Carl Rogers (1902-1987) was a humanistic psychologist who agreed with the main

assumptions of Abraham Maslow. However, Rogers (1959) added that for a person to
"grow", they need an environment that provides them with genuineness (openness and
self-disclosure), acceptance (being seen with unconditional positive regard), and
empathy (being listened to and understood).
Without these, relationships and healthy personalities will not develop as they should,
much like a tree will not grow without sunlight and water.
Rogers believed that every person could achieve their goals, wishes, and desires in life.
When, or rather if they did so, self actualization took place.
This was one of Carl Rogers most important contributions to psychology, and for a
person to reach their potential a number of factors must be satisfied.

Self Actualization
"The organism has one basic tendency and striving - to actualize, maintain, and
enhance the experiencing organism” (Rogers, 1951, p. 487).
Rogers rejected the deterministic nature of both psychoanalysis and behaviorism and
maintained that we behave as we do because of the way we perceive our situation. "As
no one else can know how we perceive, we are the best experts on ourselves."
Carl Rogers (1959) believed that humans have one basic motive, that is the tendency to
self-actualize - i.e., to fulfill one's potential and achieve the highest level of 'human-
beingness' we can.
Like a flower that will grow to its full potential if the conditions are right, but which is
constrained by its environment, so people will flourish and reach their potential if their
environment is good enough.
However, unlike a flower, the potential of the individual human is unique, and we are
meant to develop in different ways according to our personality.  Rogers believed that
people are inherently good and creative.
They become destructive only when a poor self-concept or external constraints override
the valuing process.  Carl Rogers believed that for a person to achieve self-actualization
they must be in a state of congruence.
This means that self-actualization occurs when a person’s “ideal self” (i.e., who they
would like to be) is congruent with their actual behavior (self-image).
Rogers describes an individual who is actualizing as a fully functioning person. The
main determinant of whether we will become self-actualized is childhood experience.
Personality Development
Central to Rogers' personality theory is the notion of self or self-concept.  This is defined
as "the organized, consistent set of perceptions and beliefs about oneself."
The self is the humanistic term for who we really are as a person.  The self is our inner
personality, and can be likened to the soul, or Freud's psyche.  The self is influenced by
the experiences a person has in their life, and out interpretations of those experiences. 
Two primary sources that influence our self-concept are childhood experiences and
evaluation by others.
According to Rogers (1959), we want to feel, experience and behave in ways which are
consistent with our self-image and which reflect what we would like to be like, our ideal-
self.  The closer our self-image and ideal-self are to each other, the more consistent or
congruent we are and the higher our sense of self-worth. 
A person is said to be in a state of incongruence if some of the totality of their
experience is unacceptable to them and is denied or distorted in the self-image.
The humanistic approach states that the self is composed of concepts unique to
ourselves. The self-concept includes three components:

Self-worth
Self-worth (or self-esteem) comprises what we think about ourselves. Rogers believed
feelings of self-worth developed in early childhood and were formed from the interaction
of the child with the mother and father.

Self-image
How we see ourselves, which is important to good psychological health. Self-image
includes the influence of our body image on inner personality.
At a simple level, we might perceive ourselves as a good or bad person, beautiful or
ugly. Self-image affects how a person thinks, feels and behaves in the world.

Ideal-self
This is the person who we would like to be. It consists of our goals and ambitions in life,
and is dynamic – i.e., forever changing.
The ideal self in childhood is not the ideal self in our teens or late twenties etc.

Positive Regard and Self Worth

Carl Rogers (1951) viewed the child as having two basic needs: positive regard from
other people and self-worth.
How we think about ourselves, our feelings of self-worth are of fundamental importance
both to psychological health and to the likelihood that we can achieve goals and
ambitions in life and achieve self-actualization.

Self-worth may be seen as a continuum from very high to very low.  For Carl Rogers
(1959) a person who has high self-worth, that is, has confidence and positive feelings
about him or herself, faces challenges in life, accepts failure and unhappiness at times,
and is open with people.
A person with low self-worth may avoid challenges in life, not accept that life can be
painful and unhappy at times, and will be defensive and guarded with other people.
Rogers believed feelings of self-worth developed in early childhood and were formed
from the interaction of the child with the mother and father. As a child grows older,
interactions with significant others will affect feelings of self-worth.

Rogers believed that we need to be regarded positively by others; we need to feel

valued, respected, treated with affection and loved. Positive regard is to do with how
other people evaluate and judge us in social interaction. Rogers made a distinction
between unconditional positive regard and conditional positive regard.

Unconditional Positive Regard

Unconditional positive regard is where parents, significant others (and the humanist
therapist) accepts and loves the person for what he or she is.  Positive regard is not
withdrawn if the person does something wrong or makes a mistake. 
The consequences of unconditional positive regard are that the person feels free to try
things out and make mistakes, even though this may lead to getting it worse at times.
People who are able to self-actualize are more likely to have received unconditional
positive regard from others, especially their parents in childhood.

Conditional Positive Regard

Conditional positive regard is where positive regard, praise, and approval, depend upon
the child, for example, behaving in ways that the parents think correct.
Hence the child is not loved for the person he or she is, but on condition that he or she
behaves only in ways approved by the parent(s). 
At the extreme, a person who constantly seeks approval from other people is likely only
to have experienced conditional positive regard as a child.
Congruence
A person’s ideal self may not be consistent with what actually happens in life and
experiences of the person. Hence, a difference may exist between a person’s ideal self
and actual experience. This is called incongruence.
Where a person’s ideal self and actual experience are consistent or very similar, a state
of congruence exists. Rarely, if ever, does a total state of congruence exist; all people
experience a certain amount of incongruence.

The development of congruence is dependent on unconditional positive regard. Carl

Rogers believed that for a person to achieve self-actualization they must be in a state of
congruence.
According to Rogers, we want to feel, experience and behave in ways which are
consistent with our self-image and which reflect what we would like to be like, our ideal-
self.
The closer our self-image and ideal-self are to each other, the more consistent or
congruent we are and the higher our sense of self-worth. A person is said to be in a
state of incongruence if some of the totality of their experience is unacceptable to them
and is denied or distorted in the self-image.
Incongruence is "a discrepancy between the actual experience of the organism and the
self-picture of the individual insofar as it represents that experience.
As we prefer to see ourselves in ways that are consistent with our self-image, we may
use defense mechanisms like denial or repression in order to feel less threatened by
some of what we consider to be our undesirable feelings.
A person whose self-concept is incongruent with her or his real feelings and
experiences will defend because the truth hurts.

Carl Rogers Quotes

"The very essence of the creative is its novelty, and hence we have no standard by
which to judge it". (Rogers, 1961, p. 351)
"I have gradually come to one negative conclusion about the good life. It seems to
me that the good life is not any fixed state. It is not, in my estimation, a state of
virtue, or contentment, or nirvana, or happiness. It is not a condition in which the
individual is adjusted or fulfilled or actualized. To use psychological terms, it is not a
state of drive-reduction, or tension-reduction, or homeostasis". (Rogers, 1967, p.
185-186)
"The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination".
(Rogers, 1967, p. 187)