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Skillsoft Becoming An Emotionally Intelligent Leader (SLDP - Ald07 - A0405 - Enus)
Skillsoft Becoming An Emotionally Intelligent Leader (SLDP - Ald07 - A0405 - Enus)
Skillsoft Becoming An Emotionally Intelligent Leader (SLDP - Ald07 - A0405 - Enus)
BECOMING AN
EMOTIONALLY
INTELLIGENT LEADER
To be a really effective leader, it’s not enough to simply have technical
expertise or a lot of experience in your field. It also requires an
emotionally intelligent leader – calm, clear, focused, and caring.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
AND EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP
Leaders are judged not only on their The ideas of emotional intelligence have
experience and expertise, but also on been around for decades, but really
how well they manage people. To be a took hold in the 1990s.
really effective leader, it’s not enough
to simply have technical expertise or
a lot of knowledge and experience
Emotional intelligence is about:
in your field. Effective leaders need
to be emotionally intelligent – calm,
clear, focused, and caring. Emotional
Recognizing and regulating emotions in ourselves and
intelligence is especially necessary in
other people
a multigenerational, multicultural, and
diverse workplace environment which is
the norm today.
Being aware of how you feel, managing those feelings,
When you’re not emotionally on top of and understanding how to use them as motivation
things, you’re prey to negative emotions,
knee-jerk reactions, and constant stress.
All of these conditions erode your Having the empathy to understand other people’s
effectiveness. To stay physically healthy, feelings
as well as mentally sharp, you’ve got
to pay attention to your emotions, and
those of others around you. It allows Developing the social skills to help motivate and manage
others
you to balance the pressures you face
and work more harmoniously and
efficiently, and with less cost to your
own and the organization’s wellbeing.
THE VALUE OF
EMOTIONS IN BUSINESS
We’d all like to think that we make management is about building good happened. That emotion is a clue about
decisions based on the facts, and the relationships – and understanding your what the external situation means to
facts alone. But the truth is, in business, own feelings is a key step toward doing you.
just like in your daily life, everything you that.
do involves your emotions. And that’s But what you do with the emotion
fine – as long as you deal with your Emotions exist for a reason, and depends on your rational side. Ideally,
emotions appropriately. That’s the value each one can be used in a positive you come up with a judgment or
of emotional intelligence. or a negative way. Think of it like a a decision based on your rational
dialog inside your brain, between your assessment of the situation as well as
Feelings and emotions can be caused emotional side and your rational side. on the way you feel about it.
by the events in your life, but the An event takes place and your emotions
feelings themselves are yours to quickly react and try to interpret it.
recognize and handle. How you do You experience an emotion before
that makes a big difference in your the rational side of your brain has
effectiveness as a leader. Good had a chance to think through what’s
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UNDERSTANDING
Sadness can help you step back from a situation and find a way to cope. It
YOUR EMOTIONS gives you mourning time and a chance to reflect. When you’re sad, you might
re-evaluate your actions and priorities, and think about changes you need to
Sometimes it can be tricky to make. On the other hand, sadness can also paralyze you. You can feel so sad
identify the emotion you’re feeling. that you can’t take action to change the situation.
You’ve got to understand what you
feel about what happened, if you Anger often comes from feeling someone else is wrong or bad and needs
want to understand what’s causing to be punished. On the positive side, anger can help you “attack” when you
need to stand up for yourself. It can help you protect your self-esteem, and
your emotion.
provide motivation to push you to take action when necessary. But anger can
also be damaging. It alienates your teammates, is physically stressful, and can
When you do that, most of the time
encourage you to ignore your own faults and role in the situation. Anger has
you can track your feelings back to its place, but you have to make sure it isn’t destructive to your relationships.
a few basic emotions.
Happiness is the emotion we all want to feel as often as we can. When
you’re happy, you want to get involved with other people, and they want to be
around you, too. You’re prepared to try new things and take on challenges.
You’re more spontaneous and you’re willing to take risks. The only downside is
that when you’re happy, you might forget to plan or take proper precautions.
When you feel like you can conquer the world, you can have unrealistic
expectations and that can lead right back to sadness when they aren’t met.
Uncertainty often leads to fear, but that’s OK. Fear is a very important
emotion. It spurs you into action by causing the “fight or flight” urge. It’s very
motivating. It makes you aware of the threats you’re facing and helps you
prepare yourself and take precautions. But fear also causes a lot of stress and
tension. When you’re afraid, it’s hard to concentrate or be creative. And when
your reasons for being afraid aren’t reasonable, fear can distract you and stop
you from concentrating on what’s important.
RECOGNIZING THE
COMPONENTS OF
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Self-awareness, self-regulation, Empathy – This is about understanding others and helping them to develop.
and motivation all relate to It also involves recognizing and understanding the differences between
understanding yourself, so people, and knowing how these differences can benefit your team as a whole.
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BUILDING YOUR PERSONAL
EMOTIONAL SKILLS
In business, the higher up the Personal domain competencies
ladder you rise, the more technical
and cognitive skills you’re expected When you try to determine the cause of a conflict, you may need to dig
to have – they’re necessary for doing a little deeper to get to the actual root cause. There are three things to
the job well. But the factor that consider.
differentiates good leaders from
great ones is emotional intelligence.
Understanding yourself is a key part
Being aware of how you feel
of building your emotional skills.
Self-awareness is the first competency in the personal domain of emotional
intelligence. People with emotional self-awareness recognize their own
emotions and understand how those emotions affect their performance. They
know the importance of “checking in” with themselves, in the moment, and
examining what’s really happening before they react.
Self-aware people are not overly critical or unrealistic about themselves – they
are able to make an accurate assessment of their strengths and weaknesses,
and they see themselves for who they are. This, then, leads to higher self-
confidence. Because of the confidence that comes with self-awareness, they
are able to play to their strengths and avoid or mitigate their weaknesses.
Self-control
That means keeping your negative emotions and impulses in check, and
staying calm and clear-headed under stress.
Transparency
This means being authentic and open with other people about your values,
beliefs, and actions.
Adaptability
Emotional intelligence requires flexibility and acceptance that things don’t
always go as you plan.
Motivating yourself
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DEVELOPING PERSONAL
EMOTIONAL COMPETENCY
BUILDING SELF-
Pay attention to the physical signs of emotion - Physiological
AWARENESS responses can tell you a lot. Maybe your eyes are tearing
The first step toward developing up, or your breathing has changed. You may feel a rush of
personal emotional competency adrenaline, or even feel “frozen.” Notice these signs – they’re
telling you something important.
is becoming more aware of your
emotions. To understand what
you’re feeling and where those
Listen to your self-talk - Try to reframe negative self-talk more
feelings are coming from, you’ve
positively.
got to slow down and notice what’s
going on in your mind and body.
REGULATING EMOTIONS
EFFECTIVELY
Being aware of how you feel is
half the battle, but there are also First, accept your current emotional state
behavioral steps you can take to
self-regulate your emotions. Begin by
trying to regulate yourself through
logic.
Then decide how you’d like things to be
Another approach is reframing your
thoughts to correct inappropriate
responses.
Then, make a list of actions that will help you get there
Learn from your emotions. They’re
there for a reason. Calling upon your
initiative, optimism and desire for
achievement helps you self-regulate
your emotions through positive
motivation.
OVERCOMING OBSTACLES TO
EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE
When you notice you’re talking negatively to yourself, slow down, take a few deep
breaths, and make space in your mind for positive self-talk. It will put you in a
better position to recognize and regulate your emotions.
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BUILDING YOUR
RELATIONAL SKILLS
Being an effective leader means being able to help other people accomplish
their goals. To do that, you need to have excellent relational skills.
BEING SOCIALLY
Characteristics of a socially aware leader
AWARE
Socially aware leaders do more
than sense other people’s emotions
– they show that they understand
and care.
USING SOCIAL
SKILLS
It’s important for leaders to practice sense of shared goals and using your Know how to find common ground
good social skills. They help them influence, building buy-in through to manage conflict, and promote
manage relationships and build engagement and persuasion. teamwork by fostering an environment
rapport. They encompass the of respect and cooperation, even when
competencies of developing others, A good leader should be a change you’re dealing with difficult people.
showing interest, and providing catalyst – recognizing when change
feedback and coaching. They help in needs to happen and thinking of
inspiring your team by encouraging a practical ways to overcome barriers.
DEVELOPING RELATIONAL
EMOTIONAL COMPETENCY
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DEMONSTRATING
SOCIAL
AWARENESS
You need to become socially aware.
That means demonstrating empathy
Demonstrating empathy and organizational intuition
and organizational intuition, which
has a few key components.
Understanding yourself
1
Tapping into your own emotions makes it easier to perceive
how other people feel. Use those perceptions, reframe them,
and learn from the experience. When you’ve been there
yourself, you can better relate to the challenges that others
face.
Understanding others
2
Good leaders observe and understand other people’s feelings –
they have empathy. To demonstrate empathy, accept people on
the basis of what they’re offering right now. Don’t judge them
based solely on the past. Show them respect. Your employees
will only respect you when you respect them. Treat people
with courtesy. Your team will sense that you value them, and
appreciate it.
LEVERAGING YOUR
SOCIAL SKILLS
Leadership is about getting work done Developing strong and supportive It’s important to get fully involved with
through others. Leveraging your social bonds is an important step in improving your team. Sharing information and
skills effectively builds productive your relationships. All leaders need raising important issues, and being
relationships. Focusing on teamwork help from others. Use your formal and willing to get your hands dirty to help
is a great way to build confidence informal networks to get to know other solve problems, connects you with your
and loyalty in your team. Keep them people in your organization, and ask for team. And that connection is key to
informed, support them, and show your their feedback and insight. getting the job done.
appreciation. Connect their efforts with
the work of the organization.