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What struck me the most about the recollection is learning how profoundly little I
knew about love and how intricate the concept of love really is, as portrayed in 1 Corinthians
13:4-8 and the talk given by the married couple. This takes me back to the time I had a
girlfriend. It was barely a month into our relationship when I started saying “I love you” to
her. My mom, who knows the most about love that I know, knew about this fact and asked
me what it meant for me to say the magic L-word to my then-girlfriend. It got me thinking
really hard and I found myself struggling to grasp an answer. I was so sure that I loved her
but when it came to explaining why, little did I know that I did not mean it at all. I always felt
jealous when she would harmlessly talk to another guy and we would find ourselves fighting
over the pettiest things. So why did I love her? Answering this question is as hard as defining
love per se. It was at that moment that I knew that I really didn’t love her and that’s the
reason why our relationship did not last that long. As M. Scott Peck would put it, the
Recognizing genuine love in our lives is very important because it is the foundation
upon which our future marriage and subsequent family life must be built upon. According to
1 Corinthians: 4-8, love must be patient, kind, unenvious, and so forth. But as I listened to the
talk given by the married couple, love doesn’t have to be exactly all those things for it to
persist. Love is also going beyond the imperfections and accepting them wholeheartedly. We
are all imperfect being incapable of giving and receiving the perfect love. Much like
happiness, love is a choice; a choice to disregard the imperfections and just love in spite of
these. But I think there is a reason love is described, first and foremost, as patient in the verse.
Because it’s something that one must take his/her time with, not something that should be
rushed or forced. That is why it has affected me in such a way that I am not actively and
consciously looking for a relationship as early as now, but I have simply let things take its
course and wait until the right time, which I know is in God’s perfect timing.
But all I have been talking about is agape, a facet of love anchored on commitment;
geared towards marriage. As established throughout the recollection, there is also philia, or
brotherly love that applies to friends. As college undergraduates, this was a very apt and
timely reminder because we are in a point in our lives where we spend majority of our time
with our friends in school. Sometimes, with all the work that keeps us busy, we fail to even
simply say hi or ask how our friends are doing. I myself am guilty of this tendency. I have
grown apart with some of my friends due to the fact that I have recently decided to put more
focus on my studies. But I may have put in a little too much focus that I lost some friends
along the way. This recollection put into perspective the decision I made to prioritize my
studies, which I thought was the sure fire way to go to experience the most out of my college
life. But I learned that much like anything else, a great deal of balance must be found. We are
all, anyway, social beings and therefore, relationships, beyond academic success, is of utmost
importance. Since then, I have consciously tried to spend more time with my friends, hear all
about the kwento and silly stories, which I have truly missed, smiling more at them and trying
Love is just complicated. You can never pin a single definition to it; doing so would
just downplay its very essence and spirit. But what I can do is just love, without spending too
much time defining it; love, and allow myself to be loved, while not necessarily rushing into
marriage. While I am young, this recollection taught me to love my friends by eating with
them and bonding over movies or basketball. I will, likewise, love my family by simple acts
of sharing stories and kissing them good night. Love is patient; it can wait for it to be defined
perfect. But it is also kind, and that’s what I intend to be to my friends and family right now.
How? By spending quality time with them, because allotting time, much like love, is a
choice.