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Selfexploration 120201133939 Phpapp02
Selfexploration 120201133939 Phpapp02
TIPS
– Be proactive
– Begin with end in mind
– Put first thing first
– Think win-win
– Seek first to understand, then to
be understood
– Synergise
– Sharpen the saw
Be proactive
• Not just react on what is happening around
• Inculcate forward thinking
• Anticipate
• Plan
• Expand boundaries
• Act The game of nine dots
to explain
proactive thinking
•Connect all nine dots
•by drawing four straight lines
•without lifting your pen
Begin with the end in mind
• Develop vision
• Formulate mission statement
• Set goal
• Sub-divide goal into objectives
• Plan activities to achieve objectives
• Act
SMART OBJECTIVES
• Short
• Measurable
• Action oriented
• Realistic
• Time bound
Put first thing first
Important
Not
important
Put first thing first
Emphasis on
• Planning
• Relationship management
• Prioritization
• Work in team
• Help others speak out You win, others lose
You lose, others win
• Help others develop You lose, others lose
You win, others win
• Help others contribute
• Develop relationship
• Do not try to win at the cost of
others, let others win and you win
in the process
Win - Lose
• you vs. me
• victory or defeat
• personalized
• narrow viewpoint
• poor listening
• judgmental
• independent of each other
• closed-minded
• positional
• compliance
Win – Win
• lots of options
• explore interests
• interdependent
• relationship focused
• process valued
• de-personalized
• mutual air time
• active listening promoted
Seek first to understand, then to be
understood: 10 Commandments for active
listening
Stop talking
Put the speaker at ease
Show you want to listen
Remove distractions
Be patient
Manage your anger
Go easy on argument and criticism
Empathize
Paraphrase
Ask questions
Communication ‘Spoilers’
• Criticizing Moralizing
• Name-calling Excessive/
• Diagnosing Inappropriate
• Praising Questioning
Evaluatively Advising
• Ordering Diverting
• Threatening Logical Argument
Reassuring
Shift your internal stance from “I
understand” to
“Help me understand”…. everything
else follows
from that.
- Source Unknown
Shift
Judgement to Curiosity
Instead of asking
yourself...
?
Ask yourself...
“I wonder
“How can they think what
that!?” information
they have that
I don’t?”
Active Listening
Listening doesn't mean sitting still with your mouth
shut.
• Encouraging
• Paraphrasing
• Empathizing
• Open Questions
• Reframing
• Summarizing
Syenrgise