Circle of Care Virtual Agenda

(Littles) Session 4 Date: 11/05/20

5:00pm – 6:15pm
Littles Facilitator 1: HOST Cynthia
Littles Facilitator 2: xxxx
Littles Facilitator 3: ** manage chat

Death Anniversaries: x
Birthdays/Holidays: x

Time Description Lead

5:25pm Facilitator 1 -Play background music give all facilitators co-host access

5:30pm *All Facilitators: Welcome kids in.

Welcome each child in when they come into the virtual room, say
hello, say their names, good to see, let them know we will start
shortly etc.

5:35pm Facilitator 2 [x]- Start of Group Welcome - remind participants that

we are all here because someone special in our life has died, and that
together we are going to share, and connect, have fun and get support
from each other. There has also been so much change for all of us
with the pandemic and having to be in our homes, away from our
friends and family, virtual school, and virtual group - it is hard on all of
us in many ways and we hope this space becomes a place where you
get to express yourself, meet some new friends, and share and learn
different ways of coping with our experience of loss.

Each group we start with an opening circle, go over our group

guidelines, have activities that we do together, and then end with a
closing circle.

Facilitator 2 [x]:Before we start the first opening circle and introduce

ourselves, we want to set up some group guidelines that we all can
agree to in order to make our time together helpful and safe for
everyone.
Facilitator 1 [x]:We have some basic agreements that we follow in all
of our groups. (Lead can either put them into the chat or do a share
screen to list and or go over each agreement) When you go over the
agreements it can be helpful to elicit from the kids if they know what
each rule means, and give their own definitions. Facilitators will affirm
or add anything that might be missing, and maybe speak to why each
rule is important.

Group Guidelines/Agreements
● It's OK to pass-don’t have to talk if you don’t want to.
● What we say here stays here- confidentiality is important
● Respect others feelings, no put downs - don’t yuck my
yum!
● One Mic - one person talks at the time, we might mute mics
● Raise hand if you want to talk -
● Sit and Listen - Try to find a comfortable space to sit and pay
attention before we dive into group. We want to limit
distractions by having to move around a lot.
● Use of Chat- for questions and comments that are on topic
only.
● Anything the group would like to add to our Agreements?
Facilitator 2 [x]: Opening Circle
Before we start opening circle does everyone have their own name on
their screen? (If not walk them through how to do this).

Facilitator 2 [x]: We start each group with an opening circle where we

introduce ourselves, our pronouns, and the name of the person in our
life that has died. At Circle of Care, we call this person our Special
Person. We also ask a question so that we can get to know each other
a little better.
Facilitator 3 [Cynthia]: To honor one of the kid’s request from last week
today’s question is, what is your favorite video game?
Any Facilitator Welcomed to Chime In: Facilitator models introducing
themselves (name, pronoun, and answering question). Then they pass
the mic to a child on the screen raising their hand to go next. If no
hands raised pass the mic to anyone. The co-host can help to unmute
kiddos as well. Facilitators will need to practice talking through this.

Facilitator will try to also make connections around losses, if someone

says that their dad died, and another child does too, you can point out
that they have that in common, or if they answer the question
similarly you can connect by saying, “Oh that is cool Jeremy and Ana
both…”
At the end of the check in circle, the Facilitator will thank everyone for
sharing and for being here in Circle and introduce who will be
transitioning us to our first activity.

Facilitator 1 [Cynthia] Introduces Activity #1, All facilitators ask

questions: Raise your hand if...

Purpose: To learn more about each other.

Materials: None
Set up: None

Questions:
● Raise your hand if you like pizza. (Cynthia)
● Raise your hand if you like video games. (Cynthia)
● Raise your hand if you thought about your special person this
week. (Cynthia)
● Raise your hand if you ate candy on Halloween. (x)
● Raise your hand if you like virtual learning. (x)
● Raise your hand if you went to a park or playground recently. (x)
● Raise your hand if your special person was funny. (x)
● Raise your hand if you have seen friends or family in the last few
weeks. (x)
● Raise your hand if you like to draw. (x)
● Invite the kids to ask the group one question each. (x)

Debrief (Cynthia):
1. Can somebody name something they had in common with somebody
else?
2. What question was your favorite?
3. Did you like getting to ask the group your own question?

Facilitator 3 [x] and 1 [x]:

Activity #2: Show and Tell- Special Person Edition
Purpose: To learn about each other’s special person.
Materials: None
Set Up: Ask the kids to look for an object that reminds them of their
special person.
Directions:
x: Ask the kids to go and find something that reminds them of their
special person.

Once everyone returns with their object in hand, ask kids to raise their
hand if they would like to share why this object reminds them of their
special person, if no one raises their hand pick someone. (They can skip
if they want).

Debrief (Cynthia):

1. How did it feel to learn about each other’s object and how it
reminded them of their special person?
2. How do you feel after sharing?
3. What is something you learned about someone else’s special
person?

Facilitator #1 [Cynthia] (Once Littles and School-age groups come back

together):

Closing Circle - Your Name, name of your special person, and answer
to closing question.

Closing Question: What was your favorite part of group tonight?

(Leave space to acknowledge anniversaries/birthdays)