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3c-Abas, Alexander Miguel M. (Ncm117 Rle - Self-Awareness Activity)
3c-Abas, Alexander Miguel M. (Ncm117 Rle - Self-Awareness Activity)
01/20/21
N3-C NCM117 RLE
SELF-AWARENESS ACTIVITY
A. PERSONAL HISTORY
1. Circumstances since birth.
When growing up I thought life is just fun and games, and everything I want, I will get,
and that I will only get hurt and cry when I trip or fall when I have bruises or wounds.
My life for me at that time was a total fairytale, I was shown and surrounded by just
purely happiness, people love me, they are fond of me, I was like a teddy bear in a
daycare that everyone wants to hold maybe because I was the youngest at that time, also I
am very cute and very chubby and maybe because I was the closest to my grandfather. I
was my Lolo's favorite, and I know until now and it won’t change, I was really spoiled by
my lolo, he will always buy me toys, he will buy me snacks especially chocolates, and he
will always make sure that every birthday I will have a party. I remember that every time
we have “pabitin”, he will always tell my dad that he should lift me up and that I should
get first before everyone else but still I am still part of the game. But everything changes
when I did the stupidest thing in my life, I made my lolo sick. There is a time that I
almost got hit by a tricycle, fortunately, my father saved me, a few days later my dad told
me that my lolo is sick because of what happened to me, that he can’t sleep and he
always gets nightmares that’s why he needs to go to manila to be treated. So as a young
boy it has always been stuck in my head that I am the reason why my lolo got sick, that I
am the one to blame for it. Also growing up people only gave me the choice of becoming
a doctor when I grow up, they always tell me that I should be the next Doctor Abas, that I
should follow in my Lolo's footsteps. I was enclosed in that kind of mindset. And
growing up I witness my parents fighting, my dad’s mistress going to our house, or us
going on a trip and being friends with us like they are doing nothing wrong. I was
becoming more and more observant, that I always discover their lies, that all they show
us are lies. We are all separated in different places and houses, we don’t have a home, we
don’t have enough money for all of us, we don’t have a family anymore. I am not given a
chance to experience a complete and happy family. We are like a charity case or
sometimes I feel like our family doesn’t treat us as a family but as a maid as well, and it
really hurts that they always remind you that we have “utang-na-loob” to them.
2. Family Tree
a. The Parents
i. Dad – My dad works as my aunt’s driver; he didn’t finish college because
they had my sister before when he is 28 years old. He doesn’t provide for
us. His family is the one that helps my mom take care of us and gives us
our needs. My dad is a rowdy person, he shouts a lot, he talks loudly, and
even when explaining things, he’s mad or angry and very loud.
ii. Mom – My mom works as a nurse in Singapore, she got delayed because
she had my sister when she was 20 years old but fortunately, she finished
college with the help of my grandparents. My mom is the sole provider of
our family. She is the one who pays for our tuition fees and some of our
needs. But my mom is very discreet, when it comes to her problems,
feelings, and work she is very careful of what to share with us.
b. Siblings
i. Older Sister – my older sister is 5 years older than me. She is now an
elementary teacher from a private school. She is aloof to me or to us; she
is very secretive and distant to me or to us. That is why we are not really
close. We don’t know much about each other.
ii. Younger Sister – my younger sister is 2 years younger than me; she is
currently a grade 12 student from FEU-Diliman. She is very reliable; she
is the one that I always run to when I have problems or concerns. She is
always there to help me, to help us and I am very proud of her.
3. Family Relationship
a. General Home Atmosphere (include the economic background, leisure time
activities, etc.) – we don’t have a home/house, we all live in separate houses, I
and my dad live in my aunt’s house with my aunt’s family while my two sisters
live in my other aunt’s house with her family as well and my mom is in Singapore
for work. Me, my mom, and my sisters most of the time, we video call just to
update things in our life. But when my mom goes home, we always go to a
different place and eat in different places. While me, my dad, and two sisters get
to bond every Saturday (family day) or when there are occasions.
b. Parent-Child Relationship – I am not very close to my parents maybe because
they were far away when I was growing up and also because I was afraid that at
some point when I was young, they will discover that I am gay. Being gay in our
family is somewhat taboo or not really accepted. One time my dad told me that if
I was really gay, he will beat me up and he will throw me out of the house, and
with that in mind, I really distant myself from them and I don’t want to disappoint
my mom because of my gender. But I think we can get along sometimes when we
are together, we laugh, we talk and communicate well. And also, right now that
my mom knows that I’m gay I can somewhat talk to them more and not distance
myself to them but for my dad, it is still the same.
c. Sibling Relationship – when I was younger, I was not really close to my siblings
because they were both girls and as a closeted gay, I don’t want them to know.
But now that they know we get along well more but I am much closer to my
younger sister because she is the one that always listens to me, she gives me
advice and be my shoulder to cry on and sometimes I think she much more
mature than I am. But I know whatever happens I know we got each other’s back.
4. Social Relationship
a. Friends – my friends are like my family. They are the people that I can talk to
with anything, I tell them my frustrations, my problems and my secrets, my
relationships, my heartbreaks and my crushes. I got their back and they got mine.
I love my friends I really cherish them; they are like my sisters and brothers that I
never had. When I’m with them I always have fun, I am always happy and I can
show them the real me.
b. Boy/girl Relationship – right now I have no special someone, I intended to focus
on myself and in improving myself for the better. And people couldn’t get my
interest right now, people are too boring right now and we only talk because they
are bored and not interested in having a relationship.
D. PHILOSOPHY IN LIFE
The past doesn’t define who you are today as a person, learn from your mistakes, analyze
every decision you’ve made and forget your past. Always keep moving forward…