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Summary Feel The Fear Book Summary PDF
Summary Feel The Fear Book Summary PDF
Summary Feel The Fear Book Summary PDF
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Taking responsibility
We don’t blame others for anything we are being, doing, having, or feeling
We do not beat up on ourselves
We are aware of when we are not taking responsibility so we can change
We are handling the “chatterbox” in our head
We are aware of the payoff that is keeping us stuck
We are setting goals and working towards them
We understand that we have choices in any given situation
“Fear (whatever yours happens to be) is holding you back from experiencing life the way you
want to”.
We create our own reality: when we learn to handle our fear, we move from a position of pain
to one of power! Myth: negative talk = reality and positive talk = unrealistic – Not true. About 90%
of what we worry about ever happens. That means our negative worries only have a bout a 10%
chance of being correct! A positive outlook can create a very “realistic” life of joy and satisfaction.
Our mind reacts to what we feed it. Stop feeding yourself negative thoughts. Question: how do
you feel when you are around negative, depressed, complaining people?
Positive thinking toolbox – tape or CD player, inspirational tapes or CD’s, inspirational books
(your own so you can highlight and mark in them), index cards, positive quotes, statements of
affirmation (pg. 80 for examples ) If we will commit to a positive thinking program and routine it
will change our lives. Our energy will increase. Our fears will begin to diminish, we will feel better
physically, and we will silence the negative chatterbox in our head. We will begin to draw more
positive people into our lives. We will begin to gain the power we need to handle whatever life
throws at us.
When “They” don’t want you to grow…when significant people in your life don’t want you to
change or grow – how do we handle that?
• Awareness…are you a member of the moan-and-groan club or crowd? As you become
more positive, you will be more aware of the kind of people you are around and whether
they exude a negative or positive behavior and speech; you will automatically draw and
be drawn to more positive people.
• Seek out strong, motivating, inspiring, supportive people: mentors, friends who are farther
along in the journey than you, a good coach, nutritious co-workers, friends, and clients.
• Strive for healthy assertiveness. We lean towards aggressive behavior when we are
hanging on to our new behavior for dear life. That’s when we will tend to lash out at those
who don’t support us or when our statements become obnoxious and hurtful. We will lean
towards passive behavior when we are not quite sure of ourselves and feel the need to
defend our behavior.
• Acknowledge others when they are supporting you. Learn to respond to your significant
others in a way that is positive and uplifting. Let them know how much you appreciate
them, their support, and their willingness to help you grow.
• Be your own best friend. Do not put yourself down. Your new strength will help you break
unhealthy ties and establish new, healthier ones.
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How whole is your “Whole Life”? – Example on page 138-139
Create what you want in each area of your life – set goals & action steps, read it daily, share
your grid with someone you trust, find an accountability partner. Keep asking yourself, “How
whole is my life?” Continue to create richness for yourself that nothing can ever take away your
basic sense of completeness. It is then that you will realize how little you have to fear.