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Time Management
Time Management
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You wake up early and sleep later than you should, but you still
can’t find time to fit everything you and your family need into the
day. From hectic mornings to frantic evenings, your day is one long
stretch of “go, go, go.” And it doesn’t seem to be getting any better.
You see other parents who seem to have everything together. They
cook from scratch every day of the week. They never forget a bill or
a doctor’s appointment. Their homes, though not sparkling clean, still
maintain a sense of order.
I’ve had days where I wondered what I got myself into and doubted
my abilities to be a good mom. I didn’t know whether life would get
any easier or if stress would be my constant companion. And I didn’t
always feel happy like I thought I would be.
With time and implementing old and new habits, I’ve been able to
feel less overwhelmed and, dare I say it, confident in my role as
a mom. I work, pursue my interests and write a blog. Somewhere
in between raising three boys, including twins, I even wrote a
parenting book.
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Feeling overwhelmed doesn’t have to define your life. You’re busy,
but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy motherhood.
• Get organized
• Establish a routine
• Use your time wisely
• Get others on board
Many parents have asked me how I ”do it all.” They can’t remember
the last time they felt truly happy, and instead feel burdened with
their never-ending responsibilities. While we can’t erase all our
stress, we can feel less overwhelmed.
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STRATEGY 1
GET ORGANIZED
If you barely remember to bring a shopping list much less make one,
getting organized might seem like a daunting task. But with kids
and added responsibilities, finding a system that works is necessary
to keep yourself from feeling overwhelmed. Scrambling last minute,
rushing out the house or forgetting to pay a bill simply aren’t
sustainable nor enjoyable ways to spend your days.
• Meal planning
• Chores and cleaning
• Calendars and lists
• Daily prep
MEAL PLANNING
Do you scramble to prepare dinner in the evenings? Are you rushing
to the grocery store to pick up a forgotten ingredient? Has your
budget taken a hit because you’ve had to eat at a restaurant or order
take out again?
With meal planning, you don’t stress about what to cook every night.
You save time running to the grocery several times a week. You even
save money by buying and using only the items you need.
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Strategy 1 : Get Organized
But don’t worry: This isn’t complicated. This is for the mom who just
needs good ol’ paper and pen to jot down the ingredients for the
week. The mom who may not always have time on her hands but is
tired of serving the same things every night. The mom who groans
when she finds expired food in the back of the pantry she purchased
and forgot about. This is easy meal planning for beginners:
First, ask yourself how many days a week you want to cook.
Every family is different. Some of us have more members to feed.
Others have just had a baby and can’t fathom the thought of
preparing a home-cooked meal. Decide on a good number of days
per week that works for your family.
Then, find the same number of recipes to fill those days. Let’s
say you decide to cook four days a week. Now find four recipes.
Finally, make two lists. The first is a list of your weekly recipes.
This is where you’ll write your four recipes for the week. Or print
your recipes and set them in a designated area.
The second is your shopping list. Write the ingredients you need
to buy.
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Strategy 1 : Get Organized
The last thing you need is yet another run to the grocery store to
pick up a forgotten ingredient. Or to bundle the kids in the car to eat
at a restaurant yet again.
Meal planning eliminates those hassles and saves you time and
money. You’ll know exactly which meals to cook and the ingredients
you need to make them.
First, establish a cleaning schedule that works for you and your
family. That might mean making a list of the chores you need to do
every week, every two weeks, or every month. Divide the list among
family members so chores don’t fall only on you.
Lastly, teach your kids to pick up after themselves. This not only
makes cleaning easier, but instills a useful habit:
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Strategy 1 : Get Organized
• Lastly, model the same habits yourself. Keep your home tidy,
take care of your belongings, and clean up as you go along. Your
kids will learn more from your habits than your empty words.
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Strategy 1 : Get Organized
Get in the habit of checking your daily to-do lists, and cross them off
as you go along. When a thought enters your mind, whether a task,
a fantastic idea or a reminder to yourself, remove it from your brain
and write it down.
You’ll get more things done when you rely on an organization system
to remind you of your tasks.
DAILY PREP
You’re half awake by the time the kids are up but you still need to
get breakfast ready. Meanwhile, they haven’t packed their homework
or are fighting over a toy. You’re scrambling to get dressed while
trying to remember what you need to bring as well. No wonder
leaving the house on time feels like a miracle.
Here’s the trick that always works for me: prepare the night
before. You may feel tired in the evenings, but you’ll feel even more
exhausted in the morning. Am I right?
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Strategy 1 : Get Organized
Think about everything you need before leaving the house: Choose
your outfit. Pack your child’s book bag as well as your purse. Plan
your lunches, and check the tasks you need to do the next day. That
way you’ll have everything in order the next morning.
Then, take it up a notch and wake up earlier than the kids, even
if just to wash your face and wake yourself up. Better yet, have
breakfast ready. You don’t have to get everything done before they’re
up, but spend at least a few minutes on the basics—anything you
can’t do well with the kids around.
Plan your weekly meals. Use a chore list (without going overboard
on deep cleaning). Use calendars and lists to track your schedule and
tasks. And prepare the night before while waking up before the kids.
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STRATEGY 2
ESTABLISH A ROUTINE
What is it with routines? You hear about them all the time, from
bedtime to after school. You’re intrigued, but don’t want to forfeit
spontaneity or feel chained to the clock.
Here’s the thing though: routines make fun outings and changes
to your plans all the more doable. Because you’ve established
predictability, your child will feel excited, not anxious, when plans
change.
Routines also ease anxieties your kids may feel. They’re comforted
when they know what to expect and recognize the familiar flow of the
day. Rather than worrying, they’re able to focus on playing, learning,
and relaxing.
And lastly, routines means less work for you. They let you fill in
plans and activities around your “daily pillars,” such as nap and meal
times. If lunch is always at 11am, you can plan playdates or errands
in the mornings.
In this section, we’ll discuss two of the most chaotic times of the day—
mornings and evenings—and how to restore order using routines.
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Strategy 2 : Establish a Routine
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Strategy 2 : Establish a Routine
Everyone wants your attention, and they’re cranky until they get it.
Never mind that the afternoons feel like one crazy ride of constant
action, from finishing last minute homework to getting dressed for
soccer practice.
Here’s a trick I learned about the hours after school: Kids need
downtime once they’re home. Give them 30 minutes to do
whatever they want without worrying about homework, chores or
extracurricular activities. Better yet, use this time to connect with
your kids. Have a snack together, play with toys, read a book, or
cook dinner together.
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Strategy 2 : Establish a Routine
Exceptions and special occasions make the days exciting and fun.
Sometimes they’re necessary even if we don’t want the interruption.
Routines make those rare days more doable. They anchor your
daily life to allow for spontaneity. And since you’ve established
predictability, your kids will be more likely to accommodate changes
than if they didn’t know what to expect.
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STRATEGY 3
USE YOUR TIME WISELY
You’ve organized your meals and chores. You’ve planned your
calendars and prepared the night before. You’ve also established
routines to add predictability to your life.
Except none of those tips will work if you’re not efficient with
your time. Being busy isn’t the same as being productive. Maybe
you spend the better half of the day tending to little tasks while
forgetting bigger, more important ones. Or you cram your days with
too many activities. Maybe you even feel obligated to save your tasks
and leisure time for when the kids are in bed.
In this section, we’ll focus on using your time wisely and how doing
so can make you feel less overwhelmed.
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Strategy 3 : Use Your Time Wisely
Kids need downtime just as much as they need stimulation. You may
feel obligated to expose your child to new experiences, but he needs
time to decompress and process his surroundings as well. Time to
tinker with his toys, draw and play without an agenda.
Similarly, make sure your own schedule isn’t packed. Pace yourself
so you’re not doing too much at the same time. Make use of
deadlines and try not to do everything right now when you can do
them later. Learn to say “no” or “maybe” when commitments are
already stressful enough.
A busy schedule can overwhelm the best of us. We lose track of what
we need to pack. We yell at our kids for not hurrying. We don’t feel
like we can relax.
Instead, keep your calendar free. Learn to say ’no’ to events that
don’t give you much in return. Enjoy simple outings or time at home.
Above all, be picky with what you’re willing to spend your time on—
we only have so many hours in a day.
Your life feels like it’s on hold when you’re back to mom duty with
the kids. You read, play, and hang out with the kids the whole day,
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Strategy 3 : Use Your Time Wisely
but stay up late to do everything else. You wait until they nap to
finish folding that pile of laundry. And you don’t bother taking the
kids on errands for fear they’ll have a meltdown you’d rather not
deal with (in public, no less!).
Each time, you realize you can have a life with kids. And perhaps
more importantly, challenging yourself raises your confidence and
makes you feel strong enough to do nearly anything.
With each challenge, you grow into your role, gaining experience as
you go along. You learn the best ways to avert a tantrum and how
to combine errands with fun kid-related activities. You feel like you
can do the things you used to do before becoming a mom. Start with
these ideas:
• Let your kids play independently for several minutes while you
do chores.
• Do a fun activity for yourself while the kids are awake, like
reading a book or exercising to a workout video.
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Strategy 3 : Use Your Time Wisely
• Take the kids with you on a fun hobby, even if it’s a “kid”
version of it. Maybe you won’t hike the long trail you used to,
but you can walk the easy path in less time.
Incorporating kids into your life allows you to pursue hobbies or tend
to tasks and still spend time with them. It doesn’t always have to be
one or the other.
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STRATEGY 4
GET OTHERS ON BOARD
We feel overwhelmed when we assume too many responsibilities.
We safeguard our role as the “Ideal Mom.” We brush off any attempts
from our village to help. We feel obligated to do the tasks ourselves
or because we’re not happy with the way others handle it.
Tell me that wouldn’t drive you nuts to hear when you’re out and
about without the kids. As if you’re the sole parent and your partner
the occasional sitter.
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Strategy 4 : Get Others On Board
How?
Communicate
I’m sure I’m not the only who has heaved sighs of frustration at her
husband for not reading her mind. Why is he on his computer while
I’m washing dishes? You might say to yourself. Shouldn’t he get the
hint and do some chores so I can relax too?
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Strategy 4 : Get Others On Board
• Loosen your standards. Dad didn’t fold the kids’ clothes the
“right way”? Don’t redo the job. Let it go and let him have a say
in how to fold clothes as well.
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Strategy 4 : Get Others On Board
• One parent can stay home for sick days while the other handles
doctor’s appointments.
• The parent who works while the other stays home should still
do his or her part when at home.
And each parent needs time for herself or himself. A few hours to
grab lunch or attend a meeting. A night to have dinner with friends
or hike with coworkers. One parent shouldn’t feel tied down to the
kids because the other one would flounder if left alone with them.
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Strategy 4 : Get Others On Board
You’re more than just a mom. This may be your most important
role, but focusing only on motherhood isn’t always fun. No wonder
you feel stressed when you don’t make room in our lives for your
other roles.
With yourself
You spend all your time caring for kids, cleaning your home and
working. Come evenings and weekends, you feel bad about not
spending time with your kids, so you devote those hours to them.
Life doesn’t seem fun but rather imbalanced. You hear about
coworkers and friends—even those with kids—pursuing hobbies and
going out. And all of that doesn’t seem possible, a least not for you.
Or is it?
Find a hobby you can do at home. Maybe you were once an avid
wine taster. Or a fitness fanatic. Or you’d hit the waves on your
surfboard. As a mom, there’s less opportunity to pursue hobbies,
understandably.
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Strategy 4 : Get Others On Board
Do fun things after the kids are asleep. The hours after 8pm are
my ‘me’ hours where, with the kids quietly tucked in bed, I can write
(hi!). My husband catches up on soccer news or plays his guitar.
We’ll both read or watch television.
Taking care of yourself takes precedence over your partner and even
your kids. Yep—it’s more important you take care of yourself before
you take care of anyone else. A mom at her wit’s end can’t be a good
mom or a loving partner.
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Strategy 4 : Get Others On Board
Don’t neglect the friendships you’ve made. You may need to get
creative, or settle with seeing one another less frequently than you
wish. But having a strong social support helps you feel less alone.
Help also comes with hiring others. It’s fine to pay someone to do
tasks you don’t want to or can’t do yourself. Maybe you need to hire
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someone to help in the evenings when you’re alone with the kids.
Or a housekeeper to come every two weeks so you don’t stress about
a messy home. Or a nanny to watch the kids because working from
home with them is too difficult.
Asking for help does not mean you’re failing. It’s hard enough for
two parents to take care of kids. Relying on help is okay—you’re
simply leaning on your village.
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ASSIGNMENTS
Like I mentioned in the beginning, I don’t have a magic formula
that erases all your stress. Still, I’m a big fan of taking action. We
can do so much to feel less overwhelmed with even one or two
simple steps.
To inspire you to take action, I’ve listed several assignments you can
do. Each one is an actionable step, sectioned by the four strategies.
• Create a chore list for your family members. Write events and
due dates on a monthly calendar and to-do list.
• Do the same tasks before leaving the house and when returning
home. Make a list of all the things you want to do each morning
and evening.
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STRATEGY 3: USE YOUR TIME WISELY
• Look through your to-do list and see which are absolute musts.
Start those first and reconsider the others.
• Set a few hours just for yourself to do whatever you want to do.
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