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Sana Interview
Sana Interview
educated, strong women I know. She is here in the United States on a work Visa, and very
outspoken about her feelings regarding our current POTUS and her fear of traveling under his
regime. Sana has citizenship from Pakistan, and grew up in the United Arab Emirates. She calls
herself a ‘third culture kid,’ having selected her favorite things from the various cultures she has
experiences in her life and meshing it into who she is today. Sana defines culture as a
combination of values, beliefs, customs and experiences ingrained in a person which impacts
their perspectives, which reflects her level of intellect having cited that alarming accurately to a
text book definition. She asked me to warn you she lacks filter, and has an authentic snarky tone,
Sana grew up with her nuclear family, which “consists of a husband, his wife, their children, real
or adopted and may also include the husbands or wife’s parents” (Front Cover. P4 1985). Sana’s
father was the patriarch of the family; however, her mother was not the norm as she was
educated and a financial contributor to the family. Her mother was educated and a financial
contributor; which in Pakistan is the exception as women adult literacy rate is 35.40/59%
Sanas’s younger sister was born in Canada, so she and her sister learned French as part of their
education curriculum in addition to their home language of Urdu. “Urdu is one of the New Indo-
Aryan languages. It developed as a contact language between Muslim rulers, traders, religious
men, and the local population after the Muslim invasion of India. Urdu literature shows
synthesis between the Islamic and Indian cultural traditions and represents the composite culture
of multilingual India (Encyclopedia of Language & Linguistics. Elsevier, 2006). Sana and I have
been friends over five years, and I never knew the name of her native language, but I have
always loved listening to her talk to her sister, foreign languages are beautiful, and personal.
Sana is the kind of person who speaks with force and passion, her face showing all emotions.
She hopes one day to teach her children Urdu, but worries it will be quite the challenge as her
Sana loves being in the United States and engaged to a very bearded young man from
Bremerton, WA. They are complete opposites in where they grew up, their family structures, and
their introvert (him), extrovert (her) natures, but together the room lights up. They share an only
four-legged puppy, Luna the Pitbull. She is, the absolute center of their world. As Sana and I got
into why she loves being in the United States, her rebellion surfaced.
Part of the reason she loves being in the United States is her ability to be an individual, at present
her long black beautiful hair is died purple. Her dad, having hoped for a more traditional
outcome, put Sana through many years of college, only to be disappointed that she is a strong
independent woman, approaching 30, and still no kids. In United Arab Emirates, fathers to send
their daughters to college but prefer the daughters to concentrate on raising children so many do
not go onto full time jobs (United States, UAE p4). For Sana her life in the U.S. is based on her
chosen family, endless possibilities, and freedom to be who she wants to be, but she is afraid of
her future in the United States under our current President. She is engaged, but doesn’t want to
marry for fear the government will see her marriage as a sham, when they have been together
Sana has experienced discrimination in many forms in her life. She said the United States has put
her in a box, she is hard skinned and chose IT as her career field, for those reasons she finds
herself consistently judged, and stereotyped, people assume she cannot speak English. She said
she has even experienced discrimination and judgement in her home country when her and her
fiancé went back recently to meet her other family, they disapproved of her being with a
Caucasian man. She found it challenging to be in her home, with the love of her life, but not
being able to show affection there, the way she can in the United States. She said being a multi-
racial couple never really bothered her, until it did, but refuses to let it impact her relationship or
its outcome. She laughed as she shared she hopes Trump is “dethroned” by the time they say
their vows on March 14th, 2020, yes, that’s right they are getting married on Pie on purpose.
As we started wrapping up the interview Sana smiled, an impish smile, and said you know I get
two Christmas’ right? I assume she felt need to poke at this with the impending holidays coming
up, she gets to celebrate Eid Al Fitr in May which she calls Muslim Christmas, and her husband
to be and puppy spoil her on our Jolly Christmas. Her plans for Christmas are to cook up some of
her favorite dishes, biryani, nihari, haleem, halwa puri, kulfi and chai. She is an incredible cook!
She is probably the only reason I have any idea how amazing food is from her country, I don’t
know that I would have sought it out on my own, but when it shows up every year at
Friendsgiving, I am the first to jump in. Below is a picture of Miss Sana, living the American
Dua, H. "Urdu." Encyclopedia of Language & Linguistics. Elsevier, 2006. 269-75. Web.
Front Cover. (1985). In Proceedings of the Sixteenth International Conference of the Pan Pacific
and Southeast Asia Women's Association. Tokyo Metropolis: Pan Pacific and Southeast Asia
Women's Association. Retrieved from Women and Social Movements, International database.
United States. Bureau of International Labor Affairs., United States. Embassy (United Arab
Affairs .
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combination. I'm what would be considered a 'third culture kid', having picked my favorite
3. How do you define “family?” A structure you are locked into/forced to commit to. The
concept of 'chosen family' doesn't exist where I come from. Honoring familial ties,
respecting your elders and blindly obeying orders is more important than an individual's
feelings.
5. Did you ever live with your grandparents or extended family? Lived with my
grandparents when I was 2, then moved out of the country with my immediate family.
6. Who holds the most “status” in your family? Why? My parents, specifically my father.
7. What is the primary language spoken in your family? Any foreign language
9. What is the most important meal of the day? Dinner, because it is the only time the
10. Do you have any eating habits/rituals that are specific to your culture? We often eat with
our hands, specifically the right hand. Salads aren't really part of our cuisine, so I hate
yes, name some of the foods that you eat. If you answered no, what types of foods do you
eat? Yes, because they're delicious! I love biryani, nihari, haleem, halwa puri, kulfi and
chai
12. If you are from a culture that speaks English as a second language, do you speak your
native language? If not, why? If so, will you teach your native language to any children
you have? I do speak my native language. I would attempt to teach my children but
13. What are your holidays and traditions? The big Muslim holidays are Eid Al Adha and Eid
14. Define and describe the most important (or most celebrated) holiday of your culture. Eid
Al Fitr, which I often call Muslim Christmas. It celebrates the end of a month of fasting, so
people dress up in brand new clothes, visit friends and family and eat a ton of food. The
15. What kind of government system do they have in your country of origin? I was born in
Pakistan but grew up in the UAE so I'll answer for both. UAE is a monarchy. Pakistan is
16. What kind of health care system do you have in your country of origin? UAE/Pakistan:
17. What kind of fashion, such as clothes, etc. do people wear? UAE: very similar to the US,
but a bit more conservative. Abayas for women and thoubs for men (the Arab white dress)
in both countries.
19. What are the primary industries? How do people make a living? UAE: tourism,
industry?
20. How do people spend their leisure time? Sports? Movies, etc.? Wandering around
21. Are the roles of men and women specifically defined in your family? If so, what are
they? Not really, but my family is more the exception rather than the norm. Since my
education and career ambition for myself and my sister (although the women are still
22. Do you consider your parents to be successful? In a material sense, yes. They have/had
great jobs, make a lot of money, have been able to provide financial stability for their
24. How is physical contact viewed in your culture? Perfectly acceptable as long as it is with
the same gender (men rubbing noses/holding hands, etc.). With the opposite gender, not so
much - even if you're married, couples don't often have physical displays of affection.
25. What would you say is, from your perspective, the most commonly held misconception
26. What is the best thing about living in the USA? Individualism. Not having to worry about
what other people might think or say about you. Putting yourself first is not something
taboo. You can be your own person and find others like you.
27. What is the worst thing about living in the USA? The biases/racism/prejudice that is
deeply ingrained within people that think they're generally pretty 'woke'. The current
28. Have you been discriminated against? Yes. Hard to prove but it has happened in the
29. Have you ever experienced racism? In what form? Yes. People assuming I don't speak
English or that I wouldn't know about certain things. People always impressed that I don't
have an accent. Microaggressions that are not offensive on their own but start to become
30. Have you ever felt excluded based on your gender or culture? Yes, including in my own
country/culture.