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Who The Bleep Do We Know?
Who The Bleep Do We Know?
guest editor
Who the
bleep do
we know?
Guest editor rik
maes is wondering
whether technological
mediation is making
live encounters way
out of fashion. Do we
throw out the baby
with the bathwater?
couple of years ago, the movie What the Bleep do being alone and elsewhere. Gathering physically is OK,
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Poor you... too polite to throw him out, but at the same “All real living is meeting” was Martin Buber’s credo for
time too embarrassed to get in genuine touch with this our time, but does this hold true in an alienated world
umpteenth passer-by, hidden behind his self-constructed where we talk a lot about communities of practice, but
firewall. don’t succeed in the real practice of communities?
Whether we like it or not, we live in a world of split Meeting, in Buber’s words, is with your whole self,
attention: multi-tasking and time-sharing are no longer whereas modern technologies allow you to take as many
primarily computer terms, but apply to human beings in identities as you want to have versions of your own life.
their communication patterns as well. People and But what does it mean to meet such a split identity and is
electronic devices alike are competing for our attention, it different from “meeting” your BlackBerry?
but don’t we lose our competence to share attention? For I will never forget a “conversation” I had with the
sure, we pay attention, but what is its price? It looks as if telephone operator of a big company. It took me a couple
a split second of partial and mediated attention is almost of minutes before I noticed that her monotonous “The line
available free of charge, but an hour of full attention has is busy, please hold on” was repeated exactly every 30
become priceless. We measure our performance in terms seconds and, hence, that my reiterated “Thank you” was
of the number of e-mails answered and phone calls made totally absurd. Until I effectively stopped making myself
and a holiday period without e-mail facilities means a ridiculous, after which the “automatic answering
nightmare of hundreds of e-mails waiting when coming machine” rather anxiously asked me: “Are you still
back home. there, sir?”
I used to restrict my mobile phone number to my Being online has turned into a mere obligation and we
family and my closest colleagues only, but I threatened to have gradually unlearned the ability to be on our own and
become a totally eccentric person. My last friend without take responsibility for our own emotions. Emotions are
a mobile phone got one from his children “for his own shared via emoticons, experiences via instant messages.
good” as a birthday present. Being off-line is no longer an “For those who are lonely yet fearful of intimacy, online
option. life provides environments where one can be a loner, yet
The once stealthy use of mobile phones in the not alone, have the illusion of companionship without the
conference break has been overruled by the overt demands of sustained, intimate friendship”2. A lasting
intermixing of a face-to-face meeting, the checking of an friendship is just a burden if you don’t know how to know
e-mail box, the answering of a phone call and the sending each other.
of an SMS-message. “You’ll Never Walk Alone” any more: Isn’t it contradictory that we experience the world as
physical encounters are just one of the many options to increasingly complex, but give ourselves less and less
meet people. The question is: to what detriment? Do we time to cope with it? We feel down because we are
really know the person we never met in real life, but with always on. We persistently forget to take our time to
whom we share even our most intimate feelings on meet ourselves.
MySpace? Can we enter into a true dialogue via Windows Ultimately, we resemble Bruce Chatwin’s explorers,
Live Messenger or by participation in a fleeting blog trying to speed up their native porters, but incapable of
discussion? Is the message in SMS-lingo “LSKOL 4 understanding the latter’s reasoning: “We are waiting for
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LOML” as real an expression of authentic love as the our spirits to catch up with our bodies”3.
handwritten love letter of our ancestors (or of ourselves)?
1. For the uninitiated: “Long, slow kiss on the lips for the love of my life”.
Thanks to all these gadgets, we have never been more 2. Sherry Turkle, “Can You Hear Me Now?”, Forbes Magazine, 5 July 2007.
connected, but has this brought us closer to each other? 3. Bruce Chatwin, The Songlines, 1987.
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