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Courtly Love - TEACHER
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Courtly Love
Background:
Troubadours of 12th century France invented a new way (for the time period) to think about love. In the
poetry of the troubadours love was often celebrated in quasi-religious terms, with the beloved woman
being venerated as an object of worship, and much emphasis on the torments suffered by the lover. It
was truly revolutionary because it placed women, who technically had no power in medieval society, in
a position of complete dominance over their lovers. The beloved lady is the master, and the poet – even
in if in real life he was a great lord – is her servant.
Because love was not a prerequisite for marriage at the time, most being arranged, courtly love was
rarely discussed in terms of marriage. In fact, Andres Capellanus, the author of the On The Art Of
Loving, seems to be convinced that true love must be extramarital. His 31 rules of love seem to have
started as a parody of exaggerated behaviors and then slowly became actual tradition:
1. Marriage is no real excuse for not loving. 14. The easy attainment of love makes it of little value: difficulty of attainment
2. He who is not jealous cannot love. makes it prized.
3. No one can be bound by a double love. 15. Every lover regularly turns pale in the presence of his beloved.
4. It is well known that love is always increasing or 16. When a lover suddenly catches sight of his beloved his heart palpitates.
decreasing. 17. A new love puts an old one to flight.
5. That which a lover takes against the will of his 18. Good character alone makes any man worthy of love.
beloved has no relish. 19. If love diminishes, it quickly fails and rarely revives.
6. Boys do not love until they reach the age of maturity. 20. A man in love is always apprehensive.
7. When one lover dies, a widowhood of two years is 21. Real jealousy always increases the feeling of love.
required of the survivor. 22. Jealousy increases when one suspects his beloved.
8. No one should be deprived of love without the very 23. He whom the thought of love vexes eats and sleeps very little.
best of reasons. 24. Every act of a lover ends in the thought of his beloved.
9. No one can love unless he is propelled by the 25. A true lover considers nothing good except what he thinks will please his
persuasion of love. beloved.
10. Love is always a stranger in the home of avarice. 26. Love can deny nothing to love.
11. It is not proper to love any woman whom one would 27. A lover can never have enough of the solaces of his beloved.
be ashamed to seek to marry. 28. A slight presumption causes a lover to suspect his beloved.
12. A true lover does not desire to embrace in love 29. A man who is vexed by too much passion usually does not love.
anyone except his beloved. 30. A true lover is constantly and without intermission possessed by the thought
13. When made public love rarely endures. of his beloved.
31. Nothing forbids one woman being loved by two men or one man by two
women.
Conclusion:
“…In the Middle Ages people had inherited a view of their own culture as the poor remains of a more glorious
past; thus the splendors of the Roman world were remembered with loving nostalgia in the Dark Ages and
beyond. But in the Renaissance people began to look forward with energy and pride and to see their culture as
better than what had gone before, and in a state of calm but continual improvement …
…Even at the height of the Age of Reason, with its distrust of passion and excess, Love was, if not as busy as in
the 12th century, never successfully banished. Men still wooed women courteously, respectfully; they continued
to feel that they would be rewarded by her love only after demonstrating their devotion…
…But in the final decades of the 18th century there was a revolt against reason. The Romantic Movement wanted
passion, cultivated sensibility; rejected cold logic…At the same time there was a renewal of interest in medieval
art and literature, which developed in the first half of the 19th century into the great Victorian obsession with
medieval culture…
…And so romantic love has come down to us in the final years of the 20th century, as a consummation devoutly to
be wished, and yet fearsomely difficult to obtain. We are brought up from birth with the idea that love makes life
worthwhile, that it seductively promises the intensest happiness of personal fulfillment, and that although there
may be other reasons for marrying, it is hopelessly wicked to marry without affection. Yet the various pains of
disappointment, rejection, jealousy and betrayal are on the other side of the coin and cause untold suffering to
those unlucky in love…”
Information from: The Book of Courtly Love: The Passionate Code of the Troubadours by Andrea Hopkins