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C6-Rules of Discipline - Ho
C6-Rules of Discipline - Ho
C6-Rules of Discipline - Ho
© 2002, Vanderbilt University, The MIHOW Program, All rights reserved. Chapter 6
10. Adapt discipline to your child. As you get to know your child’s temperment well, you’ll find the best way
to encourage his good behavior. He may like hugs and kisses. But not all two-year-olds do. Watch him to
see what works.
Temper Tantrums Your child is overpowered 1. Lift him up so that he 1. Do not yell at him to
by intense emotions he does not injure himself stop.
can’t control or understand. or others. 2. Do not try to reason
2. Wait calmly until the with him.
rage subsides. 3. Do not leave him alone.
3. Divert his attention to He needs you with him.
an activity where he 4. Do not get excited. He
can have a success needs you to be calm.
that you can praise.
4. Anticipate situations
before they occur.
Throwing his cup or toy He may be practicing 1. Pick up the cup or toy 1. Do not scold him.
on the floor throwing skills. for him. 2. Do not spank him.
He may be experimenting 2. “I love you, but I don’t
to see where it lands. like it when you throw
your cup / toy on the
floor.”
Breaking your favorite If he doesn’t understand 1. You have every right to 1. Do not break one of his
dish the concept of possession say, “Oh, my favorite favorite toys. It starts a
he doesn’t know that he dish!” vicious cycle.
has committed a misdeed. 2. Ask him to join you as 2. Do not force him to
If he understands that you you try to glue the admit his guilt. He’ll
are sad about your dish, pieces together. feel unloved and
the burden of taking the 3. Accept responsibility miserable.
blame is intolerable. That’s for leaving the dish in a 3. Do not brand him as a
why he blames someone vulnerable place. liar. He won’t
else. understand anyway.
He can’t distinguish
between make-believe
and reality.
Crying the first time he He is not misbehaving. It 1. Let him watch others 1. Do not shame him for
goes to the pool, beach may be so big that he is having fun in the water. being a crybaby.
or lake frightened. 2. When he is ready for a 2. Do not force him to go
first test of the water, into the water.
hold his hand and stay
right with him.
3. If you are at the beach,
show him the fun he
can have in the sand.
Adapted from Your Baby’s First 30 Months by Lucie Barber and Herman Williams, H.P. Books, 1981, Out of Print
© 2002, Vanderbilt University, The MIHOW Program, All rights reserved. Chapter 6