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Reflection Paper - Mead
Reflection Paper - Mead
During our discussion, we were asked how we are as a child, a friend, a lover or an FEU
student. As my professor asked me what kind of a son I am to my parents, I could not answer it
straight ahead but I tried to reflect first with what I have done to my parents and what they have
thought of me as their son. I said that most of the time, I am obedient to my parents to the extent
that I do not really want to choice that they want me to choose. But just to clear up, right now, I
always try to reason out to my parents and to be assertive with the things I want for myself to
become. Others were asked what kind of friend they are. When the person answered the
question, her friends were jokingly disapproving to one of her answers due to some of their
experiences with her. One of them answered that they are completely different when they are at
home and at school because that person has strict parents and they are not in good terms. At
home, she is somewhat quiet and modest, but when she is in school, she is really jolly and
According to Mead in his “Theory of Self”, the development of self is purely social rather
than biological while Cooley stated in his “Looking Glass Self” theory that we are a product of
our social interactions with other people. They both thought that social interaction plays a vital
role in developing of our view of ourselves but they have their different take on how this
happens.
interaction and reflection of those interactions. I tried to reflect on my encounters with them and
to deduce and to realize what is common out of it or repeated. I realized that I adjust my
demeanor and personality when I engage and interact with my parents and it is also different
when I interact with different peers and people around because sometimes we rely on how we are
being evaluated or perceived by others and that is why we interact differently to people.
imagine how we would interact and appear to others and when we have innumerable interactions
with them in months, we imagine how others think of us and what others really think of us. More
often than not, we are described differently by our peers. We try to process and reflect on those
things and we start to develop feelings and thoughts that might change our own selves or might
According to Mead, however, there are only certain people who could influence us in
how we see ourselves, thus making it restrictive than Cooley’s. We are described with different
adjectives by different people because every social interaction, its content and context, is
different from one another. All of us think differently because we all do have different contexts,
different standards, expectations and norms. Apart for that, we are bombarded with expectations
and norms that society dictates us to do with our attitudes, beliefs and behaviors. This new
understanding is referred by Mead as the “generalized other.” When the “I’ or our individual
identity responds to the “Me” which is how the society thinks of us or what we should be. With
this, we also have completely understand that we are performing in multiple roles in the society,
from what we have learned through social interactions and from exchange of symbols that we
tried to imitate during our younger years and to understand these symbols in order for us to
might have an opinion of us, but not all of them should be taken. We should only be focused on
the perceptions of the people who are important and significant in our lives. Those we have been
the closest know us most in a significant amount of time that we have spent with them. Although
we are regarded as differently by others, it is due to the fact that we are playing different roles in
life. These perceptions, which our significant others opined regarding who we are, are important
Reference:
Mead's Theory of Self and Cooley's Looking Glass Self. Retrieved from
https://www.sophia.org/tutorials/meads-theory-of-self-and-cooleys-looking-glass-self