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When He Texts You After Ghosting
When He Texts You After Ghosting
When He Texts You After Ghosting
By Anika Munir
Do you remember him? The guy who never responded to any of your
messages after you invested so much time into him. The guy you spent
hours on the phone with. The guy who you went to dinner with at that nice
Italian place. The guy who you thought was the “nice guy,” the “sweet guy,”
the kind of guy that your parents would just adore.
But then, when one small altercation occurred, he never responded to you.
You sent him a message explaining yourself. No response. You waited two
to three days. Still no response. You sent him another message. No
response. After a week, you decided to call. No response. Weeks turned
into two months.
It was time you gave up, because his Instagram was clearly booming. He
was posting photos with his friends, sharing throwbacks on his story, and
commenting on everyone’s photos except yours.
Ghosting has become one of the most common concepts in the modern
dating world today. It is something that people do so often to avoid the
truth. They think if they do not reply to a person and act like nothing
happened, then their problem disappears into thin air. Well, the reality is
that their narcissistic choice often leaves the other person questioning what
they could have done better or what they did wrong.
After he ghosts you for a few months, you get a text from him. Is it a simple
“Hey” or “What have you been up to?” Just look at that message for a
moment. It’s silly how someone can leave you just like that and come back
into your life to act as if nothing happened.
Do not text him back. Why should you reply to him when he left you with no
answer? He did not hear you out when you drowned in sadness, curiosity,
and emptiness when he had chosen to leave you with no answer.
He is only texting you now because he cannot find someone new to fill the
emptiness in his heart. He needs someone who will consistently text him,
someone who will shower him with love, and someone who sticks by his
side. Meanwhile, you will put your 110% into him, and he will only put his
65% into you. That’s if you’re lucky.