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Alexie Walker - Response Essay
Alexie Walker - Response Essay
EN 102
Response Essay
5 February 2021
TTYL . . . Or Not
Relationships can be formed and ended without ever looking the other person in the face
or hearing his or her voice. Merely a few decades ago, this would have seemed outlandish,
impossible even; today, it is more common than ever. Sherry Turkle, Professor of the Social
new dynamic between people and the internet in her article “No Need to Call.” She discusses
how the internet has affected communication through several examples from her own life. She
then goes on to claim that people would rather have more control of their conversations by using
text, email, or another form of instant messaging, often at the expense of close, meaningful
connections (373-91). Turkle accurately argues that written communication provides a sense of
control, saves emotional and social drainage, and devalues meaningful relationships when used
Phone calls do not offer the same opportunity for methodical scripting and planning in
everyday conversations like texting or emailing do. Turkle herself writes, “[Y]ou have a chance
to write yourself into the person you want to be and to imagine others as you wish them to be . . .
a telephone call can seem fearsome because it reveals too much” (374). In other words, Turkle
believes that texting safeguards participants in a way that phone calls are lacking. When
communicating over text, the opportunity arises to reword, revise, and edit; portraying oneself
exactly as desired is more achievable when not talking in real-time. Situations in my personal life
have also solidified this claim. When talking to people that I am unfamiliar with, I choose to
communicate over text or email. It eases my anxiety over whether I will say the right thing or
come across in the right light; connecting this way provides added reassurance. Using instant
Not only can text communication be strategically planned out, but it also relieves many
social pressures. Audrey, a feature in Turkle’s article, gives her own opinion on instant
messaging by asserting, “I can answer on my own time, I can respond. I can ignore it. So it really
works with my mood” (377). Audrey is insinuating that having the option to engage in certain
conversations on one’s own time can save emotional drainage and ensure that boundaries are not
crossed. For me, getting overwhelmed with lots of social interaction--in person, on FaceTime, or
just over the phone--is a common occurrence. When my social battery is running low, putting
conversations on the back burner can be quite a relief. Doing this prevents excessive stress, and
when I choose to respond, I know I will be in the right headspace to not project my social
fatigue. However, text communication is not the answer for all discussions.
While it does seem more convenient, text communication is not the place for weighty
conversations, and when used too often, can seem rude. Turkle confirms this by quoting Audrey
again, who says, “[T]hings happen online that ‘should happen in person’” (379). Here, Turkle
and Audrey are explaining that it is often easier to have hard conversations online, hiding behind
a screen. This informality feels disingenuous to real relationships and devalues the connection
that could be made face-to-face or even over the phone. I think it is too commonplace nowadays
for kids to maintain a majority of their relationships online. In almost every high school
relationship, the assumption that it was initiated on a messaging app called Snapchat is usually
the truth; furthermore, when relationships end--platonic or romantic--it all goes down online. I
have a close friend whose serious boyfriend broke up with her over text; this made her feel that
their relationship was not as meaningful as she previously thought, purely because he did not
are changing as well. As preferences morph, relationships look different than they did 30 or 40
years ago when a phone call was the only long-distance option. Sherry Turkle describes this
scenario in her article “No Need to Call” and furthers her claim with many real-life examples.
She is correct in saying that communication behind a screen allows participants to be perceived
how they desire, prevents social fatigue, and negatively affects meaningful relationships when
used for important subjects. As communication tools continue to change, expectations and
Turkle, Sherry. "No Need to Call." They Say I Say with Readings, by Gerald Graff et al., 3rd ed.,