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Remarkable Women:
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The Pioneers of Women's Rights
Embracing a Heavenly Identity America is celebrating some major milestones in
Stereotypes have ohen painted women into a limited box of abili­ women's rights this year, and Utah women are at the
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ties and ambitions. But from the beginning of the Restoration to heart of it all.
today, women of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints BY DIANNA DOUGLAS
have embraced their roles and contributed invaluable time, talents,
perspectives, love, hard work, and prayers to build up Zion.
BY JANNALEE SANDAU

On the cover: Illustration of historic and modern Latter-day Saint women by Caitlin Connolly

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20 Keeping Our Eyes on Eternity 14 A Heritage of Hard Work 75 Close Quote: Neylan McBaine
Women-whether because of their own sense A favorite quarantine activity of mine over the Neylan McBaine is the co-founder and CEO
of responsibility or the responsibilities that the past few months has been to lake evening walks of Belter Days 2020, a non-profit focused on
world places on them-can carry a lot of anxiety in my neighborhood. I live close to the Salt Lake popularizing women·s history in creative and
over their roles. Here are two insights into how City Cemetery, so I often find myself making my communal ways. She has written or contributed
women can gain a better perspective about their way there and wandering through the headstones. to several books. including her most recent,
eternal callings as nurturers. Walking among the prophets, dignitaries, and Pioneering the Vote: The Untold Story of Suffragists
BY EMILY WATTS AND ZANDRA VRANES, ADAPTED regular folks. there is a palpable sense of history in Utah and the West. Here is what she has to say
FROM ALL KINDS OF MOTHERS, THOUGHTS AND ESSAYS and significance in the graveyard that draws me about her passion and the major anniversaries
BY WOMEN FDR WOMEN back again and again. we·re celebrating this year.
BY ERIN HALLSTROM
53 The Connection I Feel to
Unnamed Women in the
Book of Mormon
The practice of seeing those who are not visible,
particularly women, could change your experi­
ence studying the scriptures, as it did for Ashley
Mae Hoiland. Whether or not women have
their stories recorded, receive worldly acclaim.
or do something notable in the eyes of others,
they-and other people who feel forgotten or
overlooked-are always notable to our Heavenly
Parents and our Savior, Jesus Christ.
BY ASHLEY MAE HOILANO, EXCERPTED FROM
A PLACE TO BELONG, REFLECTIONS FROM MODERN
LATTER-DAY SAINT WOMEN

59 A Walk Down Church Memo,y

Lane with Ardeth Kapp
Former Young Women General President Ardeth
Kapp has seen many changes in the Church
through her 90 years of life. And in that time, her
testimony of continuing revelation-in the Church
and in her personal life-has only grown brighter.
BY MORGAN JONES

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E or many, summer wouldn't feel complete without a pool party. Here are three simple pool
games to keep alJ ages smiling through the summer heat.
opened in 1955 1. Ping Pong Grab: For this fun and chaotic game, have everyone in the pool form a
circle facing the middle of the pool. Then, dump a bucket of ping pong balls into the

84 million
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center of the pool. Everyone grabs as many balls as they can and puts them in desig­
nated buckets on the side of the pool. Whoever gathers the most balls by the time
they're alJ gone wins!
sold smce Disneyland
opened 2. Pool Noodle Race: Prepare for this game by cutting pool noodles so every­
one has about a three-inch section. Then have everyone create a sail with

3
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toothpicks and smalJ pieces of fabric. When the boats are completed,
line them up evenly across one end of the pool and race the boats
across to the other side of the pool. Create waves or blow on
Disneyland has had
since it opened in 1955 the sails, but don't touch the boats to get them across!
3. The Long Jump: This game can be played with a

~200 diving board, or players can simply jump off

Feral cats Disneyland
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the end of the pool where alJowed. Place
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from the diving board or edge of the
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everyone is done, move the object
farther away. If someone cannot
jump past the object, they are
out of the game. The person
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Fast Fa Ct: Former Young Women General President Ardeth Kapp has a
note from President Oaks in her high school yearbook stating she has "a wonderful
soul that is your most prized possession." Read more about Ardeth Kapp on page 59.

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 short & simple ... --- . ··- .. . . . . ..

The Revelation that

"What good is the warmth of
summer without the cold of Replaced Wine with Water
winter to give it sweetness."
-JOHN STEINBECK
I n August of 1830 while living in Harmony, Pennsylvania, Joseph and Emma
were visited by Newel and Sally Knight. As neither Emma nor Sally had been
confirmed members of the Church, the group decided to confirm the two women
and then partake of the sacrament before going their separate ways. With no wine
in the house for the sacrament, however, Joseph left to purchase some. After going
a short distance, a heavenly messenger appeared to
Joseph and told h.irn that "it matteretl, not what ye
shall eat or what ye shall drink when ye partake of
the sacrament." This revelation is now found in
the first four verses of Doctrine and Covenants
section 27. Though the Church didn't begin
exclusively using water at that time, it did
become a frequent substitute. Today we are
asked tbat water always be used because it is
inexpensive and universally available. O

► Fast Fact: Did you know there

are over 87 references to women in
the Book of Mormon? All but three
of those women are unnamed.
Read one woman's perspective
about this topic on page 53.

"God's love is infinite and it will endure forever, but what it means for each
of us depends on how we respond to His love." -:-ELDER D. TODD cHRrsToFFERsoN
► JULY/AUG 7/13 7/16 7/19 7/23
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This 1908 1847 1837 1829

Date 1n T Women compete in the
modern Olympics for the
T The Mormon Battalion 1s
discharged
T Elder Heber C. Kimball
arrives in Liverpool.
T The typewriter 1s
invented

History first time England. on the first

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Christ's parables
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BABIES BORN IN TEMPLES
Lazarus the beggar in
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neople often say they can feel heaven close by when a new baby is born, and no doubt even more
so when that baby is born in a temple! While perhaps not the mothers' preferred location to give birth, at
least two special babies have been born in Latter-day Saint temples.
40 1. During the dedication of the Salt Lake Temple in 1893, Emma Bern1ett from Provo, Utah, began experienc­
Parables in the Bible ing labor pains while sitting in the assembly room. She was taken to a small apartment within the temple
and gave birth to a boy: Eight days later, Emma and her husband returned to the temple, where Joseph F.

10 2.
Smith gave the baby a special blessing in which he named the little boy Joseph Temple Bennett.
In 2010, Sister Frederika ten Hoopen (known as Sister Teni), a former nurse who was serving as a sister
Parables Jesus told
involving human missionary in Tonga, arrived at the Nuku'alofa Tonga Temple to attend an evening session. She was imme­
relationships diately told that the temple president had been praying for her to come because a young mother had
unexpectedly gone into labor and the phone system was down so they couldn't call for help. Following the

Verses in Jacob
77 Spirit's direction, Sister Teni and a fellow temple worker, Sister Roberta Clayton, were able to help a woman
who was still dressed in white finish delivering a nine-pound baby boy in only a matter of minutes. The
baby was named Teni Keleitoni Tem:ipale. The first two names are the Tongan translations of the sisters'
chapter 5 descnbing
the olive tree allegory names wl10 helped with the birtJ1 while tlie tJ1ird is the Tongan word for "temple!'
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One of August's Come, Follow Me lessons studies the story of Helaman's 2,000 stripling warriors in the Book of
Mormon. These men were young, inexperienced, outnumbered, and-as the manual says-"shouldn't have stood a
chance." Yet they were able to successfully drive back their enemies without suffering any deaths. The scriptures are
full of stories like this: David took down the towering Goliath, Sarah was able to have her first and only child at age 90,
Nephi was able to get the brass plates, and the Jaredites faced an ocean and still made it to the promised land. In life,
it may sometimes feel like we don't stand chance, like there is no way to succeed. But the scriptures teach that for
those who try to keep the commandments and trust in the Lord, a way will always be provided. e

8/9 8/15 8/17 8/25 8/26

T Baptisms for lhe dead

T The Sistine Chapel
opens for mass are publicly revealed
by the Prophet Joseph
Smith
1835
T The Doctrine and T Aurelia Spencer Rogers
1910
T Mother Teresa
Covenants is accepted as holds the first Primary 1s born
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 ·1 publisher's note

A Heritage of Hard Work

A favorite quarantine activity of mine over the past few months has been to take evening walks in my
neighborhood. I live close to the Salt Lake City Cemetery, so I often fmd myself making my way there
and wandering through the headstones. Walking among the prophets, dignitaries, and regular folks,
there is a palpable sense of histmy and significance in the graveyard that draws me back again and again.
On one of my recent cemetery wanderings, I came upon a grave that caught my atten­
tion. There was a stone next to the grave with some writing on it, so I walked closer and
read: "Jane Manning Elizabeth James 'I try in my feeble way to set an example for all."'
The stone goes on to offer a brief sketch of her life. Born free, Jane was a black woman
who joined the Church in 1841. She traveled over Boo miles from Buffalo, New York, to
Nauvoo, Illinois, by foot in order to join her fellow Saints. She lived with Joseph and
Enrn,a Sm.ith for a time, maintaining a close association with them until Joseph's death.
After the Prophet was martyred, Jane made the decision to follow the Saints to Utah
and remained a faithful member of the Church throughout her life despite many trials,
including being denied her sincere desire to make covenants in the temple.
I learned about Jane only a couple of years ago, but 1. was thankful I had so that
I could stop and have a moment of gratitude for a woman who has taught me what
faith and fortitude look like amidst extreme trial. I feel emotional again when I look
at our stunning cover so beautifully illustrated for us by Caitlyn Connolly. T hope you
can feel tl1e power of these women by looking at their strong, beautiful faces, too.
This issue is centered on women. We wanted to celebrate the women in our his-
t0ty who used every talent and blessing tl1ey had to benefit The Church of Jesus
Christ of Latter-day Saints and the world at large ("Remarkable Women," p. 26). Read
about missionaries, mothers, visionaries, politicians, and Church leaders whose
in1pact has been felt for generations, and consider tl1e women in Utah who were
some of the first in the country to fight for and earn the right to vote ("The Pioneers
of Women's Rights:• p. 40).
The world looks very different for women today than when pioneers were walk­
ing across tl1e plains. I am proud of the heritage Latter-day Saint women can claim
and of the immense strides made to allow women around tl1e world to take their
place as equal partners with our brothers in the gospel. The response to recent
racially motivated tragedies in the United States has given me cause to believe that
more change is coming and that we all will be asked to do the work needed to ensure
eve1y child of God is valued equally. President Russell M. Nelson has said, "Let us be
clear. We are brothers and sisters, each of us the child of a loving Father in Heaven.
His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ, invites all to come unto Him-'black and white, bond
and free, male and female "' (2 Nephi 26:33).
Building the kingdom is hard work. Thanks to many examples around us, I know
our efforts a.re not only needed but that witl, God's help, they will be enough.

All my best,

Erin Hallstrom
Associate Publisher

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ripening fruit there is.

Keeping Our Eyes

on Eternity
Women-whether because of their own sense of responsibility or the responsibilities that the world places on them-can carry a lot of
anxiety over their roles. Here are two insights into how women can gain a better perspective about their eternal callings as nurturers.
BY EMILY WATTS AND ZANDRA VRANES, EXCERPTED FROM ALL KINDS OF MOTHERS: THOUGHTS AND ESSAYS BY WOMEN FOR WOMEN

Emily Watts: "Slow-Ripening Fruits"
As au accomplisl,ed autl,or and write,; a beloved
Time Out for Women speake1; and the mother
of five children, Emily Watts understands that
sometimes it can feel like it takes forever to see
the positive outcome from caring for others. But
wl1etl1er you're raising little ones of yotir own or
nurturing people around you, perl1aps wl1at God
is really trying to teach us all is how to become
more like Him.
I am at the groce1y store with my 3-year-old
daughter. She has the pint-sized grocery
cart and is pushing it along beside me
with my regular-sized cart. We are quite a
picture, the two of us shopping together,
me initiating my little girl into the myster­
ies of the grocery world. I can see it in the
approving expressions of the shoppers
passing us in Aisle T "Isn't that darling?
What a lovely child. What a good mother."
Then we turn into Aisle 8, which is
where the Oreos reside, right at the 3-year­
old's eye level. She chooses a package of
cookies from the shelf and puts them in
her cart. [ pluck them out of the cart and
return them to the shelf with a cheery if
somewhat terse, "Not today, sweetheart.
We're not going to buy those cookies today."
Well, perdition hath no fury Uke a
3-year-old deprived of her Oreos, and she
immediately flings herself to the ground

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Am I a good mom or a bad mom? All too often, One last thought regarding this princi­
ple occurred to me when I was pondering
people will form that judgment depending on the it one day: What if the fruit of my parent­
moment in which they catch me at my mothering. ing isn't my children at all? What if tJ1e fruit
of me being a 1110111 is who I am becoming
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as a result of being that parent?
and begins screaming. And I can see it in not just capable of helping me in my dif­ That thought changes the whole pic­
the disgusted expressions of the shop­ ficulties but willing and anxious to do so. I ture. I start to realize that the children who
pers passing us in Aisle 8: "What a brat! went to the heading "Trust" i:n the Topical are the hardest are very often tJ1e ones who
Why doesn't her mother control her? Why Guide and found some wonderful scrip­ are making me the most of who I need to
would anyone bring a child like that out tures that have helped me see things a little be. The problem children (and tJ1ey're all
in public?" more clearly. The first one that I want to problem children at some point, I tJ1ink)
Well, which is it? Angel child, or share witl1 you is Psalm 27:14, which says: are the ones who drive me to the arms of
demon spawn? Arn I a good morn or a bad "Wait on tJ1e Lord: be of good courage, and the Savior. They're tJ1e ones whose chal­
1110111? All too often, people will form that he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, lenges put me on my knees to ask their
judgment depending on the moment in on the Lord!' This is not my favorite scrip­ Father, "Thou who lovest this chj]d more
which they catch me at my mothering. ture because I have never been a very good than I do, wilt Thou help me understand
I want to grab the tantrum observers as waiter. It is not easy for me to have tJ1e what I need to do to bring him back to
they pass by and tell them that this never courage it takes all along the way to wait for Thee?"
works. I never buy Oreos under coercion. that child-fruit to ripen. The fruit of my life is me, and most of
I am a sensible, intelligent mother, with But waiting ultimately yields its what I know about believing all things and
appropriate boundaries. But tJ1ey have rewards, little glimmers now and then that hoping all things and enduring all things
made their judgments based on what they strengtJ1en our hearts and give us hope (see 1 Corinthians 13:7), I have learned as
see. Appearances. They can indeed be tJ1at the fruit is coming along. That little a result of being a mom. To me, the most
deceiving. girl who came to the grocery store with interesting tliing about that is that I have
Here's a challenge, tJ1ough: Don't the me occasionally (when I couldn't avoid it) friends who would say tJ1at everything
scriptures say, "By their fruits ye shall is a good example of this. She has always tJ1ey know about believing and hoping
know them" (see Matthew 7:17; 3 Nephi had tJ1e blessing and tJ1e curse of knowing and enduring has come to them because
14:16)? They do. What those scriptures her own mind. The back of her bedroom they haven't yet bad a chance to be a mom.
forget to remind us is that sometimes fruit door still bears the scars of where she Isn't it amazing how Heavenly Father takes
takes a long time to 1ipen. used to kick it when she was in time out, the circumstances of our mortality and
Think about this. Have you ever bitten learning to behave herself a little better. uses them to mold us and make us who we
into a huit that's not ripe-a hard strawbeny She wouldn't ever tiy to come out, but she need to be to reh1rn to Him?
or a green melon or something like that? It's would lie on her back on the floor and just
gross. All you really want to do is spit it out. kick the door. Zandra Vranes: "Pint-Sized People"
If you were judging the fruit based on that That fruit takes a long tin1e to ripen. It Zandra Vranes is largely recognized for her
appearance at that time, you might think takes a lot of faith, and a lot of spiritual humorous take 011 Latter-day Saint culture as one
the fruit was not good. But if you waited insight and divine encouragement, to see it of the "Sistas in Zion." In this essay, she reminds
until the fruit was ripe and then tried it, as it's really going to be. In tJ1e end, in order us tl1at sometimes life feels like a constant cycle of
you would see how delicious it could be. to have the patience we need, we have to looing those in need and receiving love in return
An important thing to understand remember how fruit ripens. Consider tJ1at when our well runs dry. And althoug/1 our plans
about raising children is that children are we plant it, and we nurture it, and we water for life are never pictu re-pe1fect, there are quiet
the slowest-ripening fruit there is. it, and we do what we can, but the ripen­ moments-like those s/1e11t at a 111otl1er's knee-that
Those precious fruits of our mothering ing of tJ1at fruit is mostly up to tJ1e sun. It's remind us of our potential and how we can all
take a long time to mature, and what's the same with the fruit of our children. build up our eternal families.
more, they all ripen at different rates. So Ultimately, their maturing depends largely
it's unproductive and even dangerous to on the Son. We have to trust Hirn. I once heard Pastor T.D. Jakes say tJ1at there
base our feelings of mothering confidence By our fruits we will be known. But not are pint-sizi;d people and there are gallon­
on where the fruit is at any given time. now. Not yet. We need to give ourselves sized people. That when you're a gallon
r went on a guest to try to understand time and give our children time. person, you can pour into a pint person
better the truth that Heavenly Father is and the relationship will be everything

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they need it to be because you have the

capacity to fill them up. But a pint person
could pour all they have into you, but it
doesn't f:ill you up because you need a gal­
lon. He said that we need to recognize that
there are relationships in our lives where
the person is truly giving us all they have,
and no, it is not enough, it isn't everything
we need. But it is all they have; they gave
us evetythi1 1g they could.
As I've thought about his message
throughout the years, that recognition
has freed me to adjust my expectations
regarding my life relationships, change my
interactions or limit them when necessary,
and above all extend forgiveness and grace.
I've also come to believe that we aren't
always one or the other, a pint or a gallon.
There are portions of my life where I only
have pint-sized capacity and capabilities,
but gallon-sized responsibilities. And
I've had to admit that I've poured every
last drop of myself into a bucket tl1at I
simply ca1mot fill on my own. There are
times when I have been the gallon run­
ning around pouring into other 's pints
and watching them be restored through
me, and I am left depleted with my gallon
running dry. Sometimes you're the gallon
with a steady flow pouring into a pint and With love, simple homes can become sacred
you're drowning them because you have spaces. If we let them.
so much to give, but they can only hold so
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much; you can't pour a gallon into a pint.
As people of faith, our relationships of being anxious about whether my life mother's knees, and rooted back through
can sometimes become our greatest anxi­ or my family looks like a picture-perfect ancestors further than the eye can see.
ety. We worry about all the pouring and Church magazine or Proclamation fam­ This is a glimpse of my eternity, for there
filling it takes to be with our loved ones, ily. When everyone isn't in the temple is no kingdom I can strive for that doesn't
together, in the next life. I know that what together, can you still see the moments have this.
we do in this life matters in the next, but I that togetherness brought the temple Saints, do you see them in your life?
also know that what we don't do in this life to your home? One Sunday, as my mum Create the moments of eternity today that
matters there too. If we don't spend our poured into me, I realized that with love, make an eternal family worth striving for
time learning how to love each other on simple homes can become sacred spaces. tomorrow. Let that be our focus, and the
earth, will we even want to be with each If we let them. It's not preaching or pester­ Lord will work out our forever better than
other in heaven? There are days when ing-it's the moments like these that keep we could ever hope for. e
"Families Can Be Together Forever" sounds my eyes on eternity. A girl is never too old
more like a threat than a promise, and to sit between her motl1er's knees and Read more stories from authors with a
some of us are thinking, "They can be, but have her comb her hair, to receive her love variety of backgrounds in All Kinds al
/via/hers, Thoughts and Essays by
do they have to be?" and allow her to give it in the ways she can Women /or Women, available at
Oeseret Book stores and on
As I stLive to keep my covenants, I've give it best. There is no crown that adorns deserelbook.cam.
been prompted to be more aware of me better than the ones she has created
glimpses of what eternity can be instead upon my head, taught to her between her

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 WORKING TOGETHER FOR GOOD ADMINISTERING
The idea of companionship, partnership, and cooperation The Woman'.� Exponent, an early pioneer publication run by Latter­
between men and women has been modeled by many through­ day Saint women including future Relief. Society General President
out the history of the Church. It began with Emma Smith, who Emmeline B. Wells, shared opinions, ideas, and articles about a
went with Joseph to retrieve the gold plates, sometimes acted as variety of topics, including shared gospel responsibilities of men
scribe while Joseph was translating, wrote letters to politicians in and women.
bis defense, and was president of the ReHef
Society, which was "patterned after the
priesthood." But working together for good
extends even beyond married couples and
early pioneers, as men and women have
joined forces in many capacities over the
last two centuries to cany out of the work
of Zion.

An article on the Church history website

explains: One such shared responsibility the publication addressed
was administering. In tl1e early days of the Church, administer­
Dming the founding meeting of the Nauvoo Relief Society ing as sisters took a va1iety of forms, from performing blessings of
on March 17, 1842, Joseph Smith outlined the responsibili­ healing to performing temple ordinances. In the early days of the
ties of tl1e organization and organized the women similar to Church, tl1e healing of tl1e sick was understood differently tl1an
a priesthood quorum. The sisters were charged with encour­ it is today and was not just per­
aging their male counterparts in doing good, caring for tl1e formed by priesthood-holding
poor, acting with charity, and promoting morality among men. In fact, when asked if it
female Latter-day Saints. The men in priesthood quorums was required for sisters to be set
had al ready been charged with visiting the homes of Church apart to administer to the sick,
members and encouraging them to pray. Both men and President Eliza R. Snow stated,
women were to care for the spiritual welfare of their fellow
Saints while encouraging them to do good works ("Woman� It certainly is not. Any and all
frpo11e11t-Acting with Authority:• histo1y.Cl111rclwfJesusChrist.org). sisters who honor their holy
endowments, not only have
Here are a few additional ways men and women have worked tl1e right, but should feel it a
together to build Zion from Joseph Smith's time to today. duty, whenever called upon

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Relief Soc,Hy Gcnerc,1
Presidents ovprsaw all
female ternpit:• v.ork up
until PrE-s1dent BJtt1st1etE1
Srn,t11 111 1901. ·:,hen t,•111plc
rT\Citronc; tJE:gJ.n to lcli<•· or:
that role

to administer to our sisters in these ordinances, which God

has graciously committed to His daughters as well as to His
sons; and we testify that when administered and received
in faith and humility they are accompanied with all mighty
power (Eliza R. Snow, "To the Branches of the Relief Society;•
Wo111a11's Expo11eut, Sept. 15, 1884, 61).

Today, this be] ief of sharing the mandate to administer to those

wbo are suffering still exists. Though women today may not exer­
cise the same kind of physical bealing power these early sisters did,
they are still called upon to adminjster-or minister-to the needs
of those around them. Combining "home teaching" and "visiting
teaching" responsibilities into "ministering" reemphasizes this
important way that God's sons and daughters are both needed in
efforts to comfort, heal, and shepherd His children back to Him.
By a different definition of the word "administer," the role of
administering has also always been shared by brothers and sisters
in the temple. Emma Smith was the first woman to receive temple
ordinances and initiate them for other women, and she was also
in charge of overseeing female temple workers. Today, temple
matrons oversee the sister workers in the individual temples to
which they are called, and sisters continue to remain a key part of
temple work, coordinating with the brothers to perform sacred
saving ordinances and helping those who come to the temple to
feel God's love.

CHURCH LEADERSHIP
Though some official adjustments have been made in recent years
to further emphasize the importance of women's perspectives in
Church and home settings (such as adding sister leaders to key
general Church and local ward councils), women have regularly
been present and engaged in overseeing the
growth of the Church.
For example, the Relief Society was orga­
nized "after the pattern of the priesthood:'
but it w as still left in the charge of the sisters
with Emma Smith as president. In addition,
sisters like Maiy Isabella Horne were called by

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 Brigham Young to lead the women of the Church in reformations
that reemphasized gospel learning over temporal extravagance
(Saints, Vol. 2: No Unhallowed Haud, chapter 25, pg. 368 ). Aurelia
Spencer Rogers voiced a concern about the education of youth,
leading to the establishment of the P1imary organization (''Aurelia
Spencer Rogers," history.Churcho.fJesusChrist.org). And today, sister
general presidents continue to work closely with the brother gen­
eral presidents in developing programs and providing service to
collectively bless the youth, children, and adults of the Church.
MISSIONARY WORK
In the early days of the Church, false rumors, particularly those
spread by a former member named William Jarman in Europe, led
to widespread negative beliefs about Latter-day Saint women in
Utah. But while wealthy Utal1 Latter-day Saint Elizabeth McCune
was on a family pleasure trip in her home country of England in
1897, she boldly set the record straight after the local mission presi­
dent asked her to share her experience as a woman in Utah. She
testified,
Our husbands are proud of their wives and daughters; they
do not consider that they were created solely to wash dishes
and tend babies; but they give them every opportunity to
attend meetings and lectures and to take up everything
which will educate and develop them. Our religion teaches
us that the wife stands shoulder to shoulder with the
husband ('"I Could Have Gone into Every House,"'
11istory.Ch11rchof]esusChrist.org).
It wasn't long after Sister McCune's experience that Church leaders
recognized the powerful potential of sisters' testimonies, and
single sisters soon began being called as missionaries along with
elders-Amanda Inez Knight and Lucy Jane "Jennie" Brimhall
paving the way in 1898 as the first. Even before single sisters
were called on missions, however, women had served as mission
companions with their husbands. For example, Louisa Pratt joined
her husband, Addison, on one of his missions to Hawaii, where she
taught school, the gospel, and English to the local Tubuaian Saints
(Saints, Vol. 2: No Unhallowed Hand, chapter 10).
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Today, that same spirit of cooperation in missionary work
abounds as young sister missiona1ies serve and lead and teach
alongside the elders, and even older single sisters and senior
missionary couples work together to provide missionary service in
a variety of ways and places.
EXTRAORDINARY OCCASIONS
As sisters of the Church have worked in tandem with prophetic
revelation and their own personal revelation, they have accom­
plished innumerable remarkable acts. Here is just a sample of
some of the-as Emma Smith called them during the first Relief
Society meeting-"extraordinary occasions and pressing calls" that
Latter-day Saint women have taken part in over the years.
WOMEN'S SUFFRAGE
Latter-day Saint women have long been at the forefront of the
fight for women's suffrage. Women were given the right to vote in
Utah Territo1y in Februa1y of 1870, and though
they had to fight for enfranchisement a second
time after the United States government disen­
franchised Utah women a short while later, they
continued to petition not only their own right
to vote but also for the same right for women
around the countly.
They worked closely witl1 leading suffragists
in the countly, such as Susan B. Antl1ony, and
frequently shared opinions and tl1oughts on tl1e
topic in tJ1eir Woman'.\- Exponent pe1iodical, met
with presidents of the United States, and
attended national women's organiza­
tion meetings. When Utah applied
for statehood yet again in 1895, tJ1e
sisters made sure their voices would
remain part of Utal1 state politics and
decisions by successfully campaigning
for their right to vote to be included in
Utah's new bid for statehood.
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 GRAIN DONATION
Under the direction of Relief Society General President
Emmeline B. Wells and the instruction of President Brigham
Young, the Relief Society began working together to grow, buy, sell,
and store grain that could be used to help those in need. While
worldwide victims of disasters received needed assistance from this
grain storage program, it was during World War I that the sisters'
ha.rd work was utilized on a national level. With shortages and
desperate times, the United States government was hard-pressed
for many things during the first Great War, including wheat-that
is, until the Relief Society sold over 200,000 bushels of their saved
grain to the United States government in 1918 to help with the
war efforts.
Did you know:
During the Great Dep, ess1011.
groups of Relref SocretLJ sisters
around t11e world donned bl.:ick
Did you know: skirts Jncl ·.•,h1te st11rts as e1ey
formea · Srngrng r.1ot11crs grou�s
th.:it .:;Ilowed sisters to learn and
Ct1urct1 records pr,,ct,ce ,nusrc sk,lls and perforn,
reported 58 mothers upl,ft1ng music for their Cl1urcl1
ancl 751 infants who nsect11,gs Sometimes t11e11· pro-
died 1n 1922. 9r.1ms ,,.y ere even broJdcast over
KSL Radio
A Wheat Vote
In a 1978 general conference. Relief Society General Pres:dcnt
Bili bara 8. Sm,tt1 proposed to tu, 11 the stewardship of tnc·
Relief Society wheilt program over to t11e Church·s \'/elfJre
Services. contr1but1ng 266.291 bushels of wl1e.:it.
After stating t11,1t tne dec:s,on was sup­
ported tJLJ the Relief SocretLJ general boord.
President Bart)Jra Smrth tl1en cJl'ed for a vote
"Wrth President K1111ball's perm,ssron. I would
1,ke to ask. t11e s1s:e, s present 1n t111s mec·t111g
also to affirm tl11s action. All sisters ,n favor of
J01111ng 1·J1th us 111 the· c1cc,s,011 to include tile
Relief Society wl1ec1t 111 the \'/Orldw,de Ct1urct1
grJ111 storage progr,1111 p!ec1se s,gn,fy. Thank
you" ("The Fruit of Our Welfare SPrvrcc;
L;,,bors · Octobu i978 general conference)
SAVING 500 CHILDREN
Not long after women received the 1ight to vote, the sixth Relief
Society General President, Clarissa Smith Williams, and the sisters
of the Church eagerly began looking for way s to continue making
a difference in their cmm11unities. Their first focus was women,
girls, and children in need. Particularly concerning to President
Williams was the high mortality rate of mothers and infants, so the
Relief Society went to work using interest from the Relief Society
wheat fund to improve the maternity resources in wards and
stakes around the world. Funds were used to do a variety of things,
including opening maternity hospitals. Two years after these
efforts began, the Presiding Bishopric reported that an estimated
500 children had been saved in that time as a result.

CONSTRUCTING THE RELIEF SOCIETY BUILDING

Though it may seem like just another beautiful office building on
Temple Sguare, the Relief Society Building is actually a symbol of
significant work and sacrifice.
As early as 1896, Sarah Granger Kimball proposed constructing
a building for the Relief Society General Presidency and was sup­
ported unanimously by the other sister leaders-they even raised
over $21,000 for the project. But when it was ultimately decided
that the sisters would be given office space in the new Bishop's
Building instead, they (somewhat disappointedly) placed their
vision on a shelf and settled into their new home.

34 LOS LIVING JULY/AUGUST 2020

 The sisters eventually outgrew their office space, and President
George Albert Smith at last approved a new building, instructing
the sisters to make it as beautiful as they wanted.
The almost $1 million project would again require some fund­
raising efforts, however, and a plan was formulated to ask each
sister in the Church to donate $5 (over $50 today) toward the build­
ing, which the First Presidency agreed to match. In some cases,
ward fundraisers were held to help sistern who could not afford
to donate, and sisters in war-ravaged Europe, who were not asked to
donate due to their destitute condition, instead sent gilts to help
furnish and decorate the special building. The building was fina!Jy
completed in 1956 and continues to house the sister leaders of the
Church today, not just as an office building but as "a place where
the women of the Church can gather, work, and learn together and
reflect on the sisterhood of the Relief Society" ("The Story of the
Relief Society Building," history.Ch11rchofJesusClirist.org).

But these acts of

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recent Relief Society effort The Society sisters-and their
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protect frontline medical professionals, were sewn by sisters WOMEN EVERYWHERE
across the Wasatch Front and given to tl1e charitable community Fulfilling roles as wives, mothers, and nurturers has not discour­
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 was ElizaR. Snow, who was also a poet and wrote several hymns
we still sing today in addition to serving as a Reuef Society General
President.
Even in the early days of the Church, women organized events
and celebrations, such as the first Pioneer Day in 1849. Since then,
they have played basketball on college teams, run for political
offices, and served as department heads and leaders in the busi­
ness world. Over the years, Latter-day Saint women like Gladys
Knight, Cecile Pelous, Noelle Pikus Pace, and so many others have
shared the gospel as musicians, renowned clothing designers,
humanitarians, Olym pic athletes, mothers, chefs, actors, and so
much more.
If Latter-day Saint women have learned one thing over the
years, it is that their unique talents and interests can serve them,
their families, and the Church. Opportunities to gain education,
raise children, and/or pursue a career have, if anything, expanded
over the years both inside and outside the Church and around
the world as women continue to reach their divine potential and
recognize their valuable contribution in God's kingdom.
Some Things Stay the Same
The world continues to change, and so do the women who live in it.
But no matter the time or the new situations that arise, women of
the Church are always ready to answer the call to serve others.
Many of us still like to make over-the-top Sunday dinners for
our families (see Stlillts, Vol. 2: No U11l1t1/lowed Hand chapter 25). We
still uke to gather together and socialize, we still strive to minister
and fulfill our callings in better and holier ways, we still worry
about the needs of others, and we still love to do temple work.
Even for those who don't feel like these descriptions fit their
experience, there is one thing that eve1y woman past and present
in the Church has in common-as we live righteously, we will
always have access to personal revelation as beloved daughters
of God. Armed with that knowledge, sisters in Zion in all parts of
the earth and from all walks of. life will continue to do remarkable
things. o
36 LOS LIVING JULY/AUGUST 2020
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 an indignation meeting on January 6, 1870, Bathsheba Smith
declared, "We demand of the Gov the right of Franchise:• The
territorial legislature of Utah, primarily made up of Latter-day
Saints, acted on Smith's statement quickly. They passed a law a
month later, giving women in Utal1 the right to vote in February
1870. Uta11 governor Stephen A. Mann signed the law, and Utah
became the second territory where women could vote, follow­
ing Wyoming by a few weeks.
There was an election in Uta11 two days after the law was
passed. About a dozen proud women walked to the polls on
February 14, 1870. They were the first women in America to
vote under an equal suffrage law.

.......
�....... "IT IS OUR DUTY TO VOTE, SISTERS"
Joseph Smith organized the women of the Church into the
Relief Society in Nauvoo, Illinois, in 1842, promising that
"this is the beginning of better days:• Though the organiza-
tion of Relief Society disappeared for a time as the Saints
moved to the Salt Lake Valley, the experience of organizing
in Nauvoo would help the women of the Church through
the difficult years ahead as they tried to scratch out a viable SUSAN 8. ANTHONY POSES WITH MANY OF HER UTAH SUFFRAGIST
community in the desert. FR/ENOS, INCLUOING EMMELINE 8. WELLS, MARTHA HUGHES CANNON,
For instance, when the practice of plural marriage came SARAH M. KIMBALL, ANO ZINA O.H. YOUNG
under attack by the United States government in the 1860s,
the women of the Church were ready. Although only 40
percent of men, women, and children in Uta11 lived in a plural Sarah M. Kimball "had waited patiently a long time:• she
household, the practice of polygamy in Utah attracted national told her Fifteenth Ward Relief Society sisters in a meeting a few
attention. days later. '�d now tl1at we were granted the right of suffrage;•
Laws were being proposed in Washington that would she said in the meeting notes, "she would openly declare
escalate the punishments for those who practiced polygamy, herself a woman's rights woman:•
including confiscating Church property, forcing women to It turns out that Utah was full of women's rights women.
testify against their husbands, and imprisoning men who prac­ The Relief Society sisters taught each other the rules of parlia­
ticed polygamy. mentary procedures and the basics of civics and government.
The Relief Society responded immediately to this threat to
their freedom of religion. They organized massive meetings to
protest anti-polygamy laws and to assert their rights as citizens
to freedom of religion-including the freedom to choose their
own husbands. Tens of thousands of women in Utah attended
these "indignation meetings" during the 1870s. In preparing for
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So that they would be better informed voters, Sarah Kimball
encouraged women to read the United States Constitution
six times.
ln the next election in the fall of 1870, the women of Utah
voted by the thousands.
Relief Society General President Eliza R. Snow, a strong
advocate of women's advancement, proclaimed to the women
of the Church, "It is our duty to vote, sisters. Let no trifling
thing keep you at home."
"THE RIGHTS OF THE WOMEN OF ZION"
The addition of women to the electorate was highly contro­
versial. The federal government, determjned to stamp out
polygamy, had hoped that Utah women-whom they believed
to be oppressed-might shake the strength of the Church in
Utah politics and vote agrunst polygamist leaders like Brigham
Young. When that didn't happen, they began drafting laws to
disenfranchise the women of Utah.
The famous women's rights women of the Eastern Uruted
States, women like Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B.
Anthony, rallied a.round Uta!, women. They worked together to
lobby the Congress and a few US presidents, and Stanton and
Anthony even spoke in the Salt Lake Tabernacle. Uta.h's learung
suffragist, Emmeline B. Wells, personally met with six US
presidents-Rutherford B. Hayes, Grover Cleveland, Theodore
Roosevelt, James A. Garfield, Ulysses S. Grant, and Woodrow
Wilson-to defend voting rights for women in Utah. She also
became close friends with Susan B. Anthony.
Keeping the right to vote became an all-hands-on-deck
mjssion for Utah women i11 the 1870s and 1880s. Emmeline B.
Wells eruted the Relief Society newspaper, the Woman's Expo11rnt.
and filled every edition with arguments for women's suffrage
and women's rights.
"The franchise here in Utah is developing powers in
women that will a.stonjsh the world," read one editorial in the
\Vo111a11s Expo11tllf in 1878. "We have been moderate in all things,
rejoicing in our emancipation, thankfully accepting the blessing
as a precious right, too precious to be trilled with."
The masthead of the Womans Expo11ellf was beautifully clear
that the cause wasn't Utal1's a.lone: "For the rights of the women
of Zjon, and the women of a.II nations."
But by 1887, Congress had had enough of polygamy in Utah.
They wrote the Edmunds-Tucker Act, which disincorporated
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Srunts, confiscated
all of its property, and rusenfranchised all Utah women­
regardless of whether or not they practiced plural marriage.
The loss of the right to vote after 17 yea.rs was a heartbreak
in Utah. "We were citizens of the United States, armed with
that all-potent yet peaceful political weapon, the ballot, and
we challenge the world to show where in a single instance we
yielded it wrongfully," read an erutorial in the Womans fapo11wt.
National women's suffrage leaders were also discouraged by
this setback to their movement. The women of Utah continued to
work side by side with the National Woman Suffrage Association
to change people's hearts and minds for a woman's right to vote.
"UTAH'S GLORIOUS STAR"
With no end to the opposition and political persecution in sight
and after much prayer and a revelation, the president of the
Church at the time, Wilford Woodruff, announced the end
of polygamous marriages in 1890.When polygamy officially
ended in Utah, the territory could apply to join the Uruted
States as a state. The women of Utah saw an operung to get their
voting rights restored. When a group of delegates gathered in
Salt Lake City in 1895 to write a constitution for the new state,
women in Utal1 made sure that their voting rights would be
irrevocably written into the law.
They signed petitions asking for their voting rights. They
held large rallies for their voting rights. They asked each del­
egate to sign a pledge to protect their voting rights.
The debate at the constitutional convention was tense.
People in Utah were anxious to have the privileges of
statehood-like representation in Congress-and some delegates,
like B.H. Roberts, argued that "the adoption of woman suffrage
is dangerous to the acquiring of statehood." Utah had been
rejected from joining the United States in the past, and the del­
egates didn't want anything to give Congress an excuse to reject
them again.
Among the delegates who argued for including women's
suffrage in the constitution was Orson F. Whitney, a member
of the Quorum of the 1\velve Apostles. "There are some things
hjgher and dearer than Statehood:' he srud. He beLleved that
the movement of women to add their voices to the government
was "one of the great levers by which the AJmighty is lifting up
trus fallen world, lifting it nearer to the throne of its Creator."
Franklin S. Richards, another delegate to the convention,
made a striking preruetion. "Equal suffrage will prove the
brightest and purest ray of Utah's glorious star:' he srud.
Meanwhne, his wife, Emily S. Richards, president of the
Woman Suffrage Association of Utah, was working furiously to
ensure that the constitution would protect them. B.H. Roberts
and other delegates had suggested that women's suffrage could
be a separate bill or a separate amendment to the state constitu­
tion, but Utah women were not going to be pushed aside when Martha "Mattie" Hughes Cannon was among the first
later bills and amendments could not be guaranteed. They sent women in the country to attend medical school. She received
petitions to each of the delegates, some with thousands of sig­ degrees from the Unjversity of Deseret, the University of
natures. rt seemed Like every person in Utah wanted to weigh in Michigan, the Uruversity of Pennsylvania, and the National
on this question. School of Elocution and Oratory.
By the time the clause came up for a vote, about 25,000 sig­ A prominent Utah suffragist, Mattie Cannon joined the
natures asked for including suffrage in the constitution while Democratic Party when Utah finally achieved statehood and
onJy 15,000 asked for separate submission. ran for a seat in the Utah State Senate. Her husband, Angus M.
Finally, it ca.me time to vote. The delegates voted 75 to 14 Cannon, joined the Republican Party and also ran for a senate scat.
for inclurung the equal suffrage clause in the new Utah consti­ The Republican-leaning Salt Lake Tribune endorsed Angus,
tution. When Utah's petition for statehood was accepted, the and the Salt Lake Herald responded a few days later by endors­
women of Utah won the right to vote again. ing his wife. "Mrs. Mattie Hughes Cannon, his wife, is the
"Hurrah for Utah:• wrote Susan B. Anthony in a telegram to better man of the two. Send Mrs. Cannon to the state senate
her Latter-day Saint friend, Emmeline B. Wells. as a Democrat and let Mr. Cannon, as a Republican, remain at
"lt seems almost too good to be true that we have equal suf­ home to manage home industry.'
frage," WeUs srud. On election day, Mattie Cannon won the seat in the Utah
Utah entered the Union in 1896 as the third state with equal Senate, becoming the first woman elected as a state senator in
suffrage for women and men. Though there was still a long way the United States.
to go to guarantee equal voting rights for many of the racial Cannon was not the only woman forging her way in
mjnorities in Utah, the women of Utah had acrueved a land­ politics. Utah women had also won seats in the Utah House of
mark victory. Representatives. AJI the women in the Utah legislature were
intent on using their political power to improve society. ln fact,
"SHE IS THE BETTER MAN" influencing famllies and communities for good was a strong
A young doctor named Martha Hughes Cannon was the first driver for women getting involved in politics.
woman to register to vote in August 1895. She had spoken up The masthead of the Womans Exponrnt changed in 1897 to
for women's voting rights at various places, including at the read: "The Ballot in the Hands of the Women of Utah should
Chicago World's Fair in 1893, to great acclrum. FinaLly being able be a Power to better the Home, the State and the Nation:'
to exercise the right to vote would be a great achievement for Latter-day Saint women were intent on taking their new
her in a life that was already full of unusual accomplishments. responsibilities as voters and political actors seriously.
 Utah women weren't done with the suffrage cause after they
won back their right to vote. Their march toward equal rights
had just gotten started, in fact. They wanted to help the women
of the world to win the right, too, starting with women in the
United States.

J "NO SACRIFICE IS TOO GREAT"

The women's rights movement in the rest of the country had How long must American women wait for liberty?" asked one
stalled by 1900. Utah women again lent their organizational banner. "Kaiser Wilson:' said another, "20,000,000 American
skills and righteous fervor to the cause. They began collecting women are not self-governed. Take the beam out of your
signatures for an amendment to the Constitution that would own eye."
enfranchise all American women. They sent 40,000 signatures Protesting the White House was unprecedented and highly
to Washington. They marched in parades locally and around controversial. Passersby sometimes spit on the women holding
the country. They wrote newspaper articles. They testified protest signs or threw things at them to show their disapproval
before the US Congress. of the women's actions, though occasionally a passerby would
Even when the suffrage movement began adopting more give them food in support of their cause. President Wilson
aggressive campaigning tactics, Utal1 women stepped up. In 1917, would often close his eyes as he rode past the women.
the newly formed National Woman's Party began a campaign The protests in front of the White House continued for two
of picketing the White House. A few Utah women grabbed and a half years, from January 10, 1917, to June 4, 1919. Almost
banners and joined the picket line. 2,000 women took turns standing as "silent sentinels" outside
The banners had pointed messages asking President the White House six days a week-sometimes in freezing rain,
Woodrow Wilson to support equal voting rights. "Mr. President, sometimes under the blazing Washington, DC, summer sun.
The two Utalms who we
know participated in this
controversial picketing­
THE A :ENING
Minnie Quay and Lovern
Robertson-were both already
enfranchised. They were
standing up for women out­
side their faith community and
outside their state-women
they didn't personally know.
"I am ready to do anything
within my power, and no sac­
rifice is too great," said Quay.
But as time wore on, these
protests grew even more
unpopular. When the United
States entered World War
I, many people viewed the
wartime protests as treason
against the president.
President Wilson soon
grew tired of the women
standing at his front gate, and
the Capitol police arrested
them. They were imprisoned
in Virginia and horribly mis­
treated. Quay reported that
they were threatened with
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gags and told they would be tied to whipping posts.The guards
threatened to shoot them. Some of the women were beaten so
severely that they were hospitalized. Some went on a hunger
strike and were force fed.
When the newspapers began pubLishing accounts of
the women's mistreatment, public opinion began changing
about the cause. President Wilson also reversed course and
announced his support of an amendment to the Constitution
for women's suffrage, stating, "We have made partners of the
women in this war; shall we admit them only to a partnership
of suffering and sacrifice and toil and not to a partnership of
privilege and right?" By 1919, Congress had written and passed
an an1endment.
The Utah State Legislature had a chance to vote on the
constitutional amendment in the fall of 1919. The special
session was a celebration of Utah women's decades of work for
equal suffrage.
The women serving in the state legislature all played a part.
State Senator ELizabeth Hayward introduced a bill to ratify
the Nineteenth Amendment in the Utah Senate. In the Utah
House, Representative Anna T. Piercey chaired the session and
Representatives Delora W. Blakely and Dr. Grace Stratton-Airey
gave speeches. Zitkala-Sa crisscrossed the United States to advocate for
Utah ratified the Nineteenth Amendment on October 3, native people's rights to full citizenship. Her work bore fruit in
1919. The state legislators voted unanimously for ratification. 1924, when the Indian Citizenship Act passed.
By 1920, enough states had voted for ratification, and the US Still, people on reservations were barred from voting
Constitution was amended so that the right to vote could not be in Utah and many other states. Zitkala-Sa co-founded the
abridged or denied on account of sex. National Council for American Indians to bring native activists
together for suffrage rights.
- "AMERICA, I LOVE THEE" Ultimately, in 1957, the Utah legislature allowed Native
Despite this victory, plenty of people in Utah and across the An1ericans Living on reservations to vote.
country still had to struggle for voting rights well beyond the Utah women have played a huge role in making An1erica
1920s, including Native Americans and women and men of a true democracy, showing the nation that women can and
color. And there are Utah women who have led the charge. should participate in the larger society.
Zitkala-Sa, who lived on the Uintah-Ouray Reservation "When the Prophet Joseph Smith turned the key for the
in Utah for 14 years, was a leading advocate for the rights of emancipation of womankind, it was turned for all the world:•
native peoples. She was an accomplished writer, vioLinist, and President George Albert Smith observed.
lecturer. We can't include here all the women who have blazed trails
"We come from mountain fastness, from cheerless plains, for equality in Utah and across the world, but we can stand on
from far-off low-wooded streams, [ ... ] that we may stand their shoulders and carry forward their legacy of envisioning
side by side with you in ascribing honor to our nation's flag," better days for women and then work hard to make those better
Zitkala-Sa said in an oratory competition during her college days come. O
years. "America, I love thee:'
One of her greatest legacies was helping European Dianna Douglas is the creator and host of Zions
An1ericans acknowledge the beauty and richness of native Suffragists, a podcast about the history of women·s suf­
frage in Utah published by the Deseret News in conjunc­
peoples' cultures through essays, speeches, and even an tion with the release of Thmkmg Women, A Time(ine of
Suffrage in Utah. Find lhe podcast on Apple Podcasts,
original opera. Working with a m usician at Brigham Young THINKING WOMEN
Google Podcasts, Stitcher. or wherever you get pod­
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University, Zitkala-Sa wrote the S1111 Dance Opera based on a deseretbook.com.
Lakota-Sioux religious ritual. The opera was performed in
Utah with local Ute tribal members.
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 As I've read the Book
of Mormon, I've seen a
heritage of sisterhood
that does help me to
know not just who I
am now but, in a sense,
where I come from.

The Connection I Feel to

the Unnamed Women in
the Book of Mormon
The practice of seeing those who are not visible, particularly women, could change your experience studying the scriptures, as it
did for Ashley Mae Hoiland. Whether or not women have their stories recorded, receive worldly acclaim, or do something notable
in the eyes of others, they-and other people who feel forgotten or overlooked-are always notable to our Heavenly Parents
and to our Savior, Jesus Christ. BY ASHLEY MAE HOILAND, EXCERPTED FROM A PLACE TO BELONG: REFLECTIONS FROM MODERN
LATTER-DAY SAINT WOMEN
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T here is a rocking chair in the corner of

my children's room. Most nights before
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of Mormon. In these past months as I've
read with my children, I've started doing
something simple that has changed my
reading. In the places where it says, "My
"Sisters." I include female pronouns wher­
ever appropriate. As I add in these phrases,
maybe because it makes me feel a little
sons," I simply add, "and daughters:' In sneaky, I sometimes look up at Remy and
places where it says "Brothers:' I also add Thea to see if they notice, but no, of course

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they don't. To them, their own worlds are
filled with examples of strong men and
women, so why would the scriptures be
any different? And it's true, why would the
experiences depicted iJ1 the scriptures be
any different?
In my own life, as I've gotten older, the
work of trying to be Christlike has come
down to two simple ideas: learning to look
and find where people need to be seen and
then listening to them. I understood that
the women who needed to be seen and lis­
tened to are the women I do not see at all,
including those in scripture-the women
I refer to as "sisters, daughters, wives,
widows, friends." In short, sl1e and her.
These perceived shes and hers that are not
written about in the Book of Mormon
have become increasingly notable to me
because in so many ways, my contempo­
rary experience mirrors theirs.
As I read the scriptures with the
unmentioned women who were certainly
there but not written about, in my mind
the Book of Mormon becomes abuzz
with the underpinnings of female lives
and voices. I see them forming circles. I
see them working. I see them as leaders in
their communities, even if subversively for
the time. I see them helping to raise one
another's children. I see them as strong,
and I see them as wanting to be spoken of
in our present day.
------------------------------------------------------------------------ -----------------
As I delve further into Book of Mormon stories, I
start to hear a hum of women, first quiet, almost
indiscernible, but the hum of their work and lives
grows louder and more abundant in my mind.
-- - - ----------------- --------------- ---------- ---- ------------------ -- -------------------
Most recently, I've been reading in
Mosiah with my kids. One scene I have
been familiar with my whole life but have
never fully imagined is tl1e part where
King Benjamin is speaking from a tower
to the people. The text mentions that
women and children are present as the
scene is set up, but tl,en the women move
into the background, and King Benjamin
addresses "bretl1ren" tliroughout his
speech. What has struck me in recent
reading is that when I really try to imagine
this scenario, I first see a small scattering
of women here and there. But the more I
try to picture the scene, the more clearly
I see that they are not only a handful of
women but also a landscape of vibrant
and diverse women. They are busy doing
work. They are ready to listen. They are
smart and capable. They are wrangling
children and feeding tl1em proverbial
Cheerios. They are helping each other.
They are cleaning the tent. They are mak­
ing plans. They are laughing. They are
notable to me because I see my own life
playing out in that landscape, and I love
them, these long-ago sisters who also
believed in Christ, who were trying to
do good.
As I delve furtl1er into Book of
Mormon stories, I start to hear a hum
of women, first quiet, almost indiscern­
ible, but tl1e hum of their work and lives
grows louder and more abundant in my
mind until it is not just women being pres­
ent and active in the scene before King
Benjamin but tlrroughout the whole Book
of Mormon. I see these women, women
of ill types-married, unmarried, old,
young, of many different colors and eco­
nomic classes-and they are not stagnant
characters.
I don' t have to imagine very hard to see
them in my mind. I feel like my ow,1 lived
experience has provided enough tlireads
to weave a thousand rich tapestries.
Women are, in various ways, undoubt­
edly an integral part of every major event,
but it's also likely tl1at they will not be
the ones who get to have their story spot­
lighted. These stories are often so regular,
so innocuous, so quotidian, so part of tl1e
background tl1at we fail to tell tl1ese stories
because we fail to see the ways in which
the diverse stories of women are the foun­
dations of nations.
In a women's conference nearly two
decades ago, Sheri Dew said something
that resonates witl1 me as I grnpple with
my ow,1 notions of being notable in today's
world: "My message to you today, my dear
sisters, whom I love, is tl1e same: There
is notl1ing more vital to our success and
our happiness here tl1an learning to hear
the voice of the Spirit. It is the Spirit who
reveals to us our identity-which isn't just
who we are but who we have always been.
And that when we know, our lives take on
a sense of purpose so stum1ing tl1at we can
never be the same again" (Sheri L. Dew,
"Knowing Who You Are-and Who You
Have Always Been;• in Ye Shall Bear Record
of Me: Talks from the 2001 BYU Women'.�
Conference [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 2002],
278).
In tl1ese past montl1s as I've read the
Book of Mormon, I've seen a heritage of
sisterhood that does help me to know not
just who I am now but, in a sense, where I
come from. I see in my mind's eye this vast
movement of women, and in them I see
part of my own identity. I am bolstered by
tl1e image of them. These imagined women
who are not named, not even hinted at in
word, are notable to me in part because I
have to believe that in all my own plain­
ness in this world, I am still notable to my
Heavenly Parents.
I know there are hundreds of ways
to be a woman in the world today, but I'll
speak to my ow,1 expe1ience. Living in
Palo Alto, California, I have come to truly
love tl,e quiet but strong voices of women
who are not always the obvious heroes
of the story, tl,e voices that can seem
invisible to the world but have done the
work of showing me what it i.s to be loved
and cared for in godly ways. Many of the
women who have changed and shaped my
life are not the "notable" women; in fact,
it's likely tliat no one will wTite and tell
their story. It's likely that our conversations,
JULY/AUGUST 2020 LOS LIVING 55
 --··· _ · · · · ·. · ···· .
revelations, and intellect will remain bur­
ied in the sand and hanging on the play
structures of the courtyards where we
spent so many hours while our children
played.
When we first came to Stanford for
graduate school, I was resistant to "mom
conversations." I had a desire to be an
intellectual or at least come off that way. It
didn't take me long, though, to see that the
two are not mutually exclusive.
There will be almost no record of the
many incredible women I've known in my
time here. It's likely that the husbands of
many of them will leave behind written
records of dissertations, names on certifi­
cates and awards and in academic journals.
But for many of the women I know, the
written and spoken record in the halls of
academic and worldly success simply will
not be tJ1ere. The women who feel that the
world is moving swiftly past them and that
they cannot make tJ1eir voice loud enough
to be heard, or maybe they feel that they
don't even have something i.m po1tant
enough to say loudly in tJ,e first place, have
become the most notable women in the
world to me. They are the stories of the
women who have moved me, who have
helped raise my children and formed
circles around me in dark and tired hours,
who have celebrated me as T've done for
them. [Those] women, who likely don't
feel notable, have time and again done the
work of seeing me when I needed to be
seen and listening to me when I thought
no one would care.
I picture women also in relation to
Christ. I think of the women in the New
Testament, some of whom are named but
many of whom are not. In their proJdm­
ity to Christ, their willingness to believe
that they might be healed, forgiven, lis­
tened to, or able to speak, was magnified.
The woman with an issue of blood was
healed, the woman taken in adultery
was forgiven, tJ,e woman at the well was
listened to, and the widow with her two
mites was able to speak.
I wonder then what I am doing in my
own life to give voice to the marginalized
56 LOS LIVING JULY/AUGUST 2020
I wonder then what I
am doing in my own
life to give voice to the
marginalized groups
around me.
groups around me. t wonder how I can be
C11nstJJ Kem aomg ci1e wort< fr1a1 uu1er�
sometimes cannot do for themselves. In
what ways am I seeing those who need to
be seen and listening to them when they
are found? Am I offering my platform to
those who don't normally get to speak?
When I read the scriptures, lam continu­
ally moved at ilie ability and insistence that
Christ had for making what was typically
not notable, notable.
We have a great work to do to ensure
that we do not move forward as a Church
just having to irnagiJ1e what the voices of
the marginalized might be. We can make
room to hear diverse voices from the single
people, people of color, the people with
and without degrees, the people in poverty,
tlie divorced, the women who work out­
side tJ1e home and the women who work
inside the home, tlie physically or mentally
sick, the abused, and the displaced.
Again and again Jesus offers dignity to
people in situations where the law offers
only judgment. What are we doing to give
space and voice to tJ1e people who typi­
cally do not hold power? How do we make
notable what could be deemed "unno­
table"? How do we make sure our modern
scripture forms circles around women so
we do not leave tl1em out of entire books?
How do we mirror Christ's compassion
toward all people? "Have ye any that are
sick among you? Bring tl1em hither. Have
ye any tl1at are lame, or bliJ1d, or halt, or
maiJned, or leprous, or tJ1at are withered,
or tl1at are deaf, or that are afflicted in any
manner? Bring them hither and I will heal
tl1em, for I have compassion upon you;
my bowels are filled with mercy" (3 Nephi
1T7l-
For me, I tl1i.nk tl1e answer will always
be found in what Christ repeatedly taught.
Simply look, and then listen. I am changed
when I tllink of tJ1e woman with an issue
of blood, tlie way she was listened to, when
to herself she said, "If I may but touch
hJs garment, I shall be whole" (Matthew
9:21). Christ likely was listening and made
her notable witl1iJ1 a crowd when she had
probably been considered anything but
notable.
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okay witli not being notable all tJ1e time.
In reading about Christ's interactions
with tJ,e people in 3 Nephi, no names are
mentioned, only a crowd of men, women,
and children. Are we not also simply a
participant in that crowd? When I~read­
that passage, I iJ11agiJ1e a group of regular
people, both men and women, botl1 mar­
ginalized and not. ·1 see tliem also forming
circles, bolstering one anotl1er, notable to
no one except to Christ, who seeks them
out one by one and blesses them and
blesses tl1e111 and blesses tl1em. e
Ashley Mae IAshmae)
A Place Hoiland received a BFA in
��­
painting and an MFA in cre­
to Belong ative writing from Brigham
Young University. Provo, Utah.
She is the author of 100 Birds
�...
Tough! Me lo Fly and the illus­
trator of Mothers Milk: Poems
Searching for Heavenly Moth°'
A writer at the By Common
..,.. ':'lai',,l: Consent blog, she lives in
Santa Cruz. California, with
her three children and
husband.
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Sister Kapp knew years

ago that if the Church
was to serve members
worldwide, some vital
changes needed to
be made.

A Walk Down Church

Memory Lane with
Ardeth Kapp
Former Young Women General President Ardeth Kapp has seen many changes in the Church during her 90 years of
life. In that time, her testimony of continuing revelation-in the Church and in her personal life-has only grown brighter.
BY MORGAN JONES

W alking into Sister Ardeth Kap p's

house feels a bit like walking into a
time machine.
Sister Kapp was called as the ninth
Young Women General President in 1984.
Her birthdate is March 191 1931, the same
era when President Heber). Grant was
president of the Church. She attended
Brigham Young High School (which ceased
operation in 1968) with President Dallin H.
Oaks, who wrote in her high school year­
book that she has "a wonderful soul that is
your most prized possession."
Sister Kapp and her counselors
revealed the Young Women theme that
I recited every Sunday between the
ages of 12 and 18. She remembers when
women began sitting on the stand dur­
ing general conference and when the first

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female spoke during an official session of
conference.
And yet, you would never know Sister
Kapp's age by spending a morning with her.
Her mind is sharp and her memmies are
a Church history gold mine. So what does
someone with all those years of knowledge
and experience thif'k of all the recent
changes to the Young Women program, the
implementation of Come, Follow Me, and
the progress of the Church as a whole?
The Young Women Program
In October 2019 general conference, a
new Young Women theme and changes
to the program's class structure were
announced. The Church also retired the
terms "Beehive:' "Mia Maid," and "Laurel;•
in favor of organizing classes according to a
ward's specific needs. But while Sister Kapp
worked hard to build many changes in the
Young Women program during her time
as Young Women General President, these
new adjustments don't give her any pause.
"My feeling honestly has been [that] I
believe in continuing revelation," she says.
"It'll always be better than it's even been
before for this specific ti.me, and so I can
just raise my hand to the square."
Sister Kapp shares how during her time
as Young Women General President, the
women leadership trusted in that contin­
ued revelation.According to Sister Kapp,
Sister Patricia Holland gave a prayer before
they presented the proposed changes for
tl1e Young Women program in tl1e 1980s.
In the prayer, she entreated God to help
tl1em know whether the changes they were
proposing were right.
"If this is what the Lord wants for the
preparation of young women at this ti.me:'
Sister Kapp recalls Sister HoUand praying,
"then we pray that the Brethren's ears will
be open when we take the plan to them,
and if it isn't, that they'U be closed and
we'll go back and keep working!'
The changes were approved. In cel­
ebration, they sent balloons to young
women all around the world. They invited
them to wTite their testimonies on a card,
60 LDS LIVING JULY/AUGUST 2020
"The Lord knows who we are and where we are.
But we stand in amazement, don't we?"
attach that card to the balloon, and tJ1en
release ilie balloon to the sky.
"We knew about the sons of Helaman,
but now we know about ilie daughters of
helium," people quipped afterwards. But
Sister Kapp now considers that day just a
small indication of what the future held for
the young women of tJ1e Church.
Speaking of the missionary age change
in 2012, she says, "It had been 25 years
since tJ1e young women attached tJ1eir
testimonies to balloons and sent them
into the world. That glorious October day
was ... foreshadowing [tJ1e] day when
thousands of young women would attach
missionary tags [over] ilieir hearts and go
out and bear their testimonies eye-to-eye."
Curriculum
With a master's degree in curriculum
development from Brigham Young
University and experience on ilie Youth
Correlation and General Curriculum com­
mittees of the Church, Sister Kapp knew
years ago tJ1at if tJ,e Church was to serve
members worldwide, some vital changes
needed to be made. For instance, when she
saw a paragraph in a Church publication
about the importance of putting disin­
fectant in your shoes when she knew that
tJiere were people in tJ1e world without
shoes-well, that simply had to go.
-ARDETH KAPP
She also recognized tl1at standards
in the Fo-r t/1e Strength of Youth pamphlet
with reminders like "Don't go dowi1toW11
with your hair in curlers" or "Put gum in
your wastepaper basket" were outdated.
Interestingly, she recalls tJiat the updated
pamphlet was approved as the result of
a chance conversation with President
Thomas S. Monson.
"Those things behind the scenes aren't
magic, they're just the hand of tJ1e Lord
moving thjngs in a way that makes every­
one feel responsible," Sister Kapp says.
Sister Kapp adds tJ1at Come, Follow Me is
another step forward in our efforts to
become disciples of Jesus Christ.
"I think it's truly inspired, witJ1 a tre­
mendous responsibility but a high level of
conversion and practice;• she says. ''As long
as we're on a track running to do whatever
we can do and check it off, we can get it on
the outside. But if wc don't get it on the
inside, it'll just wash off under pressure."
More Than a Ministering
Assignment
Sister Kapp also believes the imple­
mentation of ministering has immense
possibilities and significance for tJ1e future.
"The feeling tJ1at l've had about it is
that so much of our loyalty to ilie Church
is dependent on our fi.lling an assignment
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 and checking it off: 'I've paid my tithing,
I've paid my fast, I went to church, I did my
lesson, ' but I think ministering is deeper
than assignments," she says. "I think minis­
tering is ... what we feel inside because of
the testi.n10nies that we have. We see people
and we have a yearning to be able to help
them carry their burden or share their joy:''
She recalls receivi.ng a letter from a
woman in Idaho who wrote, "Thank you so
much for taking your precious time to look
at me. So few people care nowadays."
"Could we just look at someone and
be ministering?" Sister Kapp asks me. "It's
what we feel inside about that person that
might be more important than what we say:''
Ministering shouldn't be li.nuted to
those we are assigned to minister to, Sister
Kapp says.It's about the day-to-day inter­
actions with the people around us.
"In the groce1y store, there nlight just
be a little boy tl,at is fighting witl, lus
mother, and I'll say, 'If that child ever wants
to run away from home, you can send him
to my house.' And then she'll start to laugh,
and the little kid will laugh," she says with
a snlile.But when it comes right down to
it, people need to know they aren't alone.
"We walk in such isolation;' she says.
Ministering can begin witl, a phone
call, an email, or a note, says Sister Kapp,
and she proves it, too. Since she lives down
the street from an elementa1y school, she
often ministers to the children in her
neighborhood.
"A.. lot of kids don't feel comfortable
at school;• she says. "A.. lot of kids wony
they're not as smart, and I think if we look
for opportunities to strcngtl,en anyone,
anywhere, it can be a blessing:•
Sister Kapp grabs a picture frame and
invites me to participate in her daily after­
school routine with each of the children
who come to her door.
"How are you?" she asks.
The children then read the framed
print, which says, "Better than Twas, but
not as good as I'm going to be:'
Sister Kapp tl1en asks, "What are you
doing?"
"Trying a little harder to be a little
better;' comes tl1e reply.
She then retrieves a bowl of candy. The
children take a few pieces and she invites
them to sign her guestbook. Pages and
pages of entries reflect Sister Kapp's con­
stant ministering efforts.
Relying on Revelation Amidst
Heartache
Sister Kapp's Christlike way of ministering
has additional significance considering she
always longed to have a large family but
she and her husband were never able to
have children of their own.
"You go tluough this agonizing pro­
cedure of thinking, 'Well, we must not be
worthy, ' and then [my husband was] called
as a bishop and I'd think, 'It must be me
that's not worthy,"' she adnlits."It was a
hard time because eve1yone kept saying,
'Don't be selfish, you could adopt and you
could love children.Don't let that keep
you from having a family. '"
Sister Kapp and her husband prayed
earnestly and went to the temple fre­
quently to inquire of the Lord and ask if
tl1ey should adopt. But tl1e assurance con­
sistently came back tl,at they were not to
have cllildren at tl1is time.
"And you don't explain tl,a.t to anyone,
but that was a hard time for us," she recalls.
Years passed, and Sister Ka.pp watched her
friends and fa.m ily raise their families. Her
younger sister had 11 children, and there
was a. certain pain she felt at not being able
to have one of her own.But tl1rough it all,
she relied on her fa.itl1.
"Every time [my sister] would call and
tell me that she was pregnant again, I'd
think 1 9, 10, 11.' But ...I'd [also] think,
'This life is short.It's a time of testing, and I
don't have the answers, but I have the faith.'"
There were other times when Sister
Ka.pp also received assurances tl1at she and
her husband were doing what God would
have them do.
"Thirty years later, when I was called
as Young Women General President, the
prophet indicated that we were on the
right track and we would raise our chil­
dren during the Millennium when Satan
was bound;' she says. "So, we just had to
hang onto tl1at:'
In exchange for the 11400,000 prayers"
she said for a. cllild of her own, Sister Kapp
has been given opportunities to bless tl1e
lives of thousands of young women and
hundreds of missionaries and temple ordi­
nance workers.
"When I see women who say, 'Oh, you
were the Young Women leader when I was a
girl, ' I say, 'That makes you one of my girls.'"
Charity-the Pure Love of Christ
It's true. When I walked into her house,
Sister Kapp said to me, "You must have
been a Beehive when I was Young Women
president:' The truth is, I wasn't even born
at the ti.me of her call, but as we sat across
from each otl1er in tl1e home office Sister
Ka.pp shared with her late husband and I
listened to her share memories of where
the Church has been and hope for where
it is headed, I felt love radiating from the
woman sitting across from me-love that
was enough to fill empty spaces in tl,e
hearts of thousands of young women all
around the world.
As I confided in her tl1at, a.t times, I
feel like people question my path in life,
she told me she understood and spoke of
trusting in personal revelation. And when
I told her that I sometimes feel inadequate
and unqualified to sit in sacred spaces with
people like her?
"lt's tl1e same tlung [with me]:' she says,
witl1 a twinkle in her eye."How would a lit­
tle girl in a farnung community [be here]?
We don't know. The Lord knows who we
a.re and where we a.re. But we stand in
an1azement, don't we?" 6
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these organizations met often to give
pro-suffrage speeches, teach lessons in
civics, and plan efforts to secure wide­
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suffrage in the state constitution once
This summer, Thinking Women and men might ask, as 5. Michael Wilcox does in Utah joined the Union. They also sent
delegates to territory-wide and national
his new book, What Seek Ye? Whether you're seeking to better feel the Spirit: The suffrage conventions.
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A Timeline of Suffrage in Utah cational, and professional advancement of become members of the UWSA. Notable
exceptions of non-Latter-day-Saint
By Katherine Kitterman, Rebekah Clark women. women who joined the UWSA included
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 tuning in

ALL IN-EPISODE 69:

Celebrating What
Makes Us Who We Are
Lola Ogunbote was born in Nigeria and was raised in London, England. Her parents
I
joined the Church while living in two different countries, but they were sealed as
a family in the London temple before Ogunbote was born. She was a practicing
barrister before giving it all up to become a youth soccer coach. She is now the head
of soccer at Beijing Royal School, coaching their U16 and U18 teams. In this excerpt,
Ogunbote talks about her testimony and the racial challenges she exper iences at
church. The following excerpt has been edited for clarity.

M organ Jones: How has the gospel

shaped who you have become?
Lola Ogunbote: That's a great question.
... I think in addition to being Nigerian, in
addition to being British, I'm also a mem­
ber of this church.AJ1d so there [are] these
three cultures that I'm kind of balancing.
AJ,d like many people, you know, I was
born into the Church, I grew up, I spent all
of my life in the Church. It hasn't always
been a smooth-sailing journey. ['ve had
to question and discover and find out for
myself if this is something that I want to
do.....A11d it's interesting that, you know,
this is an "all in" conversation, but that is
literally my personality. I'm either all in
or all out, which can be a good thing [or]
a bad thing, depending on the context.
But I've come to the decision that this is
where I want to be.This is the lifestyle
that I think best suits who I am. I've tried
other lifestyles, and they've been tempo­
rarily fun and rewarding, but not joyous. I
think there's a difference between being
happy and having joy. I think that this
church just brings me that level-another
level of joy.And it has taken me a while to
get there, but now that I'm here, I know
that it's where I want to be.I'm here to stay.
Obviously, you never know what life can
bring, but I'm quietly confident that this is
it for me....
MJ: Have you experienced racism in
the Church?
LO: Witliout goi11g too deep ...l
think a lot of people are ignorant, I think
a lot of people have prejudices-we all
have prejudices-a lot of people can be
discriminatory, and some are racist.I've
experienced all of the above during my
journey in this church....The doctrine,
the culture, and the people, they arc very,
very independent of each other. AJ,d, you
know, I think I heard it once that God has
to work with imperfect people-it 111 ust
be very frustrating (see "Lord, I Believe:'
Elder Jeffrey R.Holland, April 2013 gen­
eral conference).We have to be tolerant
towards one another, and we have to show
love, and sometimes we have to show love
to people [who] don't love us.And that has
been a hard lesson to learn, but J have not
let it destroy me completely....
For me as a black woman, I want to
come to church and escape that, and so
it destroys me when the place that I am
seeking refuge, I'm getting the same treat­
ment that I'm trying to escape outside.
... that's where I then have to step back,
analyze, and say, "Wait, well, that's just
an individual's perspective.Am I going
to let that detract from my journey witl,
Christ, my walk with Clu·ist, my walk with
God? The God tliat made me in His image?
No." And I say it now in a place where I'm
comfortable, but it's been a battle..A11d I
know there [are] a lot of people [who] are
still battling wit!, it-tl1ey don't feel like
there's a place for them, or they don't feel
that they're fully accepted.And I think
to them T would say, "I hear you. I under­
stand.But seek your acceptance from God
first. Seek your acceptance from Jesus, and
then shelve the rest." ...You've got to not
deny yourself the opportunity to walk with
Christ because of small-minded and igno­
rant people and racist people. e
Hear more of Ogunbotes story on All In episode 69,
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When tl1ey were si11gle college students iu searcb
of strong .fe111ale role 111odels, This Is the Gospel
producers Sarai, Blake and KaRyn Lay began
organi"ziug "The Gatherings;• where tl1ey would
invite wo111en they admired to co111e and speak to
a small group of their friends. In this excerpt, they
reminisce about the lasting impact those wo111e11
and their stories /1ad on them.
K aRyn Lay: Sally Mart, she was some­
body [who] I knew from Pennsylvania,
and I think you said that you weren't there,
right, Sarah?
Sarah Blake: I had strep throat.I didn't
want to get her kids sick, so I couldn't go.
KL: She was a nurse.She couldn't have
children of her own, so she adopted all
of these special needs kids from all over
the world.And then she was diagnosed
with either stage 3 or stage 4 cancer, and
I remember her saying that when she got
the diagnosis-somebody took her kids for
the day, and she went into the bedroom
and she got down on her knees, and she
said to Heavenly Father, "If we're going to
do this, let's make it a doozy"
I remember that she used the word
"doozY:' and I was like, "What is she talk­
ing about?" She said, "Oh, I loved having
breast cancer!' She said, "I talked to the
Lord, and I said, 'I want to learn every pos­
sible thing that I can from this experience,
so don't hold back , Heavenly Father, do
not hold back on me. Give everything that
you've got to me so that I can do whatever
it is tl1at you need me to do to become
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the woman that you want me to become."'
And I had never heard anybody talk about
a trial that way before in my life. It was
shocking and exciting, and it kind of blew
my mind.And I just realized, "Oh, I want
to be like Sally.I want to be fearless." How
fearless of her, right? ... How trusting of
God's infinite grace that even when she's
got all these kids to take care of, she recog­
nizes that tl1is is going to only work if she
lea.ms what she needs to learn from it, and
I've never forgotten tl1at.
SB: It makes me sad I missed that one.
So then we had we had Olene Walker, the
first female governor of Utah ....I loved
her. I loved her sense of humor and her
perspective that she had from her years of
life.And one of tlie big things that stuck
out to me, and I apologize to Olene and
her descendants if I mess up her stories,
but she talked about-she got married, and
her husband was in grad school, and tl1ey
had seven kids in 11 years and moved 13
tirnes, or something like that.And she sur­
vived all that, and she said it was just a blur.
And then when that was over and they
were somewhere stable, she started a PhD
when her youngest was 2 [years old]. She's
always been a person who didn't need a
ton of sleep, so she would, you know, be
tl1e mom all day, help her kids witl1 their
homework, get them in bed, and then start
her homework and do her ... studying
until a.bout two in the morning, and then
sleep for four hours, and then start the
whole thing again.And she was like, "Not
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it worked okay for me."
KL: What has that done for your life?
SB: This was exactly the kind of guid­
ance I was looking for-that in women's
lives in par ticular, there are seasons in
your life.And you have to em brace the
sea.sons and accept that and recognize you
can't have it all at the same time, but over
the course of your life, you can have it all
if you accept the seasons as they come.So,
like, the sea.son of having small children is
an intensive, demanding season, and you
can't do all the other things at that time.
This season of being single is a different
kind of opportunity to grow and focus on
your own relationsl1ip with the Lord. But I
think they really showed us by the exam­
ple of their own lives that if you make the
most of whatever sea.son you're in, that's
tl1e way to be your best self. O
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Close Quote:

0 Why do we need to look women to be independent

at history as a whole?
I think any time history
appears to be too tidy or too
perfect, people are suspicious
of it because that's not who
we are as people.We don't
live our lives in tidy ways. We
know from looking at our own
personal histories and our
own personal characters that
we're complex. There's some
good [and] some bad in all of
us. What I've learned working
with great historians is that
they're never afraid to really
wrestle witl1 the very human
complexities that these stories
offer.And for me, as a member
of the Church, that complexity
is actually what boosts my tes­
timony. fl>
0 What is Pioneering the
Vote: The Untold Story of
Suffragists in Utah and the
West about?
The book is set in May of 1895,
so almost exactly 125 years
ago. The setting is the Rocky
Mountain Suffrage Conference,
which was a conference hosted
by tl1e women of Utah during
which Susan B.Anthony
and Reverend Anna Howard
Shaw came from the East
to congratulate the women
of Utah on being the third
state in the nation to give
women the right to vote. As
we approach the centennial of
2otl1 century story: tl1e mass
media of the 1910s, the Silent
Sentinels chaining themselves
to tl1e White House gates, tl1e
parades in New York, tl1e suf­
frage banners, tl1e photogrnphs
of tl1e women on horses-those
are what people a.re drawn to.
The tl1esis of Pioneering the Vote
is that the first four states tl1at
gave women political equality,
and of course Utah in particu­
lar, get left out because tl1ey
don't have iliese glamorous
and relatable st01ies. fl>
tl1inkers-and they wanted to
put on a political show that
demonstrated tl1at polygamy
was not the form of slavery
tl1at the rest of tl1e world
iliought that it was. fl>
0 This year is the 200th
anniversary of the First
Vision. What does the
Restoration mean to you?
Sarah M. Kimball [said] ...
"The sure foundations of tl1e
suffrage cause were deeply
and permanently la.id on tl1e
17tl1 of March, 1842;' which
of course was the day tl,at
tl1e Relief Society was orga­
nized.And she called the
gospel "our gospel, tl1e gospel
of equal rights:• So I think for
me, when we're celebrating
the Restoration, we have to
celebrate not just what hap­
an equal suffrage law. That was pened 200 years ago, but also
in large part due to a support­ 150 years ago, and 100 years
ive climate created by Church ago, and all of the expansion
leadership.The warm, fuzzy tl1at I hope will continue in
side of the story is tl1at they the future. Our forernotl1ers
felt like it was a continuation and our forefatl1ers saw tl1e
of tl1e Restoration. Orson F. women's advocacy movement
Whjtney said he felt like the as a contilrnation of what
women's rights movement Joseph Smith started with the
was "the great lever by which Relief Society and what tl1e
the Almighty is lifting up tl1is gospel started in its work for
fallen world." They really saw equality, respect, and justice
it as a way to lead the world for all.G, e
in tl1e restoration of trutl,
and of a better society On tl1e Read more from
darker side, tl1ey were doing it I \I JU\,' Neylan McBaine in

the Nineteenth Amendment,
which extended women's vot­
ing lights across ilie country,
ilie vast majority of tl1e nation's
celebrations focus more on the
0 What were the opinions
of early Church leaders
about women's rights?
Utah was tl1e first place an
An1erican woman voted under
because it was politically expe­
dient to protect their way of
life.They were tJ.ying to show
tl1at tl1eir women were not
chattel-mat tl1ey trusted tl1eir
,.'I
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her new book.
Pioneering the Vote:
The Untold Story of
Suffragists in Utah
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an incredible history of faith, service, and hard work. Take a look!

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C h ?-Ii ty NeVer Fail eth
Age of the
Relief Society
organization:

years

March lZ
1842
Day the Relief Society was founded
in the Red Bnck Store in Nauvoo
Women called to serve

1898
Year Relief Society members were
million+
Relief Society members
as temple workers in the
original Nauvoo Temple

around the world today

first required to pay annual dues
(this was discontinued in 1970) 29
Years that the Relief Society General

1915
Year hundreds of Relief Society sisters
1,000
Bushels of wheat
Presidency and general board shared
office space with the Womans Exponent

the f ·st Relief Society

$1,000,000
attended the World·s Fair in San Francisco granary held
to see the International Congress of
Genealogy exhibit
200,000 Construction cost of the
Bushels of wheat sold to ti'� Relief Society Building

1970
U� governrre'1t by tlie Relief on Temple Square
Society during WW,

$5
Year the Relief Society Magazine was
replaced by the Ensign
Donation amount asked from
100.000 Relief Society members for the
construction of the Relief Society Building

1 million
Masks Relief Society sisters in the
Wasatch Front made in a week to help
1956
Year the Relief Society Building was
with the COVID-19 pandemic
completed and dedicated

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