Sript Debat Pro Kontra

Pro : As a kid we were tough that strangers are dangerous & not to talk to them under any circumstance.
Had good reason for teaching us not to trust strangers because there some mean and dangerous people
out there, and as children, we were not very good at scanning any intention.

Pro :As we grow into adults, we learn to differentrate people with good intentions from those with bad
intentions. We learn that the majority of people in society are not sociopaths, that most people are
actually quitefriendly.

Kontra :its mean she barcode all the people. With deep talk each other have known that is you really
knowladgable and they will not going to harm you or do some bad to you.

Pro : According to a report that was published in the journal of experimental pshcology general by
nicholes epley, psycologist at university of Chicago the way that you react to strangers in public make
you happy.

Kontra : “People do feel more socially connected when they are having self-disclosing or deeper
conversations,”

The researchers put EAR, or electronically-activated recorders (iPod touches), on 256 college students
and recoded 30-second audio snippets every nine and a half minutes for a week. This generated
thousands of hours of audio files which were each then deconstructed and coded by six outside research
assistants—a total of 145—who rated the clips on whether the participants self-disclosed a lot or a little,
and how deep the conversations were. Participants complemented the work with self-reporting,
submitted four times a day, reflecting their opinions on the quality of the interactions and whether they
made them feel happy and more socially connected. The data took three years to code. The research
found some interesting things. First, it confirmed the more-is-better theory: Every participant reported
feeling happier when they were interacting more with people. “This effect is well established and very
robust: everybody benefits from social interactions,” Sun said.

Then, the researchers looked at two different things: first, whether people were happier and more
socially connected when they were having deeper or more self-disclosing conversations; and second,
whether people who had deeper and more self-disclosing conversations reported just being happier in
general. One previous study that focused on quality not quantity, which also used EAR devices and
observer ratings, showed that among a small group of 79 college students, participants with higher well-
being tended to spend less time alone, more time interacting with others, more time having substantive
conversations, and less time engaged in small talk. But when researchers tried to replicate those
results (pdf), deep conversations were associated with life satisfaction, but whether people engaged in
more or less small talk was not. 

Perhaps by pursuing encounters with strangers — with the knowledge that we are potentially creating
deep friendships — these connections will inspire a new kind of social network, not digital, but powerful
enough to unite our fast, complex world.

Pro :

Introvert more pleasant wit act like extrovert

Kontra : deep talk is actually good for us, whether you're an
introvert, extrovert, or neither.
Happy People Have More Meaningful Conversations

Psychologist Matthias Mehl and his team set out to study happiness and deep
talk. His study, published in the journal Psychological Science, involved
college students who wore an electronically activated recorder with a
microphone on their shirt collar that captured 30-second snippets of
conversation every 12.5 minutes for four days. Effectively, this created a
conversational “diary” of their day.

Mehl and his team found that the happiest person in the study had twice as
many substantive conversations, and only one-third the amount of small talk,
as the unhappiest person. Almost every other conversation the happiest
person had—about 46 percent of the day’s conversations—were substantive.

As for the unhappiest person, only 22 percent of that individual’s

conversations were substantive, while small talk made up only 10 percent of
the happiest person’s conversations.

Mehl, in an interview with the New York Times, discussed the reasons he

thinks substantive conversations are linked to happiness. For one, humans
are driven to create meaning in their lives, and substantive conversations help
us do that, he said. Also, human beings — both introvert and extrovert — are
social animals who have a real need to connect with others. Substantive
conversation connects, while small talk doesn’t.
Instead of . . .

 “How are you?”

 “How was your weekend?”
 “Where did you grow up?”
 “What do you do for a living?”
Try . . .

 “What’s your story?”

 “What was your favorite part of your weekend?”
 “Tell me something interesting about where you grew up.”
 “What drew you to your line of work?”