Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Resilience and Adult Attachment in Cases of Child Sexual Abuse
Resilience and Adult Attachment in Cases of Child Sexual Abuse
Resilience and Adult Attachment in Cases of Child Sexual Abuse
Requires
Supportive
networks
of
families,
friends,
community
organizations,
and
helping
systems
Working
alliances
with
service
providers
Competent
service
provision
Optimism
of
service
users
and
service
providers
that
things
can
get
better
Types
of
Adult
Attachment
Resolved/Secure:
Family
resilience
is
likely
when
the
above
conditions
are
met.
Mothers
of
child
survivors
of
sexual
abuse
are
key
to
childrens
recovery.
Sexual
abuse
is
a
trauma
for
children.
Research
on
attachment,
trauma,
and
resilience
shows
that
children
can
recover
from
trauma
and
go
on
to
live
satisfying
lives
if
they
have
the
safety
of
secure
relationships
and
if
parents
in
turn
have
the
safety
of
secure
relationships.
Mothers
and
fathers,
when
either
parent
is
not
the
person
who
abused
children
sexually,
can
provide
this
safety.
Besides
providing
the
safety
of
secure
relationships,
recovery
from
child
sexual
abuse
involves
other
factors,
which
are
called
common
factors
in
service
outcomes.
These
factors
are
supportive
networks
of
families,
friends,
community
organizations,
and
helping
systems;
working
alliances
with
service
providers;
competent
service
provision;
and
optimism
of
service
users
and
service
providers
that
things
can
get
better.
In
order
to
be
emotionally
available
to
their
children,
parents
require
their
own
supportive
relationships.
It
take
a
village
to
raise
a
child.
It
takes
a
village
to
help
a
child
recover
from
child
sexual
abuse.
If
these
factors
are
in
place,
in
combination
with
parents
who
can
provide
the
safety
of
secure
relationships,
children
are
likely
to
recover
well
from
the
effects
of
child
sexual
abuse.
Children
are
said
to
be
resilient
when
they
have
coped
with,
adapted
to,
and
overcome
the
effects
of
child
sexual
abuse.
When
parents
and
children
show
these
capacities,
the
family
shows
resilience.
The
issue
for
service
providers
is
to
assess
family
situation
in
terms
of
the
factors
associated
with
resilience
and
then
to
support
parents
sensitive
responsiveness
to
their
traumatized
children.
Providers
can
recommend
a
range
of
service
options
to
parents
and
children.
Effective
services
enhance
relationships
between
parents
and
children.
Ideas
from
attachment
research
can
help
service
provides
assess
for
whether
parents
have
capacities
to
provide
the
safety
children
require
to
recover
from
sexual
abuse.
The
research
on
which
this
poster
is
based
interviewed
mothers
of
survivors.
In
this
handout,
we
focus
on
mothers,
but
the
material
can
be
tested
for
fit
with
fathers
and
other
potential
care
providers.
Service
providers
should
also
test
findings
for
their
fit
with
other
mothers.
In
their
on-going
assessment,
care
providers
pay
attention
not
only
to
attachment
issues,
but
also
issues
related
to
networks
of
other
systems
that
affect
children
and
families,
to
building
working
relationships
with
family
members,
and
monitoring
their
own
optimism
and
the
optimism
of
service
users.
A
key
trait
of
effective
practice
is
that
service
providers
are
sensitively
responsive
to
parents
and
children.
2
Developing effective strategies for action requires that service providers work cooperatively with parents, child survivors, and other family members and enlist connections with supportive services and personal networks. They continually monitor what is happening for families and themselves and adjust their actions accordingly. The following provides additional information on adult styles of attachment and their relationship to the recovery of children from child sexual abuse.
There
are
two
general
styles
of
adult
attachment.
The
first
style
is
resolved/secure.
The
second
style
has
three
different
types:
dismissive,
preoccupied
and
disorganized.
Childrens
styles
of
attachment
typically
mirror
those
of
parents.
Parents
with
resolved
styles
of
attachment
are
most
likely
to
provide
their
traumatized
children
with
the
safety
of
secure
relationships
and
seek
out
various
types
of
help,
such
as
psychoeducation,
self-help
groups,
therapy
for
the
children
and
sometimes
for
themselves,
among
other
helpful
responses.
They
may
at
first
be
upset
and
even
disoriented
when
they
learn
about
the
sexual
abuse,
but
they
grapple
with
their
own
trauma
about
the
issues
and
focus
on
what
children
need.
Parents
with
other
styles
of
attachment
may
also
provide
children
with
the
safety
of
secure
relationships,
but
this
may
take
them
more
time
than
parents
who
have
resolved
styles.
They
may
require
intensive
therapy,
self-help
groups,
and
education
about
trauma
and
sexual
abuse.
What
counts
is
their
willingness
to
get
this
kind
of
help.
If
they
refuse
to
take
these
steps,
then
service
providers
have
to
consult
with
others
to
make
a
plan
for
what
to
do
to
ensure
that
children
have
the
safety
of
secure
relationships
that
their
parents
cannot
provide.
This
may
mean
petitions
to
the
court
and
foster
care.
Four
Types
of
Adult
Attachment
The
following
provides
an
overview
of
the
four
types
of
adult
attachment.
1. Secure/Resolved
Provide
sensitive,
attuned
care
for
children
Provide
consistency
and
structure
in
family
life
Models
and
rewards
prosocial
behaviors
for
children
Sets
limits
on
inappropriate
behaviors,
explains
why
behaviors
are
inappropriate,
and
guides
children
toward
behaving
in
appropriate,
prosocial
ways
If
they
have
experienced
trauma,
they
acknowledge
the
trauma
and
its
meanings
and
effects,
and
have
dealt
with
it,
usually
through
therapy
and
sometimes
self-help
groups
Shows
evidence
of
long-term,
trusting,
confidant
relationships
with
others,
beginning
in
childhood
Has
a
good
sense
of
who
to
trust
and
not
to
trust
3
2. Dismissive
Minimize
childrens
experiences
of
trauma
Minimize
the
effects
of
their
own
traumas
Downplay
abuse
as
not
a
big
deal
or
wont
recognize
the
seriousness
of
what
happened
Unwilling
to
engage
with
service
providers
regarding
childrens
traumas
and
their
own
Are
distant
emotionally
and
over-regulate
their
own
emotions
May
describe
current
relationships
with
parents
and
other
family
members
as
distant
or
cut-off,
which
sometimes
is
necessary
for
mental
health
but
services
providers
should
assess
these
relationships
Their
children
may
have
avoidant
attachment
styles
and
do
not
seek
them
out
for
playful
interactions
or
for
comfort
and
help;
children
may
have
secure
attachments
with
other
persons,
such
as
teachers,
grandparents,
other
relatives,
and
friends
3.
Preoccupied
Self-centered:
its
all
about
me
Unresolved/unattended
trauma
that
they
think
about
a
lot
May
have
mental
health
and
chemical
dependency
issues
related
to
unattended
trauma
Have
difficulty
regulating
their
own
emotions,
behaviors,
and
thoughts
Have
difficulty
providing
consistency,
structure,
and
guidance
to
their
children
Unable
to
be
sensitively
attuned
to
their
children;
may
be
intrusive
to
children
and
disrespectful
of
childrens
needs
for
a
safe
place
where
they
can
work
through
the
effects
of
trauma
without
parental
interference
May
parentify
a
child
and
expect
child
to
take
care
of
them
May
be
overwhelmed
by
guilt
and
by
what
they
did
wrong
instead
of
focusing
on
childrens
well-being
May
think
a
lot
about
what
their
parents
have
done
wrong
or
may
idealize
their
parents
Children
do
not
seek
out
their
parents
for
friendly
interactions
and
for
help
and
comfort;
children
typically
have
disorganized
styles
of
attachment,
although
some
may
have
secure
attachments
with
other
adults,
such
as
teachers,
grandparents,
other
relatives,
and
friends
3. Disorganized
Behavior
is
random,
dismissive,
preoccupied,
and
sometimes
agitated
Have
histories
of
complex
trauma
that
they
have
not
been
able
to
deal
with
Often
have
issues
with
chemical
dependency
They
may
have
diagnoses
of
persistent
mental
illnesses
that
they
do
not
control
well
4
Childrens safety, well-being, and recovery comes first Children seek them out for general interactions and for comfort, although children may not tell even securely attached parents about the abuse because of fear perpetrators have instilled in them; children have secure styles of attachment
In conversations, especially when discussing sensitive issues, may lose may lose track of what they are saying or abruptly switch topics May provide grossly inadequate care to their children: abuse, neglect, abandonments with little or no understanding of the gravity of these behaviors May try to put up a front that things are perfect; may idealize current or past situations May respond with anger, lack of cooperation, or inconsistency when providers offer services Children do not seek them out for friendly interactions, comfort, or help; children may have secure attachments with other persons, such as teachers, grandparents, other relatives, and friends, but his more rare than in the other two styles of child attachments; children may develop reactive attachment disorders Implications for Practice: Guidelines for Intervention
The
following
are
general
guidelines
for
work
with
child
survivors
and
their
parents
according
to
adults
types
of
attachment.
An
overall
goal
is
for
service
providers
to
foster
child
survivors
secure
relationships
with
other
people.
The
ideal
place
to
cultivate
these
relationships
are
with
parents
and
siblings.
Other
secure
relationships,
however,
are
required
for
children
and
families
to
become
resilient.
These
relationships
can
be
with
extended
family
members,
friends
of
the
family,
members
of
self-help
groups,
and
service
providers.
If
parents
are
not
able
to
provide
the
safety
of
secure
relationships,
this
is
a
serious
issue
that
service
providers
have
to
take
seriously
and
consider
petitions
to
the
court
for
alternative
child
placements.
Parents
and
children
require
emotional
support,
education
about
child
sexual
abuse,
and
safe
places
where
they
can
work
on
repairing
any
breaks
in
their
relationships.
Children
may
also
benefit
from
group
work
with
other
children
who
have
had
similar
experiences.
These
goals
and
plans
assume
that
competent
services
and
service
providers
are
available
and
that
service
providers
and
service
users
have
working
relationships.
Service
providers
can
be
of
great
help
when
they
offer
experiences
where
children
can
experience
their
own
competence.
This
involves
helping
children
to
engage
in
activities
they
enjoy
and
do
well.
Children
in
deep
crisis
and
disorganized
may
require
a
lot
of
supportive
work
before
they
can
engage
activities
they
like.
Sensitive
assessments
of
childrens
readiness
is
important.
Since
many
reports
of
child
sexual
abuse
are
on
families
who
live
in
poverty,
service
providers
will
include
assessment
of
basic
human
needs
such
as
food,
clothing,
shelter,
and
medical
care
as
well
as
the
other
areas
to
assess.
The
following
provides
some
ideas
about
what
service
providers
may
experience
in
their
work
with
parents
of
survivors
of
child
sexual
abuse.
Secure
5
Dismissive May be shocked by allegations of child sexual abuse, but do not respond sensitively, even after time goes on; they also may not be shocked and are insensitive in their responses If they believe the children, they may say that the children are fine and everyone is fine If they dont believe the children, they will deny the sexual abuse happened and will be angry at the children and even blame children They may not see the sexual behaviors as abuse They or may not cooperate; they will probably resist services; if they do respond, their responses will be half-hearted and inconsistent They may refuse services for their own issues that interfere with their capacities for providing safety and security; they may not recognize that they have issues They may allow the alleged perpetrator to remain in the home and allow the children to go into alternative placements They may not keep children separated from alleged perpetrators Children may also resist services in order to please parents and to maintain a faade that everything is okay Preoccupied May be shocked by allegations of child sexual abuse; may believe the children but be so full of self-blame that they are not sensitive to the childrens need for safety and comfort They intrude upon the childrens experiences of the abuse that leaves little space for the children to have their own interpretations and understandings of the abuse They may not trust service providers sufficiently to engage in working relationships with them
Parents may be shocked by allegations of sexual abuse, but they believe the children, especially as the shock wears off Parents will probably cooperate; childrens cooperation depends upon the quality of childrens relationships with non-offending parents, siblings, and others; mothers and non-offending parents in general are not the only persons who influence childrens capacities to trust and to engage in services; the impact of the abuse itself can affect these capacities Parents will want supportive services for themselves and their children; they will seek the counsel and support of others, such as clergy, family members, and professionals They will do what it takes to ensure safety for their children, beginning with keeping alleged perpetrators away from the children Parents allow children to express whatever is true for them, including letting children know its ok to love perpetrators for the good things they did and dislike the sexually abusive behaviors Parents help children deal with other difficult issues such as when alleged perpetrators refuse to take responsibility for their behaviors and blame others, including the children
Disorganized They may be shocked by allegations of sexual abuse but be prepared for a range of responses; they may believe the children but maybe not; They have difficulties in forming working relationships with service providers because their thinking, emotions, and behaviors are so disorganized Its very difficult for them to respond sensitively to their children who have been sexually abused because their thinking, emotions, and behaviors are so disorganized; this adds to childrens confusion and disorganized thinking, feelings, and behaviors Their children typically have disorganized attachment styles which complicates their recovery from the effects of child sexual abuse Children may receive the diagnosis of reactive attachment disorder (RAD) Children may be placed out of home for their own safety May be engaged in services and visits sporadically and then disappear for long periods of time
Some cooperate and do what it takes to provide safety and security to their children and to themselves; this can take some time; they are likely to require a full range of treatments as discussed earlier They may at first act as if service providers will solve all of their problems and when this doesnt happen, they may experience distrust of providers to the point where they do stop cooperation
Discussion
Parents react in various ways to disclosures of child sexual abuse. Attachment theory can help identify promising and challenging adult responses. Other factors besides adult styles of attachment come into play in work with families. Adult attachments are fundamental, but other factors support parents capacities for providing the safety of secure relationships. Working relationships between service users and service providers are important, as are supportive relationships in several other systems, service provider competence, and service user and service provider optimism about their work together.
Ainsworth,
M.
D.
S.,
Blehar,
M.
C.,
Waters,
E.,
&
Wall,
S.
(1978).
Patterns
of
attachment:
A
psychological
study
of
the
strange
situation.
Hillsdale,
N.J.:
Erlbaum.
Bell,
S.
M.
(1970).
The
development
of
the
concept
of
the
object
as
related
to
infant-mother
attachment.
Child
Development,
41,
291-311.
Bell,
S.
M,
&
Ainsworth,
M.
D.
S.
(1972).
Infant
crying
and
maternal
responsiveness.
Child
Development,
43,
1171-1190.
Bretherton,
I.
(1992).
The
origins
of
attachment
theory:
John
Bowlby
and
Mary
Ainsworth.
Developmental
Psychology,
28,
759-775.
Bowlby,
J.
(1969).
Attachment
and
loss,
Vol.
1:
Attachment.
New
York:
Basic
Books;
&
Hogarth
Press.
7
Bowlby,
J.
(1973).
Attachment
and
loss,
Vol.
2:
Separation:
Anxiety
&
anger.
New
York:
Basic
Books.
Bowlby,
J.
(1980).
Attachment
and
loss,
Vol.
3:
Loss:
Sadness
&
depression.
New
York:
Basic
Books.
Bowlby,
J.
(1988).
A
secure
base:
Clinical
applications
of
attachment
theory.
London:
Routledge.
Cassidy
J.
&
Shaver,
P.
R.
(Eds.)(1999).
Handbook
of
attachment:
Theory,
research,
and
clinical
applications.
New
York:
Guilford
Press.
Davies,
D.
(2011).
Child
development:
A
practitioner's
guide,
3rd
Edition.
Guilford
Press,
New
York,
NY
Hesse,
E.
(1999).
The
adult
attachment
interview:
Historical
and
current
perspectives.
In
J.
Cassidy
&
P.
Shaver
(Eds.),
Handbook
of
attachment:
Theory,
research,
and
clinical
applications
(pp.
395:
433).
New
York:
Guilford
Press.
Lieberman,
A.
F.,
&
Pawl,
3.
H.
(1988).
Clinical
applications
of
attachment
theory.
In
J.
Belsky
&
T.
Nezworski
(Eds.),
Clinical
applications
of
attachment
(pp.
327-351).
Hilldale,
NJ:
Erlbaum.
Main,
M.
&
Solomon,
J.
(1986).
Discovery
of
an
insecure-disorganized/
disoriented
attachment
pattern.
In
T.
B.
Brazelton
and
M.
W.
Yogman,
Affective
development
in
infancy.
Nowrood,
NJ,
Ablex
Publishing.
Main
,
M.,
&
Goldwyn,
R.
(1998).
Adult
attachment
classification
system.
Unpublished
manuscript.
University
of
California:
Berkeley,
CA.
Sonkin,
D.
(2005).
Attachment
theory
and
psychotherapy.
The
California
Therapist,
17(1),
pp
68- 77.
Internet
Based
Readings
Gilgun,
Jane
F.
(2010).
Attachment
and
child
development.
Amazon
Kindle
Gilgun,
Jane
F.
(2010).
What
is
trauma?
Amazon
Kindle,
scribd.com
Gilgun,
Jane
F.
(2011).
Child
sexual
abuse:
From
harsh
realities
to
hope.
Amazon
Kindle,
iBooks,
&
scribd.com.
Gilgun,
Jane
F.
(2011).
The
NEATS:
A
child
and
family
assessment.
Amazon
Kindle
and
scribd.com
References
for
the
Common
Factors
Model
Cameron,
Mark,
&
Elizabeth
King
Keenan
(2010).
The
common
factors
model:
Implications
for
transtheoretical
clinical
social
work
practice.
Social
Work,
55(1),
63-73.
Drisko,
James
W.
(2004).
Common
factors
in
psychotherapy
outcome.
Families
in
Society,
85
(1),
81-90.
8
Lambert, M. (1992). Implications of outcome research for psychotherapy integration. In J. Norcross & J. Goldstein (Eds.), Handbook of psychotherapy integration (pp. 94-129) NY: Basic. Perlman, Helen Harris (1957). Social casework: A problem-solving process. Chicago: University of Chicago. Sprenkle, D. H., & Blow, A. J. (2004). Common factors and our sacred models. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 30(2), 113-129. Sprenkle, D. H., & Blow, A. J. (2004). Common factors are not islands-they work through models. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 30(2), 113-129. About the Authors Jane F. Gilgun, Ph.D., LICSW, is a professor and Wendy Anderson, MSW, is a PhD student, School of Social Work, University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, USA.