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My Wife Is A Goddess
My Wife Is A Goddess
My Wife Is A Goddess
Moscow
2015
MY WIFE IS A GODDESS
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and presentations. Currently, there are more than 4000 public lectures
delivered in more than 40 cities of Russia and abroad. The author
regularly participates in discussions on topical issues of our time in
television and radio broadcasts.
Vyacheslav Ruzov is the mastermind of the online Balance-TV
project www.balance-tv.ru, the 21st century television based on the
values of healthy living, spirituality, cleanliness and righteousness.
He devotes special attention to family relationships improvement
and other kinds of conflict situations. His works are invaluable in fight
against bad habits. Under his leadership, hundreds of people stopped
drinking and smoking. Practical experience in conjunction with
eastern wisdom makes him unique. According to experts, Vyacheslav
Ruzov possesses a unique style and approach to presenting material.
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INTRODUCTION
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Physical Aspect
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Social Aspect
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The Story
Intellectual Aspect
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Spiritual Aspect
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The Story
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placed. The captured king said, “For me to kill this dove, you have
to let me know when the cage is opened. Then I can shoot at the
dove.” The Muslim ruler agreed, and when on the opposite side
of the arena the cage was opened and the bird flew out, the ruler
shouted, “The dove is out!” On hearing this voice, the blindfolded
Indian king turned and shot an arrow right into the Muslim king’s
heart. The Muslim ruler made only one mistake by giving himself
away with his voice, and the Indian king pierced his heart with an
arrow, just by hearing the sound of his voice.
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in skating… Conduct a simple test: try to recall how often, after how
much time, at what age your interests changed — this will shed light on
many issues regarding human relationships.
Let’s provide an example of university studies. The main thing is to
define what is most important in educational process: is it information
itself or the art of getting information, one’s learning capability and
desire to learn? Most importantly, of course, one should learn the art
of learning. Any information loses its relevance over the years, but the
ability to learn is what will help a person throughout life. Actually, the
ability to learn is one of the most important human qualities. The one
who just possesses information is not an educated person –he/she is
simply filled with knowledge, crammed with knowledge. But the one
who is able to receive and analyze information is a real scientist and a
real intellectual.
Or let’s adduce another example, that with digestion. If one has
a good digestion, he/she can even digest a nail, if this should ever be
necessary. But if digestion goes wrong, to digest even the healthiest,
the lightest and the most delicious food will be the biggest problem. In
the same way, an intelligent person can derive benefit even from wrong
information, even from lies — from any negative source. An intelligent
person can digest any kind of information properly. Therefore, in the
East, people used to say that a sage can pick up gold even out of mud.
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A Funny Story
A husband once came home dead drunk. His wife told him
off: “You filthy scum! What state you are in!”
“I’m the master of the house! I present myself as I like!” was
the response.
She struck him over the head with a frying-pan. The husband
fell under the table and was left lying there.
A neighbor came over to borrow some salt. And she asked
with surprise, ”Why is your husband lying under the table?
“He’s the master of the house. He lies just where he likes.”
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Sattva
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Dharma
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Atma
After taking care of the bodies of near and dear ones, as one
moves to a new level, one begins to understand that care for the body
without care for the soul doesn’t make a lot of sense. Care for the body
gives temporary joy, while care for the soul brings eternal happiness.
Therefore, wishing all living entities the highest good, one begins to
learn to take care of one’s own soul and the souls of everybody around.
One begins to understand what makes up a living entity, that is, one
begins to see the difference between the body and the soul. One seeks
knowledge about the soul, inquires about the soul, talks about the
soul and tries to understand the soul. This is the way one embarks on
the path of spiritual growth. In fact, this lecture also stems from our
desire to talk about the sublime, and the soul is exactly such a topic.
Therefore, we base ourselves on such a scripture as the “Bhagavat-gita”,
where the whole chapter is dedicated to the science of the soul. In this
respect, the “Bhagavat-gita” is a perfect psychological treatise since the
primary purpose of psychology is exactly the study of the soul. It is
impossible to think up a concept of the soul. It is not some theoretical
concept originating from the minds of scientists. The soul is real, and
one should learn about it from books that can provide a comprehensive
insight into this phenomenon. It is the subtlest phenomenon in this
world. In fact, it’s not even from this world.
I won’t expatiate too much on the subject, but the bottom line
here is that a living being is complexly organized. It consists of the
body and the soul. The body is made of matter, while the soul is anti-
matter. In fact, material body is a suit for an extraterrestrial being,
which is a soul. A soul comes from a different world that is sometimes
called Vaikuntha or a place without anxiety. In order to survive here, in
a foreign environment of constant anxiety, it has to put on a suit meant
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Paramatma
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closed tight. We don’t know whom we eat, and most crucially, we never
give a second thought to why we do that. Isn’t it possible to find a more
amicable solution to belly issues? By the way, it is our own soul, not the
belly that will be held liable for this kind of behavior. And it’s just plain
silly to become answerable for someone else’s desires, indeed.
Bhagavan
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the better. ” Just then I heard the Lord’s response: “It’s too late now.
You won’t have time to.”
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The Parable
There was once an old man and a boy traveling down the
road. The old man was riding a donkey while the boy was walking
alongside holding on to the animal’s halter. During their journey,
they passed through the village, where some people began to shout
in a shrill voice, “Look at this old man! What a senseless brute he
is! He’s exploiting a poor boy!”
Feeling embarrassed by this situation, the old man suggested,
“It’s better that we swap places, otherwise, in the next village, we’ll
get criticized again.” And so, they swapped over: the boy was now
riding the donkey, while the old man was walking. In this way, they
continued on their journey. But as they came into a new village,
they began hearing people criticizing them again. The people said,
“Look at this selfish boy who doesn’t respect his old grandfather!
Poor old man! He should be the one riding the donkey, not the boy.
What has this world come to?”
The boy got off the donkey and they both started walking.
And yet, people from the next village began to shout, “Look at these
pea-brain old man and boy not taking advantage of the availability
of the donkey! They have a donkey, but they prefer walking!”
Then the old man concluded, “In fact, it doesn’t matter at all
what you’re doing – people will always be critical.”
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consideration to all “dumb dogs” that come out of the depth of our
subconscious, as we reveal our minds. Or else, they will simply devour
their master because thoughts are active; they must fructify either
externally of internally. So when we hear somebody out, we protect
this person from inner dangers.
Don’t keep your problems to yourself and give others a chance to
be relieved of their problems.
The Parable
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wife, and she says, “I know, you’re tired, have something to eat and go
to bed, and all will be well.”
Remember: every person has their own way of looking at things
which depends on their state of consciousness. For a woman to see
the world through the eyes of a man, she must become a man, which
the latter will hardly find pleasing. This is what a husband fails to
understand when he constantly fights with his wife.
The Parable
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much more actively and closely. It’s necessary that the spouses have
similar values, share the same cultural impressions. It will enable them
to feel psychological unity in their outlooks on life.
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possible, to start helping others with their chores. But remember not
to make the cup run over because many people don’t like to be helped.
Appreciate a person’s desire to do their tasks not quicker but in a way
they want them to be done. Good help sometimes means absence of
help; nevertheless, the desire to come to help should always be present
in our hearts. Otherwise, it will be like in the following parable.
The Parable
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Once upon a time there lived an old couple, a peasant and his
wife, at the very old farmhouse. Small as their possessions were, they
still had one article that could well be dispensed with, and that was a
horse, which had practically no work to do and contrived to live upon
the grass which it found by the side of the high road. The old peasant
rode into the town upon this horse, and his neighbors sometimes
borrowed it from him, and paid for it by rendering some service to the
old couple. Still, the peasant and his wife thought it would be better
to sell the horse, or exchange it for something which might be more
useful to them. But what could that be?
“You have much more understanding of a question, old man,”
said the wife. “It is fair-day to-day, so ride into town, and get rid of the
horse for money, or make a good exchange; whichever you do will be
right to me, so ride to the fair.”
And she fastened his neckerchief for him for she could do it
better than he could, and she could also tie it very prettily in a double
bow. She also smoothed his hat round with the palm of her hand and
gave him a kiss. Then he rode away on the horse that was to be sold or
bartered for something else. Yes, the old man knew what the buy and
sell was about.
The sun was hot, and not a cloud was to be seen in the sky. The
road was very dusty, for a number of people, all going to the fair, were
driving, riding, or walking upon it. There was no shelter anywhere from
hot sunshine. Among the rest a man came trudging along, driving a
cow to the fair. The cow was as beautiful a creature as any cow could be.
“She gives good milk, I am certain,” said the peasant to himself.
“That would be a very good exchange: the cow for the horse.”
“Hey there, you with the cow!” he said. “I tell you what: I dare say
a horse is of more value than a cow; but I don’t care for that,—a cow
will be more useful to me; so, if you like, we’ll exchange.”
“To be sure I will,” said the man.
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finer than our parson’s brood hen, upon my word. I’d like to have that
fowl. Fowls can always pick up a few grains that lie about, and almost
keep themselves. I think it would be a good exchange if I could get it
for my goose. Shall we exchange?” he asked the toll-keeper.
“Exchange,” repeated the man; “well, it would not be a bad thing.”
And so they made an exchange,—the toll-keeper got the goose,
and the peasant carried off the fowl. Now he had really done a great
deal of business on his way to the fair, and he was hot and tired. He
wanted something to eat, and a glass of ale to refresh himself; so he
turned his steps to an inn. He was just about to enter when the ostler
came out, and they met at the door. The ostler was carrying a sack.
“What do you have in that sack?” asked the peasant.
“Rotten apples,” answered the ostler; “a whole sackful of them.
They will do to feed the pigs with.”
“Why, that will be terrible waste,” the old man replied; “I’d like
to take them home to my old woman. Last year the old apple-tree by
the grass-plot only bore one apple, and we kept it in the cupboard till
it was quite withered and rotten. “It is still a property,” my old woman
said; and here she would see a great deal of property—a whole sackful;
I should like to show them to her.”
“What will you give me for the sackful?” asked the ostler.
“What will I give? Well, I will give you my fowl in exchange.”
So he gave up the fowl, and received the apples, which he carried
into the inn parlor. He leaned the sack carefully against the stove, and
then went to the table. But the stove was hot, and he had not thought of
that. Many guests were present—horse dealers, cattle drovers, and two
wealthy men among them who were so rich that their pockets quite
bulged out and seemed ready to burst. Suddenly everyone heard some
noise: “Hiss-s-s, hiss-s-s.” What could that be by the stove? The apples
were beginning to roast.
“What is that?” asked one of the guests.
“Why, do you know”—said our peasant. And then he told them
the whole story of the horse, which he had exchanged for a cow, and all
the rest of it, down to the apples.
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“Well, your old woman will give you hell when you get home,”
said one of the money-bags. “Won’t there be a noise?”
“What! Give me what?” said the peasant. “Why, she will kiss me,
and say, ‘what the old man does is always right.’”
“Let us lay a wager on it,” said the rich man. “We’ll wager you a
ton of coined gold, a hundred pounds to the hundred-weight.”
“No; a bushel will be enough,” replied the peasant. “I can only set
a bushel of apples against it, and I’ll throw myself and my old woman
into the bargain; that will pile up the measure, I fancy.”
“Done! Taken!” and so, the bet was made.
Then the landlord’s coach came to the door, and the two wealthy
men and the peasant got in, and away they drove, and soon arrived and
stopped at the peasant’s hut.
“Good evening, old woman.”
“Good evening, old man.”
“I’ve made the exchange.”
“Ah, well, you have a knack for it,” said the woman. Then she
embraced him, and paid no attention to the strangers, nor did she
notice the sack.
“I got a cow in exchange for the horse.”
“Thank Heaven,” said she. “Now we shall have plenty of milk,
and butter, and cheese on the table. That was a capital exchange.”
“Yes, but I changed the cow for a sheep.”
“Ah, better still!” cried the wife. “You always think of everything;
we have just enough pasture for a sheep. Ewe’s milk and cheese, woolen
jackets and stockings! The cow could not give all these, and her hair
only falls off. How you think of everything!”
“But I changed away the sheep for a goose.”
“Then we shall have roast goose to eat this year. You dear old man,
you are always thinking of something to please me. This is delightful.
We can let the goose walk about with a string tied to his leg, so he will
be fatter by the holiday.”
“But I gave away the goose for a fowl.”
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ASTROLOGY OF COMPATIBILITY
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whether he/she is ready for the fact that you may change as a person,
at any time, and whether you yourself are ready to see your partner
change beyond recognition, at any point of time, as well. It is common
for the first changes to occur immediately after the honeymoon, and
it makes both partners shocked. This is a secret of marriage: we are to
spend the whole life together with a person whose goals may vary even
throughout the day.
If at least one of the partners is prepared for that, a couple is
compatible. If both of the partners are prepared for each other’s
changes, they are perfectly compatible…
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First off, I’d like to recite the famous verse that explains the
mystical meaning of a human palm, which represents the whole
microcosm:
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Devata-gana
This is when the end of a little finger extends beyond the joint
between the distal and the middle phalanges of the ring finger. For
such people, it is natural to muse on the future and reflect upon
lofty subjects. Thus, they don’t like to think too much about earthly
concerns, mundane, practical affairs. Sometimes they may dream of
renunciation. Such people are said to “be off in a dreamworld”.
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one should bring them into a mature stage, develop and refine them
through spiritual practice, control of desires and senses and constant
purification.
Manushya-gana
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Manushya-astrologer
An astrologer who has this palmar feature can give good advice
on problems of the present from the standpoint of practicality, actuality
and effectiveness. One can turn to such a specialist for help in making
short-run decisions that don’t have long-lasting effects. It’s a “sanitary
technician” type of astrologer. He/she doesn’t create an interior design
for ages, but can quickly turn off water in your newly refurbished house
and help protect it from flooding.
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Rakshasa-gana
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mind and the way out of any situation, even the most challenging one.
Two people are always compatible if they are ready to forgo even their
personal desires and pursuits in favor of giving themselves to each
other. And the opposite is also true: the chances of building good
relationships are pretty slim if everyone thinks about oneself only and
wants to use others solely as tools in pursuit of one’s own ends.
Nevertheless, an insight into gana compatibility makes it possible
to understand the way marriage discrepancies arise when partners fail
to understand each other’s psychological type. For example, if a husband
is of devata-gana and a wife is of manushya-gana, he’ll be saving money
for a future major purchase, such as a car, he considers important, and
the wife will be constantly telling him that a car in the future — that’s
mighty good, of course, but snow boots are needed right now because
winter is close at hand! Another example: the husband is of rakshasa-
gana and the wife is of manushya-gana. He can’t stop complaining to
his wife that she can’t cook, do the laundry and make a bed the way his
mother did. And the wife will be saying that a mother is a sacred thing
of course, but today I’ve cooked supper as I think proper, therefore, eat
what you are given or go to bed hungry…
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PROSPERITY COMPATIBILITY
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sage said, wherever the wick drops, so this is my quota. God has
given copper.» So he took that and went down.
The other boys continued, and another wick dropped. When
they dug they found silver. «Ah, silver, very nice. Even more
valuable.» The boy whose wick had dropped was very satisfied, but
the other two said, «Well silver’s alright, but the sage said up to
gold.» «Anyway,» the boy said, «I’ve found silver by God’s grace, so
I’m taking that.»
So the other two continued, and one of their wicks dropped.
He dug, and he found gold. «All right,» one said, «here it is, the
gold. Enough for both of us.» The last one said, «Yes, but I still have
my wick. It hasn’t dropped yet.» The other one replied, «Yes, but
the sage didn’t mention anything more valuable than gold.» «Well
anyway,» the last boy said, «I still have my wick, so I am going to
find my treasure.» «Well do as you will,» the boy who found the
gold said, «but I am taking this gold.»
So then the last boy went high into the Himalayas, up to the
very top, and still his wick didn’t drop. Then he saw one man in
the distance. So he called to him, «My dear sir, do you know of
any valuable treasure up here? I am looking for wealth.» As soon
as he said that, his wick dropped. So he thought, «There must be
something very valuable here.»
Meanwhile, the boy had come a little closer to the man, and
he noticed that the man was standing in a strange position: he was
not moving, and there was a wheel turning on his head. The middle
of the wheel, the hub, was grinding into his head and causing blood
to flow, and this man was obviously in great pain. When this boy’s
wick dropped, that wheel suddenly moved from that man’s head
onto his head. The wheel was turning, and the boy felt great pain.
He also could not move any more: the wheel was somehow keeping
him in place.
The other man could move again and he exclaimed, «Oh,
I’m free! Thank God!» The brahmana boy said, «Please tell me
what is going on here! Why am I suddenly stuck to this spot? I
cannot move and this wheel is on my head and it feels very painful.
What is happening?» The other man replied, «You have come to
the place where Kuvera keeps his treasure. He’s the treasurer of
the demigods, and all his wealth, all the wealth of the demigods is
buried here.» «Well, what is this wheel?» the boy asked. «This wheel
is a weapon of Kuvera which protects his treasure.» «Oh,» the boy
said. «So tell me, what is going to happen to me?» «What is going to
happen to you,» the man said, «is the same thing that happened to
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me. I also came up here looking for treasure. I came up with some
friends and met an old sage who gave us ghee wicks. My friends got
copper, silver and gold, but I wanted to go higher. I came up here,
and the wheel came onto my head.» «So what can I expect?» the
boy asked. «Well, this wheel will stay on your head and keep you
fixed to this place. You will not grow thirsty or hungry, you will just
stay and not be able to move until somebody else comes up here
looking for treasure. Then you will be released, and he will get the
wheel on his head.»
«How long have you been here?» the boy questioned. «Who
is the king of India now?» The boy gave the name of the king, and
the man replied, «Well when I came up here, Lord Ramachandra
was king.» «Oh no!» the boy said. «That was a million years ago!»
And then the man went away, and the greedy boy was left up there,
and probably he’s still up there now.
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realize it herself, but our innate tendencies are powerful and make us
act in accordance with our psychological makeup.
Now we can understand the biggest mistake men make: they
simply stop communicating with their wives when the goal is reached,
when the purchase has been made because they think this in itself is
enough. No, this world is meant for relationships, and anything we do
should deepen our relationships, not end them. In family relations,
you can’t do things wishing your close ones would leave you alone:
this kind of mood goes against the idea of family union as such. You
can’t separate yourself from others, and no one will leave you alone,
anyway, for we are all interrelated with each other, tied together, so
it’s impossible to dissociate oneself from others. Hence, from the very
beginning it’s better to learn to act in such a way that every action –
not even an action, but every single thought, would be positive and
harmless and would contribute to improvement of our relationships,
or else there will be trouble.
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A MAN OR A CHILD?
There is one fine point about feminine mentality all men should
come to realize the sooner the better. The truth of the matter is that
wife shows displeasure with a husband when he acts like a child. She
wants to start a family with a real man who provides protection, gives
support and puts her mind at rest. But sometimes she’s in for a big
disappointment because instead of acquitting himself like a man, a
husband suddenly turns into a child and behaves in quite the opposite
manner: expects his wife to protect, soothe and comfort him, “wipe
his nose”. It leads to a strong sense of disappointment of a woman in
a family life, which affects relationships at all levels. The husband/wife
relationship transforms into that of mother/son, and it is far from
suiting every woman.
Then, if a man becomes fully dependent on a woman, demands
constant care from her, he reincarnates (transforms) not even into a
child, but directly into a woman. It is a woman who needs care and
guarding, not a man. As a result of such dependent behavior, there
appear to be two wives, instead of a husband and wife, in a family. Of
course, it’s fun for a wife to have another girlfriend, but she hoped to
get a thoughtful, reliable husband, after all! If a husband depends on
his wife, not vice versa, his manliness is worn away. There remains no
trace of it, and although he may bang his fists on the table trying to
assert his manliness at home, it is nothing else than female hysteria. A
husband must prove his manliness through care for his wife and make
her feel safe as if behind a stone wall. Then her womanliness will be
satisfied.
The law of happy family relationships is quite simple: a spirit
of happiness settles at home when a woman feels happy. When she
is happy in family life, a man also becomes happy. The conclusion is
simple: if a man wants to get happy, he should make his wife happy first.
If he makes a mistake and tries to become happy by himself, neither
he nor his wife or other relatives will feel themselves happy, because
the proper ethical sequence is not observed. Happiness in solitude is a
rather questionable award.
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The Parable
Once there was a dog so nasty that its owner had to hang
a large piece of metal around its neck to stop it from biting and
chasing after everyone. But a silly dog mistook the piece of metal
for a medal and became so arrogant that it looked with contempt
at other dogs and refused to communicate with them. In a similar
way, a proud person ends up alone as a result of lack of manners,
but thinking that it’s a reward, hates everybody around him/her
even more.
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I WANT HAPPINESS
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But after some time, having experienced first joy from relationships, we
stop being considerate and as a result of such slackness, lose happiness
we have just acquired. Therefore, to maintain relationships means to
keep an attentive, thoughtful attitude towards a person, and to enhance
relationships means to become even more careful and attentive, and
certainly, more thoughtful towards him/her.
Of course, no relationship is without conflict. This is also true of
family relationships. Holding an argument is a fine way to come out of
energy stagnation. When personal development of one of the partner’s
is at a standstill, when his/her energy slackens, and he/she loses sight
of his purpose by falling prey to laziness, an argument is an effective
way to liven him/her up. Vedas affirm that a woman is four times more
quick-witted than a man. She is able to conduct an argument in such
a way that encourages a husband to perk up a bit, make new plans and
gradually get things going. For a married woman, argumentative skills
are of primary importance.
A small advice is that enlivening of a man should go on
according to certain rules. Because it’s actually similar to “awakening
a hibernating bear”, the first part of the process consists of inspiring a
person, rather than criticizing him. “Wake him up” with affectionate
tenderness, otherwise, there’s a danger of “rousing an animal” in him.
It must be kept in mind that rogue bears are very dangerous creatures.
Therefore, don’t criticize your husband – encourage him, “stroke him
tenderly”, “stir him up” by gently inspiring to put more life into actions.
Yes, making criticism is also needed, but only when there’s
intensive activity going on. Good criticism in this case gives an extra
push for further intensification of efforts and helps not to stop half-
way through the task. Dynamic actions require such an extra push-
forward. But when the level of activity is zero, criticism only irritates
a person. Such irritation through criticism in a state of slumber finally
results in total disinclination to act and causes a man to “go into a den”
even deeper.
A woman should know that if she wants something from a man,
she must be the first one to act. Only then can she expect her desires
to be fulfilled on time. Suppose she wants to arrange for them both to
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COMPARATIVE ANATOMY
There once was a boatman who was upset about his heavy
work: dragging boats with a rope along the uneven surface of the
riverbank was hard and painful for him. There were many stones,
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bushes and thorns on his way that pricked his bare feet. He toiled
heavily along and thought that if he were rich, he would have
covered the whole shore with quilts and mattresses so it could be
easier to walk…
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The purpose of family life is to learn to help each other raise our
consciousness and pass this experience to our children. The ability to set
limits on our individual demands is the basis for raising consciousness.
Humans shouldn’t eat indiscriminately or mate randomly, whenever
the opportunity presents itself. Food must be pure, and relationships
must be of a lofty nature. Each person can strive to achieve purity in all
aspects of human life, and constantly perfect oneself in that. Besides,
purity of consciousness is achieved through cultivating equanimity
while facing life’s hardships. We have to tolerate many things in life,
and this is particularly so with relationships when primary emotions
of joy and mutual interest leave them. Even in theory, building happy
relationships based on material senses and bodily satisfaction is
impossible.
Our individuality won’t allow us to satisfy each other 100%. Our
desires, dreams and ideas about happiness will never jump together
completely, which means it will be very difficult to achieve mutual
happiness based thereon. Nothing good can come out of a relationship
as long as each of us tries to satisfy only one’s bodily demands. It is only
a high spiritual platform that can bring together all individual desires.
Remember: we are compatible only at the level of the soul, not
the body. As long as our communication is based on the spiritual
platform, we are perfectly compatible, but as soon as we come down to
the bodily platform, numerous troubles, problems and contradictions
arise. Actually, whatever exists on the material platform is potentially
explosive. Matter is explosive-prone, like a bomb. Materialists are right
in some sense that this world has “exploded”. In fact, it will “explode” not
just once, but many times in the future. And communication process
is also potentially explosive if it’s not based on spiritual principles and
doesn’t lead us to elevation of consciousness. When the purpose is
high, all members of society can see it, and it brings them together. But
when it’s not high, it’s only me who sees this purpose, and it triggers
contradictions.
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A SOCIAL MIRACLE
There exists a family life miracle that has already become a rarity
in modern-day society. It becomes manifest when marriage really lasts
the whole life. A life-long marriage enables one to experience a special
kind of happiness that is only possible to derive from relationships in
this material world. According to what sages say, a husband and a wife
are one single whole. When they walk down the aisle, they are still
two different personalities, a bride and a groom, each with their own
past and future. But as soon as the vows are made and the marriage is
sanctified, they become one entity, a single whole.
A husband and a wife are no longer separate human beings, but
one living organism that functions in its own ways. They are indeed
two halves of a whole, and by the way, a wife is a better half. Their
desires, goals, opportunities become combined, in other words, karma
of two individuals becomes combined. It brings new concerns and
relief at the same time. Twofold positive karma enables a family to
create a spiritual breakthrough, take a solid step forward, find strength
to be pure, faithful and noble, and most importantly, to raise mannerly
children. On the other hand, if such a breakthrough doesn’t occur
and instead of getting purified, young marrieds engage in nonsense,
their mutual negative karma will befall them in all its “beauty”, in the
meanwhile, giving an opportunity to understand the true purpose of a
family union.
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into the soil but they take a long time to produce crops. Moreover, you
always have to make serious efforts so that the crop doesn’t fail.
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though it’s not an easy matter indeed because everybody has their
own taste. One person likes it when a sweet taste predominates in a
dish, another one prefers sour taste. But there is no disputing about
tastes; we just need to acquire good cooking skills. Similarly, we should
deal with all our family members, all neighbors, friends, co-workers
and even stray acquaintances in such a way as to create good, positive
relationships with them. Make the dish of your life really delicious, so
that anyone who tries it could really enjoy it!
Statistics suggests that a modern human contrives to get to
loggerheads with 6 000 individuals during his/her lifetime. And as
far as friendly relations are concerned, one manages to establish them
with 5 000 people. Life turns into some kind of sports conflictology,
“The Greatest Troublemaker and Fault-Finder of the Year” prize
contest. Major reasons of divorce, crimes and military flare-ups lie
here. We create more enemies than friends, although the real friend/
enemy ratio should be as follows: 95% friends and 5% enemies. A
person with such a relationships balance is considered well-mannered
and non-confrontational. If I have an equal number of enemies and
friends, this is no longer the science of relationships but the science
of how to exert political influence. If half of people around me are my
enemies, I should carry myself in such a way that they don’t guess my
real motives. In fact, this is already a war, a quiet cold war, very bitter
and repugnant. As soon as I start to engage myself in politics, I stop
being a cultured person: there are too many enemies I have to conquer,
and by the way, I created them with my own hands, through my own
uncultured behavior.
Politics is a skill of getting outer peace, while the science of
relationships is a skill of achieving inner peace when one is really able
to feel joy meeting other people. Without inner peace, outer peace leads
to unfortunate results. Such a duality becomes the cause of depression,
illnesses and two-faced cynicism. One should learn to differentiate
between inner and outer calmness and seek harmony between the two.
Outer peace should be based on inner peace, real positive traits of a
person, not his/her political ploys.
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In actual fact, one is certainly a poor judge of all that, and yet, a silly
person never loses an opportunity to express oneself on these issues
whenever a conversation drifts to them. It is his/her foolishness that
reveals itself. It becomes attracted to these topics just as a mouse is
attracted to cheese.
The whole point of science of relationships is to learn to
distinguish between smaller and bigger mistakes. Bigger mistakes are
called sins, and they bring intense distress on a sinner, which takes the
form of illnesses, losses, parting and even death. Smaller mistakes are
called follies, or karma, and they bring about little, but very unpleasant
suffering. Ugra-karma can be compared to a dog bite, and karma can be
compared to continuous mosquito bites. Both kinds of erratic behavior
give us a great deal of trouble.
Regarding sins, everything is quite simple: everyone understands
that it’s better not to sin, and the penal code also exerts a sobering
influence on us. But when it comes to small follies, the situation is
not so simple and clear-cut. It seems that they may be disregarded;
however, the science of relationships reveals the secret: it is small follies
that become a major cause of concern for us. Why? It’s because when
we commit big follies, they stick in our memory, which means at any
point in time we can repent of them, ask forgiveness, somehow or other
atone for our guilt. But when it comes to small follies, it is not so easy
to be done — we simply don’t remember whose toes we stepped on,
whom we said disagreeable things to, whom we did dirt to…
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MALEFICENT SELF-CENTEREDNESS
The Parable
One day a master sent his servant to the market to buy some
fish. But the servant made up his mind to relish some spice cakes
bought with the money he would save on fish. Unfortunately, a
cheaply bought fish turned out to be rank. The master offered the
servant to choose the punishment for himself: he had to either eat
this fish, or get beaten 100 times with a stick, or pay 100 coins.
“I’ll eat the fish,” chose the servant.
He had scarcely eaten half of it when he felt sick.
“Enough, ”he said. “It’s better to be beaten.”
But after he had it for the sixtieth time, he felt he couldn’t
stand any longer.
“Stop!” he yelled. “I’m paying 100 coins.”
He ate a bellyful of rotten fish, was beaten with a stick and
was deprived of his money, as a result.
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When two people – a man and a woman – have taken to each other,
this means that their karma is ready to become combined. However,
there is more to it than meets the eye. We can’t just up and click with
each other as soon as we meet. Such love at first sight suggests that we
not so much “clicked” as recognized each other. We were somehow
connected in our previous lives, we had some relationships; hence,
karma evokes this feeling of being attracted in our consciousness.
When we say “we’ve clicked”, this actually means that we’ve recognized
a person with whom we reached some point in our relationships in the
past but didn’t follow it through to the logical end — failed to become
mutually happy.
Therefore, people we have a liking for in this life are not those
who made us happy in the past, but those with whom we failed to
become reciprocally happy, so if we come together again, we won’t get
happy in a brace of shake, like it happens in the movies – rather, we’ll
continue the process of improving our relationships. And if we obey
all the rules of the science of relationships, we may reach perfection
therein in this life. In former times, any old woman, a grandma, could
determine whether a boy and a girl were compatible just by looking
at them. If they really continue their journey together life after life,
even their facial expressions would be the same. Such a couple looks
harmonious, as one harmonious whole. Yes, the head of a dragon is
different from its tail, but these parts together form a perfect whole.
A well-rounded, harmonious system is capable of rapid progress.
A well-made airplane or a car goes fast, a well-rounded sportsman
runs fast, even a well-built snake crawls fast. Similarly, a harmonious
family can make rapid progress and get purified fast. There are so many
problems in the families today because the system is not purified. It
became clogged up and can’t function properly. What’s the garbage
that contaminated it? This is greed, envy, pride, sloth and lust.
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The Story
One dark night, a man walking along the road heard a cry for
help coming from the bottom of an abandoned dry well.
“Hey, what’s up?” he shouted looking into the well.
“You see, I am a linguist”, answered a voice. «On finding no
road in darkness, I got into this pit and now I cannot get out.”
“Cheer up, friend, just let me come by a ladder and a rope”,
responded the man.
“Just a minute”, cried the linguist, “you speak like an illiterate
person, furthermore, your pronunciation leaves much to be
desired. I must ask you to improve it!”
“Well, if words are more important for you than their
meaning, you’d better stay there where you are now, until I learn
how to speak correctly”, replied the man and continued his way.
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There’s only one root cause for divorce and all other relationship
failures: one can’t make heads or tails of what needs to be done.
We should learn how to maintain good relationships from those
who managed to achieve them in their own lives. There are so
many noteworthy Vedic books discussing this subject: “Ramayana”,
“Mahabharata”, “Srimad-Bhagavatam”. However, in this day and age,
instead of being raised on deeply ethical treatises, a child receives a
substitute in the form of violence, adultery and lack of culture, and
all that sort of stuff. Kids will grow up to be like heroes they look up
to and imitate, and a modern-day superhero is Agent 007 with his
uncontrolled sexual behavior.
It’s possible to gain positive experience even by drawing
conclusions from your own mistakes. Even such a crude approach
works, enabling one to learn correct behavior. Any woman can try
an experiment to find out when it’s better to start a serious subject
with a husband: before or after meals. I’m sure that most of my readers
have a firsthand knowledge of this. You can’t allow yourself to fall into
the same trap again and again, as it runs counter to the very nature of
human reason and is ultimately ridiculous. It was king Solomon who
said, “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge but whoever hates
reproof is stupid.”
Presently, while engaging in yoga, one hankers after mystic
perfections, forgetting that a positive mystic perfection is the ability
to be friendly even with enemies. If a person really grows spiritually,
he/she gradually gets the hang of it. This propensity for being friendly
with everyone around is a cut above the rest: it is greater than such
mystic powers as levitation or walking on water.
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The first yogi said, “I cannot do that, for the power you
mention is not one which I possess.”
The second yogi said, “Your power of remaining still in the
water is the one which is possessed by fish. My capacity of flying
in the air can be accomplished by a fly. These abilities are no parts
of real truth – they may become the foundation of self-conceit and
competitiveness, not spirituality. ”
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Once there were three men traveling together. When they took
an overnight stop, they hid all their money in the agreed place. But at
midnight, one of them got up, took the money and hid it in a different
place. When the money was found to be missing, the men began to
accuse each other of the theft. But no evidence was found, so they
decided to submit a matter to Solomon’s judgment.
After hearing the story of strangers, Solomon asked them to come
for the solution next day and began to think how to make a thief reveal
himself. Finally, when the men came to the court again, he addressed
them with the following words,
“I know you to be experienced and wise men. So I’d like you to
help me decide a suit which was submitted to me by another king.
In his kingdom, there lived a maiden and a youth who were very
fond of each other and promised to each other never to enter into a
marriage without obtaining each other’s permission.
The years passed and another young man came into the life and
heart of the girl. The parents of the girl betrothed their daughter to
a man whom she loved, but she refused to become his wife until the
companion of her youth would give his consent. She now needed to
return to her former friend to sever the agreement.
She brought with her a gift of money – a lot of gold and silver –
as a token of appreciation for their friendship, which she presented to
him.
The young man thanked her for her friendship and, setting
aside his own love for the girl, he offered her and her beloved one
his congratulations and refused to accept the slightest return for the
permission granted.
Soon afterward, as a happy couple was on their homeward way,
they were attacked by the robbers. Among the robbers, there was an
old highwayman who was not content with the gold and silver and
demanded lovemaking from a young woman.
“Wait!” she cried, “I have something to tell you.”
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The girl told the brigand the story of her life, closing with these
words, “If a youth controlled his passion for me, how much more
should you, an old man, be filled with fear of God and let me go my
way.”
Her words took effect. The aged highwayman laid hands neither
on the girl nor the money. He was moved to a point that he returned
all their gold and silver.
“Now,” Solomon continued to the three litigants, “I was asked to
decide which of the three persons from this story acted most nobly. I’d
like to have your views upon the question.
The first man had his answer already, “The girl deserves the
highest praise for she stayed true to her oath.”
The second man said, “In my opinion, the young groom is the
most praiseworthy. He was able to resist his temptation and hadn’t
touched the girl before her first groom freed her from the oath.”
“Really?” exclaimed the third one. “Most of all I’m surprised at
the thief! Not only didn’t he touch the girl — all the money that had
already been in his hands he gave back!”
Then Solomon said,
“This person speaks with so much enthusiasm about money,
which he had never seen, only heard of it; how could he restrain himself
when the real money was in his hands?!”
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Three things cannot be retrieved: the arrow once sped from the bow, the word
spoken in haste and the missed opportunity
(Eastern wisdom)
One should realize that when choosing a life partner, it’s necessary
to rely on intelligence, and not the senses. Sometimes our karma doesn’t
let us create a warm relationship despite the initial great outburst of
feelings. Remember: our senses are misleading instruments. Your body
shivers not only when you’re touching your beloved one — touching a
corpse or a very expensive item can also give the shivers. Hairs on the
body may stand on end not only out of love, but also because of fear
or hatred. Don’t trust your love sensation — trust the science of love
that had it all double-checked as far back as thousands of years ago.
Symptoms of death and ecstatic love are often very much alike — be
careful not to misrecognize them.
Compatibility at the level of feelings and senses only affords
ground for building relationships. But don’t expect a big miracle
from infatuation. Relationships are not being built on the miracle of
infatuation — they are being based on real self-improvement efforts,
meticulous hard work on one’s own consciousness.
Happy families don’t appear as if by magic — this is a result of
hard work of both of the partners on their own characters, on their
own hearts. Work always comes first. In other words, chemistry of
initial attraction doesn’t mean you don’t need to do anything. Quite on
the contrary, you’ll have to work on and on at self-improvement. The
only question is whether one likes to work or not. If one likes to work,
he/she will feel comfortable in any sphere, be it physical or spiritual
activity. Therefore, the primary duty of parents is to foster in children
love of work, the ability to experience joy from the process, not the
result.
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The law of happy family life is very simple: if a child had a happy
family experience, it would be easier for him/her to build a happy family
when he/she grows up. If one had no such experience, it would be very
difficult to build sublime relationships even though one might have the
most outstanding partner and a 100 percent compatibility with him/
her. We can create only something we have seen with our own eyes,
learnt from our own experiences. But we don’t quite understand it:
we make plans for family relationships that we have never seen, that
simply don’t exist on this planet. We build castles in the air and think
they will bear up under our weight. But all we are capable of is making
a raft out of several logs.
Disappointment in love comes because both partners fail to
agree upon their expectations and plans for marriage. Let’s take plans
for having children, for example. As we have already mentioned, this
point should be discussed prior to marriage, and the couple should
reach mutual understanding on all questions concerning parenting.
They should agree on how many children are to be expected, how they
are to be raised and educated, the amount of money to be spent on
that, the amount of time each of the parents will spend with children
and their roles in children’s upbringing. The number of children and
other subtleties don’t matter, by the way — the main thing is for the
partners to reach out for mutual understanding. Even if a husband and
wife don’t want to have children, for the beginning of family life this
is absolutely normal. But: each of them should know that he/she can’t
change his/her mind on the question independently — he/she can do
it only together with a spouse, through joint decision-making. Then a
major family conflict would be an unlikely event. Pulling it all together,
it doesn’t matter which point we discuss and to what extent it looks
culturally correct, the main thing is that it should eventually suit both
partners well.
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EMOTIONS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Yes, monks and nuns also exist in this world. Such people don’t
believe in family happiness, and basically, they are right. Why? It’s an
interesting question. Think of the way of reasoning of a modern man.
He starts a family to become happy. It means that before creating a
family, he failed to avail himself of the external situation to achieve
satisfaction. And he hopes that in a family, things would change. But
this is counting on a miracle. A wife is practically no different from all
other women, children are born like in all other families, and at home
he creates the same atmosphere as was in the house of his parents. In
a very short period of time, he creates a perfect copy of his life before
marriage. He wants to create new happiness, but in fact, he recreates the
same atmosphere in which he failed to become happy, the atmosphere
he wanted to run away from. Why take so much trouble upon oneself
then? All in all, it is said in the Vedas that there isn’t any man who can
hundred-percent take care of a woman, and there isn’t any woman who
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Yes, we want to lead the way, but for the partner to be willing
to follow, we need to manifest the qualities we’d like to see in him/
her. If you want a partner to be submissive, you should show humility
yourself. If you want him/her to be sympathetic, be a good listener
yourself. I you want him/her to spend money reasonably, get a grip on
your own desires. If you want him/her to stop arguing at the slightest
pretext, don’t contend about trifles yourself. If you want your partner
to speak soft words, don’t swear like a trooper yourself. It’s best for
family relationships when a husband starts talking to his wife in a kind
manner, and the wife affectionately answers.
Fanatic religiosity can play a trick on a person. One may begin
to think that spiritual relationships can replace social relationships.
For example, one may think that a spiritual master should provide
emotional support for him/her, but it is not the responsibility of a
spiritual master. It comes within duties of a family member. A spiritual
master inspires one in spiritual life; all other emotions one should get
from association with other members of society, mainly one’s family
members and close ones.
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client in what cases he/she can get divorced because a client will make
these ideas fit in with his /her situation. An astrologer can’t say, “If he
(or she) is unfaithful to you, you have every right to leave him (her)”; If
he doesn’t bring home money, what’s the use of such family life? ” This
is a direct permission for divorce, the consequences of which will be
shared between the one who has given such advice and the one who
follows it.
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one of the partners should sacrifice his/her interests and communicate
with a partner based on the interests of the partner. Usually, it is a
husband who should communicate with a wife based on her interests:
it will make her happy, and a husband will get something he aspired to
when he started these relationships. And that is family happiness.
Certainly, it’s best when both partners take interest in each other,
but if this is not possible, at least one of the partners should take interest
in the other. For happy family life, this will already be sufficient.
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communication with people outside the family shouldn’t be sexually-
tinged, or it will result in shameful degradation. Lack of control of
sexual drive pushes one to look for ever new sexual experiences, which
leads to homosexuality and other such inversions over time.
Brihadaranyaka Upanishad describes the law of karma with
regard to sexual relationships. If a man enters into sacred marriage with
a woman for the purpose of begetting children and remains faithful to
her, the spouses get each other’s good karma and live happily ever after.
But if a relationship is not solemnized and is based on sin, a man and
a woman exchange their bad karma, which ultimately makes matters
twice as bad for them. Thereby, a man completely loses his good karma,
without which there is simply nothing to do in this world…
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object of care feels naturally dependent, as a result. In the absence of
care, there’s no feeling of dependency. And thus, how can I manage
such a person? If a boss doesn’t pay wages, how can he/she demand
obedience and submission from a subordinate?
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that we want to subdue this energy. Unfortunately, this is not a proper
mood for establishing contact with a source of all prosperity.
It’s like subduing mountain peaks. “To subdue” means “to
possess”. A climber can’t spend more than a few minutes on a peak but
proudly asserts he has subdued it and shows off a picture of himself
on the peak, with his face benumbed with cold. This is not a conquest
— this is rape. When a man enters into a relationship with a woman
but doesn’t intend to start a family with her — this is violence against
a woman. Likewise, when one gets prosperity but does not intend to
spend it on taking care of others, on spiritual development and self-
improvement, this is also a kind of violence — violence against money,
against divine energy.
Money is an embodiment of care: its true purpose is to be spent
on taking care of others. When we don’t fulfill its will, money refuses
to fulfill our plans. Therefore, a real relationship with money starts
with respect and understanding of its purpose. If we are capable of
respecting prosperity, it will agree to start relationships with us and
may even become our friend. But it will never be our servant.
Remember: money likes those who spend it on spiritual
development and taking care of others.
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ourselves, accordingly. You can’t become happy if you cause misery
to others. You can’t become happy if you come between children and
parents and separate children from parents. And so, we shouldn’t be
like those who abduct children (and modern-day business is very
much like kidnapping) — we should be those who return children to
their parents.
How do you think parents will treat the one who returned their
kidnapped child? Indeed, they will love such a person like their own
flesh and blood. How to get the Absolute Truth to like you? Offer Him
back the prosperity that came into your hands.
Such a state of consciousness is called yoga. Yes, exactly: the
skill to return prosperity to the Absolute Truth is called yoga, and it is
studied in the “Artha-Shastra” treatise. Yoga is not only about standing
on your head – the essence of the most difficult asana is to develop the
desire to spend money on spiritual projects rather than on oneself.
It is not difficult to understand where my consciousness is geared
at. If I spend money only on myself, I’m a deep-dyed ego-tripper. If I
spend money on a family, I’m a family person. If I give my money to
God, I’m a yogi. The secret is that one should distribute one’s income in
such a way as to feel peaceful and contented in the heart. Remember:
progress is possible only in the state of balance. Therefore, one should
divide one’s money in a balanced manner across all aspects of one’s life.
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about him, it brings him to ruin. A husband represents the energy
of protection, therefore, when a wife thinks about her husband, her
family is protected. On the other hand, a wife represents the energy of
prosperity, hence, taking care of a wife equals to looking after overall
well-being, including one’s own.
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their heads about beauty, can’t live beautifully themselves, hence, they
should let women look after beauty. They know how to do it, simply
don’t interfere with them, don’t say this is very expensive. Beauty
requires sacrifice, but it doesn’t go in vain: the goddess of prosperity
comes shortly after and makes up for spending.
At home, everything should be nice and beautiful: children,
parents, husband, wife, the house itself and even domestic animals.
This will make it attractive for prosperity who doesn’t like filthy stinky
dwellings. Make your home nice and clean, and prosperity will be glad
to stay there, but remember: She can leave at any moment. As soon as
we become lazy and neglect the cleanliness of our homes, She packs
Her belongings She handed over to us for a while, and goes away.
Remember: everything you have in your home belongs to Lakshmi,
your guest, and She may take it away at any point in time. The goddess
of prosperity is a source of all cleanliness and purity. In this world, She
is represented by a lotus flower. People pick up lotus flowers in bulk,
and lakes with lotuses have to be enclosed with barbed wire fences. But
it doesn’t make people rich — it speaks for their deformed thinking.
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those who hold managerial positions or are simply endowed with a
certain responsibility (e.g. consierge managers). But the main thing
is that seniors should impart knowledge of truth to juniors. This is
their main responsibility. Keep in mind that through proper hearing
of seniors one gets not only knowledge of truth, but also prosperity.
But if one doesn’t like to hear moral teachings, not only does one lose
knowledge — one deprives oneself of luck hidden in the words coming
from above.
The Story
And don’t forget that if you respect a rich person, and don’t feel
envious of him/her, their good karma is transferred to you. But if you
are envious of a rich person, your good karma is transferred to him/
her. Why should we respect rich people? It seems that oftentimes they
are not so noble in their conduct… But we should understand why
someone becomes wealthy — this is a result of a great number of good
deeds this person did in the past. Regarding how one will handle the
fruits of his/her actions, it must be understood that everyone goes
through their own set of trials, and not everyone copes with them.
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Many people fail to stand the test of trial. It doesn’t feel so easy to go
through the mill in this world.
The Story
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SERVICE TO OTHERS
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“My Wife Is a Goddess”
Table of Contents
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Emotions Vs. Result..................................................................................63
A Man or a Child?.....................................................................................66
I Want Happiness......................................................................................68
A Glimpse of Karmic Consequences......................................................71
Responsiveness Assessment.....................................................................72
The Body as a Microscope........................................................................75
Comparative Anatomy..............................................................................77
Service to My Soul.....................................................................................79
How to Raise Your Consciousness..........................................................80
Material Happiness....................................................................................81
A Social Miracle.........................................................................................83
Well-Wishers..............................................................................................84
A Tasteful Family.......................................................................................85
Ways Love Relationships Arise................................................................87
Is There Any Problem?..............................................................................89
A System of Relationships........................................................................92
Disgusting Love?........................................................................................95
Astrology of Love......................................................................................98
Maleficent Self-Centeredness...................................................................99
Karma Ready to Make a Match.............................................................100
Make Sure You Don’t Frighten Karma Away.......................................102
Secrets of Thoughtfulness.......................................................................104
Greed, The Cause of Suffering...............................................................106
Learn Happiness by Examples...............................................................108
Walking Out of Depression....................................................................110
Who to Build Relationships With.........................................................112
The Parable of Solomon..........................................................................114
Let Your Intelligence, Not the Senses Guide You................................116
Lifestyle Compatibility............................................................................117
The Reason Why Difficulties Arise.......................................................119
A Few Words About The Duties............................................................120
The Want for More Experience..............................................................121
False Ego in Family Life..........................................................................121
Foolery Because of Discontentment.....................................................123
Emotions in Relationships.....................................................................124
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Sublimity of a Life Partner.....................................................................125
Sense Control in a Family......................................................................126
Interesting Tiredness...............................................................................127
Emotional Compatibility........................................................................128
How to Take Care of a Family................................................................129
What is to Be Done With Attachments................................................130
Love Match...............................................................................................132
Spirituality and Everyday Life................................................................133
The Law of Money...................................................................................135
The Proper Mood for Getting Money...................................................135
Lakshmi, The Goddess of Prosperity ...................................................136
A Wife Represents Lakshmi...................................................................137
A Woman is the Embodiment of Prosperity.......................................138
Man’s Rage................................................................................................139
Beauty as a Token of Prosperity.............................................................139
Seniors are the Embodiment of Prosperity..........................................140
Respect for the Wealthy..........................................................................141
Service to Others.....................................................................................143
Table of Contents.....................................................................................144
Annex (Information about the Schools)..............................................147
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ANNEX (INFORMATION ABOUT THE SCHOOLS)
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