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GUIDE
How to Create Strong
Personal Boundaries
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If you struggle with energy loss and issues such as overcommitment, lack
of assertiveness, and peer pressure, keep reading. It’s time to draw a
clear line and reclaim your personal power.
But without personal boundaries, we run the risk of confusing our needs
and wants with others, which leads to codependency. Codependency is a
term that describes a toxic one-sided relationship. It is impossible to
enjoy a healthy relationship without strong and clear boundaries.
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heightened stress and feelings of hopelessness. Overcommitting to
everyone and everything tends to take a serious toll on your mental
health, which can eventually lead to burnout. Or worse: a nervous
breakdown.
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Pay attention to the following signs:
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Before you blame yourself for having poor boundaries, stop for a
moment. I want you to understand that it wasn’t your fault, but it is your
responsibility to now develop strong boundaries. So take a moment to
feel some compassion for yourself.
As children, we had no control what our parents, teachers, and the adults
around us taught us. Most people who possess absent or weak personal
boundaries were set a bad example when young. Observing codependent
dynamics within our families contributed a lot to this issue, as well as
being taught that love = what we did, not who we were.
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As a child, the first role models you had of “acceptable” behavior were
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your parents and family members. So pause to reflect here: what
messages did your mother, father, siblings, or other adults send to you
growing up? Were you only given love when you pretended to be who
your parents wanted you to be? Were you only rewarded when you went
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out of the way to sacrifice your needs and desires in favor of someone
else’s? Were you punished for saying “no” or speaking up? Did you feel
obliged to emotionally “take care” of an adult, perhaps a parent? These
were all signs that you were taught that lacking personal boundaries
equaled a “good” thing.
If you struggle with setting clear boundaries, you might carry a number
of mistaken beliefs that you were conditioned to believe.
Here are some myths that I want you to become aware of:
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4. “Having personal boundaries will make me miserable.” This is a
common concern. But my response is simple: creating personal
boundaries might feel uncomfortable at first, but pretty soon it’ll make
you feel empowered and in control of your life again. So the opposite
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here is true: having personal boundaries will actually make you MUCH
happier!
Here’s what you can expect from putting in the hard work of setting
clear boundaries:
Creating boundaries is less about other people and more about you and
the beliefs and mindsets you have. The following practices and pieces of
advice will help you to target both your core beliefs and habitual
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behaviors.
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Lurking underneath the surface of people-pleasing behavior is the belief
that we “have no right” to set boundaries. It’s time to challenge this
ingrained assumption. Why are others allowed to have boundaries and
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not you? Why must you feel like a lesser human being and elevate others
above yourself? It is a fundamental right of all human beings to have
personal boundaries. Consider it your birthright to establish boundaries
that define and protect you. Not only is it your right to create
boundaries, but it is also your responsibility.
2. Understand that your thoughts, feelings, and needs are equally important
to others
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4. Practice daily self-care (because you’re worth it!)
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upset, or disrespected by someone during the day. This journalling
exercise will help you to develop more self-awareness.
7. Stop overcommitting
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commitment that you have. Don’t try to please others at your own
expense. Committing too much to other people and circumstances
creates stress and burnout. Learn to say no to non-essential things like
work get-togethers, parties, and other social duties that are not life-or-
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death.
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Now that you have listened to the audio file (or read the transcript
above), you might like to reflect on – or preferably journal about – the
following questions. Feel free to either print these pages to write on as
part of your inner work practice – or alternatively, copy the questions
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into your own personal diary.
Why is it worth the effort completing this exercise? Writing down your
thoughts and feelings will help to crystallize any discoveries you make
about yourself in a tangible way. Mentally reflecting on these questions is
not the same as visually recording them. When we mentally ruminate on
a question, the realizations we stumble across are either fleeting or
incomplete. Visually recording your discoveries gives you the
opportunity to explore them more deeply and offers you a reference
point in which to revisit in the future as your self-discoveries mature.
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3. How do you feel after a boundary of yours has been violated (these can
be both negative and positive feelings)?
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4. Try out the following boundaries exercises which will help you to
explore the edges of your personal "bubble."
Spend some time noticing how you feel in your body when a stranger,
associate, friend, family member, or partner approaches you. Try this
exercise for one week. At what point do you start feeling uncomfortable?
Signs that a person has overstepped your personal bubble include (but
are not limited to) feelings of nervousness, discomfort, endangerment,
muscle tension, increased heart rate, sweating, and numbness.
Record the most comfortable distance which defines the edges of your
personal bubble below (next to the names). You can record the distance
in meters, feet, or whatever suits you.
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5. Think about what your parents taught you about personal boundaries
growing up. What verbal or nonverbal feelings, beliefs or ideas did they
transmit? Record everything you can think of (even if it feels
unimportant at first).
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8. Think about a time when you lacked personal boundaries. What could
you have done differently?
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9. What FIVE powerful practices or resources can you use to help you
create strong personal boundaries? List the tools or techniques you'd
most like to experiment with.
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10. Take a moment to imagine what life would be like with strong and
healthy boundaries. What habits, behaviors or commitments to others
would you stop doing?
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your life do you think would improve substantially?
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12. Write down any other thoughts, feelings or observations you've had
during the course of this workbook that you would like to remember for
future reference.
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We hope this workbook and the accompanying audio file has inspired
and supported you.
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