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Table Of Contents
Section 1 Connection-Based Parenting 2
Power of Showing Up Masterclass with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson 4
ScreamFree Parenting Masterclass with Hal Runkel 9
Peaceful Parenting Masterclass with Dr. Laura Markham 14
Conscious Parenting Masterclass with Dr. Shefali Tsabary 19
Section 2 Managing Behavior 24

Positive Discipline Tools Masterclass with Judy Arnall 26
Understanding Behaviors Masterclass with Dr. Mona Delahooke 31
Brat-Proofing Kids Masterclass with Betsy Brown Braun 36
Kids Activities & Games Masterclass with Dayna Abraham 41
Section 3 Healing & Happiness 46

Hardwiring Happiness Masterclass with Dr. Rick Hanson 48
Playful Parenting Masterclass with Dr. Lawrence Cohen 53
Inherited Family Trauma Masterclass with Mark Wolynn 58
Managing Our Emotions Masterclass with Casey O’Roarty 63
Section 4 Path To Success 68

Essentialism Masterclass with Greg McKeown 70
Executive Skills Masterclass with Dr. Peg Dawson 75
Self-Driven Child Masterclass with Dr. William Stixrud 80
Multiple Intelligences Masterclass with Dr. Kathy Koch 85
Conclusion 89
Appendix A 90
Appendix B 91
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SECTION 1
Connection-Based
Parenting
Here are the masterclasses for Connection-Based Parenting!
We are pleased to feature the following speakers and topics:
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Power of Showing Up Masterclass
Hal Runkel Screamfree Parenting Masterclass
Dr. Laura Markham Peaceful Parenting Masterclass
Dr. Shefali Tsabary Conscious Parenting Masterclass
IN THESE MASTERCLASSES YOU WILL FIND:
How to reframe your thought processes and self-regulate your own emotions.
The importance of understanding our children’s nature and letting our children
unfold in their own ways.
The science behind secure attachment and what it means to your children.
Techniques for eliminating yelling and novel approaches for teaching your
children through leadership.
Click here to watch these masterclasses for FREE on Sept. 22-23, 2020.
Or click here to get full access to our entire library of 68 expert masterclass-
es, each based on a popular book in parenting and personal development!
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POWER OF SHOWING UP
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. TINA PAYNE BRYSON
OUR TOP 3 FAVORITE TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS MASTERCLASS
The most important thing we can do for our children is to show up. We
1. need to physically show up, put down our phones and be in the moment
with our children every day. Every time we do this, we are helping our chil-
dren feel safe, seen, and soothed, which leads to children feeling secure. We
ensure our children feel safe by not being the source of their fear. We help
them feel seen by truly listening. We soothe them by joining with them in
their times of pain and dysregulation and helping them learn how to return
to a place of calm. A secure child’s brain develops in positive ways.
We should not cause our children to feel unsafe. Parents can inadvertently
2. create fear in their children by yelling, shaming, or through traditional disci-
pline. When we do cause fear by yelling, the parent needs to put forth the
effort to make the repair. Through that repair, children gain resilience. It is
important to apologize when we make mistakes and to take responsibility
for our actions. This will not make children think less of us; it will make
them think more of us and we will be modeling real problem-solving skills
and relationship repair.
History is not destiny! Regardless of how we were parented and the attach-
3. ment models that we had as children, we can do the work to rewire our
brains and provide secure attachment for our children. It is never too late to
start; we can positively impact our children, starting today. Take time to
think about our own history and the attachment models that we grew up
with and where they came from. We can then start to process why our par-
ents acted in the ways they did and how we want to do things differently.
We can create for our children what we wish had been there for us, and
rewire our own brains in the process!
Build Your Own Action Plan
As you watch Dr. Bryson’s masterclass, make your notes here so you will have a
custom action plan that you can use well after the conference ends.
What are we doing well and can do more of?

Did you hear something that made you go, “Hey! We already do that!”? Note them down here.
What do we need to start doing?

Did you hear something that made you go, "I'd like to give that a shot!"? Note them down here.
What do we need to stop doing?
Did you hear something that made you go, “Uh-oh!”? Note them down here.
Perspective Shifts
Did you hear something that made you go, “Oh, wow. Never thought of it that way!”? Note them
down here.
It’s Challenge Time!
DR. BRYSON HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Parenting is hard work! We need to make sure that we are taking care of
ourselves so we can show up for our kids. Schedule one hour with someone
who makes you feel safe, seen, and soothed. This could be a friend, your part-
ner, your parent, or someone else. This time should feel good and help you
connect with another grown up! If you feel like you don’t have someone right
now who can do this with you - this is an opportunity for you to think about
cultivating those relationships. Make a date to have coffee with someone you
think might be a potential friend.
Note down how and when you will try this in your family and
use this page for tracking it.
About Our Expert Guide
DR. TINA PAYNE BRYSON
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the author of The Bottom Line for Baby (Random
House, 2020) and co-author (with Dan Siegel) of The Power of Showing Up
(Ballantine Books, 2020) and The Yes Brain (Bantam Books, 2018), as well as
two New York Times bestsellers – The Whole-Brain Child (Bantam Books,
2012), and No-Drama Discipline (Bantam Books, 2014), each of which has
been translated into over forty languages. She is the Founder and Executive
Director of The Center for Connection, a multidisciplinary clinical practice,
and of The Play Strong Institute in Pasadena, CA. She is the Child Develop-
ment Specialist at Saint Mark’s School in Altadena, CA, and the Director of
Child Development for Camp Chippewa.
Dr. Bryson is a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist who makes

frequent media appearances, keynotes conferences, provides consultations,
and conducts workshops all over the world. Tina earned her PhD from the
University of Southern California. You can learn more about Dr. Bryson at
TinaBryson.com.
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Conscious Parenting
SCREAMFREE PARENTING
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As you watch Hal’s masterclass, make your notes here so you will have a custom
action plan that you can use well after the conference ends.


Perspective Shifts
down here.
HAL HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Think of two things for each child that you do for them that they could be
doing for themselves... and stop doing them! For example, stop waking your
teenager up for school or teach your child to make their own lunch for
school. And let them experience the consequences for not doing those
things for themselves.
HAL RUNKEL
Hal Runkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, registered conflict

mediator, and internationally acclaimed speaker who has mastered the art
of conflict resolution and has determined to share his ScreamFree
approach to parenting with the world.
He is the New York Times bestselling author of ScreamFree Parenting,

ScreamFree Marriage and Choose Your Own Adulthood, and his books
have been translated into 11 languages. Hal has been featured on over a
thousand media outlets, including over 40 appearances on NBC’s Today
Show, as well as countless local TV and radio stations around the country
and in numerous publications like Good Housekeeping, Business Insider,
Redbook, and The Huffington Post.
After earning both a BA and MS in philosophy & theology, Hal pursued his
Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Abilene Christian
University.
PEACEFUL PARENTING
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. LAURA MARKHAM
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Perspective Shifts
down here.
DR. MARKHAM HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Take time today and notice if you tend to jump in and do things for your
children. Instead of giving your children time to put his own shoes on, do you
jump in and do it for him? Do you give your child many verbal warnings of “be
careful” as they are learning to walk? Think about the patterns of “doing” for
them and then make the conscious decision to empower them by watching,
encouraging, and coaching.
DR. LAURA MARKHAM
Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To
Stop Yelling and Start Connecting; Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How
To Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life, and now her latest book,
The Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook: Using Mindfulness and Con-
nection to Raise Resilient, Joyful Children and Rediscover Your Love of
Parenting.
Dr. Laura Markham earned her PhD in clinical psychology at Columbia Uni-
versity and has worked as a parenting coach with countless families across
the world. Over 150,000 moms and dads enjoy Dr. Laura’s free weekly
coaching posts via email. You can sign up on any page of her website,
AhaParenting.com, which serves up Aha! Moments for parents of babies
through teens. Dr. Laura’s aspiration is to change the world, one child at a
time, by supporting parents. A proud mother of two thriving young adults
who were raised with her peaceful parenting approach, she lives with her
husband in New York.
CONSCIOUS PARENTING
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. SHEFALI TSABARY
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Perspective Shifts
down here.
DR. TSABARY HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
With each of your children, the next time a situation or confrontation arises,
take a pause before responding. Before you say anything, before you react,
look within yourself and ask if your emotional state and potential response
comes from your fear or a lacking within yourself? Is it an unconscious
thought, or is it conscious? Does it come from your "H-O-L-E-S” or your whole-
ness? Start to make this pause a habit in an effort to become aware and to
awaken your consciousness.
DR. SHEFALI TSABARY
New York Times best-selling author Dr. Shefali Tsabary’s extensive work on
conscious parenting has been endorsed by Oprah as life-changing and
revolutionary. Her online courses have helped hundreds of adults and fami-
lies around the world, covering topics like anger, anxiety, purpose, meaning,
relationships and conscious health. She is the author of the award-winning
parenting book The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empower-
ing Our Children and Out of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Won't
Work and What Will. Dr. Shefali is a keynote speaker who presents at con-
ferences and workshops around the world, including venues such as
Wisdom 2.0, TEDx, Kellogg Business School and The Dalai Lama Center for
Peace and Education.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary was exposed to Eastern philosophy at an early age and
integrates its teachings with Western psychology, having received her doc-
torate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University in New York. This
blend of East and West allows her to reach a global audience and establish-
es her as a one-of-a-kind in the field of mindfulness psychology for families.
SECTION 2
Managing Behavior
Here are the masterclasses on Managing Behavior!
Judy Arnall Positive Discipline Tools Masterclass
Dr. Mona Delahooke Understanding Behaviors Masterclass
Betsy Brown Braun Brat-Proofing Kids Masterclass
Dayna Abraham Kids Activities & Games Masterclass
Why learning about child development will allow you to connect with your
child and be a better parent.
How to teach our kids new ways to express themselves.
Communication techniques to get your child’s attention and simultaneously
decrease “bratty” behaviors.
Tips for understanding the reason behind your child’s most challenging behav-
iors and how to reach them when they seem unreachable.
Or click here to get full access to our entire library of 68 expert masterclasses,
each based on a popular book in parenting and personal development!
POSITIVE DISCIPLINE TOOLS
MASTERCLASS
WITH JUDY ARNALL
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JUDY HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
At some point during the day, your child will likely do something that makes
you angry. This is the perfect time to try the parent time out! Take two to five
minutes for yourself to help you calm down before going to interact with
your child. You could do some deep breathing, splash some water on your
face, step outside, or you could just go in the kitchen and find a quiet space.
This time will allow you to get to a place of calm and peace so that when you
interact with your child it will be from a place of rational thought and love.
JUDY ARNALL
Best-selling author Judy Arnall specializes in punishment-free parenting

and is a Certified Canadian Family Life Educator (CCFE). She regularly
appears for television interviews on CBC, CTV, and Global. She has publica-
tions in Chatelaine, Today's Parent, Canadian Living, Parents magazine, The
Globe and Mail, Metro and Postmedia News. Judy Arnall teaches brain and
child development at the University of Calgary, Continuing Education, and
has taught for Alberta Health Services for 13 years. Judy founded the
non-profit organizations Attachment Parenting Canada Association and
Unschooling Canada Association.
She has written five books, including:

- Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible chil-
dren without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery (Translated into 5
languages)
- The Last Word on Parenting Advice (A lovely little journal)
- Parenting With Patience: Turn Frustration Into Connection With 3 Easy
Steps (Translated into 2 languages)
- Attachment Parenting Tips Raising Toddlers to Teens
- Unschooling To University: Relationships matter most in a world
crammed with content
UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIORS
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. MONA DELAHOOKE
We can become better emotional coaches for our children when we under-
1. stand that our children’s social-emotional development is not linear and
not all behaviors are the same. Some behaviors are “top down” in that they
are controlled by the conscious, thinking brain. These behaviors are willful,
conscious and intentional. But other behaviors are “bottom up” and are
controlled by the subconscious, instinctual part of the brain. These behav-
iors result from the brain feeling unsafe or overloaded and are not willful or
intentional.
We can better understand where our child's behavior is coming from if we

2. consider what is going on in the child’s nervous system and brain. If a
child’s nervous system is on the “green pathway” then the brain is not sens-
ing any danger, is open to making social connections, and is ready to learn
and perform. However, if the child’s nervous system strays to the “red path-
way” the brain is becoming stressed, sensing danger, and falling into “fight
or flight” mode. By tuning into our child’s emotions and triggers, we can
begin to decipher if our child is on the green, red or blue pathway and if a
behavior is top down or bottom up.
Both adults and children can demonstrate top down or bottom up behav-
3. iors depending on how their brain reacts to a given experience. For parents
teaching their children how to regulate these emotional ups and down,
co-regulation is key. We as adults need to be able to use self-compassion,
breathing, and other relaxation techniques to bring ourselves back onto
the green pathway. Then we become our child’s best teacher, both by
demonstrating these methods and also by remaining calm and supportive
even when faced with our child’s most challenging behaviors.
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DR. DELAHOOKE HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Throughout the day, set aside 2 or 3 moments where you can stop and take a
self-compassion breath. These can be moments that are challenging, mo-
ments where you feel love and gratitude or moments that you want to
remember with a timer! Put your hand on your heart, take a deep breath in
and out, and have a moment of compassion and gratitude for the amazing
person that you are.
DR. MONA DELAHOOKE
Mona Delahooke, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist with more than 30

years of experience caring for children and their families. She is a senior
faculty member of the Profectum Foundation, an organization dedicated to
supporting families of neurodiverse children, adolescents and adults. She is
a trainer for the Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health and
author of Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to
Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges.
Dr. Delahooke is a member of the American Psychological Association and

holds the highest level of endorsement in the field of infant and toddler
mental health in California, as a Reflective Practice Mentor (RPM). She is a
frequent speaker, trainer, and consultant to parents, organizations, schools,
and public agencies. Dr. Delahooke has dedicated her career to promoting
compassionate, relationship-based, neurodevelopmental interventions for
children with developmental, behavioral, emotional, and learning
differences.
BRAT-PROOFING KIDS
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BETSY HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Rethink the way that you verbally communicate with your child. Try to stop
calling across the room to them or yelling at them. Instead, use multimodal
communication by getting on their level, making physical contact with them
by putting a hand somewhere on their body, and speaking to them in a calm
and quiet voice.
BETSY BROWN BRAUN
Betsy Brown Braun is a child development and behavior specialist, parent

educator, multiple birth parenting consultant, and founder of Parenting
Pathways®, Inc. She is the author of Just Tell Me What to Say: Sensible Tips
and Scripts for Perplexed Parents and You’re Not The Boss Of Me: Brat-
proofing Your Four- To Twelve- Year-Old Child, both best sellers. For over
40 years Betsy has worked with families, directed and founded school pro-
grams, taught in both public and private schools, has been a school direc-
tor, and was the founding director of Wilshire Boulevard Temple’s Early
Childhood Center. She holds an MA in Human Development and teaching
credentials from Pacific Oaks College.
Betsy’s expertise has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street
Journal, USA Today, U.S. News & World Report among countless other publi-
cations. She has shared her expertise on the Today Show multiple times.
Other television appearances have included Dr. Phil, Rachael Ray, The Early
Show, Good Morning America and more. She is a regular contributor to KNX
News Radio, and has been a guest on countless radio programs nationwide,
including NPR. Betsy is a frequent speaker at educational conferences,
schools, and businesses.
Betsy and Ray Braun are the parents of adult triplets and grandparents of
six children, ages three to eight years.
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KIDS ACTIVITIES & GAMES
MASTERCLASS
WITH DAYNA ABRAHAM
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DAYNA HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Ask your child, "what is a word that you think of when you think of the way
the world sees you? Why do you think others see you that way? What is
behind it? And what could be the flip side of that?” Have this discussion with
your child and you can use yourself as an example to get your child thinking
and talking with you. If you're not ready to try this with your child, write them
down for yourself and work on flipping the negative label into a positive
superpower.
DAYNA ABARAHAM
Dayna Abraham, founder of the Calm the Chaos® Framework, best-selling

author of The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day and
founder of the popular blog, Lemon Lime Adventures, helps parents and
education professionals unlock the unique super powers in children so they
can live a more peaceful life filled with clarity, connection and empower-
ment by providing them with a proven plan designed to Calm the Chaos®
of everyday life.
When she’s not writing, you can find her drinking lots of coffee and being
the best sidekick possible for her own three Superkids.
SECTION 3
Healing & Happiness

Here are the masterclasses for Healing & Happiness!
Dr. Rick Hanson Hardwiring Happiness Masterclass
Dr. Lawrence Cohen Playful Parenting Masterclass
Mark Wolynn Inherited Family Trauma Masterclass
Casey O’Roarty Managing Our Emotions Masterclass
Insight into the negativity bias of our brain and how it alters the way we experi-
ence the world.
The importance of play as a connection between parent and child.
Techniques for mitigating our own Emotional Freight Train.
The science of how not only our personal experiences effects our emotional
development, but also what is stored within our DNA.
HARDWIRING HAPPINESS
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. RICK HANSON
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DR. HANSON HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Set aside five minutes of your day to slow down and truly take in the small
moments of goodness. Acknowledge one thing you’re trying to grow or heal
inside yourself and drop into ‘deep green’ which is a sense of safety, peaceful-
ness, calm, contentment, and gratitude.
DR. RICK HANSON
Rick Hanson, PhD, is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Sci-
ence Center at UC Berkeley, and New York Times best-selling author. His
books have been published in 29 languages and include his books Neuro-
dharma, Resilient, Hardwiring Happiness, Buddha’s Brain, Just One Thing,
and Mother Nurture - with 900,000 copies sold in English alone.
His free weekly newsletter has 150,000 subscribers and his online programs
have scholarships available for those in financial need. He’s lectured at
NASA, Google, Oxford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers
worldwide. An expert on positive neuroplasticity, his work has been fea-
tured on BBC, CBS, NPR, and other major media outlets. He began meditat-
ing in 1974 and is the founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience
and Contemplative Wisdom. He loves the wilderness and taking a break
from emails.
PLAYFUL PARENTING
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. LAWRENCE COHEN
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step back). "Is this far enough away for you?"
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DR. COHEN HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Do something outside your usual comfort level in terms of having fun with
your child. If you really push yourself to do what you'd normally say was out-
rageous, you'll discover that this will strengthen and grow the connection
between you. The more outrageous, the better! Your outrageous demonstra-
tion could be anything: skip homework, eat peanut butter for dinner so you
can keep playing, or exaggerate your seriousness to elicit giggles from your
kids if you can't bring yourself to let loose completely.
DR. LAWRENCE COHEN
Specializing in child’s play and play therapy, Dr. Lawrence J. Cohen is a

licensed psychologist and the author of the book Playful Parenting, trans-
lated into 14 languages and the winner of the NAPPA Gold Award for par-
enting resources. In addition to his private practice of psychotherapy and
play therapy, Dr. Cohen is a frequent speaker at schools and community
groups, and he has served on multiple advisory boards.
Dr. Cohen is also the author of The Opposite of Worry and co-author of The
Art of Roughhousing. He wrote two more books about children's friend-
ships and peer relationships with Michael Thompson and Catherine O'Neill
Grace: Best Friends, Worst Enemies, and Mom, They're Teasing Me. Dr.
Cohen's column in Nick Jr. Magazine was the winner of the 2003 Golden
Lamp award from Education Press. His treatment innovations have includ-
ed the first groups in the country for husbands and boyfriends of sexual
abuse survivors, as well as one of the first therapy groups for male survivors
of sexual abuse. All of his work with children, parents, couples, abuse survi-
vors, and families has guided him towards writing about human connec-
tions.
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INHERITED FAMILY TRAUMA
MASTERCLASS
WITH MARK WOLYNN
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MARK HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
When your children have a fear or are feeling anxious about something, ask
them where in their body they feel the most uncomfortable. Ask for permis-
sion to put your hands over where the pain is worst. Put your hands over the
place, making sure that your child can feel the warmth of your hand. Say, “I’m
going to hold you, I’m going to breathe with you, I am going to stay with you
until you feel better. I’m here, I’ve got you, I’ll breathe with you until you feel
safe.”
MARK WOLYNN
A leading expert in the field of Inherited Family Trauma, Mark Wolynn has
trained thousands of clinicians and treated thousands more people strug-
gling with depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, fears, panic disorders,
chronic pain, and persistent symptoms and conditions. As Director of The
Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he has taught at hospitals,
clinics, conferences, universities and teaching centers around the world,
including the University of Pittsburgh, JFK University, the Western Psychiat-
ric Institute, Kripalu, The New York Open Center, The Omega Institute, 1440
Multiversity, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. His book It
Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are
and How to End the Cycle is the winner of the 2016 Silver Nautilus Book
Award in psychology, and has been translated into 19 languages. His articles
have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com,
Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in
The New Yorker.
MANAGING OUR EMOTIONS
MASTERCLASS
WITH CASEY O’ROARTY
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CASEY HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Set three alarms randomly throughout the day. When those alarms go off,
practice the 3 B’s: take a breath, be aware of where tension might be showing
up in your body, and step back for a different perspective to identify the
source of tension. Practice checking in with yourself so you can be prepared
to make better choices during more difficult moments.
CASEY O’ROARTY
Casey O'Roarty is a mother of two, a Positive Discipline Trainer, a Parent

Coach with 20 years of experience and the author of Joyful Courage: Calm-
ing the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey. She hosts the
popular parenting podcast Joyful Courage which is designed to support,
inspire and inform others on their own parenting journeys. For the last
twenty years, Casey has worked with families as an educator and coach to
broaden perspectives on parenthood, behavior and relationships between
parents and children. She is an ICF Certified Life Coach and holds a Masters
in Education from the University of Washington.
SECTION 4
Path to Success
Welcome to the masterclasses for Path To Success!
We are pleased to feature the following speakers and topics.
Greg McKeown Essentialism Masterclass
Dr. Peg Dawson Executive Skills Masterclass
Dr.William Stixrud Self-Driven Child Masterclass
Dr. Kathy Koch Multiple Intelligences Masterclass
The benefits of the “parent as consultant” model to allow kids to solve their own
problems.
Ways to individualize parental encouragement, discipline and interactions with
our children based on their multiple intelligence profile.
Developmental timeline of executive skills and guidance on how to coach our
children for success.
The meaning of “essentialism” and how to say no to busy-ness for a more
peaceful and fulfilled life.
ESSENTIALISM
MASTERCLASS
WITH GREG MCKEOWN
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GREG HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
Take a moment, right now, to eliminate something from your life. It could be
an article of clothing, an app on your Phone, or a commitment from your
calendar. Don’t just think of it, but actually go and throw it out, delete it. Then
take a moment to sit and observe what it feels like to have done away with
this item/commitment. Lastly, think of some ways that you can routinize this
process so that you are continuously evaluating and eliminating the non-
essential from your life.
GREG MCKEOWN
New York Times and Wall Street Journal best-selling author Greg McKeown
has been a keynote speaker for companies including Apple, Google, Face-
book, LinkedIn, Salesforce.com, Symantec, and Twitter, and is among the
most popular bloggers for the Harvard Business Review and LinkedIn Influ-
encer’s group, averaging a million views a month. Greg McKeown has dedi-
cated his career to discovering why some people and teams break through
to the next level—and others don’t. As well as frequently being the #1 Time
Management book on Amazon, McKeown’s book Essentialism: The Disci-
plined Pursuit of Less challenges core assumptions about achievement to
get to the essence of what really drives success.
His writing has appeared or been covered by The New York Times, Fast
Company, Fortune, HuffPost, Politico, and Inc. Magazine. McKeown has
been interviewed on numerous television and radio shows including NPR,
NBC, FOX, and he has appeared as a regular guest on The Steve Harvey
Show. Entrepreneur voted his interview at Stanford University the #1
Must-See Video on Business, Creativity and Success. He co-created the
course, “Designing Life, Essentially” at Stanford University, was a collaborator
of the Wall Street Journal bestseller Multipliers and serves as a Young
Global Leader for the World Economic Forum. He holds an MBA from Stan-
ford University.
EXECUTIVE SKILLS
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. PEG DAWSON
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DR. DAWSON HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
The perfect intervention for supporting executive skill development is one

that takes no more than five to ten minutes a day that you’re willing to do for
as long as it takes. Some examples: helping your child review their planner
every morning at breakfast or asking your child “what do you have to do?”
and “when are you going to do it?” so that your child can help generate a
DR. PEG DAWSON
Lifetime Achievement Award winner for the National Association of School

Psychologists, Dr. Peg Dawson worked as a school psychologist for 16 years
in Maine and New Hampshire, and since 1992 has worked at the Center for
Learning and Attention Disorders in Portsmouth, New Hampshire, where
she specializes in the assessment of children and adults with learning and
attention disorders. She has many years of organizational experience at the
state, national, and international level, and served in many capacities,
including president, of the New Hampshire Association of School Psycholo-
gists, the National Association of School Psychologists, and the Internation-
al School Psychology Association.
She is the author of numerous articles and book chapters on a variety of

topics, including retention, ability grouping, reading disorders, attention
disorders, the sleep problems of adolescents, the use of interviews in the
assessment process, and homework. She received her doctorate in
school/child clinical psychology from the University of Virginia. Along with
her colleague, Dr. Richard Guare, she has written several books for parents
and professionals on the topic of executive skills, including The Smart but
Scattered Guide to Success and Smart but Scattered Teens.
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SELF-DRIVEN CHILD
MASTERCLASS
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DR. STIXRUD HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
1) Write out a list with your child of the things that your child is responsible
for. Then, ask your child if there's anything else they would like to take
responsibility for! Kids are much more capable than we give them credit;
allow them to decide how ready or not they are to take control of aspects of
their lives that are important to them.
2) If trying to convince your child to do their homework becomes a battle-
ground and he fights you, take a breath and just tell him "I love you too much
to fight about your homework." Then try to re-frame your position as a consul-
tant. Offer to help them develop a study plan or to assist in other ways.
DR. WILLIAM STIXRUD
As a clinical neuropsychologist, Dr. William Stixrud lectures widely on the

adolescent mind and the effects of stress, sleep deprivation, and technology
overload on the brain. Dr. Stixrud is a member of the teaching faculty at the
Children’s National Medical Center and an Assistant Professor of pPychiatry
and Pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Dr.
Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book,
The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More
Control Over Their Lives.
His work has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, The
Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News
and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week,
Barron’s, and New York Magazine. Also, Dr. Stixrud is a long-time practi-
tioner of Transcendental Meditation and a member of the rock and roll
band Close Enough.
Dr. Stixrud holds a doctorate degree in Educational Psychology from the

University of Minnesota. He did his pre-doctoral internship in Pediatric and
Clinical Psychology at the Children’s Hospital of Boston as a fellow of the
Harvard Medical School, and he received his post-doctoral training in Clini-
cal Neuropsychology at the Tufts New England Medical Center.
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MULTIPLE INTELLIGENCES
MASTERCLASS
WITH DR. KATHY KOCH
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As you watch Dr. Kathy Koch’s masterclass, make your notes here so you will have a


Perspective Shifts
down here.
DR. KOCH HAS A CHALLENGE FOR US...
The challenge is simply to use the language of the word “smart.” When you
see your kids doing something well, rather than saying “good job,” tell them
they are being “word smart”, “logic smart”, etc. Get used to thinking about
smarts and hear yourself talk about them aloud because it will be good for
your spirit and it can make your children interested in learning about smarts.
DR. KATHY KOCH
Dr. Kathy Koch is the Founder and President of Celebrate Kids, Inc. and the
author of six books, including 8 Great Smarts: Discover and Nurture Your
Child's Intelligences. She has influenced thousands of parents, teachers,
and children in 30 countries through her keynote messages and seminars.
She is a featured speaker for the Great Homeschool Conventions and a
regular presenter for Care Net and Summit Ministries. She speaks regularly
at schools, churches, and pregnancy resource centers. She is also a popular
guest on Focus on the Family radio and other radio talk-shows. Kirk Camer-
on chose her as the technology expert to interview in his movie, Connect:
Real Help for Parenting Kids in a Social Media World.
Dr. Kathy's practical, relevant, and results-oriented concepts and engaging,

honoring, and humorous speaking style draw enthusiastic raves from chil-
dren, teens, parents, and educators. They leave her events armed with new
beliefs, attitudes, practical tools, and increased hope to build healthy rela-
tionships and increase success in family, life, and school. Dr. Kathy earned a
PhD in reading and educational psychology from Purdue University. She
was a tenured Associate Professor of Education at the University of Wiscon-
sin-Green Bay, a teacher of second graders, a middle school coach, and a
school board member before becoming a full-time conference and keynote
speaker in 1991.
Conclusion
Thank you for being a part of the Positive Parenting Conference hosted by
AFineParent.com. We have been honored to have you along on this journey
where so many wonderful stories, techniques, methods, and points of view
were shared with us by our expert guides.
When you watch each masterclass video, we hope you feel motivated to be
a more positive, patient, caring, thoughtful, and dynamic parent. Everyday,
in different situations, we hope you see yourself utilizing what you have
learned from these 16 expert guides to guide the choices you make. We
hope you respond more and react less. We hope you acknowledge and
leave behind the pressure to meet arbitrary parenting expectations from
society. We hope you let go of “shoulds” and “ought tos” and confidently do
what is right for your unique situation. We hope you re-label your children's
behavior and personalities, using more positive verbiage. We hope you rec-
ognize the importance of self-care and self-compassion, and get intentional
about taking good care of yourself too!
We hope you feel comforted and inspired by all our expert guides to try
these new techniques in your own home with your families. And see what a
difference it can make.
As we say around here, Great Parents Are Made, Not Born.
Go, and be awesome!
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APPENDIX A
PRINTABLE CHALLENGE LIST
FROM POSITIVE PARENTING CONFERENCE 2020
Welcome to the 2020 Positive Parenting Conference!

Connection-Based Parenting
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson - Schedule an hour to spend with someone today who makes you feel safe, seen, and
soothed. Take care of yourself so you can be present for your kids.
You are here because you are an exceptional parent always looking to grow and have
Hal Runkel - For each of your children, think of two things that you do for them that they could be doing
for positive solutions
themselves and stopat yourthem.
doing fingertips for every day parenting challenges. (And boy, there
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are coming from your "H-O-L-E-S” or your wholeness.
Sixteen experts – authors of the most popular books for parents, who have years, if not
Managing Behavior
decades, of experience working with parents and being parents themselves – have come
together to share their expertise, research, and real life experiences with you. Each of
Judy Arnall - When your child does something that makes you angry, take a two to five minute parent time
these experts will be giving a Masterclass in one of these four topic areas:
out to collect yourself so you can then engage with your child from a place of peace and love.
Dr. Mona Delahooke - Find moments in your day to put your hand on your heart, take a deep breath in and
Connection
out, and have a momentBased Parenting
of compassion Managing
and gratitude for the amazing person thatBehavior
you are.
Betsy Brown Braun- Use multimodal communication with your child by getting on their level, making
physical contactHealing
with them and speaking to them in a calm and quiet Path
& Happiness voice. To Success
Dayna Abraham - Ask your child, "what is a word that you think of when you think of the way the world sees
you? Why do you think others see you that way?"
Each Masterclass is over an hour long, but don't worry! We've divided them into several
short, easy to watch, pause, rewind, and take-along segments. It's in-depth, well-planned,
Healing & Happiness
well-organized parenting advice that fits your busy schedule. Our expert guides will talk
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Mark Wolynn - When your child is feeling big emotions, don’t try to solve the problem. Be present with
your own unique positive parenting journey. This will let you benefit from your aha mo-
them, hold them, let them feel your warmth. Assure them that you are here with them, breathing with them.
ments
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body. Build a practice so that you can be prepared and empowered to be in charge of your responses.
Because as we say around here:
Path To Success
Greg McKeown - Right now, eliminate one thing from your life. A piece of clothing, an app, a commitment
from your calendar, anything. How does it feel? How can you make this a routine process?
Dr. Peg Dawson - Come up with a plan for your child that takes no more than ten minutes a day to address
an executive skill function that you believe your child needs to practice.
Dr. William Stixrud - Write out what your child is responsible for, then ask them if there's anything they'd
like to add. Fighting over homework? Just say "I love you too much to fight with you about homework."
Dr. Kathy Koch - Use the language of smarts when talking to your children about something they
are doing well.
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PRINTABLE BOOK LIST
FROM POSITIVE PARENTING CONFERENCE 2020

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48+ Expert Parenting Tips

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Section 2 Managing Behavior 24

Section 3 Healing & Happiness 46

Section 4 Path To Success 68

Healing & Happiness Path To Success

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Power of Showing Up Masterclass

Hal Runkel Screamfree Parenting Masterclass

Dr. Laura Markham Peaceful Parenting Masterclass

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OUR TOP 3 FAVORITE TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS MASTERCLASS

What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

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What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

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What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

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What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

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Judy Arnall Positive Discipline Tools Masterclass

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What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

Best-selling author Judy Arnall specializes in punishment-free parenting

She has written ﬁve books, including:

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We can better understand where our child's behavior is coming from if we

What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

Mona Delahooke, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist with more than 30

Dr. Delahooke is a member of the American Psychological Association and

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OUR TOP 3 FAVORITE TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS MASTERCLASS

Healing & Happiness

What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

Betsy Brown Braun is a child development and behavior specialist, parent

WEBSITE | FACEBOOK | TWITTER

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What are we doing well and can do more of?

What do we need to start doing?

Dayna Abraham, founder of the Calm the Chaos® Framework, best-selling

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Healing & Happiness

Dr. Rick Hanson Hardwiring Happiness Masterclass

Dr. Lawrence Cohen Playful Parenting Masterclass