the master of themselves. Can I
quickly state that there is still no age above mentorship?
Whether you‟re are young or old there are people ahead
of you in one field or the other. To succeed in that areas
of influence its necessary to have a mentor lead you
through that road.
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It‟s not too late for you to have a mentor if you haven‟t
had one. To the younger generations, its better you get
things right at the earlier stage than regretting a wasted
years of doing what should have been avoided. Mentors
are like wings that can carry mentee to their detination in
no distance time. Though some people have basterdize
mentorship through several untamed human behaviors
but mentorship still remains a pathway to success. You
can‟t outgrown mentorship no matter who you are.
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Someone once said that „If you are too big to serve you
will be too small to lead.‟ God is interested in looking
for a man that will be willing to serve, the same will be a
good leader, Jesus as a case study.. Serving is the heart
of surrendering your will to one superior. Before Joshua
got to the position he served Moses, likewise Elisha to
Elijah, Timothy and Paul and even Jesus.
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Not all the good are acceptable and not all the so-called
acceptable are perfect will of God. Scriptures put the
three- good , acceptable and perfect will in the right
order. If something appeals so good to you, to God it
might not be acceptable nor be perfect will for you at
this time. Your mentors help you in periods you might
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My reflection
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… I pray thee, …
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2. Determination
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4. Honor
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father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon
the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee” (Exodus
20:12).
The greater people pull people that are just coming us.
Some mentee are so stingy they can‟t even honour their
boss with their substance. Those kind of people can‟t go
far, it‟s not a curse it just a verdict. How can someone be
your oversea and you won‟t honour through your gifts,
time, commitment, service etc. If you‟re not honouring
your mentor you are blocking the flow of grace into your
life no matter what you do. Don‟t pay your mentee a
visit empty handed it‟s very wrong. you don‟t grow in
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grace like that, that God bless you or what ever he/she
says goes a long way.
5. Ask question
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6. Grow.
The ways of the lord are not imparted they are taught.
The ways of the lord is done through obedience. No
matter how you are surrounded with great ministers, if
you don‟t work in the ancient path you can‟t walk in
their dimension. You can only walk in it through
personal experience. The spiritual realm is a large entity
that cannot be totally understood by mankind unless God
reveals to you. The more you grow the more you know.
Pray and get it..
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For as many that are lead by the spirit of God are call
the sons of God
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