Discuss the 4 keys to staying committed in a relationship

Strong desire – A clear and personally compelling reason to be together. Without this desire,
couples have a hard time overcoming obstacle.

Keystone action - Once you have desire to achieve it, you need an action plan that will results in
a success. One has to remember what they are after.

Count the costs – Commitments require you to sacrifice. There are benefits and costs. We may
desire the outcome that we are excited about now but we have to remember that it will come at a
cost. Including time, money, risk, uncertainty, etc.

Act on commitments not feelings – There will be lows, where you will not feel like doing the
critical thing. At this time, you have to stay committed to your commitments.

How does this video relate to an ongoing relationship?

A battle of Yin and Yang is what comes to mind. The video was beautiful, it showed a love
through turbulent yet smooth, swift like expression. At each turbulence they were what the other
was missing. The video was an abstract dance number and lives in the realm of fantasy.
Unfortunately. It relates to an ongoing relationship through its ups and down and support for
each other, much like that in an ongoing relationship.

In what ways did the couple help each other?

She was his leg and he her arm, combined they performed with strength. Although do perform
single leg squats like that looks nearly impossible to me, he made it seamless. I had to double
check if he really was missing a leg. She played her part so perfectly, I never realized she was
missing an arm until the end of the video. The “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” article, I feel
didn’t support this beautiful display of a relationship. Instead it said that equality takes lead over
each of their individual strengths. This couple used each other’s strengths to create a powerful
performance much like one that often happens in a relationship. Equal but different has long
been the moto of so called “old school ways”, it has had its faults but now men are being asked
to be “counter-stereotypical” and as a man I ask: in what way exactly? Should men be more like
women? The traditional male is which one? Which stereo type are we to ignore or be opposite
to, from which culture? And who gets to decide that?

How did one’s weaknesses become the strengths of the other?

The weakness was their disabilities but their strength was their love for each other.

According to the Happiness Marriage article, what is the place of affection in a

relationship?
The letter writing group had the most positive effects of lowering stress. This resulted in the
conclusion that anyone, even none affectionate people reap the benefits of affectionate
communicating. In a relationship it is important to show your partner affection through
communicating, sexually, physically, emotionally, etc.
Among the findings by Wilcox and Nock in their article "What's Love Got To do With It" are the
following. Choose one of these and discuss.

5. Married women are happier in their marriages when they think housework is divided
fairly and they perceive their marriage to be equitable. They also spend more quality time
with their husbands when they think housework is divided fairly. But their perceptions of
fairness in this area are not consistently related to a 50-50 division of housework. Almost
two-thirds of married women report that they are happy with the division of housework;
but most of these women also do the majority of chores around the home. Either because
they have a traditional mindset or because they think their husband is making important
contributions as a provider or as a father, they view an unequal division of chores around
the home as fair.

There is nothing in our inherited genetics that involves dishes. Throughout history there are
times when men primarily cooked. Like Polynesian men. Recent history shows that women
have been the primary cooks. My point being is that this subject is more of a cultural norm then
an evolution. If the cultural norm changes so be it, I myself as a man do not have any qualms
about cleaning after my own self, cooking, doing the laundry. I don’t see it as a very difficult
job, especially with the level of automation that has offloaded this work to the machines. The
division of labor I feel is more emotional in nature. The women providing the traditional
nurturing qualities, while men the protection, be it protection from physical harm, emotional
instability, etc. Wilcox and Nock speak from a moral relativist point of view when they speak of
egalitarianism. I think that maybe the reason that women that are more traditional are happier in
marriages is because they are more in tune with their own nature.