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Ela Masculinity Essay
Ela Masculinity Essay
Ela Masculinity Essay
Mrs. Mckay
AP/IB ELA 11
4 January, 2021
The twentieth and twenty-first century have been monumental ages for the progress of
women in a patriarchal society. After gaining voting rights, women continued to develop an
equal role in American society. Because of that, men have been equated to privileged and
skyrocketed, men’s seem to have plateaued in the twenty-first century. Because of that, the
mental health of the male population has decreased, and only recently has their emotional
suppression been made audible to progressive societies by those willing to break the barrier.
Because of that, mental health for men has been studied and men can begin to express feminine
qualities without repression. Many of the authors in this discussion assume that men are expected
to uphold a certain sense of manliness that most men would agree with, and this burden is
crushing. American culture has strong roots built on gender stereotypes that negatively affect
men and their normality, and progressivism hopes to set equal standards for men and women
alike.
The stereotypical vision of a man stems from a long history of designated social spheres
assigned to a man or woman that has seeped into a progressive twenty-first century. Men
typically performed physically laborious tasks, as well as provided stability for the household;
women were expected to make the house and themselves pretty, as well as rearing the children
and maintaining comfort in the home. While gender roles seemed to be assigned from the
beginning of time, it progressed in America as heavily as did their expansion. One example of
the heavy stereotypes is the one imposed on cowboy culture. The Great American West and
increasingly, the last frontier was a symbol of hope and rebirth in the vast lands during the
nineteenth century. Those men that worked farms and used the land for ranching became
romanticized as Americans believed that they upheld the truest form of manliness in their
physical labor. Gretel Ehrlich is a ranch born woman from Wyoming, and in her article “About
Men,” she recalls the difference between her buddies back home and the Hollywood cowboy.
She claims that the actual cowboys are truly tender and utilize both feminine and masculine
qualities in their work. She proceeds to explain the differences between romanticized cowboys
and the cowboys she knew, explaining that their actual manlihood came from their ability to
withstand tough trials, but states, “The iconic myth surrounding him is built on American notions
of heroism: the index of a man's value as measured in physical courage,” (Ehrlich, paragraph 2.)
Thus, it is widely accepted that the definition of manhood is dependent on the dominant qualities
that they exert. To further back this claim, the cigarette company Marlboro used to appeal to
women, but decided to change its brand to appeal more to men later on. With that, they
advertised this switch with the picture of a rugged cowboy with a cigarette in his mouth; the
picture is close up to his face to assert dominance as it leaves no negative space, and portrays this
man as rugged and unfazed by outside forces, (Leonard McCombe.) This stereotype on cowboys
uphold the true ideals of manliness within their physical labor and laconic nature; other men are
supposed to idolize these attributes and then are expected to live within the same emotional box.
The expectations set for men by society allows little room for self expression and
ultimately hurts their mental health by suppressing the use of emotions or feminine qualities in
exchange for acceptance. In “Putting Down the Gun” by Rebecca Walker, this mother explores
the negative consequences that these social impositions have on men, even at a young age; her
son was never allowed violent video games, and instead had his own range of hobbies. After
returning from school wanting to start playing a sport, Walker was shocked at this sudden change
in interests; he had hoped that maybe if he played a sport, girls would like him and he would be
able to relate to his friends. This statement sent fear to his mother as she contemplated the role of
men in society, and the rules they must abide by to be socially accepted. She proceeds to say,
“The first steps were clear: Tell him that who he is authentically is not enough; tell him that he
will not be loved unless he abandons his own desires and picks up a tool of competition; tell him
that to really be of value he must stand ready to compete, dominate, and, if necessary, kill, if not
actually, then virtually, financially, athletically” (Walker, para 17.) In other words, men are
spoon-fed certain hobbies that mimic strategies in war, and make one question the expectations
for men and the true intentions of these expectations. This is agreeable because other qualities
that men are born with can commonly be suppressed in hopes of acceptance by peers. Paul
Theroux is a male travel writer who, in his piece “Being A Man,” examines societal views on
masculinity. He is quite harsh and even more blunt, and then scrutinizes, “American culture does
little more for a man than prepare him for modeling clothes in the L. L. Bean catalogue. I take
this as a personal insult because for many years I found it impossible to admit to myself that I
wanted to be a writer. It was my guilty secret, because being a writer was incompatible with
being a man.” (Theroux, para 8.) This statement resonates as the writer himself despises being a
man because of all of its intruding burdens. Conclusively, manliness is a facade built by a society
hungry to socially contain and label everything, then set that as the standard. Because of that, a
man is seldom allowed to be his true self, and instead walks in his body as an imposter to gain
In calling for less assumption of roles based on gender, one is not denying men of the
right to hold manly qualities. Some right-wing passionates might argue that left-wing radicals are
aiming to break down society by allowing men to express feminine qualities. In 2020, icon
Harry Styles wore a dress on Vogue, and the backlash was immense. This simple action sparked
the trend “bring back manly men” which encourages supporters of a new progressive manlihood
to accept that the stereotypical manly man is a figure that America was built upon, and would not
be able to thrive without. While that argument is preposterous in itself because America is a
changed place, dominated by men and increasingly women alike, encouragers of social change
for genders does not shame men for exhibiting typical manly qualities such as physical and
emotional strength, assertiveness and courage; they just hope that they are given the same chance
to exhibit typical female qualities such as cooperativity, tenderness, kindness and sensitivity. The
boxes drawn for these genders are breaking everyday as even the standard definition of gender
changes. This changing social sphere has no place for old policies, and David Brooks in his
article “Mind Over Muscle” begins by claiming, “Once upon a time, it was a man's world. Men
possessed most of the tools one needed for power and success: muscles, connections, control of
the crucial social institutions. But then along came the information age to change all that”
(Brooks, para. 1.) Importance comes from this statement because it is not important to depower
men, social change comes from equality for all. WIthin that, men deserve more room to express
their true emotions and should be free to reach out for help without disapproval from male and
female peers. Instead of demanding men be the opposite of manly, it is imperative that the
American population allow both genders to progress equally and free from social expectations
Finally, it may be concluded that the typical expectations for masculinity are toxic. Actor
and activist Justin Baldoni talks about his experience with manlihood, and his journey towards
feminism now in “Why I am Done Trying to be Man Enough,” and he explains that a script is
subconsciously given to men at a young age. In order to be accepted by peers, a boy must reject
this pattern is toxic, and he can’t bear that burden any longer. From men themselves, societal
impositions are becoming noticed, and they are becoming uncomfortable. Moreover, Theroux
later states in his article, “It is on the contrary an unmerciful and punishing burden. Being a man
is bad enough; being manly is appalling.” (Theroux, para. 12.) That is enough to convince
readers that toxic masculinity is real and it is dangerous. A man, comfortable with being male, is
enraged but simultaneously bored with the concept of manly men. The continuing of
expectations set by American forefathers and all societies before them will only continue to hurt
the male population if allowed to proceed; if the nation should be successful, it would fulfill its
promise of equality for all by allowing men and women to exhibit whatever qualities they are
Baldoni, Justin. “Why I'm Done Trying to Be ‘Man Enough.’” TED, Ted Conferences,
Nov. 2017,
www.ted.com/talks/justin_baldoni_why_i_m_done_trying_to_be_man_enough.
Brooks, David. “Mind Over Muscle.” The New York Times, 2005.
Theroux, Paul. Sunrise with Seamonsters: a Paul Theroux Reader. Houghton Mifflin,
1997.
Walker, Rebecca. What Makes a Man: 22 Writers Imagine the Future. Riverhead Books,
2005.