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something worth carrying around all the time. It becomes a heavy burden that weighs
us down and isolates us. Forgiveness takes this away. Forgiveness kills bitterness
and resentment. Forgiving someone else is freeing. It allows us to break those
chains of thought that have been weighing us down. If you are not able to forgive
someone, it forever becomes something that you cannot bear. You will not be able to
think of that person or that particular circumstance the same again. When it does
come to mind, it becomes paralyzing. I’ve heard a lot of people say, “I always
forgive but I don’t ever forget”. To me, that says they don’t always forgive.
There’s an unending burden dwelling inside them. They’ve been scarred by something
and have not let go of that hurt that they have experienced. If they fully forgave
the offender, they would be free of that burden. If you've ever encountered anger
and bitterness, then you know it's not worth dragging around all the time. It is
becoming a heavy burden, weighing us down and isolating us. Forgiveness takes away
this. Forgiveness destroys anger and bitterness. It is liberating to forgive
someone else. It makes it possible for us to lift the chains of thinking that have
weighted us down. If you can't forgive anyone, it will forever become something you
can't take. You would not be able to think the same again about that person or that
particular situation. It becomes paralyzing when it comes to mind. A lot of people
have heard me say, "I always forgive, but I never forget." To me that says they're
not always forgiving. Dwelling within them is an unbearable burden. Something has
scarred them and they have not let go of the hurt they have endured. If they
forgave the victim entirely, they will be free of the duty.
"If you could lick my heart, it would poison you." This is how one person described
his bitterness toward those who hurt him. Researchers have concluded that
forgiveness plays an important role in emotional and physical well-being. Anger,
resentment and bitterness cause significant physical problems related to
cardiovascular disease, hypertension, high blood pressure and psychosomatic
illness. Bitterness should be understood as cherished resentments that give a false
feeling of retaliation and relief. We must come to terms with the fact that we hurt
ourselves and others when we refuse to let go of anger, resentment and bitterness.
But where can we find strength to forgive when we've been deeply hurt? Let's not
pretend forgiveness is always easy. Perhaps you have been hurt badly enough that
you feel it has poisoned your heart.Does it sound unrealistic when people talk
about forgiving and forgetting? If forgiveness means swallowing hard and letting
your offender off the hook or pretending the offense never occurred, who would
choose to forgive? One reason people have difficulty with forgiveness is that they
assume forgiving and reconciling are the same thing. Forgiveness does not require
an offended person to immediately restore a broken relationship. In some cases, it
is possible to forgive an offender without being reconciled to him. This is often
the only safe option in dealing with abusive relationships.