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by John Mason and staff of ACS Distance Education

CONTENTS

CREDITS 4

CHAPTER 1 INTRODUCTION 5
Role of the life coach 5

It’s not counselling 6

How to become a life coach 7

Nature & scope of life coaching 7

Why people employ a life coach 8

Who becomes a life coach? 9

Pros & cons of working as a life coach 10

Who do life coaches work for? 11

CHAPTER 2 HOW YOU CAN HELP SOMEONE TO CHANGE 12


Towards change 12

Change theories 13

Building a relationship 17

Establishing areas for change 18

Life coaching methods 20

Assessing success 25

Ongoing support 26

CHAPTER 3 GETTING YOURSELF RIGHT FIRST 27


What tools does a life coach need 27

What guides your actions 32

Supervision 36

Debriefing 39

CHAPTER 4 DETERMINING WHAT PEOPLE NEED HELP WITH 41


How to decide if you can help 41
Areas for coaching 42

CHAPTER 5 RISK MANAGEMENT 49


Identifying risk factors 49

CHAPTER 6 THE FINAL STEP - HOW TO BECOME A LIFE COACH 54


Working for someone else 54

Working for yourself 55

Where to start 56

Develop a business plan 60

The planning process 61

Summary of a successful business 63

APPENDIX 64
Distance learning and online courses 64

Acs global partners 67


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CREDITS

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CHAPTER 1 INTRODUCTION

Life coaching is a relatively new profession - although coaches have


been around for a long time in the guise of trainers, instructors,
managers and tutors for various professions and disciplines. Life
coaching is not easily defined, but it is a type of mentoring which
focuses on helping individuals to achieve what they would like to
achieve and thereby to lead more fulfilling lives. Unlike other forms of
coaching, it takes place outside of the workplace and is concerned
with all aspects of a person’s life.

Life coaches help individuals in many different areas of their life, such as:

■■ Debt advice ■■ Practical life skills e.g. time management

■■ Weight loss ■■ Physical wellbeing

■■ Careers counselling ■■ Physical image

■■ Health ■■ Public and professional image

■■ Relationships ■■ Setting goals

■■ Self-esteem And so on...

ROLE OF THE LIFE COACH


Life coaches work in a variety of areas
with their clients. A client may come
to them because they wish to achieve
weight loss, for example. They may
have tried every available diet, attended
slimming clubs and so on, but been
unable to lose weight. So a life coach
may sit them down and discuss with
them how the way they are living their
life is affecting their ability to lose Life coaches help
weight. They may look at the crunch
points in their day when the client individuals in many
eats. They may review their diet, and different areas of their
make suggestions on how they can fit
exercise into their day.
life, such as a person’s
professional image.

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Some life coaches may also be experts IT’S NOT COUNSELLING


in other areas, for example, fitness.
As such, they may be able to offer Life coaching can often be confused
fitness advice along with other coaching with counselling, but they are not the
advice. Coaches who are not experts same thing. There is some overlap in
in that area may refer them on to other that as a life coach you are helping a
professionals who can help them. For client with their difficulties, but it is not
example, a life coach may work with a therapy. A counsellor encourages the
a client on how to change their life in client to see what their problems are,
terms of their eating, but may also refer and then to come to a solution that suits
them to a personal trainer to help them them - it is more problem-focused. A
with their fitness or a nutritionist to life coach, on the other hand, can be
assess their dietary intake. more directive in their approach. They
may offer advice to the client and help
them to set goals and targets so as
to achieve what they want - it is more
solution focused.

Furthermore, counsellors deal mainly


with client problems which are seriously
affecting their lives whereas a coach
deals with things the client would like
to achieve or improve. There is an
assumption that life coaching clients
are mentally healthy and have the
intellectual capability and determination
to succeed. Life coaching does not have
to stop once a client has achieved a
particular goal. The coach may stay with
them to make sure they keep on track,
and new goals may be set. Counselling
usually ends once a problem or issue
has been overcome.

Although life coaching is not the


same as counselling, there are some
similarities. Some life coaches offer
assistance with milder forms of mental
health issues such as anxiety and
depression, but only if they have the
Some life coaches may training to do this. Some psychologists
be able to offer fitness who are advocates of the ‘positive
advice along with other psychology’ movement offer ‘evidence-
based life coaching’ where they use
coaching advice. scientifically derived principles and
practices to guide their coaching.

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HOW TO BECOME A NATURE & SCOPE OF


LIFE COACH LIFE COACHING
How to become a life coach varies Whilst different life coaches adopt
from country to country. It is possible to different approaches to how they
take courses to qualify as a life coach. deliver life coaching, the key aims of
Many of these are offered by coaching life coaching include the following:
institutes but there are some available
through government-run colleges. Some ■■ Helping the client to get closer
private institutions also offer coaching to what they want to achieve and
courses via distance education which can where they want to be in their life.
vary considerably in subject matter and
number of hours taken to complete them. ■■ Finding ways to help clients think
more positively about themselves
Other people may find that they are able and their achievements.
to use their experiences from previous
jobs, such as coaching, counselling ■■ Helping clients to step out of their
and so on, and use that to develop comfort zone and realise their full
themselves more as a life coach. Some potential.
countries have certain requirements
as to the qualifications and experience Some of the key components of life
required by a life coach, whilst other coaching are:
countries have not yet formally stated
the qualifications or experience ■■ Establishing a trusting relationship
required. To date, however, the industry with a client in which they feel
remains unregulated in most countries. comfortable to openly discuss the
areas of their life they would like to
If you are planning on working as a improve.
life coach, it is advisable to check in
the country you intend to work in as ■■ Introducing the client to techniques
to the requirements for that country. and strategies they can use to
You should consider things such as: combat self-destructive thoughts
and beliefs.
■■ Qualifications needed
■■ Helping the client to set goals and
■■ Experience required find ways to make positive changes
in their life.
■■ Registrations with organisations
required. ■■ Encouraging the client to identify
success and build on it.
In order to provide the best possible
service to a client, it is important to ■■ Providing ongoing support to keep
undertake a course in life coaching. clients on track.
People seeking a life coach will at least
want to know that they have undertaken
some kind of training.

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WHY PEOPLE EMPLOY need to eat a healthier diet and exercise


more. To reduce my debts, I need to
A LIFE COACH spend less and maybe earn more.

All kinds of different people from Nevertheless, whilst it may be obvious


different professions and backgrounds, what needs to be done, it is not
and from different age groups, may seek always that easy to do. People can
the services of a life coach. There is no get stuck in a cycle of bad habits and
specific group to whom life coaches aim poor behaviours. They can struggle
their services, though some may choose to change that behaviour or they may
to specialise in particular areas. not even realise that their behaviour is
what is causing the problem. You must
Generally speaking though, the types of have heard people saying things like –
clients attracted to having a life coach “Well, I stick to the diet and I don’t lose
all want to improve at least one area of weight. I just don’t know why.” When
their life be it to change their weight, you know that they do not really stick to
their career, to move into a new course the diet, they continue to eat too much,
or training, to help themselves move or they do not exercise. You would also
out of debt, or some other matter. It have come across someone who is in
may not be restricted to just one aspect debt who complains that they never
of their life. For instance, they may have enough money, but as an outsider
wish to get a new job but lack the job you can see where they are spending
interview skills and the ability to find a their money.
new job. They don’t just fancy a change,
but want a new job to help themselves
get out of debt. Therefore, issues can
be intertwined.

Often, the potential client is someone


who is already very successful in
many areas of their life but they have
something which has always bothered
them or which they have continued to
struggle with. Perhaps they don’t know
anyone they could turn to in their social
lives to resolve this, perhaps they are
too ashamed to do so. Regardless,
they may wish to have the support of
someone who can help them along
the way to overcome this issue and
experience success.

To some, what a life coach offers may


seem really obvious and just common A life coach can help
sense. People may think – “Why do I people turn away from
need a life coach? It’s obvious what I
have to do.” Well, yes, sometimes the bad habits and poor
solutions to our problems are obvious behaviours.
– for instance, to lose weight I know I

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It is a case of sometimes people cannot WHO BECOMES A LIFE


see the wood for the trees. They have a
problem, but they are so close to it that COACH?
they do not see how they are actually
causing the problem themselves. A life As with the clients of life coaches, life
coach can help a client to look further coaches themselves come from a broad
into their own life and see areas where range of backgrounds. What they have
they could change their behaviour and in common is not only a desire to help
give simple ideas of HOW they could others achieve fulfilling lives, but also
change their behaviour and change a striving towards enhancing their own
their life. personal development.

In many areas of life things seem Often, life coaches may have come from
obvious once they are shown to us, but other areas of work. For example, they may
it is not until they are shown to us that be a fitness trainer and also want to offer
we even think of them. life coaching as part of their repertoire.
They may be a counsellor who wishes to
Another important benefit of a life coach move into life coaching, or a nutritionist
is that even when people know what it who wants to do life coaching on the side.
is they need to do to change, they may At other times, they may be someone
not have the motivation to make the with a lot of life experience who believes
change by themselves. A life coach can they have something to offer others.
provide support and encouragement
and can work with the client to develop Some life coaches prefer to coach
strategies to enhance their motivation. within their area of expertise. For
It may even just be that people need example, the fitness trainer may prefer
someone to hold them accountable to to coach people with fitness-related
do what they say they are going to. issues. Others will seek to broaden their
knowledge of other areas so they can
add them to their coaching repertoire.

Some of the important skills a coach


needs to have or develop are:

■■ Good listening skills

■■ Good communication skills

■■ Patience

■■ Perseverance

■■ Empathy
A life coach can
provide support and ■■ Punctuality

encouragement to ■■ Leadership
their client.
■■ A good sense of humour

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There are, of course, many other skills PROS & CONS OF WORKING
a coach may have or may need to
develop. The important thing from a AS A LIFE COACH
clients perspective is that they are able
to respect their coach and build rapport Life coaching is no different to other
and a trusting relationship with them. professions in the sense that it can
produce highs and lows. Some of the
advantages include:

■■ Personal growth in different areas of life

■■ New challenges are fulfilling

■■ Rewarding to observe a client


achieve their goals

■■ Interesting dealing with different


clients and goals

■■ Flexible working hours

■■ You can be your own boss.

Some of the disadvantages include:

■■ Can involve unsociable hours.

■■ Some clients may be overly


demanding.

■■ May take time before positive


changes can be observed in clients.

■■ Can be disheartening if unable to


work with a client.

■■ Some clients may become dependent.

■■ There may be times when you are not


financially secure if you are not able
to achieve a sufficient level of clients.

As a coach, you have to have the


One of the positives of resilience and perseverance to be able to
being a life coach is it’s withstand the hard times and to make the
most of the good times. After all, you are
Interesting dealing with a mentor and, for some, a role model, and
different clients and goals. you will not be regarded highly if you are
observed to be having problems yourself.

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WHO DO LIFE COACHES Self-employment


WORK FOR? Generally speaking, most life coaches
are self-employed. They may work from
Well, there is no real set answer to that. their own home or office supporting
Life coaches may work for themselves clients. Obviously, when working as a
or for someone else. self-employed person, the life coach
also has to take account of their own
Working for an Organisation accounts, administration, and marketing,
whilst also being responsible for finding
Occasionally life coaches may work for new clients. Some life coaches may
another organisation. They may offer work fulltime with clients, but others may
coaching support to staff or clients as choose to only work part-time (perhaps
part of the organisation. For example, because they are semi-retired). Some
a consortium of counsellors may may work as a life coach whilst still
also have life coaches who can offer working in another job. It will really
additional support to their clients. depend on the life coach and what they
hope to achieve from their work.
Coaching Consultancy
There are now consultancies in many
major cities who may employ one or
several life coaches. These operate in
much the same way as a counselling
practice or psychology clinic whereby a
new client is paired with a coach whose
skills or training closely match the areas
the client has articulated as being areas
they would like to improve or change.

Other Coaching Institutions

Some life coaches can work within


coaching institutions. For example, in
the field of sport, athletes may have
coaches who help them improve their
sporting performance, but a life coach
may be employed to look at other
aspects of that person’s life and help
them in those areas. For example, a
top athlete may suddenly start to lose
races. Their training coach can help
them to try and maintain their sporting
performance, but it could be due to In whichever way you
other issues – they are no longer choose to become a life
interested, they have a financial crisis, coach, it can be a very
they have a personal crisis at home and
so on – a life coach may be better able fulfilling career.
to help them with these things.
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CHAPTER 2 HOW YOU CAN HELP SOMEONE


TO CHANGE

Life coaching involves bringing about positive changes in people’s


lives. This involves working with the client to establish what they
would like to change, setting goals, and finding ways to help them to
achieve those goals.
How often do you hear of people who
make a New Year’s Resolution only to
TOWARDS CHANGE
break it minutes, hours, or days later?
Change can be difficult. Anyone who When you think of life coaching, you
works as a life coach has to appreciate may be thinking of clichéd reasons why
that many people find it difficult to a person goes to a life coach – to lose
change their behaviour. Making a weight, stop smoking, change their
lasting change can be a difficult process career, get out of debt, perform better
and usually involves a substantial in interviews, and so on. There are
commitment in terms of effort, time, and also innumerable other variations of
emotion from the person concerned. why people come to see a life coach.
When a person comes to a life coach, Each person has their own unique
they are making that first step. They set of desires, obstacles, goals, past
have made the effort, given up their experiences, personalities, prejudices
time and possibly had conflicting etc. Their reasons for changing, why
thoughts and feelings in coming to see they behave the way they do, and how
the life coach. But one meeting alone is they change will all vary. A life coach
not enough, the client must be prepared should be very wary of treating their
to work with the life coach towards that customers in the same formulaic way.
process of change. The coach must tailor their approach
to meet the needs of each individual.
Life coaches will therefore use different
techniques as well as trial and error to
support their clients.

It is during this period of trial and error,


that a client can become disheartened
and discouraged. They may give up on
their goals. But a life coach needs to
be there to support and encourage the
client to continue working towards their
goals. The key for helping any client
to reach their goals is by encouraging
them to try new techniques and find
A life coach has to ways to stay motivated. Often, the
appreciate that many original goals may have to be amended
or changed. Sometimes simpler or fewer
people find it difficult to goals will need to be set so that they
change their behaviour. can be accomplished. Whilst it may
not be clear to the client at the time,

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the accomplishment of these goals STAGE 1 –


will combine to give them a sense of PRE-CONTEMPLATION
success and may provide the motivation
for them to continue on and set further The earliest stage of the model is pre-
goals to eventually get where they want contemplation. This is the stage where
to be. people are not considering change,
where the person is almost “in denial”.
CHANGE THEORIES They do not see that there is a problem.
For example, a person may not realise
they need to lose weight, or stop
Psychologists have come up with many
smoking, or change their career. The
techniques to help people change.
person may think they have no control
Therapists, doctors and life coaches will
over their behaviour. They may not
use these techniques in their work. We
think that their behaviour is damaging,
will look at more life coaching theories
or may be under-informed about the
shortly, but first, let us consider one of
consequences of their behaviour.
the theories – the Stages of Change
model. This model recognises that
change is not easy, but requires a For example, imagine a woman who is
progression through a small range of drinking a bottle of wine a night - Lana.
steps to reach a larger goal. She may be carrying on with her normal
daily routine, caring for her children,
seeing her friends and carrying on
The ‘Stages of Change’ model was
with her job. She may have put on a
developed in the late 1970s by
bit of weight, but is planning to go on a
Prochaska and DiClemente as a way to
diet. She may not realise the damage
help people to stop smoking.
she is doing to her body that may not
be affecting her at present, but she is
To succeed in changing, a life coach building up problems for the future.
and their client both need to understand
the three main elements to changing
At this stage, it is helpful to ask the
behaviour.
client to consider if they think the
behaviour is a problem. What they
■■ Readiness to change – do they have think would happen if they changed this
the knowledge and resources to behaviour and so on? Nevertheless, it
make a lasting change? is unlikely that a client would go to visit
a life coach at this stage because they
■■ Barriers to change - what is would not yet see their behaviour as a
preventing them from changing? problem. However, some clients may go
to a life coach at this stage if they are
■■ Relapse – what could trigger a
encouraged to by someone else. For
relapse so they return to their former
example, Lana’s partner may be worried
behaviour?
about her drinking and encourage her
to go to a life coach to find a way to
During the early stages of the model,
change her habits, so she may go to a
people may be unwilling and resistant
coach without actually recognising that
to change, but eventually may become
she has a problem.
committed to changing their behaviour.

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So, the characteristics of this stage are: working hard and then caring for her
children. When she sits down at night,
■■ Ignorance that a problem exists a glass or two, or three, or four, may be
just what she needs to relax. She may
■■ Denial. see this as beneficial to her. The only
time she can relax. She may not see
Helpful strategies a client may use to why it is necessary to stop doing this.
work with a client at this stage would be:
The characteristics of this stage are:
■■ Encouraging the client to self-
analyse ■■ Conflicted emotions

■■ Explaining the risks of their current ■■ Ambivalence.


behaviour
Helpful strategies to support clients
■■ Encouraging the individual to rethink dealing with this stage are:
their behaviour.
■■ Encouraging them to confirm their
STAGE 2 – CONTEMPLATION readiness to change

At this stage, people become aware ■■ Encourage confidence in their own


of the possible benefits to change. But abilities
they may also recognise that there
are costs to change. This causes a ■■ Weighing up the pros and cons of
conflict, which leads to a sense of changing their behaviour
ambivalence about change. Because of
this ambivalence and conflict, this stage ■■ Identifying barriers to change.
can last months or even years. For
some people they may never come out
of this stage. They may view change as
a process of giving up something, rather
than as a way to gain emotional, mental
and/or physical benefits. A life coach
may encourage the client to consider:

■■ Why do you want to change?

■■ What is preventing you from


changing?

■■ What thing would help you to make


the change?

If we consider Lana once again - she is A client may not see why
drinking too much, but she may not yet it is necessary to stop
see the physical and mental damage
she is causing to her body. She may drinking, that is where
enjoy the relaxation she feels at having a life coach may help.
a drink. She may have a busy life -

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STAGE 3 – PREPARATION weeks. For example, Lana may decide


to stop drinking immediately, without
At this stage, the client may be slowly cutting her intake. She may stop
encouraged to make smaller changes for a few days, then have a particularly
to prepare for a larger change. For bad day and go back to drinking a bottle
example, if they wish to lose weight, a night.
they may start going for walks a couple
of times a week. If they wish to stop The characteristic of this stage is:
smoking, they may change to a lower
tar brand. They may start reading self-
■■ Taking direct action towards
help books. They may gather a lot of
achieving their goal(s).
information to help them to change
their behaviour. With Lana, the life
Helpful strategies would be to:
coach may encourage her to look more
into how drinking could affect her both
physically and mentally, and also the ■■ Encourage the client to reward their
potential impact it could have, or the successes
real impact it is having on her family.
■■ To seek social support from others
Characteristics of stage three are: ■■ Make a list of motivating statements.

■■ Collecting information about change


STAGE 5 – MAINTENANCE
■■ Experimenting with small changes. At this stage, the client should be
encouraged to avoid former negative
Strategies the life coach may use:
behaviours and keep up new
behaviours. The person should be
■■ Write down the person’s goals encouraged and motivated to believe
that they can continue to change.
■■ Prepare a plan of action
The client is trying to maintain a new
behaviour, and they should look for
■■ List motivating statements.
ways to avoid temptation. Old habits
should be replaced with more positive
STAGE 4 – ACTION habits. Clients should be encouraged
At this stage, people may begin to take to reward themselves if they avoid
direct action to accomplish their goals. temptation, but they should also not to
However, they may fail because they be too hard on themselves if they do
have not given enough thought to what lapse. Lapses are common and they are
they plan to do. They may decide to lose making a commitment to change for the
weight, for example, and start sticking rest of their life, so they will not change
to a low calorie diet immediately without in one day.
thinking about why they are overweight,
behavioural changes they need to make, For example, Lana may decide to cut
the best diet for them, any exercise down on her drinking at first. So rather
they may need to undertake, and so than sitting down at 8pm when the
on. Because they do not give enough children are in bed with a glass of wine,
thought to this, they will often fail or she could think of other options to avoid
give up their new regime within days or temptation, for example:
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■■ Getting an early night – going to bed the client not to be undermined by this
at the same time as the children. relapse and recognise that they can still
succeed.
■■ Try a distracting technique – go for a
walk, take a course, start reading a We can encourage the client to look at
book, take an exercise class, go and the reasons why they lapsed, and how
do the ironing – any technique that they can change their behaviours, their
helps. She may have more than one coping strategies, and ways to avoid
technique to distract her. future temptations.

■■ She may decide to have one glass The characteristic of this stage is:
of wine after she does one hour’s
ironing or when she gets back from
■■ Feelings of disappointment,
her exercise class and so on.
frustration and failure.
If she does relapse, the life coach
Strategies to deal with this are:
should encourage Lana to see that one
lapse is not the end of the change, but
encourage her to start again with her ■■ Recognise triggers that lead to
plans. Look at what made her lapse relapses
that day. Perhaps it was a stressful day
or she met a friend who drinks a lot ■■ Recognise barriers to success and
and it encouraged her to lapse. Once identify steps to help overcome
the client is able to look more at what them
makes her lapse, the easier it will be
■■ Reaffirm the client’s goals.
for the client to recognise what causes
problems for her.
There are many different theories that
life coaches may use to work with their
The characteristics of maintenance are: clients, which we will come to shortly,
but it is useful to know the ‘Stages of
■■ Maintain a new behaviour Change’ model when supporting clients.
■■ Avoid Temptation.

Useful strategies in this stage are:

■■ Encourage the client to reward


themselves for their success

■■ Develop strategies to deal with


temptation.

STAGE 6 – RELAPSE The key to success is


As we said, relapses are a common to encourage the client
occurrence, but it can lead the client to
give up, feel disappointed or frustrated.
to recognise that they
They may feel like they are a failure. can still succeed.
The key to success is to encourage

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BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP assumptions through the written word.


In one-on-one meetings you are able to
Before a life coach is able to move draw on the client’s body language as
forward and work with a client in helping well as their voice and interact with them
them to achieve what they would like to, in real time which can help to establish a
it is imperative to build a trusting, caring stronger relationship with them.
relationship with them. If a client does
not trust you then they will find it hard to Whichever way (or ways) the service is
fully reveal their difficulties and engage offered, coaches build up a relationship
openly, preventing them from getting with their clients that may be viewed
the most out of their coaching sessions. as being something akin to a close
Establishing this relationship is of friendship. You could perhaps view the
utmost importance. It is the cornerstone coach as being someone who goes with
of coaching. you every step of the way. They almost
walk alongside their clients.
Sometimes, there may be a clash of
personalities or sexual tension between Life coaching started to emerge in the
a life coach and client. If there is any US in the early 1990’s and its popularity
reason why a life coach thinks they has increased dramatically since.
cannot work well with a client, it is best One possible reason is that having
to discuss this with the client and then, a therapist is often associated with
with their permission, to refer them on to some stigma depending on the society,
another life coach who is better able to culture, and age group, but there is no
help them. stigma attached to having a life coach.
Amongst some groups it may even be
seen as kudos to have a coach.
The same is true of the client - if they
feel that they cannot work with the life
coach, they will either tell the life coach When starting to work with a new client,
or simply never arrange to see them a life coach should ensure that they
again. Sometimes this will happen. An appear to be:
experienced coach will recognise this
and not let it affect their confidence, ■■ Professional
after all no-one is able to get along
with everyone. ■■ Well-prepared

■■ Interesting
Life coaches usually work one-on-
one with their clients in face-to-face ■■ Open to listening to what the client
settings. They may also work via the has to say
telephone, Skype or email. In fact, some
coaches work exclusively using the ■■ Treating the client as an individual
latter techniques. However, choosing
this method to deliver your services ■■ Understanding
may restrict the quality of the working
relationship. It also means that you are ■■ Empathic
unable to take cues from the client’s
body language and must rely on making ■■ Friendly
observations through listening to their
voice (tone, rhythm, pitch) or making ■■ Patient
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The more you engage with the client esteem issue this may make them more
and express an interest in what they confident and feel more attractive,
have to say, the more they are going to thereby attracting a romantic partner
trust and relate to you. and because they are happier and
look after themselves better they will
Like all inner journeys, life coaching inadvertently end up losing weight.
must begin with the client’s present
situation and the many internal and We will consider in greater detail
external influences upon it. Life specific problems and areas for change
coaching begins with working with the in chapter 4. But here we will look at
client to understand where the person some general points when beginning to
is at emotionally, psychologically, work with a client.
physically, financially, and
interpersonally. Only after obtaining a
more accurate and clear picture of the A) SETTING GOALS
client’s present can both client and life Before setting goals, it is a good idea
coach identify elements in the client’s to establish the bigger picture. By
past that may be hindering growth in creating the end goal of how the client
any particular area, and plan strategies would like their life to be you are doing
for the client’s future that will encourage
several things. Firstly, you are setting
and nurture progress.
the intent for a better future, creating
a vision for the client to work towards.
ESTABLISHING AREAS Keeping in mind the bigger picture can
help to motivate the client to achieve
FOR CHANGE the smaller goals that are set to achieve
the end result, and can help keep them
A client may have one specific area of on track when the going gets tough.
their life they would like to change or
Creating the bigger picture can also
one thing they would like to improve.
identify the discrepancies between the
Others may want to improve a number
client’s current life and the future they
of areas of their life. Sometimes dealing
would like to work towards, pointing to
with one area can lead to uncovering
the areas that the client will need to
new challenges. Dealing with one area
address in order to get the results they
can also lead to positive changes in
desire.
other areas, creating a ripple effect
throughout the clients life. For example,
if someone has a weight issue, low Sometimes a client will approach the
self-esteem and struggles to maintain coach and outline things they would
romantic relationships, they may like to be able to do or to achieve, but
find that by working on one of these only by evaluating the bigger picture
issues, the others will benefit too. The do these things make sense. Once
more obvious issue that may have a you know their ultimate goal or goals,
follow on effect if it is addressed is then you can see more clearly the
the weight issue. By losing weight the significance of other goals.
client may become more confident
and find it easier to be in romantic Goal-setting should be done by the
relationships because of their increased client with the guidance of the life
self-esteem. Looking at it in another coach. Clearly, if a client sets what
way, by addressing someone’s self- appear to be unattainable or unrealistic
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goals, the coach will need to steer them Each aspect of the goal can be
towards more achievable goals. examined and questions asked to make
it clearer to the client:
For example, Gill comes to you and
wants to lose 20kg in weight. She wants Specific
to lose 5kg a week. You think that a
1kg loss a week is more realistic. If you Goals should be specific so that they
do not discuss other possible goals are clearly defined to the client. If they
and enable the client to reach a more are too vague then there is less chance
viable conclusion with regards to their that they will be achieved because the
original goals, then the client will have client is not quite sure what they are
unrealistic expectations which will most hoping to do. In order to clarify goals,
likely lead to disappointment further questions such as those beginning with
along the line - and could prevent them what, where, who, which, and why can
from trying again in the future. be used to elicit specific information.
Using the example above, if Gill says
she wants to feel better, you can help
her make her goal specific by asking
her why she wants to feel better, and
in which way. This will help her identify
that she wants to lose weight.

Measurable
Goals should be measurable so that
progress can be observed. They could
be measured through checking with
If a client sets unrealistic questions like “How much?” or “How
goals, the coach will need many?” If they are not measurable, it
to steer them towards is difficult to evaluate progress towards
goals. So for Gill, rather than just saying
more achievable goals. that she wants to lose weight, you can
help her make the goal measurable by
asking how much weight does she want
One well-known technique for devising to lose. This way she can monitor her
goals is the SMART method. This was progress and feel success when she
first coined by Doran (1981). reaches her target weight.

S = Specific
Attainable
M = Measurable By being attainable, a goal is realistic.
That is, it can be achieved but it still
A = Attainable takes effort to accomplish. When a
suitable goal is identified, the client
R = Relevant (realistic) develops the skills, abilities, attitudes and
financial resources to attain that goal.
T = Timely (time-constrained) They grow towards the goal. Attainable
goals should provide an answer to the
question “How can it be attained?”

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Relevant thank you for it later. The whole point


of coaching is to enable clients to
A goal has to be relevant in the sense experience success in the areas they
that it has significance to the client. would like to. If it means that the client
A goal might meet with the other has to navigate a series of smaller,
SMART criteria but have no relevance more achievable goals in order to
whatsoever. It should be something eventually succeed in a larger, more
the client wants to achieve and is able difficult goal - whilst it might take longer
to achieve, and it is also related to to get there, the time taken can also
other goals and is something they care enhance the client’s sense of mastery
about. The client should believe that and accomplishment.
they are capable of attaining the goal.
To determine relevance questions such
as “Does it matter to you?” or “Do you
B) IMPLEMENTING
believe you can do it?” should provide a STRATEGIES & TECHNIQUES
positive response. For Gill who wants to
Strategies for change used with clients
feel better, this is where you can check
will depend upon the type of changes
in that the goal to lose weight is relevant
the client would like to make. Some
to her overall desire to feel better – will
coaches work with a loose framework of
losing weight help you to feel better?
techniques which they adapt to specific
clients. Others start from scratch with
Timely each client. A competent coach should
not attempt to fit a client into a range of
Finally, the goal should be time- strategies or apply one theory to all.
constrained. A clear time frame should
be set within which the goal is to be
If a coach begins with a client by
achieved. If no time frame is set, then
following a particular model or theory
the client may have less motivation
but finds that it does not appear to be
and the goal can lose its sense of
working, there is no harm or loss of face
importance. A time frame provides
in acknowledging that it doesn’t appear
urgency. The obvious question here
to be working and trying something else
is “When...?” For Gill who wants to
instead. A client would be more grateful
lose 20kg, she will need to work out
that you are willing to try another
a timeframe that is consistent with
approach than stubbornly refused to
whether the goal is attainable. As
give up on one that is clearly failing. It
mentioned earlier, it may not be realistic
shows that you care about them, and
(and therefore attainable) for Gill to
about them achieving their goals.
lose 20kg in 4 weeks. It may be more
appropriate to set a long term goal of
losing 20kg in 6 months, with a short LIFE COACHING METHODS
term goal of 5kg in 4 weeks.
As we said earlier, there are many
It is also often necessary to help different theories and approaches
the client to revise goals along the which can be used when working with
way. It may be that a client finds a clients. Many of these approaches have
particular goal too difficult at this time, been ‘borrowed’ from counselling and
or that something else needs to be psychology, and adapted or modified
accomplished first. Don’t be afraid to to suit the coaching environment.
re-negotiate goals - your clients will Given that coaching is not therapy,
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some would say that coaching needs requires the client’s full commitment
to develop its own models rather than to achieving their priorities, and his/
adapt ones used in therapeutic settings her understanding of the realities within
since it may inadvertently attract which the goals must be achieved, such
clients to coaching who are in need of as the person’s skills, resources, etc.
specialised clinical help.
A goal-centred approach works well
Whilst some life coaches will focus on for individuals who get discouraged
one method, others will use a variety of by imagining their ultimate aim to be
methods and theories. Yet others will too big to achieve, which then leads to
devise their own methods, perhaps from them giving up. For such individuals,
their own experiences, perhaps from a goal-centred approach will be more
recognised theories, or perhaps from a productive.
combination of the two. As with many
things in life, the life coach will find one
or more approach that suits them and The GROW Model
how they work with their clients - the A well-known and frequently used
important thing is to remain open to example of a goal-centred approach
learning and using new methods and is the GROW model which has no
techniques. Below is a summary of
clear authorship but which has been
some of the important models which
described and amended by a number
have been applied to coaching.
of prominent coaches including John
Whitmore, Graham Alexander, and Alan
THE GOAL-CENTRED Fine. The model was used extensively
APPROACH in coaching within organisations before
being used in life coaching, and the
A goal-centred approach is not a single Whitmore (2002) version is often cited.
method of coaching. Instead, it is any As you may have gathered, GROW is
approach which starts by considering another acronym:
the end, or goal. Unlike counselling
which often begins by examining G = Goal
the reality of an individual’s life and
the problems they may have, many
R = Reality
approaches to coaching begin with
the goals that the individual would like
to achieve. O = Options

These approaches concentrate on W = Will


identifying and clarifying the client’s
goals, prioritising them, and then In other versions of the model, O might
devising strategies to achieve them. stand for opportunity, or it may be two-
This will often include breaking a larger pronged meaning ‘obstacles’ which
overall goal into smaller ones that are must be overcome and ‘options’ which
more easily achieved and monitored. may follow. W is sometimes said to
The life coach can then establish stand for ‘what next’ or ‘way forward’.
clear, realistic goals and support These differences are fairly subtle, and
the client to achieve those goals. In the overall meaning and application of
order to work, this type of approach the model is very similar.
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1) Goal Many coaches would claim that having


a structure like this helps clients to
The coach begins by asking the client focus more clearly on their goals and
what their goal is with regards to the increases success levels.
initial interview. In doing so, the client
is encouraged from the start to focus A variation of this model is the T-GROW
on the future both in terms of their model in which T stands for topic.
goals for the interview, short-term and Rather than begin with the goals, the
intermediate goals, and their ultimate coach asks the client what topic they
goal with regards to what they want to would like to discuss; what area of their
change. life they would like to improve. The
coach listens in a non-judgemental way
The coach seeks to ensure that the to what the client has to say. If the client
client has set suitable goals which are has difficulties expressing themself
clear to the client and achievable. They then the coach may help them to open
might use the SMART technique to up by asking questions. The topic is
establish this, and will most certainly really the bigger picture. If you establish
use a variety of questions. this to begin with, then it is argued that
it is less likely that the client will set
2) Reality irrelevant goals.

The coach then asks the client to Having established the topic, the rest of
describe the reality in relation to the the GROW stages are worked through.
goal. This is how far away from the goal
the client is. The client is encouraged to
think about what it would take to achieve
the goal in terms of what is needed to
get there, and what they might have
already achieved towards it.

3) Options
The client is then encouraged to discuss
what different options there may be for
achieving their goals. They can come
up with as many as they like. During this
stage, the coach might want to get the
client to consider what obstacles there
are which may hinder the client from
getting to their goal, before considering
options.

4) Will
Begin by asking the client
The coach then asks the client how their ultimate goal with
committed they are in terms of willpower,
and what they propose to do next. This
regards to what they want
is where the client reviews their options to change.
and comes up with a plan of action.

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COGNITIVE BEHAVIOUR obstacle in obtaining emotional


THERAPY (CBT) stability and making productive life
choices. CBC focuses on increasing a
CBT is an approach where the client client’s awareness of the attitudes and
is helped to overcome self-destructive beliefs that limit them. The cognitive
or faulty beliefs by replacing them with behavioural approach is the preferred
more productive or adaptive beliefs. method of many life coaches for those
In doing so, the client is assisted to who only adopt one approach. CBT
change behaviours and emotions that when used in therapy is different from
are a result of, or which help maintain other approaches in which the therapist
their problems. CBT is widely practiced might investigate the client’s past
by clinical psychologists and is used history to gain further insight into their
in the treatment of mild behavioural problems, because the focus is in the
disorders through to complex cases of present. This concern with the present
obsessive-compulsive disorder, post- is something which is also adhered
traumatic stress disorder, phobias, and so to in CBC. The cognitive behavioural
forth. It has been adapted to coaching approach looks at the client’s current
under the guise of cognitive behavioural behaviour and asks them to ask the
coaching or CBC, and is one of the following questions:
most widely used approaches.
■■ How is my current belief or attitude
The underlying theory is that emotions working counter-productively for me?
and behaviours related to particular
events are partly caused by thoughts ■■ How might changing this benefit me?
which can be altered if the client is taught
how to do this. By changing the thoughts The cognitive-behavioural approach
associated with events, the client can focuses on difficulties which are
learn how to change their behaviour. present right now, and depends upon
the client and the therapist developing
The focus is on self-motivated a common view on the individual’s
behavioural change and so for a problem. Following this, the life coach
cognitive behavioural approach to work, develops strategies to help the client.
the client needs to understand where These strategies are continuously
their own behaviours have been harmful monitored and re evaluated. Some of
or a hindrance to their wellbeing or the strategies used may be borrowed
progress. When applied as CBC, it is directly from CBT such as ‘thought
used as a non-therapeutic approach report forms’ which can be used by the
to change, to deal with non-clinical client to record thoughts, behaviours,
problems. It is assumed that the client and events during the week. Other
has the necessary skills to solve their techniques may be borrowed from other
own problems, but that they are not using approaches such as ‘miracle questions’
them, or that they are just not using them from solution-orientated approaches.
in the right way. CBC looks to improve
a client’s performance by overcoming CBC is a two-pronged approach. On the
mental blocks rather than healing. one hand there is the cognitive aspect
which is concerned with helping the
Our beliefs and attitudes about client to alter their faulty thoughts which
situations in life are often our biggest may be stopping them from being able to
change, and on the other hand there is

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the behavioural aspect where the coach may be used by asking “If a miracle took
helps the client to undertake behavioural place and your problem was solved,
exercises to help bring about change. how would you know it was solved?”
and “What would be different?” The
The CBC approach can be used to help latter question changes the way the
anyone irrespective of culture, gender, problem is perceived.
and abilities though its systematic
approach may be perceived as too Exception questions encourage the
simplistic for high achievers. It is useful client to think about times when things
for addressing one issue at a time and were different; when a problem did not
so may be appropriate where there is exist - what were they doing, thinking
only one issue, but by the same token feeling? Clients are helped to realise
it could be restrictive where a more that problems have not always been
holistic understanding of the individual present and are thereby encouraged to
is required. It does, however offer find their inner strengths and resources
ways of measuring change and the and do more of what appeared to
various models such as Albert Ellis’s control the problem, as well as to
A-B-C model (antecedents, behaviours, generate new solutions or goals. Goals
consequences) offer a useful framework are set as small achievable ones which
for the coach and client to work with. It can be used to work up to larger goals.
can be a useful approach in areas such
as adapting to change, developing new Scaling questions may be used to rate
skills, and reducing stress levels. It is feelings or moods, or other things which
also very useful for identifying goals. cannot be readily observed e.g. anxiety,
fear, confidence, motivation. For instance,
SOLUTION-ORIENTATED in coaching the coach might ask the client
how, on a scale of one to ten, they would
APPROACH rate their anxiety when they thought about
This approach is derived from solution- a particular goal after several sessions.
orientated therapy which is a counselling Let’s say one is how anxious they felt at
approach that focuses solely on the beginning of the coaching relationship,
solutions and the future, and does not and ten is how anxious they would feel
consider the past and the problems it if the miracle (goal) were achieved, then
may have generated. It was originally any improvement can open up further
developed as a purposeful shift away exploration of what it was that led to the
from the typical problem-focused improvement, and what might be needed
therapies. Strategies used might include to move further up the scale.
asking questions which assume that
goals will be achieved and which may Advocates of this approach suggest
have several answers so as to keep the that people create their own life stories
focus on goals, solutions and the future. or narratives and that they use these
to convince themselves that they are
The types of questions asked include unable to make changes or achieve
miracle questions, exception questions goals. However, the solution-focused
and scaling questions. These questions approach holds that nothing is permanent
are designed to empower the individual and so change is inevitable. Narratives
by leading them to define their own are constantly changing. Likewise,
goals. For instance, miracle questions problems are not always present or so
troublesome. The coach uses questions
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and conversations which encourage the approach requires that the client lets go of
client to move away from narratives which illusions, takes a realistic perspective, and
are holding them back, to imagine a future becomes fully involved in the present as a
where they have achieved their goals, basis for movement into the future.
and in doing so, to discover solutions
which enable them to achieve small goals
MOTIVATIONAL APPROACH
and targets - which leads them towards
attaining their ultimate goals. Focusing on A motivational approach focuses on
solutions is said to be more motivating to boosting the person’s self-esteem,
the client, than focusing on problems. and overcoming self-doubt and fear of
failure. Here, the client’s emotions and
Throughout the coaching relationship, attitudes are the key factors, and the
the coach looks for signs of achievement of goals is a means to
improvement and for the achievement change negative attitudes into positive
of targets and minor goals and uses attitudes. In order to work, this approach
this to praise and encourage the client. requires the client’s willingness to let go
The client is asked to keep doing more of self-defeating attitudes.
of what seems to be working. Problems
are not dwelled upon in any great detail. None of these approaches require
Homework tasks are set at the end of the life coach to delve into deeper
sessions and feedback is given. psychological issues. If a life coach
thinks that the client does have deeper
This approach may be suitable for issues or problems, they may refer them
clients who can site exceptions, for to a psychologist or counsellor.
whom scaling questions show some
improvement in the first session, and
who can come up with answers to ASSESSING SUCCESS
miracle questions. It is not well suited
to those who blame others for their It is important for the life coach and
problems, for those who set goals which client to keep a check on whether
are beyond their own control, or those strategies are working, and what is not
who do not volunteer for coaching. working. This may be done by keeping
logbooks or diaries, where clients
record changes that occur. They may
REALITY-BASED APPROACH write down when they succeed, times
The reality based approach is a variation they do not and why this might have
of the CBT approach. It focuses on happened, if they have lost weight,
identifying the client’s current reality (what got an interview, applied for a job etc.
their situation really is, and what they This can then be used to assess their
really are and do), and comparing it to progress, and where successes have
the client’s desired reality (what they want been achieved, these can be used to
their situation to be and who they really encourage the client and as a means of
want to be). Then, the client is helped to setting new goals.
identify strengths and potentials within
the current reality that can be developed Similarly, the client might keep records
to move towards a realistic desired or report forms which detail specific
reality. The focus is on understanding quantities. For instance, a client who
and accepting what is as a starting point wishes to quit smoking might keep a
for future action. In order to work, this daily record of how many cigarettes
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they smoke so they can monitor their perceivable improvements, however


progress (or lack of it). minor, and offering encouragement
where appropriate.

ONGOING SUPPORT
Unlike counselling, life coaching does
not have to end once a goal has been
achieved or a problem is overcome.
The life coaching relationship may
continue indefinitely.

A client may come to a life coach with


one issue, such as losing weight, but
A client could keep a in the process other issues may arise,
daily record of how many such as lack of self-esteem, wanting a
cigarettes they smoke new career, and so on. The client may
choose to work with these new goals
to monitor their progress. at the same time as the original goal.
Alternatively, they may put the new
goals to one side until they have worked
An agreement between the life coach and successfully on the original goal. In other
the client on specific goals is important. cases, they may choose to re-prioritise
For example, the coach and client agree their goals on the basis of what now
that the client should apply for five jobs a seems most important in light of newly
week. Some of these jobs may be ones discovered goals, and move to another
that the client thinks they are capable one. If this situation arises, as a coach
of, and some that might be outside their you should help the client to establish
comfort zone. The client may record the their new goal order but again be mindful
jobs they apply for to discuss with the life of whether these goals are smart.
coach at their next meeting.
It should always be borne in mind that
Adjustments may need to be made to it is unhealthy to encourage clients to
goals (both minor and ultimate goals) become dependent on the life coach.
and reassessed throughout the course The idea is to help clients to fulfil their
of a coaching relationship. potential, not to have then rely on you
for their feelings of success. Whilst
Other strategies such as rating scales there is no need to end a coaching
and self-reports are also useful means relationship because a main goal has
of assessing success. If scales of nought been achieved, especially if the client
or one to ten are used, then this provides has established other goals, it would
more increments and therefore even be exploiting the client if these goals
subtle improvements can be monitored. were neither achievable or relevant. A
conscientious coach will always ask
Whichever methods and techniques are themselves whether they are doing a
used, the coach can help to improve disservice to the client by continuing to
the number and level of successes provide support, and always keep the
by providing positive feedback for any clients best interests in mind.
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CHAPTER 3 GETTING YOURSELF RIGHT FIRST

In order to be able to offer a professional service to clients, a life


coach has to have resolved issues in their own life and be in the
right frame of mind to mentor others. There is little sense in trying to
guide others to improve their lives if the coach feels that there are
voids in their own.
As a coach, you will often be viewed
as a role model to your clients - they
WHAT TOOLS DOES A
will observe your reactions, your facial LIFE COACH NEED
expressions, your physical presence,
the way you walk and talk, and they will Whilst coaches may come from a range
listen to what you have to say. They of backgrounds and there is no specific
may even hang on to your every word, background required or previous
and attempt to emulate you. If you employment area which sets some out
appear to be festooned in self-doubt, as having an advantage, there are skills
lack energy and enthusiasm, are unsure which can be learnt or enhanced to
about what you are saying, or if you are improve effectiveness as a life coach.
offering advice on how to lose weight
but are carrying an excessive amount of As we have said earlier, some life
it yourself - you may appear to be less coaches may focus on specific areas,
than convincing to your clients. such as business coaching, weight
loss, careers counselling, and so on.
Other coaches may prefer to work
with a wide range of client concerns.
So the skills required by life coaches
may vary considerably depending on
their specialties. However, there are
some skills that most life coaches will
require in order to work successfully
with clients, and so as to run their own
successful life coaching practice.

FOCUS
A coach needs to be able to focus on
the client they are working with and the
issue at hand. This sounds obvious, but
if they are not able to focus on what the
client is saying and pay attention, then
A coach needs to be able important issues can be missed.
to focus on the client they
are working with and the ORGANISATIONAL SKILLS
issue at hand. A coach needs to be able to organise
their time well. They should be able to

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make appointments, allow sufficient NETWORKING


time and be prepared. How can a
client be expected to trust them to help Linked to marketing skills is networking.
their time management if the coach Life coaches need to be approachable,
themselves turns up late without the personable, friendly and helpful. They
correct information they require? should be enthusiastic, empathic
and have a sense of humour and
patience. Possessing these qualities
BUSINESS SKILLS can obviously be important in helping
Business skills are important. A coach clients to gain new customers, but also
needs to be able to keep satisfactory new business contacts. Networking
accounts or books, plan their diary, amongst business associates is now
keep up to date with their taxes, quite common. This may be done
insurance and so on. Anything that in the virtual world via online social
would be required from anyone running networking, forums, and so on, but it
a business will be required by the self- can also be done through ‘traditional’
employed life coach. face-to-face meetings. Business
people in a specific town may meet up
at regular events, such as luncheons
MARKETING or breakfasts, social events and
so on. Professionals belonging to
A coach may be the most brilliant coach
certain associations are also likely to
on the planet, but if no-one knows about
attend regular meetings. A life coach
them and their services, they will not
might attend seminars, workshops,
gain any clients and make any income,
or conferences held by related
so marketing can be very important.
professions where they can make new
A coach may use paid advertising,
acquaintances with other professionals
such as in newspapers, magazines, or
who might refer clients unsuited to their
website adverts, but there are also other
line of work to the coach. There are
forms of advertising that can be free
many different ways that a life coach
such as the use of social media such as
can make themselves known.
twitter, facebook, blogging, forums, and
so on. The life coach may also choose
to have their own website, perhaps Imagine a life coach who works with
with a contact enquiry form where a people to help them change their
client can make a brief enquiry to see careers and improve their businesses.
whether their goal(s) is something They may attend monthly business
the coach is able to help them with. meetings with people in Town B. By
They may also rely on word of mouth doing so, they start talking to potential
where satisfied past clients give them clients, or people who may know
a positive appraisal to potential new potential clients – their name becomes
clients (though this obviously takes a known, they develop a reputation and
little time to establish). Those with a can gain clients for their business now,
website might include client testimonials as well as promote the likelihood of
to promote their services. A coach may future business.
take many steps to ensure that clients
in their area know where they are, and
what they can help them with.

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PROBLEM SOLVING Imagine a young father goes to visit


a life coach. His wife is the main
An important skill for any life coach is breadwinner and he has therefore
problem solving. A client goes to see decided to stay at home and care for
a life coach so that they can achieve the children. The children are close
their goals. They may not see how to to starting school and he has set up
change their behaviour or resolve a his own business working from home.
problem, but a life coach needs to be This has proved quite successful and
able to listen to what they say and make is getting better and better. He comes
suggestions on how they can change to you because he wants to find ways
their life. Without this ability, the life to improve his business, to look at
coach will not really go far. As outlined networking possibilities, and so forth.
previously, to truly help a client, a coach
has to ensure that they are REALLY However, underneath all this, the main
listening to what the client has to say. problem is not growing the business, but
actually his own time management and
So obviously, a very important skill for guilt. He is finding it hard to fit the work
any life coach is ‘listening’. in. His wife is used to him doing the
main caring for the children and is not
LISTENING SKILLS very supportive or willing to change. He
does not know how to find the time to fit
A coach really does need to listen to a his business into his life.
client to be able to accurately determine
what that client needs. Although many
clients will share common problems and
needs, it is a mistake to take a blanket
approach to life coaching, or to assume
that all clients need the same things.

A coach’s first task is to determine


exactly what each client needs. This
requires careful and active listening.

Language is used to express


information. A client may meet with a
life coach and tell the coach a great
deal. But they might also be hiding
information from the coach. This could
be due to embarrassment, fear of
appearing silly or stupid in front of the
life coach, feelings of shame or guilt,
and so on. This information may not
be relevant to the coaching process, A coach’s first task is
but sometimes it may be, so the coach to determine exactly
needs to be able to encourage a client
to feel comfortable and secure with
what each client needs.
them in order that they can reveal This requires listening.
pertinent information.

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Clearly, there are issues relating to his ■■ Be quiet and listen - do not confuse
relationship with his wife and his time listening (which is one set of actions)
management. Then there is the guilt. He with giving advice or suggestions
feels guilty answering work calls or emails, (another set of actions). Your
when he should be with his children. He listening task is to encourage the
is ashamed to admit that he may need client to speak.
additional child care support when the
children start school to grow this business. ■■ Try to work out the main message
All of these issues may be beneath the - ask yourself, “What is the client
surface, but all of these issues may thinking or feeling?” and “What
affect how his business grows. facts do I need to confirm that I
have understood? You can find out
He may not say any of this to the life by asking short, open questions,
coach, but his posture, non-verbal cues such as “How did you feel when that
and some verbal cues may actually happened?” or “What is the main
send a message to the coach that there thing that you dislike about that?”
are other issues involved.
■■ Check that you understand what
Therefore, a coach must be prepared to the client is actually trying to
communicate. You can do this by
‘actively’ listen to each client in order to
‘clarification’ and ‘paraphrasing’.
better understand what the client really
Clarification means finding out
thinks and feels.
exactly what the other person
means. You can do this with an
‘Active listening’ involves listening on
open question like, “Can you explain
several levels: listening to the words the
what you mean by ‘fear of failure’
client says; listening to the tone of voice
so that I understand exactly what
and language used; and observing the
you’re saying?” Paraphrasing means
client’s body language.
checking that you have understood
something by re-stating it in your
This holistic approach to listening will own words. For example, you might
provide the coach with many clues to ask, “So what you are saying is that
the client’s real attitude and feelings, you feel that everyone is dumping
which may not be expressed in words, responsibility for managing the family
and which may even be hidden by the on you. Is that correct?” or “Can I
client’s words. Some basic guidelines to just check that I have understood
active listening are as follows: you? I think you are saying that…Do
I have an accurate picture?”
■■ Maintain eye contact - to show
that you are really interested in ■■ Accept the person’s feelings -
what the client has to say. This will without judgement or opinion.
also encourage the client to speak
more freely. (However, since some ■■ Remain calm, unemotional and
cultures discourage sustained empathetic - your role as a coach is
eye contact, take your cue from to be receptive, to try to understand
the client. If he/she makes eye the client and support him/her through
contact, so can you; but if the client change and growth, not to judge.
continually averts his/her eyes, you Empathy is the quality of showing
might be wiser to do the same). care without becoming involved.
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Giving Clear Instructions


Instructions should always be clear,
not only to you, but also to the client.
This means that you must consider
the following:

■■ What the client already knows

■■ What must be explained

■■ How much the client can absorb at


one time

■■ How to help the client remember all


the instructions

■■ How to ensure that the client has


A summary after a understood your instructions completely.
coaching session allows
the client to say if you are Some guidelines for giving clear
instructions are:
on or off track.
■■ Begin by getting the client’s
complete attention, perhaps by
■■ Summarise - you should always pointing out what can be gained
check what you think the client from carrying out the task.
really wants and needs, and ensure
that the client agrees with you that ■■ Go over the whole process first, and
these are his or her main needs. describe the desired result, again
A summary is where you make a emphasising how the client will benefit.
short statement about what you
believe the client has said. You ■■ Describe the process in
might summarise after a period of chronological order.
time within a coaching session, and
you should always do so at the end ■■ Note any safety considerations or
of the session. The summary could contingencies.
relate to what they are seeking and
■■ Demonstrate to the client what
any obstacles that are in the way.
should be done where possible.
For instance, you might say “If I
have heard you correctly, you would ■■ Encourage the client to ask
like to achieve X but you’re not sure questions and clarify, and explain
if you can because of Y. Does that your answers fully to them.
sound right?” Having the check at
the end allows the client to say no if ■■ Set any timeline for the task, if required.
you are off track and they can then
explain once more what they were ■■ Repeat the objective of the
trying to say. This may stimulate instructions, and what successful
considerable discussion. completion looks like.
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WHAT GUIDES YOUR the client that they will book meetings
and answer calls between 9am to 8pm
ACTIONS Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays,
9am to 5pm Tuesdays and Thursdays,
When working with clients, we need to 9am to 3pm Saturdays, and never
consider specific areas: on Sundays. They should therefore
encourage the client to stick to those
■■ Ethical & Legal Issues hours. If they tell the client it is alright
to call at other times, the client may
■■ Risk do so and then there is a suggestion
that their relationship is different or
■■ Profitability – for you and the client somehow more special than those with
other clients, which can again cause
1) ETHICAL AND LEGAL issues. Therefore, the coach needs to
CONSIDERATIONS be strict with their boundaries. They
should always meet each other in a
Anyone working in a profession which professional way.
deals with client welfare owes it to the
client to be as competent as possible. Informed Consent
This means staying up to date with
current thinking, theories, and practices As with counselling, a coach must
and striving to offer the best service you make the client aware of informed
can to your client. consent. This is where the coach
makes the client aware of how the
A life coach needs to be ethical for coaching process will work and the
many reasons; and part of coaching fully informed client agrees to this. It is
others involves helping the client to discussed at the onset of coaching and
establish a work ethic as well. any limitations to the coaching process,
as well as expected outcomes are
Maintaining Boundaries reviewed. As such, the client takes an
active role in the process and they are
An important aspect of coaching is able to make choices of benefit to them.
maintaining boundaries. A client may
come to a coach and reveal personal If a client decides they want to end
and intimate details about themselves the coaching process before goals
that they may not want to tell another have been attained, then their decision
person. This can cause quite an intense should be respected even if they seem
relationship. Therefore, the coach needs to be making good progress or it seems
to be aware of the boundaries to the rather rash. The coach may attempt to
client-coach relationship. They should encourage the client to continue with
make the client aware that there will the coaching if they genuinely believe
be no intimate or personal relationship it to be in the client’s best interest, but
between them. Their relationship is a they should never attempt to coerce the
client-coach professional relationship. client into participation.

They should always talk at the If conflicts arise between the coach and
times which have been specified as client, whether personal, or in relation
appropriate working hours by the coach. to the client’s goals, and these conflicts
For example, the coach may advise cannot be resolved through mediation or
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negotiation, then the coach must either In all professions, confidentiality


end the coaching relationship or refer comprises both ethical oaths and legal
the client to another coach if they are statutes. It is the key to developing a
aware of someone else who might be trusting working relationship between
able to help. the coach and client. Confidentiality
may be breached simply by involving
Confidentiality well-meaning helpers in the coaching
process without first acquiring the
This is also linked to informed consent, client’s consent. The protection of
the coach should make the client aware private client information is paramount
that their meetings are confidential, to encouraging the client to engage
however it is confidentiality with a ‘but’. openly in coaching. Protection of a
For example, if the client reveals that client’s secrets, private thoughts,
they are thinking of harming themselves and feelings are also required by
or have/will harm someone else, they ethical decency. Coaches are obliged
should be aware the coach will report to discuss the nature and scope of
them to appropriate authorities or confidentiality with their clients, and also
services where they can be better reveal any limitations to confidentiality.
helped. Likewise, if a court of law For instance, if the coach is likely to
requested information about the client discuss any aspects of the client’s
from the coach, they would be obliged coaching in a professional manner
to provide it. with supervisors, colleagues, or other
professionals so as to be able to provide
a better service, then they should let
the client know this. Where this may
happen, the coach should protect the
client’s identity by referring to them as
Mr or Mrs X or just using initials.

Professional licensing bodies


incorporate legal and ethical
confidentiality mandates and
highlight them as an important part of
professional practice. All clients are
entitled to confidentiality unless they
have given permission for disclosure.
Even where permission for disclosure
has been granted, secrets and private
thoughts should not be revealed.
Whilst it may not be possible to join
a professional licensing body for life
coaching, depending on your location
and whether or not one exists due to
Confidentiality is key to the relative newness of life coaching
developing a trusting as a profession, you should at least
working relationship familiarise yourself with the ethical
and legal guidelines of the caring
between coach and client. professions such as counselling and
psychology, or contact coaching bodies

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overseas for their guidelines and abide both). Many of the risks involved are
by them. subsumed within the main legal and
ethical considerations which we have
Multicultural Differences already reviewed, and it is the neglect
of these which poses risks which may
As more and more societies become have serious repercussions for the
cosmopolitan, it is important for coach. In terms of the client there are a
the coach to consider multicultural number of things to be wary of.
differences. Since many approaches to
coaching have evolved from techniques Unusual cases - as a coach, you
originally devised for use in counselling may come across some unusual
white, middle class, middle aged people cases where a client is seeking
living in Western societies, members to satisfy a goal which may seem
of minority groups are not well catered unethical or potentially illegal. For
for. To treat all clients in the same way instance, they may wish to build up
would be unethical. If a client comes their physical fitness and strength in
to you from a background you are order to physically confront or attack
unfamiliar with, you should take time someone they deem has done them
to try and understand where they are wrong, or they may wish to build up
coming from so that you can relate to the confidence to mount a legal battle
them in an appropriate manner. in a case which could disadvantage
an innocent third party. If you were to
Legalities assist the client in their ambition you
may find yourself under investigation. If
There are different legal requirements you have any doubt about the legality or
in different countries. A life coach morality of a client’s goals you should
should always check on the legal politely refuse to work with them.
requirements of working with clients
before proceeding with life coaching Risks to the client - the most obvious
work. As well as supporting a client, a psychological risk to the client is that you
life coach also needs to ensure that they are unable to help them attain their goals.
are protected from legal issues, public In this case, they may feel less confident
liability, and so on. This means taking about themselves and feel worse overall
out appropriate insurance policies and/ than they did before they came to see
or becoming a member of a suitable you. This is why setting achievable and
professional body. realistic goals is so important, and why
goals need to be carefully monitored and
2) RISKS adjusted where necessary.

Risks are an important issue in life Another psychological risk is that a


coaching, and are things which will client comes to see you when in reality
guide a coaches actions. We will look they need help from a health care
at risk management in greater detail in professional such as a psychologist or
chapter 5. Here we shall briefly review psychiatrist. It is extremely important to
some potential risks. refer these people on rather than attempt
to help them, unless you are qualified to
Risks are a factor in any profession. do so. Setting goals is not going to help
In life coaching the risks involved them overcome underlying disorders and
may affect the client or the coach (or may only exacerbate their symptoms.
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3) PROFITABILITY
For whatever reasons a life coach has
decided to work with clients, another
aspect of their daily work they also
need to consider is profitability. A life
coach should not take on a client if
they feel that they probably cannot help
them, this would be unprofessional
and unscrupulous. From the client’s
perspective, you need to be able to
help them in order for them to profit
personally from the experience.
The coach’s ability to help may be
determined through discussion when
a client first makes contact, or it may
be determined through an introductory
interview. A coach should disclose
whether a fee is payable if they do
Gathering as much not take on the client after an initial
information as possible interview.
about a client will help you Of course, an introductory screening
to avoid making dubious session is very helpful, but you may
decisions or offering still find some clients get through this
before you realise that you are not
erroneous suggestions. really helping them. As soon as you
pick up on this you should inform the
client as you have a duty to always
Physical risks towards the client are also do what is best by them. You might
an important consideration. For instance, consider offering some sort of refund,
you should not instruct a client who has a percentage of the fee, if after several
physical post-surgery complications to sessions you feel that you will not be
undertake strenuous exercise which able to get them to where they want
could cause them discomfort, pain, to be in the long run. It is much better
or relapse. Likewise, you shouldn’t to be open and honest than to have
instruct a client to run along an inner disgruntled clients who may bad mouth
city route which encourages them to your business.
cross hazardous road junctions. If you
advise a client to eat a particular diet Many life coaches choose to charge
then you need to know that they do not a set fee for an hour’s meeting with
have specific allergies to any of the their clients, but what if a client keeps
ingredients they may consume, and phoning you up for support? You may
have the appropriate education and find that actually you have five hours
understanding of nutritional needs. contact with them, but are only paid for
Gathering as much information as one. So when supporting a client, you
possible about a client will help you need to ensure that you are specific
to avoid making dubious decisions or as to what they are paying for. For
offering erroneous suggestions. example, you may charge them a set
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fee for a block of hours, let’s say for 10 One-On-One - this usually involves an
hours support to be reviewed at the end individual coach having supervision with
of that time, or you may charge them for a more experienced supervisor from the
each individual hour of support. same discipline and area of practice.
Often it will be that the coach attends
Some life coaches charge a weekly sessions with a supervisor whose
fee which includes additional email or experience is in a different area and
telephone support up to a specified who works in a different location since
amount per week. Others may charge most life coaches are self-employed.
a higher fee for the initial consultation
and then a reduced rate for ongoing Group - this occurs when a group of
support. Whichever payment method professionals contract with a designated
you choose, a client should be fully supervisor (usually someone with more
aware of what it includes and whether or professional experience). In this context,
not you will charge for additional phone individuals learn through dialogue
calls, emails, or other forms of contact among peers and guidance from the
should they be required. supervisor. This is a common form
of supervision. There are three main
types:
SUPERVISION
■■ A group of professionals meeting
Supervision ensures that a coach with a designated professional
continues to develop professionally supervisor.
and is able to continue to offer the best
service they can to their clients. Some ■■ A group of professionals offering
life coaches may pay for additional peer supervision to each other
supervision from a more experienced without a designated professional
life coach as a way to help them supervisor. This is sometimes
improve as a coach. Given the relative known as ‘network supervision’.
lack of life coaches in some countries or
regions, it may be necessary to employ ■■ A team of staff who work together
the supervisory services of other types may also engage in group
of coach, such as a business coach, or supervision.
to engage with professional supervisors
outside the coaching industry. In some Self-Supervision - this is the process
cases, self-supervision may be the by which supervisees’ assume shared
coaches only option but this could be responsibility for improving their own
enhanced by attending appropriate instructional effectiveness. Self-
workshops or seminars. supervision might entail analysis
of videotaped instruction, peer
TYPES OF SUPERVISION observations, peer teaching, developing
and working toward professional
Supervision can occur in a range of growth plans, professional reading,
formats though one-to-one and group and participating in professional
supervision are most usual. Each development activities.
type has its own advantages and
disadvantages and the chosen method Agency Supervision - this is the activity
will depend on what is the most suitable of overseeing service quality with a
or available for the coach. series of checks and balances. This
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may include review of work processes, for many of the benefits of face-to-
output, clinical skill development, record face meetings, with the convenience
keeping, and outcomes. It would only be of not having to travel, and being
appropriate for a large organisation but able to access people who are not
is probably not suited to coaches. geographically close. For a new industry
like life coaching this can be a real
Delivery Methods advantage as if there are not other life
coaches in your area you will still have
Supervision sessions may be access to life coaches around the world.
arranged so that the coach achieves This type of supervision compared
a certain number of hours per annum. to face-to-face sessions does have
The preferred way to do this would the disadvantage of requiring a good
be to have supervision at regular internet connection, and the supervisor
intervals throughout the year, for will generally only be able to perceive
instance, a one hour session every facial expressions, rather than the
two weeks. The traditional method of opportunity to read the supervisee’s full
delivery is in person but these days body language. Other types of online
with improvements in technology supervision rely on the written word,
coupled with the difficulties some via email or “real-time” online sessions.
coaches or supervisors may face in These types of sessions will have a
physically getting to meeting sites, delay in response times. The supervisor
telephone and online counselling have may ask more questions than usual
become acceptable. to support their understanding of the
coach’s issues. The coach may not
Telephone supervision - this can be as be able to answer all these questions
productive and supportive as face-to- adequately but the process relies on
face supervision. The main difference the coach giving enough appropriate
being that body language is not a factor information to enable productive work
when working over the phone. This to take place. The supervisor may also
should not detract from the process mentor the coach between supervision
and, indeed, it can prove supportive sessions if necessary. Using email
because distractions are kept to a supervision usually means that the
minimum which can help to increase coach does a lot of work for themselves,
concentration and focus. Therefore, guided and supported by the supervisor.
telephone supervision can work faster
than meeting in person. Also, working The absence of face-to-face cues can
with a telephone supervisor may enable have a large impact on the supervisory
some coaches to express themselves relationship because both the coach
more freely since they have a sense of and supervisor have no visual or oral
anonymity. information at their disposal. Therefore,
even the subtle cues from voices we
Online - this can prove as effective as may experience on the telephone
face-to-face and telephone supervision, are lost. Whilst it’s true that people
but it is different again. One popular who frequently converse in written
method used is Skype, or a similar form can develop a sophisticated,
application that allows the supervisor expressive way of communicating
and supervisee to see each other’s with others this is not always the case
faces, as well as hear their voices. and so some information may not be
This method of communication allows conveyed accurately.
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In addition, the lack of face-to-face the supervisor will need to clarify how
cues can create an ambiguity in the often they will check their emails and
message. Without seeing their body the timeframe in which they will reply
language, we may not be sure what to emails. In emails there may be a
a person means. This can stir our need to present things formally rather
imagination or force us to project our than as a conversation, so this may
own ideas or wishes onto the person. delay responses.
The lack of face-to-face cues can have
different effects on different people. It
may reduce the sense of intimacy, trust,
and commitment in the supervisory
relationship. Typed text can feel
impersonal, lacking empathy, and so on.
Some people need face-to-face cues
or they may feel less able to be honest
and close. Conversely, other people
may like the ability to be distant from
the supervisor but one would question
whether this will lead to an effective
supervisory process.

How Does Written Online


Supervision Work?
There are two main ways that it
works, either by email or real-time
online sessions. With real-time
sessions, the coach would arrange During a real-time
an appointment and be online at the
same time as the supervisor using session, if the connection
a ‘live’ messaging service so as to fails, there is always the
enable them to speak to each other in telephone.
‘real-time’. The disadvantage of this
arrangement is that it relies on typing
speed and accuracy. However, these
problems may disappear over time and One of the main problems with this
with experience. type of supervision is that technology
does fail - emails refuse to work, get
The other option is via email. A series lost in cyberspace, computers crash,
of emails may be equivalent to a and so forth. Therefore, emails should
session. The supervisor and coach will be acknowledged as soon as possible,
set the times equivalent to an actual to ensure that they are received and
session. The advantage of email is replied to. The coach should be aware
that the supervisor has time to reflect that if a reply is not received within
before answering and is able to re-read a certain time that there may be a
their email. Another advantage is that problem with the supervisor’s email/
the coach can contact the supervisor computer. During a real-time session,
via email with ongoing problems in if the connection fails, there is always
between scheduled meetings. However, the telephone.
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Confidentiality is another issue. is important to recognise burnout in


Both supervisor and coach must clients, but also for the life coach to
consider password protection, secure recognise burnout in themselves.
conferencing, and storage of data. For
example, who else may have access In life coaching, this is obviously not
to the data? Also, the supervisor and something that would be helpful to
supervisee need to ensure they have the coach or the client, but will hinder,
their comments carefully and securely and ultimately destroy the coaching
stored and are using their computer process if left unchecked. A life coach
in a confidential way. Online work needs to be able to help the client to
may change in the future with further change, by being positive and offering
improvements in technology - we’ve encouragement. If they are not able to
already seen how webcams, Skype, do this because they are burned out
online conferencing, and so forth have from helping others, then they will not
had an impact. Online supervision really be supportive to their clients.
requires similar skills to face-to-face
supervision but the supervisor needs to Most life coaches really enjoy life
be aware of the differences in the two coaching, but it can also be stressful.
types of supervision. This constant stress without relief can
leave a life coach feeling helpless and
DEBRIEFING worn out. When a person is burnt out,
they may find their problems seem
Supervision can include debriefing. insurmountable. This can threaten their
A debrief is where a coach may tell life coaching practice, their relationships
a more experienced coach about a and their own health. It is important to
difficult situation they have experienced deal with burnout as soon as a coach
in their coaching and look at ways they recognises that they have it. The
could have handled this better. Anyone longer burnout is allowed to carry on,
who works in intense relationships with the harder it is to break away from the
others needs to debrief so as to avoid feelings of burnout.
burnout. Whilst supervision offers one
way of doing this there are many other Besides affecting your life coaching
ways that a coach can learn to wind practice, burnout can start to affect
down after a challenging session. your own personal and social life. It can
make a coach vulnerable to illnesses
such as colds, flu, and so on.
WHAT IS BURNOUT?
Burnout is a psychological term that Burnout can be due to stress, but it is
is used to describe the experience not the same as feeling stressed. When
of diminished interest and long term we feel stressed, it is because we have
exhaustion that can be experienced too much to deal with. People who
by anyone, but particularly those who are stressed often feel that if they get
are involved in stressful professions. everything under control that they will
It is almost considered an emotional feel better. Burnout is about not enough.
exhaustion and reduced sense of The person may feel empty, lacking in
personal accomplishment. This may motivation and beyond caring. They do
include feelings of exhaustion, inefficacy not see any hope of positive change in
and cynicism, and a lack of energy. It their life. So they disengage from their
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situation and begin to feel detached ■■ Exercise regularly - exercise


and worthless. not only stimulates our muscles
and bodily systems, but it also
encourages the brain to release
endorphins which make us feel
good. A healthy body promotes a
healthy mind. Make time to engage
in a sporting activity - this gives
you the opportunity to exercise and
socialise at the same time.

■■ Sleep well - between seven and


eight hours sleep per day is
regarded by health professionals to
be paramount to optimal health.

Eight hours sleep per ■■ Set boundaries – a coach needs


day is regarded by to be able to say “no” to requests
on their time. As before, they need
health professionals to set boundaries of when they are
to be paramount to available to clients and also within
optimal health. their personal life. Take regular
breaks in your daily work, take at
least one day off per week, and take
the occasional holiday.
If a coach recognises they have
burnout, or a client is burnt out, they ■■ Take breaks from technology -
may follow strategies such as: you should set times when they
completely disconnect from
■■ Starting each day with relaxing technology. This means no laptop,
rituals - rather than jumping out of tablet, texting, mobile phone, phone
bed straight into the day, they can calls, and emails. Moving away from
try writing in a journal, doing gentle technology for brief periods can lead
stretching exercises, reading a few to more business, for instance you
pages of a book. might think about a new service you
wish to offer, or you might use the
■■ Try to eat healthily - certain foods time to plan where you would like to
and additives or preservatives can go on holiday.
build up toxins in our bodies which
may affect our daily performances ■■ Nourish your creative side – as well
and behaviours. Other substances as allowing time for creativity, a
such as caffeine have addictive way to avoid burnout is also to try
properties which can cause something new, a fun project, a new
psychological disturbances such as hobby, things that have nothing to
mood swings, as well as feelings of do with work.
discomfort when levels are low in
our bodies. Other foods obviously ■■ Learn how to manage stress – employ
increase risks of diseases such as stress management techniques to
heart disease, ulcers, and diabetes. reduce feelings of stress.
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CHAPTER 4 DETERMINING WHAT PEOPLE NEED


HELP WITH

People may come to life coaches for a variety of reasons.


Sometimes they have a very clear idea about what they would
like to achieve. Sometimes they may know they want to change
something but they are not quite sure what it is. They might simply
feel dissatisfied in their life. It might be something the coach has
dealt with before or it may be something completely new. A coach
will need to determine what the person needs help with and whether
they are able to help them.
■■ Review their health - in order to
HOW TO DECIDE IF YOU gain a clearer picture you might
CAN HELP want to know about things like the
client’s medical and psychological
A coach needs to decide if they can history i.e. are they taking any
actually help a client or not. There medication? (this could affect their
may be reasons why the coach may ability to engage in exercise, their
not feel they can help the client, as we choice of diet, their concentration,
mentioned before, such as personality etc.), have they had or do they have
clashes, and so forth. A life coach will a mental health disorder? (which
need to talk to the client in an initial could affect their sleeping patterns,
interview before the client and coach self-confidence, anxiety levels, and
decide whether they can work together. so forth), have they suffered any
In order to arrive at this decision, the injuries which affects their motor
coach may: skills, and so on?

■■ Interview the client - to gain a


better understanding of what the
client wants and how feasible their
goals are. They may also draw
upon observational data during the
interview such as body language,
tone of voice, physical appearance,
and so on.

■■ Ask them to complete a


questionnaire - a general lifestyle
questionnaire or perhaps one
pertaining to a specific area e.g. A questionnaire might also
self-esteem. A questionnaire might
also be used as a screening tool be used as a screening
prior to an interview. tool prior to an interview.

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■■ Look at the client’s past experiences they may also be experiencing stress
- do they have any experience which or burnout, so this can also be affecting
would help them to achieve their their ability to make decisions and the
goals. running of their business.

■■ Consider your own past experiences People with profound emotional


and similar cases - if you share no disturbances such as anxiety and
common experiences with the client depressive disorders are not the type of
in the area with which they seek client a life coach should deal with. They
help, or have had no similar cases, will respond better to psychological
will you still be able to help them? interventions and should be referred on
(you might, but you should consider to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
this carefully).
However, those with mild anxiety
■■ Consider your own personal issues associated with feeling unable to
experiences – will they have achieve goals, lack of confidence, low
an effect on your work that is self-esteem, and so forth can possibly
detrimental to the coaching session? be helped by a life coach. Obviously,
For example, if you have had a you need to determine the severity of
negative experience that your client any emotional issues to see whether it
is currently experiencing you may is feasible to work with the client.
have an emotional response to
their situation so may not be able to
effectively support them. RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

If a life coach cannot help the client, Relationship issues are often (but not
then they should point them towards always) related to other problems.
another coach or professional who
possibly can. People need relationships in their
lives to be “balanced” and complete.
As we said earlier, sometimes clients These relationships can be with family,
are not open about what their real friends, colleagues (work mates),
issues are, so a life coach will have neighbours and others. When any of
to try and find as much information as the relationships in a life come under
possible from the client to be able to pressure, this creates a stress that can
help them. impact upon everything else.

A life coach can help with repairing


AREAS FOR COACHING damaged relationships, creating
missing relationships, teaching
We shall now look at some specific positive communication strategies and
areas where help may be needed. finding solutions to problems within
relationships. Problems in a relationship
EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS may be caused by the client; perhaps
by the other party; or sometimes simply
What emotions is the client by the circumstances. It may not be the
experiencing? The client may come to fault of anyone.
a life coach for support to improve how
they work, or for business coaching, but

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A coaching session can help the client a life coach can encourage a client to
to identify and understand the problems swap their negative behaviours with
they are having with relationships, what positive ones.
role they play in the problems, and what
they can do to make positive changes. WORK PROBLEMS
The life coach can provide an objective
view to the clients’ relationships, giving Most adults spend a large portion of
a perspective that the client may not their time at work. There are many
receive from their friends or family. issues that can arise in the workplace
that can make people unhappy or
PHYSICAL HEALTH dissatisfied. A life coach’s role is to help
the client identify the issues at work that
A client may come to a life coach for are causing them grief, and developing
help with a range of physical issues, strategies to improve the situation. For
such as obesity, fitness, diet, fitness some people this may mean changing
after disability, smoking, drinking, and so their attitude about their job, for others
on. You might think why would someone it may mean scheduling a meeting with
who is overweight come to a life coach? their boss to discuss their future with
Well most people who are overweight the company and what their options for
will have tried a range of fitness clubs, promotion or up-skilling may be. For
diets, and so on - but they have not other people examining their work life
worked or, if they have, they have not may lead them to the realisation that
been able to sustain the improvements. they are not happy in their career and
would like to move in another direction,
Therefore, they may come to a life possibly engaging in further studies.
coach to look at ways in which they
can change their habits and lifestyle. Other people may need support to
Someone who is overweight might be find work. This may include direction
set a number of minor goals such as: as to what area they would like to gain
employment in, confidence to apply and
■■ Walking up to the stairs (at home interview for a job, setting goals and
or at work - instead of using the action steps for gaining skills for their
elevator). dream job, and so on.

■■ Swapping unhealthy snacks or Clients may also come to see a life


treats for healthier options coach seeking business advice. For life
coaches that specialise in this area,
■■ Taking a packed lunch to work with they will be able to support their client
them instead of buying fast food or with a range of advice, from business
canteen food for lunch (to ensure planning to time management, and
they stick to a set diet) marketing to personnel management.
For the life coach that doesn’t specialise
All of these can be simple steps in this area, they may be able to help
to change how a person eats and their client with setting goals, and
behaves, but sometimes the client may managing their own emotions and
not see how to make the changes, or behaviour around their business, but
they may need someone to offer them may refer the client to a coach that
moral support - someone they can work specialises in business for specific
with to help keep them on track. So, business strategies.
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FINANCIAL PROBLEMS PROBLEM SOLVING


Unless the life coach is renowned for A coach may look at how the client deals
their skills in this type of coaching, it with problems. Do they create problems
is unlikely that a client will seek out a that are not really there? Are they good
life coach solely for coaching in their at solving problems? Do they look at
finances, but this may be a contributing a range of options or are they narrow
or related factor to other problems minded in how the resolve problems? A
the client comes to see you for. Life coach may need to encourage a client to
coaches should have some knowledge “think outside the box”.
about finances (in order to efficiently
run and manage their own business), Sometimes just by taking the time to talk
and therefore be able to offer guidance about and examine a problem the client
to their clients. They will however will be able to come up with their own
need to be careful to avoid specific solution to the problem. If they are still
financial management advice (such as struggling to come up with a solution,
suggesting investments) unless qualified often rewording or reframing a problem
to do so. can enable a client to see it from a
different perspective and to come up
with different solutions.

Part of problem solving is the ability


to make, and stick to a decision (there
is more on being decisive in the next
section). To do this the client may need
to come up with a range of different
solutions and, with the support of the
Financial problems may be life coach, decide which solution is the
most appropriate. After committing to
a contributing or related this decision and trying it out for a while,
factor to other problems. the client may find that this solution
doesn’t work for them. Because they
went through the process of coming up
Generally speaking, the type of work a with a range of solutions, they will have
life coach could do in this area includes: other solutions to come back to and try.
The life coach can play an important
role in this by helping the client to see
■■ Teaching basic skills such as
the problem from different angles, and
keeping financial records or making
helping them determine when it is time
a budget
to try a different approach.
■■ Determine a process to work
through in order to get their finances ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING
in order AND BEING DECISIVE
■■ Help clients connect with the Assertiveness training includes learning
experts who can help, whether how to give and take criticism. Some
financial advisors, sources of clients may find this hard. They may
funding banks etc. feel “put upon” and worn down. They
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may not recognise that accepting the Poor time management is common. Life
criticism is a means by which they can coaches commonly hear the complaint
improve themselves, or acknowledge “I don’t have time to do that”, or “I don’t
that by offering criticism someone may have enough hours in the day”.
be trying to help them. A coach can
help the client to look at why a person The Pareto Principle (20/80 rule) states:
may say the things they did, and help
the client to make use of that criticism 80% of what you achieve, comes from
as a way to move on and improve their 20% of what you do, therefore 80% of
performance and behaviour. what you do only accounts for 20% of
what you achieve.
Some clients may find it hard to make
decisions. This may because of their Revealing and emphasising this rule to a
personality. It may be because they client can often have a significant impact.
are stressed, tired, or have so much
on their plate that decisions are hard. A life coach can sit down with a client
There may seem to be so much going and encourage them to think about how
on in their lives that there are no they plan their day, what they are doing,
easy answers. Imagine that a simple and so on. They may find they have so
decision like working an extra day a much to do that they do not sit down and
week affects so many other areas of plan what they have to do. Spending five
their life – their children, childcare, who minutes each day looking at the tasks
will look after them, they will have less they HAVE to do that day and prioritising
time for household chores, who will do them can be more helpful, than simply
that, will they pay for someone to do the ploughing into all your tasks.
chores, can they fit them in at another
time, do they want to work another Imagine a case of a young woman
day, will it help financially if they have named Jane. She has to write two
to pay for childcare and a cleaner, is reports by the end of the week. She
their work pushing them to do another finds it hard to fit them in. Every
day and they don’t want to? and so on, morning she plans to write the reports,
and so on. but she starts looking at emails, making
phone calls, working on a project that
All of these factors can make it hard is not due for another month, and by
for a person to make a decision. Wednesday she has not even looked
Sometimes a life coach may simply at the urgent projects. Instead, a coach
need to encourage the person to think can encourage Jane to make better use
– what do they really want? Do they of her time by planning her days better
WANT to work another day a week? Yes through the establishment of small
or no. Then take it from there. achievable goals which ultimately lead
to her accomplishing her main goals.
TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS For example, the coach might suggest
that she works on the project from 9am
As with being decisive, if a person to 11.30am. She then answers emails
feels stressed and worn out with too from 11.30am to 1pm, take lunch from
many demands on them, they may find 1pm to 2pm, and works on the projects
that their time management is not so from 2pm to 3.30pm, before answering
great either. emails and calls from 3.30 to 5pm.
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Indicators of Poor Time ■■ Identify issues that are stopping


Management change (eg. emotional hangups)

Poor time management can impact ■■ Implement management techniques


upon so many other things in a person’s
life. For this reason, and because it is MOTIVATION
so common it is important to always
look out for the following indicators of Helping a client maintain motivation
poor time management. can be a primary benefit for the client
of seeing a life coach, but ultimately
■■ Often being late for meetings, it is not up to the life coach to make
missing deadlines, etc. the changes – the client must be
committed to taking action to make
■■ Hurrying to finish tasks changes in their lives. A client may
come to a life coach with an issue or
■■ Frustration, impatience, decreased problem, but not actually be motivated
motivation to do anything about it. They may
recognise that they have a problem
■■ Poor productivity with their time management, weight,
fitness, or business skills, and so on,
■■ Being indecisive but not actually think that they need to
change. They may not then be REALLY
■■ Low energy, tiredness, reduced motivated to change. A life coach will
sleep, even illness need to clarify this with the client- that
they need to be committed to change
■■ Language can become less clear or they are wasting their own time and
and more verbose money seeing a life coach.

■■ Unwillingness to compromise; In order to help the client with their


expecting perfection from everyone motivation, the life coach will need
else, becoming overly obsessed to help the client determine what it is
with detail that motivates them. Working out the
client’s primary motivator will help them
■■ Feeling overwhelmed, withdrawal to achieve their goals. For example, if
from engaging with others the client’s goal is to lose 10kg weight
because they are getting married, it may
Improving Poor Time be more effective to use visualisations
Management of what they will look like on their
wedding day, or find a picture of a bride
Try the following initiatives: with the figure they would like and place
a picture of their own face and put it
■■ Determine values and goals in life on their fridge, rather than by using a
reward system, such as a holiday or a
■■ Monitor time (Have your client keep special treat.
a diary of what is done each hour of
the day, then sit down and analyse Motivation is not always as simple as the
how their time is used) example given above, and the thing that
appears to be the primary motivator may
■■ Prioritise tasks not actually provide the most motivation.
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Consider the example above, there may


be another reason why the bride to be
wants to lose weight for their wedding.
Her mother may have made a comment
about her weight, and this may be
driving her to look sensational on her
wedding day, she may be motivated
because she wants to see the look on
her husband’s face as she walks down
the aisle with her new svelte figure, she
may be wanting to start a family and
realises that she needs to improve her
health, or they may have an activity
planned for their honeymoon that would
require her to be more fit.

Maslow’s theory of motivation gives a


progression of needs that need to be
filled before moving on to the next level.
These needs are:

1. Physiological needs (hunger, thirst).


This is the first need of man and it
is the one he must attain in order
to exist.

2. Safety needs (security, stability).


When man has food and drink, he
needs a roof over his head. Thus he
provides himself with a roof over his
head, however primitive.

3. Belongingness and love need


(affection and identification). When
he is secure, he requires someone
to love and someone to love him. In
other words he needs the affection
and closeness of others.

4. Esteem needs (prestige and self-


respect). The man now becomes
competitive and he wants to excel. In order to help the client
with their motivation, the
5. The need of self-actualisation. When life coach will need to help
he is at peace with himself and
there is nothing further which he the client determine what
wishes to attain. This is a very rare it is that motivates them.
condition, achieved by very few.

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This theory of needs suggests that the USING DIARIES


“lower level” needs must be filled before
the person is motivated to fill “higher” When you undertake any work with
level needs. So if someone has just clients, it is very useful to encourage
lost their job and is at risk of losing the client to keep a diary or log sheet
their home, they will be more motivated of their behaviour. These should
to satisfy their safety needs than their really focus on the area of concern to
need for affection. them such as weight loss, leadership
skills, self-esteem, and so on. Weekly
There are many techniques that a life changes can then be discussed in the
coach can use to help their clients next session, feedback provided, and
stay motivated. The use of diaries, encouragement offered.
report forms, scaling questions, and so
forth can help to stimulate motivation Also, logs and diaries may be used to
because the client is able to see record events that happen before and
improvements towards targets and goals after a situation (especially for use with
which can spur them on. Sometimes just cognitive behavioural coaching). For
being there for the client can help them example, a client may record that they
stay motivated as they have someone to prepared a report which their employer
be accountable to. was not impressed with. The employer
shouted at them in front of the rest of
office, making the client feel bad.
LEADERSHIP SKILLS
People running their own businesses The coach may encourage the client
and people working in corporations may to record what happened before
seek to improve leadership skills. Those (antecedents) and after (consequences)
working in management or who wish this event. For example, the
to move into supervisory positions or antecedents might include: they had no
to take a more active role in clubs and sleep the night before and did not put
societies may also wish to hone their any effort into the report, they were not
skills in people management. This area remotely interested in the report, they
is linked to assertiveness and decision were supposed to do it with a colleague
making, but a life coach can help a but in the end the colleague did not
client to work directly on their leadership help them, they were annoyed with their
skills and with techniques for working boss and so did not bother to do it well.
with people they supervise and lead. After the employer shouted at them,
the consequences might include: they
Whilst it may seem that some people shouted back at their employer and
are born leaders, there is no such thing walked out, they went and cried in the
as a leadership trait and most people toilet, they went home and got drunk.
in leadership roles will benefit from
coaching in leadership skills. By looking at behaviours before and
after, the life coach can also look at
factors that could affect how the person
is behaving and what may be affecting
them from optimising their performance.

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CHAPTER 5 RISK MANAGEMENT

The life coach’s role is ultimately to help their client to change


areas of their life in order to get to where they want to be. However,
this is not to be done at any cost. A competent coach is always
mindful of the risks associated with achieving rewards. Sometimes
a programme needs to be vastly altered or abandoned altogether in
order to remove risks. Occasionally, client goals may be discarded
from the outset by the coach.

IDENTIFYING RISK
FACTORS
One way of identifying risks is through
an assessment of a client’s strengths
and weaknesses. A life coach may do
this by interviewing the client, asking
them to complete questionnaires,
observing their behaviour in certain
situations. All of this would have to be in
agreement with the client.

Interview Questions
These may be used to assess what
the person is good at and not so good
at. If a client reports that they cannot
climb stairs because they have sciatica
then you wouldn’t instruct them to climb
stairs five times a day as part of a
weight loss programme.
A competent coach is You can conduct a positive asset
always mindful of the search using questions. That is, ask the
risks associated with client about a time when they achieved
success or were good at something.
achieving rewards. Use this to emphasise to the client
that they have certain skills and inner
resources and once you are aware
You wouldn’t expect your G.P. to instruct
what the client’s strengths are, you can
you to run in a local marathon if you had
play to them so as to avoid risking the
dangerously high blood pressure.
client’s well-being.
Likewise, a coach should not agree that
a client sets a goal of going bungee
jumping to overcome a fear of heights if
they have a back problem.

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Physical & Mental Health attend protest rallies? Someone who


Assessment is a risk-taker may be more likely to
come out of their comfort zone (if they
GP reports and accounts of current are in one) and meet the challenges
and past health problems, medications, required to attain their goals, but by
and mental health history are all useful the same token they are also more
items of information, not only in terms likely to underestimate the personal
of goal-setting and deciding if you and risks involved in their actions -
the client are compatible, but also in which could backfire on the coach
the establishment of potential risk. if anything happens to them whilst
Once again the coach would require the under instruction.
client’s agreement and consent for this,
and it should be discussed at the onset Conversely, someone who is scared to
of coaching when confidentiality and take risks will need significantly more
informed consent are discussed and prompting to achieve their goals.
agreed upon.
Emotional Assessment
Cognitive Assessment
Risks to emotional wellbeing include
The coach may perform tests on things like loss of self-esteem, feelings
the client’s cognitive and intellectual of failure, despair, possibly learned
abilities, including problem solving - or
helplessness, heightened anxiety, and
they may request that their client sees
so forth. To avoid the client developing
a clinical psychologist who could test
such problems you should encourage
them and provide reports and analyses
them to steer clear of goals which
of results to confirm or disprove the
are unlikely to be achieved and to set
presence of any suspected cognitive
small achievable goals on the way to
anomalies. If a client has significantly
low IQ you may have to reassess how ultimate goals.
you go about setting goals with them
- you certainly wouldn’t want them to At every opportunity provide
attempt goals which could cause them encouragement and positive feedback
injury or embarrassment. to the client, and if they do something
which works encourage them to do
In most cases, you can probably get more of it.
a good understanding of a client’s
cognitive ability by discussing TAKING CALCULATED RISKS
their educational background and
work history. Clients are often ‘stuck’ in their comfort
zones. This refers to living in a way
Personality where the client feels comfortable
because they are fully familiar with
You may wish to gather information and adept at everything they do, and
about the client’s personality. For where they do not wish to take any risks
example, are they a risk-taker? Do because to do so could lead to failure
they engage in extreme sports, racing, which would invariably lead to feelings
smoking? Are they a heavy drinker, or of discomfort. However, in order to grow
over-eater? Have they transgressed and develop a client needs to move
the law or been arrested? Do they outside that comfort zone. There is
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always some degree of risk taken when other people will laugh at her. A coach
a client is coaxed out of their comfort may encourage her to think about this
zone, but the rewards for the client can – who is going to laugh at her? What is
be quite immense. A life coach will often the worst that could happen? She may
need to encourage the client to move lose weight? Other people go to the
outside their comfort zone in order gym to keep fit and lose weight, so why
to achieve their goals. To do this, the should she be any different?
coach may encourage the client to think:
It is also really important to consider
■■ What will happen if you move the risks associated with not changing.
outside your comfort zone? For example the risks of someone not
improving their health could be health
■■ What would be so bad if you did complications or disease in the future.
XYZ? The risk of someone not finding a new
job is being stuck in the same job for
■■ What do you think would happen if the rest of their life. The risk of not
you tried this? making changes to the way the client
relates to people is dying alone. Just
■■ What would be the worst thing that the thought of the consequences of not
could happen if you tried X? changing can be enough to give people
the strength to make changes.
■■ What would be the worst thing that
could happen if you didn’t try X? Considering the worst possible outcome
of stepping outside of the comfort zone
■■ And so on... can also alleviate fear, especially when
the client feels confident that they have
The miracle and scaling questions also the skills necessary to deal with the
work as a good motivator here: worst possible outcome. When you
put it in plain words, sometimes the
■■ If you were to wake up tomorrow risk may not actually be as bad as the
morning having come out of your client initially thought. For example,
comfort zone and achieved this, your client wants to go on holiday but
what would be different? is nervous that if they take time off they
will lose their job. If the client looks
■■ How would you feel on a scale of at the possible outcomes, they may
one to 10 where one is dissatisfied realise that there is a chance that they
and 10 is elated? may not actually lose their job, but in
the worst case scenario they may lose
If the client can be encouraged to their job. The client can then be asked
visualise what their life would be like if what this would mean for them – is
they did change, then they may be more this something they could cope with?
willing to move outside their comfort The client may realise that this would
zone and take risks with their behaviour open up the opportunity to finding a
and life. By risks, we do not mean new, possibly better job. You can also
dangerous behaviour, but behaviour that discuss strategies with how the client
the client may not feel comfortable with would cope with their job loss in order
for a range of reasons. A woman may to survive financially before they find a
be overweight and feel uncomfortable new job. For example, stay with parents,
about going to a gym because she feels work part time labouring while looking
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for a new job, find a flatmate, save up


more money before going on holiday
and so on).

Often people have a fear of making


a mistake, but it is through making
mistakes that people learn and grow.
Without taking the risk of making
a mistake, learning may not occur.
Obviously, the life coach should not
encourage the client to take uninformed
and poorly calculated risks, but it can in
fact be a good thing to take some risks,
provided that the risks are appropriate
for the clients capabilities, to deal with
the consequences of the risk.

BEING DECISIVE
Making decisions can be both creative
and analytical. Some people can be
more creative and less analytical; while
others less creative and more analytical.

Different people tend to make decisions


in different ways.

■■ No Thought

■■ Compliant

■■ Logical

■■ Emotional

■■ Intuitive

■■ Hesitant

Whilst there is no right or wrong way to


make decisions, some of these decision It can in fact be a good
making styles are a greater risk than
others, and may be more or less risky in
thing to take some risks,
different situations. Being hesitant may provided that the risks are
lead to missed opportunities. Making appropriate for the clients
decisions with no thought or based
on emotion can be a greater risk than
capabilities.
making a logical decision.

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Whilst a coach may act with varying For example, they may come to a life
degrees of directivity, depending on coach because they would like to retrain
their theoretical approach and their in a new job. They go through a range
client’s personality, there may be times of steps with the coach and actually
when the coach needs to be more start a new coaching course. Then
instructional. They may suggest goals they may find that they lack the skills to
for the client. When they are finding it manage their time well and are finding it
hard to move outside their comfort zone, hard to fit in studying around their home
the coach may suggest small steps for life, children’s schooling, and other
the client to try so as to gently push issues - so they see the life coach about
them towards moving outside of their their time management.
comfort zone.
You may also find that an ultimate goal
They may also set goals and timeframes which seemed realistic and achievable
to achieve certain goals. If a coach at the onset of coaching begins to look
sets goals it may be because the client too difficult for the client. Rather than
asks the coach to do this, or it may be risk damaging their self-esteem you may
because the client appears unable to have to rework the ultimate goal with
see how to set goals. This should only the client. You may be able to reach a
be done for minor goals and targets. compromise with the client which would
If a client is unable to establish a long also be regarded as an accomplishment
term or ultimate goal then it would be by them.
unethical to work with them. It is not
your role to tell a client what they should At other times minor goals may have
be aiming for. In setting minor goals, to be altered or modified because
you can avoid wasting time through they pose too much risk to the client’s
procrastination - but only do so if the physical or emotional well-being or
client seems unable to do so. because perhaps they are no longer
challenging enough.
Setting timeframes is always worthwhile
because it helps to clarify goals. If a Altering Techniques &
client has a clear idea about what they
are trying to achieve and by when, they
Programmes
can work towards that. If it becomes As goals change, then the life coach
apparent that a timeframe cannot be may also change the programmes and
met, then it is perfectly acceptable to methods they are using to support their
adjust it. client. A coach should always be flexible
and be able to change the plans and
Changing Goals programmes to support the client to fit
in with the client’s needs.
Clients may change their goals. They
may come to a coach for a certain
reason, but find that another issue
takes a greater priority. It may be that
whilst trying to resolve one issue,
another issue arises or they may
successfully change one thing and
move on to another.

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CHAPTER 6 THE FINAL STEP - HOW TO BECOME A


LIFE COACH

Developing the skills to become a competent life coach is the first


step in the journey to a career in life coaching. The other equally
important step is making an income as a life coach. For some
people this may mean finding a job as a life coach, but because of
the nature of the industry, for the majority of people this will mean
starting your own business.
The other ways in which a life coach
may work for someone else is under
the guise of another job. The fist thing
to understand is that there are many
jobs in society which might not be called
“life coach”, but may utilise life coaching
skills, or involve providing a similar type
of service that a life coach provides.
Related jobs can sometimes evolve and
turn into something which might for all
intents and purposes, be life coaching.
For example:

1. Consider a teacher who


Developing the skills to demonstrates a certain type of
empathy with students, may be
become a competent life asked to take on a role of student
coach is the first step in counsellor or career advisor.
the journey to a career in
2. Consider a counsellor who is
life coaching. confronted by clients who have
fitness issues, eating problems,
financial difficulties, and other
WORKING FOR challenges. Over time, a counsellor
SOMEONE ELSE may broaden their knowledge and
expertise; and find themself, out of
necessity, helping people across a
At the time this book was written it
broad gambit of issues, beyond just
would be unusual to find a life coach job
psychological.
advertised to work for someone else.
Most life coach opportunities come from
working within a franchise or similar 3. An employment consultant may find
situation. In other cases a life coach themselves utilising life coaching
may work in a multi-disciplinary team at skills when working with their clients
a health centre, which may involve the helping them find employment.
life coach working for themselves or for
someone else.

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4. A youth worker, mental health You will most likely find it easier to start
worker or disabilities worker may your business building on the strengths
find themselves working with clients that you already have. If you have a
to develop life skills, goal setting, degree, certificate or work experience in
healthy living, interpersonal skills something; consider how you might use
and more. that existing knowledge and experience
as leverage to get started toward a
5. A hairdresser or massage therapist career in life coaching. There are many
may find themselves having professions that will develop relevant
conversations with their clients skills for life coaching.
about their client’s lives and
the issues they are having. The Here are some examples of how this
conversations may have some might evolve:
similarities to a life coaching course,
with the hairdresser or massage 1. If you are already a personal
therapist engaging in active listening trainer, after studying life coaching
and possibly helping the client you might slowly incorporate life
structure their thoughts, gain a new coaching into your training where
perspective, set goals, etc. appropriate. As you develop as a life
coach you may bring life coaching
WORKING FOR YOURSELF aspects into your training more and
more, until you become a specialist
To become a life coach you will first coach that offers your clients a
need to develop the necessary skill life coaching service that includes
set. Most people will start by studying a fitness training where necessary. If
Life Coaching short course, certificate you are interested in health aspects,
or diploma to learn perspectives it is likely you will also study
and techniques to help them work nutrition, or psychology so you can
with clients. Your own personal life offer a holistic service.
experiences and skills will shape
your life coaching practice, and in the 2. If you have experience in business,
beginning it is wise to specialise in maybe running your own business or
areas that you already have expertise, working in commerce you may find
qualifications or experience in. that you want to change your career
to help people more. Your journey
Capitalising on your existing skills and into life coaching may start with
networks can be a powerful way to start studying life coaching to gain some
your life coaching business. One way understanding of this perspective.
to build a life coaching practice is to You may recognise the value of your
start by offering coaching services in business knowledge and decide to
the area that you have had experience begin by offering business coaching
in, targeting existing clients and utilising services to some of the businesses
your existing reputation in that area. You you already work with, or your family
may initially provide a narrower range and friends. As the needs arise you
of services related to your specialty may offer coaching around your
and then broaden the services over client’s personal issues, which over
time, evolving your business to offer a time may evolve into a more holistic
comprehensive life coaching service. life coaching approach.
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3. If you have worked in a bank you of the job than others; and that is not
may have realised that many people necessarily a bad thing. A life coach
don’t have a clue about finances. who has extra strengths in the area of
You may be really motivated to fitness may tend to attract clients with a
help people and you can see that greater need of help in that area; while
this is an area that you know a lot another who has strengths in the area
about, that other people may not. By of financial and business management
studying life coaching you can gain may attract clients with a greater need
an understanding of people, and in those areas.
ways to work with them. You may
start out by helping people manage You need to recognise that no life coach
their finances, but then realise that can ever be all things to all people; but
there can be other things involved over time, and with experience, you may
that affect people’s spending, like develop a capacity to help people in any
their self-esteem, work satisfaction, area they need help.
etc so evolve into offering your clients
a complete life coaching service. HOW TO GET CLIENTS
On the other hand, you might be First you will need to be really clear
starting your life coaching career as about the service you are offering, and
a fresh start, and may not be bringing who you are offering your services too
any professional skills to the table. (more on this later on in the chapter).
This does not mean that you will not
succeed as a life coach, and whether ■■ How are you going to structure your
you recognise it or not, you will still be programmes?
bringing years of experience and insight
from your own life experiences. If you ■■ Do you have a specialty? Health?
are starting from scratch without an Finance?
existing network or client base you may
need a more strategic approach, with a ■■ Who do you want to deliver your
more aggressive marketing campaign to services to?
get your business up and running.
To be convincing, and inspire confidence
in potential clients you will need to be able
WHERE TO START to succinctly describe your service, and
most importantly how they will benefit.
The first thing to recognise is that there People are more enticed by the value they
is no set starting point to begin working will receive than hearing all about what it
toward a business or career as a life is that you do. So rather then telling them
coach. If you look at people who are how you will run the sessions by talking
successful life coaches, you will find a about their life and their goals, then
mixed bag of backgrounds. working out strategies to help them reach
their goals, say something like “are you
Some commence their career by taking living your dream life? Do you want to?
a comprehensive course of study; while Well that’s what my life coaching services
others may come to it with a wealth can do for you.” These words may not
of experience and knowledge built up work for you, so work out something you
through all sorts of life experiences. can say to entice people to your service
Some may be stronger in one aspect that feels authentic to you.
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To get an even better response, you can Once you have become clear about
tailor your spiel to the individual person your service, your target market, and
that you are speaking to by responding how you are going to present your offer,
to their unique needs and appealing you will need to start finding yourself
to their desires. You want the potential some clients.
client to be attracted to your services to
fulfil their personal desires. For example Here are some ideas for ways to attract
asking, what does your dream life look clients:
like?... listen to their answer then reply
with how you can help them to achieve ■■ Word of mouth is the best way to get
this. Just make sure you are genuine! clients. People trust other people’s
opinions, especially if they know the
person, but also even if they don’t.
It may take some time to build your
business through word of mouth, so
you may need to have special offers
to entice people to try your services
and encourage them to recommend
them to their friends. For example
by offering their first session for free
and an additional discount to their
following appointments if they refer
a friend. Encouraging people to
“like” your business on facebook is
one way to help people spread the
word about your service.

■■ Networking is another really


effective tool. You need to get out
there and talk to people about
your business. Even if the person
you speak to doesn’t require your
services, if they come across
someone who does require
coaching, you will be the first
person they think of. Networking
can include social events, as
well as more formal business
networking events. It can include
calling someone up and going for a
coffee, or contacting other similar
People are more enticed by professionals.
the value they will receive ■■ Share information. This will build
than hearing all about what your credibility with potential clients
it is that you do. and inspire them to come and use
your services.

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■■ You need to be visible. People who ■■ Shows, Exhibitions etc -Having a


need to use a life coach need to be stand at the right type of show or
able to find you. exhibition may be a way of getting
a new business started, but again,
■■ You need to be remembered. If you many shows can be a big waste of
are only seen occasionally, you will time and money. Always look at the
not be remembered numbers of people who go to the
show; the type of people, whether
■■ You need to be perceived as being they are “your potential customers”,
good. If you can build relationships talk to other stand holders and find
with other professionals and get out how successful the show has
“testimonials”, that helps a lot. If you been for them in past years.
present an impressive “profile” or
CV, that helps. ■■ Brochures - can be useful if written
well, but only if you can get them
■■ Work on getting referrals. Consider into the right hands.
developing relationships with other
businesses -Financial advisors, ■■ Shop front - do not expect you will
gyms, health professionals etc, may get business by leasing a shop or
refer people to you, and you refer office and putting a sign up -again
people back to them. can be a waste of money. You are
better to get a practice moving
■■ You need to be accessible. When before leasing commercial space.
you are starting out, make yourself
available whenever people want you ■■ Listings in directories - a directory
(within reason!). If you refuse to give of life coaches on the internet might
your phone number, or the phone work for you; but again, consider, in
always goes to an answer phone; you your locality, will people look for life
will lose clients. If you limit the days coaches this way?
or times of day you are available, you
will make it harder to get clients. If ■■ Events -A launch might attract free
you make yourself readily available, media coverage, particularly if you
any time, anywhere, you are going to do something off beat, imaginative &
build a business faster. quirky.

■■ Get a web site - this is expected ■■ Offering something Free (eg.


for most businesses today. Include free first session, free online
testimonials - preferably video assessment, free book, free
testimonials. newsletters, free information).

■■ Get involved with social media. Just WHAT SERVICES WILL YOU
having a facebook or linked-in account OFFER?
does not work unless you use them
(daily), and use them in the right way. As discussed throughout the book you
may specialise in an area you already
■■ Advertising - adverts in newspapers have experience in, or you may offer a
and magazines might work in some broad range of services. This may effect
places, but they can also be an easy the title that you market yourself as. For
way to waste money. example, if you have qualifications and
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experience in business & finance you you price your service may affect the
might start as a “business coach”, or a impression people have about your
“business and life coach”. If you have service (ie how good it is), the higher
experience in Food and Nutrition; you the price the higher the perceived
may start as a “nutrition and weight loss value – however be careful not to price
consultant” or “health coach”. yourself too high and price yourself out
of the market.
Here are some of the services you
may provide: Generally speaking, as a new life coach
it is likely that you will start with lower
■■ Debt advice fees and increase them over time.
Another way to increase your potential
■■ Weight loss salary is to offer group life coaching
sessions where you may charge a lower
■■ Careers counselling fee, but have many more clients at
one time.
■■ Health

■■ Relationships

■■ Self-esteem

■■ Practical life skills e.g. time


management

■■ Physical wellbeing

■■ Physical image

■■ Public and professional image

■■ Setting goals

WHAT SHOULD YOU


CHARGE?
To get an idea of what your
There is no set amount of money you fee should be, have a look at
will earn as a life coach. It will ultimately
depend on the type of service you offer,
what other similar services
your experience, your qualifications, the in your area charge.
country you are in, your confidence and
marketing ability, and the way you have
chosen to structure your fees. To get an You may also build into your fees
idea, have a look at what other similar a programme structure, so people
services in your area charge. You may may pay a certain rate for a one-off
decide to “undercut” the market price to consultation, or a fixed rate for a certain
try and get clients, or you may choose number of sessions. To get the most
to offer an elite service that is much out of life coaching a client will really
higher than the going rate. The way need to come and see you more than
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once, so offering a fixed price for a for carrying out each activity within the
certain number of sessions is probably required time frame.
the best way to go. You may arrange for
your clients to pay upfront, or pay it off The main benefits of developing a
over time. business plan are:

As well as offering a flexible course of ■■ it forces you to justify your plans


sessions, where the coaching continues and actions
indefinitely, you may also consider
preparing a programme of a fixed ■■ it helps test the viability of the
length with a set structure and purpose. business
For example you may put together a
12week health programme that has ■■ it indicates your ability and level of
weekly one hour sessions in the first commitment
month with set topics (for example
nutrition in week one, exercise in week ■■ it identifies the business’ strengths
two, psychological aspects in week and weaknesses
three, and healthy lifestyle tips in week
four), followed by a fortnightly one hour ■■ it assists in maintaining the business
maintenance sessions for the following operations, especially focusing
9 weeks. attention on the goals and objectives

DEVELOP A ■■ it assists the business to be


proactive rather than reactive.
BUSINESS PLAN
Without a business plan, you will only
Developing a business plan is a means have a general idea of where you are
of formalising your thoughts and ideas, going, what you hope to achieve, and
in order to establish a framework and how you intend to go about achieving it.
direction of your business. It outlines the Business plans need to be flexible and
culture, vision, goals, and objectives of frequently revised to take into account
the new venture. It allows you to think
any changes that may arise.
through all aspects of organising and
operating a small business and assists
them in deciding if the business will All successful entrepreneurs have a
be viable or if new directions should clear idea of where they want their
be taken. It also provides a facility business to go and how to get there. We
for examining the consequences of have discussed several of these earlier
different strategies, and for determining on in the chapter, but here are some
what resources are needed to launch (or things that you will need to have a clear
expand) the business. This is a really idea of:
important tool to help you succeed in
your life coaching business. ■■ the most appropriate method of
beginning a business – starting from
You need to know how you will achieve scratch, buying an existing business,
the goals and objectives you have set. or buying a franchise
You can do this by developing an action
plan. This plan should be prioritised and ■■ the nature of the life
clearly outline who will be responsible coaching industry
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■■ How you are going to specialise In addition, the business plan should
also detail:
■■ a realistic estimate of the expected
returns from the business in the ■■ why you want to establish the
short and medium terms business

■■ the starting and ongoing costs and ■■ what steps will be necessary to
how these will be financed achieve those goals

■■ the ideal location of the business ■■ what goals the owner wishes to
achieve in the business
■■ the legal requirements
■■ the time frame in which the steps
■■ the administrative and managerial and goals should be achieved
requirements
This can help you to stay on track and
■■ the relevant market and the specific monitor your progress.
target group of customers who will
use their product/service
THE PLANNING PROCESS
■■ pricing strategies
There are a number of factors that must
■■ market research and the feasibility be taken into account when doing your
of the proposed business business plan. They are as follows:

■■ marketing, advertising, and Forecasting


promotion requirements
The process of estimating and
■■ employment requirements anticipating current and future events,
based on the best information available
■■ the record-keeping and continuing at the time. Forecasting is required
financial management needed when you think about the business you
are going to start up, the effort that will
Having a thorough business plan will be required, the products/services to
prepare you for success. be sold, the financing of the venture,
legal requirements, and so on. The
Lack of planning can be disastrous, just assumptions will become the framework
like the lack of capital. In all businesses, for your business plan, and are required
the best results come from effective continually throughout the planning
management. A business plan should process.
include:
Business Mission Statement
■■ the prime function of the business
The mission statement expresses the
■■ the mission statement underlying purpose of a business and
what it hopes to achieve. By considering
■■ plans and strategies the ultimate goals of the business, you
are able to integrate the minor decisions
■■ budget projections with the achievement of these larger
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intentions. The purpose of the mission ■■ When will it be achieved?


statement is to guide the decision-
making processes. Policies
Outlines the plans of action that will
govern the way your business handles
current and future problems. You will
need to formulate policies to cover
such things as workplace health and
safety, quality systems, payment terms,
account customers, complaints, etc.

Programming and scheduling


Establishing priorities and a planned
procedure for the performance of
activities in a given time frame. This
factor of the planning process guides
you in what needs to be done, when
they need to be done, and how long
they should take to complete.

Budgeting
The process of estimating the income
and expenditure for the business is
budgeting. You need to arrange your
finances to meet your objectives. The
The mission statement budgeting process establishes the
expresses the underlying financial objectives of the business
plan. A budget provides both a plan for
purpose of a business and activities and a means of comparison,
what it hopes to achieve. when actual performance is reviewed.

Developing Procedures
Setting goals and objectives
Developing methods of performing
Establishing the outcomes you wish tasks is to ensure the achievement of
to achieve, first in a broad sense your business objectives. There are
guidelines to be followed to achieve
(goals) and then more specifically, in
a specified result. Procedures are
measurable terms (objectives). developed to govern the handling of
money, the delivery of services, etc.
■■ What is the business trying to
achieve? Going through the process of planning
and starting your own business will help
■■ How is the goal/objective to be you develop vital skills to share with
achieved? your clients.
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SUMMARY OF A Business practices


SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS ■■ Build on strengths and concentrate
effort and resources
The most successful businesses are
usually identified by signs of creativity ■■ Seek and use expert advise
and innovation. To be slightly different
distinguishes you from your competition, ■■ Recognise the various types of risks
and often wins you a larger slice of the
marketplace. To be too different, can put ■■ Avoid being overly dependent on
you right outside favour with the general others
public.
■■ Get rid of unprofitable and/or
Some success strategies: unsaleable services

Competitive advantage ■■ Manage the business’ resources


efficiently and effectively
■■ Create and build a business on a
real market opportunity that fills ■■ Hire the right people, use them and
demand involve them in the business, reward
them wisely.
■■ Find and create opportunities
■■ Realise that every business/
■■ Be innovative management decision and action
will affect the business’ survival
■■ Identify or create some distinctive ability
competence and convert this into a
competitive advantage ■■ Be decisive and assertive – decide
on the best course of action and
■■ Realise that the competitive follow it
advantage is only temporary -
continually review and update your ■■ Regard cash flow as the lifeblood of
service the business

■■ Keep good records


Reputation
■■ Learn from errors made and do not
■■ Ensure the quality of your service is repeat them
excellent – it is hard to turn around a
bad reputation. Above all, you will need to believe in
yourself and your business!
■■ Create and improve the business’
image

■■ Always strive to be the best – rather


than the biggest

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APPENDIX

DISTANCE LEARNING AND ONLINE COURSES

The authors of this book have developed a large variety of


distance learning courses, online, on CD or by correspondence,
which are available through various colleges that are part of the
ACS Global Partners Network.

PSYCHOLOGY
Why Study Psychology?
■■ To understand people around you - at ■■ To work in any “people based” job, from
home, work or play counselling and education to marketing
and welfare
■■ To improve your communication skills

RELEVANT COURSES
Short Courses:
■■ Introduction to Psychology ■■ Psychological Assessment
■■ Psychology & Counselling ■■ Marketing Psychology
■■ Child Psychology ■■ Social Psychology
■■ Adolescent Psychology ■■ Multicultural Awareness
■■ Educational Psychology ■■ Abnormal Psychology
■■ Developmental Psychology ■■ Criminal Psychology
■■ Life Coaching ■■ Biopsychology I
■■ Stress Management ■■ Biopsychology II
■■ Industrial Psychology ■■ Neuropsychology
■■ Conflict Management ■■ Psychopharmacology
■■ Anger Management ■■ Busines Coaching

Qualifications
■■ Certificate in Life Coaching ■■ Certificate in Psychology
■■ Certificate in Applied Developmental ■■ Advanced Certificate in Psychology
Psychology ■■ Associate Diploma in Psychology
■■ Certificate in Biopsychology

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THERE ARE HUNDREDS OF OTHER COURSES OFFERED


BY ACS AFFILIATE NETWORK COLLEGES;
including: Self Sufficiency, Commercial Vegetable Growing, Fruit
Production, Nut Production, Cut Flower Growing, Human Nutrition,
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Science and many different diploma and certificate courses...

OTHER BOOKS BY JOHN MASON


John Mason has been writing books since the 1970’s and has over
40 titles published, some as printed books, others as e books. Some
(print) titles are out of print, and now only available as second hand
books or e books. If you have difficulty finding any of Mr Mason’s
titles, you can enquire by email to admin@acs.edu.au

Print Books by John Mason include:


Fun and Fitness Trails, Victorian Dept. of Sport and Recreation, 1978
Starting a Nursery or Herb Farm, Night Owl, 1983 (revised 1994)
The Environment of Play, Leisure Press, New York, 1982
Herb Review, self published, 1987
Landscaping with Herbs, self published, 1988
The Native Plant Expert, self published, 1989
Let’s Grow Gardens, self published, 1990
Growing Ferns, Kangaroo Press, 1990
Commercial Hydroponics, Kangaroo Press, 1990, 2007
Growing Vegetables, Kangaroo Press, 1991
Growing Herbs, Kangaroo Press, 1993
Nursery Management, Kangaroo Press, April 1994
Tropical Gardening, Bay Books, October 1994
Yates Guide to Pests & Diseases, Angus & Robertson, February 1995
Growing Pelargoniums & Geraniums Hyland House 1996
Farm Management Kangaroo Press 1996
Growing Australian Natives Kangaroo Press 1997
Starting a Nursery or Herb Farm (Revised ed) Kangaroo Press 1997
Sustainable Farming Simon & Schuster (Kangaroo Press) Spring 1997
Growing Tropical Plants Simon & Schuster (Kangaroo Press) 1997

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Starting a Landscape or Garden Business Kangaroo Press 1998


Aqua Fitness Kangaroo Press 1999
Growing Conifers Kangaroo Press 1999
Profitable Farming Kangaroo Press 1999
A Beginners Guide to Orchids Hyland House
Aerobic Fitness Kangaroo Press
Trees & Shrubs for Small Places Kangaroo/Simon & Schuster 2000
Propagating from Cuttings Kangaroo/Simon & Schuster 2002
Growing and Using Vegetables and Herbs Kangaroo/Simon & Schuster 2007

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■■ Growing Tropical Plants 2nd edition ■■ Starting a Garden or Landscape
Business 2nd edition
■■ Starting a Business
■■ Starting a Nursery or Herb Farm
■■ The Environment of Play 2nd edition 2nd edition
■■ Farm Management 2nd edition ■■ Aerobic Fitness 2nd edition
■■ Growing Conifers 2nd edition ■■ Aquafitness 2nd edition
■■ Garden Design Part I ■■ Commercial Hydroponics 3rd edition
■■ Garden Design Part II ■■ Organic Gardening

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Email: admin@acs.edu.au

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