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Work As Self Transformation
09. GOAL SETTING – TRANSFORM YOURSELF 59
10. SELF CONTROL AND HABITS 66
Perspective In Changing Times
11. SAY NO TO DISCRIMINATION 71
12. OBSESSION WITH INTERNET 77
Global Value System – Japan
13. JAPANESE VALUE SYSTEM 83
14. TIME MANAGEMENT IN JAPAN 87
15. IKIGAI: SECRET OF HEALTH AND HAPPINESS 92
01. INTELLIGENCE QUOTIENT(IQ) VS EMOTIONAL QUOTIENT(EQ)
1. There are Lotus flowers in a lake. The area covered by Lotus flowers doubles in size every
day. If it takes 50 days for the Lotus flowers to cover the entire lake, how long would it take for
Lotus flowers to cover half of the lake?
• 5 Days
• 10 Days
• 49 Days
• 39 Days
2. How many squares are in this picture ?
• 32
• 36
• 40
• 50
IQ
tient”. The IQ is a measurement of your intelli-
gence and is expressed in a number. It can help
predict how well someone may do academically.
A high IQ score will mean higher reasoning and problem-solving abilities. The intelligence
quotient measures working memory, arithmetic ability, spatial ability and processing speed.
Some of us are born more cognitively intelligent than others. 50-80% of the IQ score is due
to genetics, meaning that overall genetics plays a bigger role in IQ. Remaining part of IQ is at-
tributed to the environment where nutrition, education, and health care play a big role.
IQ classification table
IQ scale Interpretation of IQ score
130 and above Extremely High(Genius)
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IQ scores of some famous people
Name Occupation IQ
Garry Kasparov Chess player 190
Isaac Newton Scientist 190
Albert Einstein Physicist 160
Bill Gates Microsoft founder 160
Stephen Hawking Physicist, mathematician 160
George Washington President 118
Muhammad Ali Boxer 72
You can see that a high IQ has a positive impact on an individual's success in life. However, this
does not hold universally and there are certain exceptions. For example, individuals with below
average IQs are not good at studying but they can excel in other areas that do not require that
much thinking e.g. in sports.
IQ is just one measure of our abilities and there are many other kinds of intelligence in addition
to intellect. One important type of intelligence is emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence (emotional quotient or EQ) is the ability to understand, use, and manage
your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with
others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence helps you build stronger
relationships, succeed at school and work, and achieve your career and personal goals.
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Emotional intelligence is commonly defined by four attributes:
1. Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, take initiative
and follow through on commitments.
2. Self-awareness – You know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.
3. Social awareness – You have empathy. You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns
of other people.
4. Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, com
municate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.
Self
Management
Social
Awareness
IQ and EQ are not opposing competencies, rather separate ones. IQ is thought to contribute to-
wards about 20% to the factors that determine life success . A significant portion of the 80% will
be decided by the Emotional Quotient. Lets see the importance of this in an interesting story.
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The Smart Dog
There was a very smart dog. One day, he got a little
adventurous. So it went deep into the jungle, where a
tiger saw it. The tiger had never seen a creature like this
before. He thought, “He looks like he’ll make a good
afternoon snack.” He growled and started coming towards
the dog. But this is a very smart dog. It wanted to run, but
it knew if it ran, the tiger would catch up in no time. He
saw a heap of bones nearby and started strutting around
saying, “Oh my god! These tigers make a real good meal.
Ha!” The tiger hesitated and stepped back. “Oh, this is
some kind of a creature that has tigers for a meal. And all
these heaps of bones.” He turned back and moved away.
A monkey sitting on a nearby tree saw this. He told the tiger, “He just fooled you. That’s just a
dog. I’ve been into the villages. He can do nothing to you. He doesn’t have the strength of even
one of your paws.” The tiger felt stupid. “What? He fooled me? Come, let’s catch him.” So the
monkey jumped onto the tiger’s back and they started running towards the dog.
The dog saw a monkey riding a tiger and coming towards it. It knew what had happened, but this
is a smart dog. He yawned and said, “Where is that monkey who I sent to bring a Tiger? It’s been
almost an hour since I sent him. Where is he?”
The Tiger heard this. He dropped the monkey and ran away as fast as he could.
Not everyone poor in academics is a failure. People need to identify their natural competen-
cies and nurture them.
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02. CRITICAL THINKING & PROBLEM SOLVING
Latest technologies such as artificial intelligence, machine-learning, robotics, nanotechnology, and
3-D printing are driving the global economy.
One has to be able to deal with changes quickly and effectively. The ability to analyse information
and integrate diverse sources of knowledge in solving problems has become very important.
As per World Economic Forum, the top 10 skills needed in the year 2020 are-
01. Complex Problem Solving
02. Critical Thinking
03. Creativity
04. People Management
05. Coordinating with Others
06. Emotional Intelligence
07. Judgement and Decision Making
08. Service Orientation
09. Negotiation
10. Cognitive Flexibility
To be a leader, one needs to develop the skills of critical thinking and problem solving. These skills
can be developed by anyone. We will learn about these two skills in detail.
Problems should not be feared. Problem solving is educational and rewarding. Read the story
below and see how humour and creativity helped Mulla Nasiruddin solve a problem.
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Two wise men came to Mulla Nasiruddin's
village and challenged everyone to solve a
problem. Mulla Nasiruddin came forward
and the wise man began by asking, “How
many stars are there in the sky?” he said.
“As many as there are hair on my donkey,”
answered Mulla Nasiruddin. “What proof
have you got of that?” asked the wise man.
“If you don't believe me,” answered Mulla
Nasruddin, “count the hair on my donkey
and you will see.” The second wise man
was becoming annoyed with Mulla
Nasruddin and his answers, so he said, “You seem to know a lot about your donkey, so can you
tell me how many hairs are there in its tail?” “Yes,” answered Mulla Nasruddin. “There are exact-
ly as many hair in its tail as there are in your beard.” “How can you prove that?” said the other.
“I can prove it very easily,” answered Mulla Nasruddin. “You can pull one hair out of my donkey's
tail for every hair that I pull out of your beard. If the hair on my donkey's tail does not come to an
end at exactly the same time as the hair in your beard, I will admit that I was wrong.” The wise
man had no answer to this and Mulla Nasiruddin was declared the winner.
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CREATIVE THINKING
Creative thinking focuses on exploring ideas, generating possibilities, looking for many right an-
swers rather than just one. The creative person knows that there is always room for improve-
ment.
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Puzzles are a great tool to enhance creativity. These have been age old companions of human
beings and research has shown that they improve problem solving skills. Try following puzzles
to learn some creative thinking.
01. There are six apples in the basket. Six people each take
one of the Apples. How can it be that one Apple is left in
the basket?
04. An island is inhabited only by knights and knaves. Knights always tell the truth, and knaves
always lie.You meet two inhabitants: John and David. John tells you that David is a knave. David
says, “Neither John nor I are knaves.” Can you determine who is a knight and who is a knave?
Answers - 1.The last person took the basket with the last Apple still inside
2.Round covers cannot fall down a manhole, unlike square
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Higher Order Thinking Skills
To be an effective thinker, one needs to have analytical skills. Questioning is the key to analytical
skill as it enables us to develop knowledge. Questions are fundamental to Higher Order Thinking
Skills.
According to the famous psychologist Bloom, human thinking skills can be broken down into six
categories. It is known as the Bloom's Taxonomy. Higher order thinking skills are very important
to encourage students to think more deeply and critically and to solve their problems.
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think
we become.”-Buddha
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Try to solve the following using the high order thinking skills
A chief of detectives had three likely candidates for a
vacancy in his department. To test their powers of
reasoning, he pulled out a red and black marker and
told them, “I am going to either make a red or black
mark on each of your foreheads. At least one of the
candidates will be marked black.
He then blindfolded the candidates and proceeded to
put a black mark on each of their foreheads. After he
removed the blindfolds, the three stared at each oth-
er for a few seconds, each seeing that the other two
marks were black, and then one of the candidates
said, “I have a black mark”.
How did the candidate arrive at this conclusion?
Answers -
If I saw two red marks, I would immediately jump up and say mine is black since at least one
is black. If I saw a red and a black mark, and the one with the black mark did not immediately jump
up and say, “mine is black”, then I could assume I do not have a red mark. Since both of these
candidates are smart, they must be facing the same situation as I, and all three of us have black
marks.
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Fact or Fiction
We are flooded with information with the fast expansion of internet and social media platforms
like Whatsapp, Facebook and Instagram etc. It is not easy to differentiate between fact and opin-
ion.
There is so much of information around us that we may get fake information instead of facts
and that makes it more important than ever for students to develop critical thinking. We
must access and use information from trustworthy sources only.
In the given statements distinguish between fact and opinion. Discuss it with your friends to arrive
at a conclusion.
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Problem Solving
Problem solving skills are extremely important as these help us to deal constructively with prob-
lems in our lives. Brainstorming is an excellent way of solving problems. Brainstorming is a process
in which multiple viewpoints are put across. Different alternatives are discussed and shared to find
conclusion for a specific problem. The inventions around us are the results of problem solving and
critical thinking attitudes. There is an inventor in all of us and we can definitely contribute to the
existing list of inventions if we wear our thinking caps.
Making imaginative objects nurtures creativity as it helps create new things. Try to make
one object from paper and other things available at home. Creating objects gives a sense
of fulfilment and satisfaction.
Use only +,-, x, or ÷, to make the resulting calculations equal 21:
6 3 9 6 = 21
4 4 2 3 = 21
3 5 10 4 = 21
Here is a list of animals and the inventions they exemplify. Match the animal with the invention
bat parachute
armadillo tank
chameleon anesthetic
fish helicopter
flying squirrel suction cup
squid jet propulsion
hummingbird radar
scorpion camouflage
snake electricity
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Answers - Bat(5), Armadillo(6), Chameleon(8), Fish(7), Flying Squirrel(2), Squid(6),
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03. LEARN DECISION MAKING
Lets start with interesting puzzles-
1. If these nine dots were printed on paper, how could you link all nine by drawing just four
straight lines – and without taking your pen off the page?
2.
3. Select one of the option in each block and explain the reason behind the selection-
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Answers -
You make decisions involving what you wear, what you eat and drink, which movies you watch,
which games you play and what music you listen to.
Decision Making involves understanding of different options and the effects these different de-
cisions are likely to have. In our life we do face times when we have to decide and take a call on
what to do!
“Decision making is a process of identifying and choosing the best alternatives based on
one’s own values and preferences.”
In order to achieve a target we need to decide what to do and then just do it. One of the most
powerful ways to be successful and happy is to learn good decision making and then to make
your own decisions.
It is a fact that nobody is perfect. We all make wrong decisions in life. But a smart person would
not repeat them in future. They learn from their mistakes. Due to ignorance, adolescents are not
able to understand the consequences of their decisions. After experiencing the consequences of
their bad decisions, they learn how to make better decisions in future.
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Steps for right decision making-
Think before you act: Nothing should be done rashly
without thinking about the results. Proper planning
should be done to accomplish what you wish. In this
way many bad decisions can be prevented from being
made.
Do not worry about small things: Do not get nervous
about the things that require small decisions because
these small things will not affect your life. Over
thinking can cause stress. Try to think about those
things which are important in your life.
List all the options or alternatives: Write down all the
options or the alternatives available for the decision to
be made. Quality time should be spent on this step so
as to judge the risks and rewards of each alternative.
Consider the consequences of the decision to be taken: Think about the persons who might be
affected by your decision. The consequences of the decision should be considered. So try to make
those decisions which are beneficial to both yourself and others. Also consider the good and bad
about your decisions.
Choosing the best one: The decision which is in your best interest should be selected.
Always keep in mind that decision making is a systematic process. It involves problem solving, crit-
ical thinking, creative thinking and self awareness.
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The Golden Advice
A king often went on hunting trips into the forest with his minister and servants. On one such trip,
he came across a sage who kept repeating, "My advice will be sold for a hundred coins of gold!" The
king thought, "What is a hundred coins of gold to me? If this sage's advice is good, I will be a better
man." So he went up to the sage. Giving him the gold coins, the king asked him for some advice. The
sage calmly took the coins and said, "O King, always remember this. Never do anything before think-
ing what its effect will be". The king's minister laughed and thought, "Ha! Such an ordinary thing and
it costs a hundred gold coins! What a fool the king is!" The king guessed what his minister was think-
ing. All the same, he told him calmly, "See that the sage's words are engraved in stone and placed in
my private chamber so that I can see them every morning and night". A few months later, one of the
king's enemies met the royal physician and bribed him with ten thousand gold coins to poison the
king. The royal physician was afraid to do something wrong, but the idea of earning so much so easily
was very tempting. He agreed to it. A few days later, the king fell ill. This was a golden opportunity for
the physician. He mixed the poison as if it were a dose of medicine and moved towards the king's bed.
Suddenly his eyes fell on the sage's golden words engraved in stone.
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At a friend's birthday party, your best friend was wearing a branded watch. You really liked it and
after coming home demanded the same from your parents, but they feel that they cannot buy it.
You are upset with your parents' response.
Reflect on the situation, analyse your parents 'point of view and then arrive at a possible decision
by using the POWER model.
Children often make quick judgments based on desire, especially when some unexpected situ-
ations come up, leaving them with little time to think about the pros and cons. Some of those
hasty decisions may involve cheating in school, skipping a class test, going somewhere which
their parents do not approve of.
All these bad decisions can lead to a loss of trust, low grades, disgrace and other reckless be-
haviour. Children try to explain their bad decisions by saying that everyone does it or what else
could they do.
“Remember that what’s right isn’t always popular and what’s popular isn’t always right.”
Smart decisions are the products of a creative mind and always take time. Learning to make
smart decisions help to avoid painful and embarrassing situations in life.
1. Decision making is an important Life Skill.
2. Decision making skill gives power to the learner to actively make decisions about the different
aspects in their lives and bear positive consequences on their mental health.
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04. MANAGING STRESS & ANGER
Happiness is in balance. We all need to learn to balance our emotions to achieve true happiness.
There are so many emotions that overwhelm us during the course of the day. If we learn to man-
age and control our negative emotions, we can nurture the positive emotion of happiness.
Expressing our emotions effects all aspects of our lives. Try not to get overwhelmed,
things usually improve. If you do get overwhelmed – ask for help.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else:
you are the one who gets burned.”
Buddha
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Anger is a normal and natural emotion and
it is not wrong to experience feelings of an-
ger.
All of us experience feelings of anger. Some
people experience it more intensely and
more often than other people. Find pos-
itive ways to express anger that are not
hurtful to others. Anger can appear wrong
when we express it in inappropriate ways,
such as using abusive language, violence.
Mood swings are common in adolescence
because of the physical changes. Avoid
making a big or important decision when
feeling very emotional.
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Circle the correct response for each question
01) If someone calls you a name you should:
a) Call them a name back.
b) Politely ask them to not call you names.
03) If someone laughs at you for getting a bad grade you should:
a) Ask them to please leave you alone.
b) Call them ugly and stupid.
The moral of the story is that there may be some truth to what someone says. Sometimes
we can see that truth and sometimes not because they may have different perspective
which we may not agree with. So, rather than arguing like the blind men, we should say,
“Maybe you have your reasons.”
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How do you usually behave in the following situations?
1. You have not done well in a subject at school.
2. You have been selected to represent your school in a debate and are not sure if you will be able
to win the trophy.
3. You need to change your school because your parents have been transferred.
4. You are very keen to be a part of the student council but do not make it.
5. Your favourite teacher has met with a serious accident and is unable to continue teaching in
the school.
6. There is a sudden class test.
You get stressed. All of us experience stressful situations in
life. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to cope with
stress. Sharing feelings with a person you trust is healthy.
Being optimistic can reduce half of one’s worries. Do not let
failures affect you, instead try again. De-stress a little and
take some time off. One can always do it better next time.
Learn to accept things that cannot be changed. Possessing
a good sense of humour and being able to laugh at oneself
is a desirable skill. One should work towards achievements
in fields that one is good at.
According to medical practitioners, 60% of all human illness and diseases are the outcomes
of stress. Acute stress could speed up the ageing process also. Stress may lead to drug ad-
diction, alcoholism, obesity, heart problems and other damaging behaviour.
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Sources of stress for students
Plenty of things can cause stress in the lives of the students such as
• Demands of parents
• Intense competition
• The need to excel
• Peer pressure
• Examinations
• Living up to society's expectations
• Heavy Curriculum
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You cannot avoid stress, but you can handle it just like an eagle that knows how to fly higher
during a storm. An eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks. It will fly to
some high spot and wait for the winds. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will
pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it.
The eagle does not escape the storm. It simply uses the storm to lift it higher. It rises on the winds
that bring the storm.
All of us experience storms in our lives and when they come upon us, we can rise above
them by our determination and also faith in God. Storms will enter our lives and we must
find ways to learn from them to rise higher in life.
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05. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
A son and his father were walking in the mountains.
The son shouts, “AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!” To his
surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in
the mountain, “AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”. Curious, he
yells, "Who are you?" He receives the answer, "Who
are you?" Angered at the response, he screams,
"Coward!” He receives the answer, “Coward!” He
looks to his father and asks, “What's going on?" The
father smiles and says, "My son, pay attention." And
then he screams to the mountain, "I admire you!"
The voice answers, "I admire you!" Again the man
screams, "You are a champion!" The voice answers,
"You are a champion!” The boy is surprised, but
does not understand. Then the father explains, "People call this echo, but
actually this is how we communicate. In the process of communication you receive the response
that you give. If you say bad things you will get to hear bad things yourself and if you speak well
you get to hear good yourselves as well. People respect you if you also do the same.” So follow
"echo-principle" in life for better and effective communication.
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Being able to communicate effectively is perhaps the most important of all skills. It is what en-
ables us to pass information to other people, and to understand what is said to us.
Communication, may be vocally (using voice), written, visually (maps, charts etc.) or non-verbal-
ly (using body language, gestures). In practice, it is often a combination of several of these.
Effective Communication means that we are able to express ourselves, both verbally and
non-verbally, in appropriate ways.
While the words that one speaks are important, how one says them and what one’s body lan-
guage express are equally important.
Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer researcher of body language in the 1950’s, found that the total
impact of a message is about 7 percent verbal (words only) and 38 percent vocal (including
tone of voice) and 55 percent nonverbal.
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SELF ASSESSMENT YES NO MAYBE
01. I am confident enough to speak in front of my school mates.
02. I take part in debates, declamation etc quite often.
03. I never interrupt a speaker while speaking.
04. I maintain a steady speed and tone of voice when I speak.
05. I try and keep my message short and simple.
06. I have a rich vocabulary.
07. I take notes when listening to a speaker.
08. I have a good command over my language.
09. I speak with correct grammar.
Listening skills-
Listening skill is a very important component of effective communication. Good listening skill is a
combination of various skills. Asking questions and asking the right questions is an important indi-
cator of good listening. It also helps build and strengthen good relationships.
A 'listener' could show active responses like asking questions, making exclamations like
"wow" or respond by actions like nodding, smiling, etc.
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Characteristics of a Good Listener:
• Sincere desire to listen
• Attitude- open and non-judgmental
• Acknowledges the speaker's feelings
• Faces the person squarely
• Keeps an open posture (avoid crossed arms)
• Maintains eye contact
Non - Verbal Communication
Any interaction that does not use words is called a non-verbal communication or communication
through body language. Different parts of non verbal communication are shown below-
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Beautiful Communication
They were four in the Bombay city
tourist bus where I worked as a guide
to an elderly couple, a young man and
a girl. It was raining, the mike was
not working, the bus near-empty
and silent and then I realized that my
passengers were deaf mutes. As if she
had read my mind, the young girl
whose name was Lisa informed me
that she could talk and hear a little
while the others were totally deaf.
She would lip read me and explained
the sights of Bombay to her friends.
For all of them, it was their first visit
to India. I found it all unusual. The girl
would watch my mouth intently, then
with nods, smiles and quick and dexterous signs convey to the others what I had been telling
them. Soon we were 'chatting freely'. The older woman enquired about my family, and discussed
the art of wearing a sari. She also told me that she worked in a bank and her husband was a
teacher in a deaf and dumb school. Soon the trip was over. Lisa clasped my hands. The others
pointed out to their hearts and then to me. I was deeply moved. We had broken all the barriers
and communicated through the silence.
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Assertiveness
While communicating, we tend to get aggressive, passive or assertive.
"Assertiveness is the ability to express one's feelings and assert one's rights while respecting the
feelings and rights of others. Assertive communication is appropriately direct, open and honest,
and clarifies one's needs to the other person.” It is all about being calm but still being firm.
Individuals with aggressive behaviour are often driven by anger and employ tactics that are de-
meaning, abusive and disrespectful. Individuals with passive behaviour do not know how to
communicate their feelings and needs to others. Passive and aggressive communication style
damages relationships and diminishes mutual respect. Here is a common scenario with exam-
ples of each style of behaviour:
Scenario: Someone cuts in front of you while you are in a waiting line.
An aggressive response angrily say, "Hey you, no cuts, can't you be in the queue!”
A passive response would be to just let the person stay in front of you.
An assertive response politely say, "Excuse me, but I was in line”.
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06. SELF AWARENESS – EVERYONE IS UNIQUE
A little boy went into a grocery store and started making a
call. The store owner listened to the conversation.
The boy asked, “Ma'am, can you give me the job of cutting
your lawn”? Woman (at the other end of the phone line)
replied, "I already have someone to cut my lawn”. “Ma'am,
I'll cut your lawn for half the price of the person who is
cutting your lawn now”. Woman responded, “I am very
satisfied with the person who is presently cutting my lawn”.
Boy offered, “Ma'am, I'll even sweep your garage for free.
Woman answered, “No, thank you”. With a smile on his
face, the little boy replaced the receiver. The grocery store owner, who was listening to all this,
walked over to the boy and said, “Son, I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like
to offer you a job”. The little boy replied, “No, thanks, I was just checking my performance at the
job I already have. I am the one who is working for that lady I was talking to!”
This is being aware about self. It encourages you to be proud of your accomplishments and also
know your weaknesses.
Self Awareness includes recognition of ‘self’, our character, our strengths and weaknesses,
desires and dislikes. However good we are, we should always keep an eye on our perfor-
mance and keep on checking if there is any scope for improvement.
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Here are some simple ways to increase your worth
• Nurture good feelings about yourself
• Applaud yourself often
• Speak positively to yourself about yourself
• Write down something you feel proud about, preferably at the end of the day
• Be open and honest with others
• Be assertive. Learn to say 'No' to others without offending them
• Walk tall and proud
• Dress smartly
Work on your strengths rather than focus on your weaknesses.
When you do this, you would feel better and more confident. When you feel more confident, you
can do everything better. Then applaud yourself once again. Try not to compare yourself with
others who are better skilled than you because you will feel miserable. And, if you compare your-
self with those who are inferior in talent or capability, you may become arrogant and overconfi-
dent. So try to compare yourself with yourself. This can be done by asking yourself these ques-
tions:
Weakness or Strength
There was a young boy who decided to study judo despite the fact
that he had no left arm. The boy began lessons with an old
Japanese Judo Master. After three months of training the master
had taught him only one move. The boy finally said, "Shouldn't I
be learning more moves?”
"This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll
ever need to know," the master replied. Believing in his teacher,
the boy kept training. Several months later, the master took the
boy to his first tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won
his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent
became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by
his success, the boy was now in the finals. This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more ex-
perienced. The match resumed, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and
the tournament. He was the champion. On the way home, the boy asked his master “How did I win
the tournament with only one move?” “You won for two reasons," the master answered. "First, you've
almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo. And second, the only known defense
for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm.” The boy's biggest weakness had become his
biggest strength.
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It becomes clear from the above story that instead of focusing on weaknesses, we must
think about our strengths. Do not give up your identity, otherwise, it will make you depend on
others to define you. At first, it may be rewarding, but these pay offs does not last for long. So
start identifying your strengths to lead a successful life.
Everyone is Unique
Always remember that “nothing and no one is
useless”. Never mock or make fun of anybody.
Feel good about yourself. Likewise, always make
others feel good about themselves. Since nothing
is useless and everything has a value in this
universe, you should respect everything and
everyone around you. This becomes clear from
the story given below. In ancient India, children
did not pay for their education. They lived in their
teacher's home for years as if they were his own
children and learned from him. Only on the
completion of their education, when it was time
for them to leave, they would have to give something he wanted and the students would happily
try their best to get it for him. This token gift is called gurudakshina. Once, some students ap-
proached their teacher at the end of their studies to ask him what he wanted as gurudakshina.
The teacher smiled and asked them to get him a bag of dried leaves. The students set off.
They were very confident that they would get it at once because they thought who would have
any use for dried leaves. They went into the forest nearby.
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To their surprise, they saw no dried leaves. Someone had collected the leaves and taken them
away. They went to a farmer nearby and asked him for a bag of dried leaves. The farmer told them
that he had used all he had as fuel and had none to spare. Then they went to a merchant and
asked him for help. He said that he used the leaves by stitching them to make large leaf-plates.
He sold them to people as disposable plates. So he had none to spare. They saw an old lady and
asked her for some. She told them that she separated them everyday into different groups and
powdered them to add to the herbal medicines she made and she too had no leaves to spare. The
students returned and told the teacher that they were not able to get even half a bag of dried
leaves. Even dried leaves had so many uses! The teacher smiled and said, “The best gurudakshi-
na you can give me is the lesson you learnt today. Even a dried leaf has many uses. Then consider
human beings! Remember this and treat every person as if he or she is important to you. This will
help you to get along with everyone and make your life easy and happy”.
Always remember whether young or old, everyone is unique. Remember there is something
good about everyone that makes each one special. It will help you feel good about ourself
as well as others.
It is also very important that we should not judge a person on the basis of appearance or attri-
butes. There is much more to a person beyond the way he or she looks or carries him or herself.
The First impression may not always be the last or the final impression, it may not present the
real worth or value of a person. So do not judge a book by its cover! Do not be judgmental, do not
judge too quickly.
Everyone is important and has some worth. We should thus respect this diversity and value and
appreciate the worth of people around us. We should learn to appreciate others for their good
deeds and ideas.
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This will help us to:
• Live a better life
• Become a better person
• Enhance our skill of communication
• Motivate others to contribute more for the good of humanity
Man is a social animal and needs to feel appreciated. So we should appreciate others sincerely so
as to make them feel motivated and acknowledged.Here are different ways to appreciate others
for their efforts and good Deeds:
• Just talk to them
• Praise them in public
• Pat their back
• Give them some token of appreciation
• Present them a bouquet of flowers
• Motivate them to do more good deeds
• Saying them “Thank you” can also do wonders
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Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem
Having low self-esteem is disappointing. It can stop one from enjoying many parts of one’s life.
It can make one feel small, unworthy and full of fear and guilt. Some of the symptoms of low
self-esteem are:
Fears like – no one loves me, my friends do not like me, I am useless, etc.
Feeling of shame – I am not rich, I am dark, I am a curse on earth, etc.
Depressed feeling – That is feeling sad for a long time
Unrealistic expectations - feeling bad upon not achieving it
Body image problem – not liking one's looks in general
Belief that the world is a 'bad place' – finding everything unfair to them.
1. Love yourself: Take care of yourself. Remember that you are unique
2. Do what you love: This would give you a good feeling
3. Write down your good qualities: This would remind you of your strengths
4. Develop a long and short term goal:This can keep you motivated
5. Have a sense of humour: Learn to laugh at yourself
6. Help others – both people and animals: This brings pure joy and satisfaction
7. Drop your negative friends: Because they pull down your confidence
8. Celebrate success: Celebration boosts self confidence and good feeling.
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'Please' is the most basic word of politeness. “Please” sugarcoats requests and softens com-
mands.
'Thank you' recognizes a person's kindness or consideration. It says ‘I appreciate your effort’.
'May I?' asks permission, because no one is entitled to someone else's time or money or genius,
or place on the bus.
‘I am sorry’ goes a long way. Most of the time, saying “I'm sorry,” immediately defuses argu-
ments, deflates rage, and inspires reconciliation.
'Excuse me' or ‘pardon me’ is a polite way of excusing yourself.
One needs to respect and appreciate people who are different from oneself, as in our diver-
sity lies our strength.
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07. INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Dying for a Friend
In the olden days, Syracuse was ruled by a cruel king called
Dionysius. No one in the kingdom dared to utter a word
against this King, for if they did, they were mercilessly put
to death. One day Phintias was sentenced to death as he
was heard speaking against the king, but he managed to
obtain permission to go to a neighbouring city to make the
last visit to his family, provided that Damon, his best
friend would remain in his custody. Damon gladly agreed
and remained in prison while Phintias set off to visit his
family. Finally, when the day of execution arrived, the amphitheatre was full of people. But Phin-
tias had not returned from the city. Damon calmly mounted the gallows, extremely happy to
offer his life for the sake of his friend. There were tears in the eyes of the people for they were
touched to see the love of this great friend. Just when the executioner lifted his arm, there was a
great roar from the crowd, “It's Phintias! He's come at last!” Phintias panted and pushed his way
through the crowd. “Thank God I am not too late”, he said. But Damon would not agree to come
down from the gallows. Each friend insisted on dying for his companion. Everyone was greatly
moved and so was the king Dionysius. The people started to request for a pardon. Dionysius glad-
ly granted Phintias pardon and set him free. This is what true friendship is.
A relationship is a connection between individuals such as parent-child relationship. Some
relationships are more important than others. It is important to remind the special people in
our lives why we think they are special. This helps strengthen bonds, trust, communication
and interpersonal skills.
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Harry Stack Sullivan is remembered as the father of the study of interpersonal skills. His exten-
sive study of relationships in human lives led to his belief that life is a web of interpersonal rela-
tionships. He used it in treatment of patients by studying their interpersonal relationships with
others.
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Family and Stranger
On my way back from school, I met a stranger. And I
said, "Oh, excuse me please". He said, "Please excuse
me too; I wasn't watching for you”. Both of us were
very polite. After saying goodbye, we went on our
way. But at home a different story is told, how we
treat our loved ones, young and old. I reached home,
threw my bag on the couch. My mother came in and
said, "Pick up your bag and keep it on your study
table". I ignored what she said. I went to my younger
sister watching television, snatched the television
remote from her hand and pushed her aside. She fell down and started crying. My mother came
running inside, "What happened?" While pointing towards me, my sister said, "He pushed me
and snatched the remote from my hand" I immediately replied, "I just took the remote and she
is cooking up stories". But my mother was adamant and said, "Say sorry to her, she is hurt". "Oh
it was all her fault, she watches so much of cartoons, she could have given me the remote when
I asked her and you also favour her all the time", said I and left the room. Later that day, while I
was doing my homework, my sister stood beside me very still. When I turned, I nearly knocked
her down. "Move out of my way", I said with a frown. My sister walked away, her little heart bro-
ken. I did not realize how harshly I have spoken. While I was lying awake in bed trying to sleep, a
small voice came to me and said, "While dealing with a stranger, you use common courtesy, but
the people you love, you seem to abuse. Look on the study table, you will find a card there.That
card was made by your baby sister. She drew and coloured it herself. Your sister stood quietly
not to spoil the surprise, and you never saw the tears in her eyes.”
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By this time, I felt very small, and now my tears began to fall. I quietly went and knelt by her bed
and said, “Wake up, little sister, wake up”."Is this the card you made for me?” My sister smiled,
"I thought I should say sorry and tell you that you are the best brother. I knew you would like it
and you can watch television whenever you want to.” I said, "Sister, I am sorry for the way I acted
today. I should not have pushed you that way.” My sister said, "Oh brother, that's okay. I love you
anyway.” I said, "Sister, I love you too, and I do like this card, especially made by you”.
It is important to have friends and friendly relationships in one’s life. It seems easy to make
friends, but maintaining friendship needs a strong bond which cannot be easily broken. A
strong bond of friendship is not easily created. Friendships cannot grow on their own.
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Gratitude instead of complaints
To maintain good relationships, we should have an attitude of gratitude and try not to complain
too often because complaints create stress. On the other hand gratitude creates healthy rela-
tionships.
Sharing is caring
Best relationships are based on sharing. Sharing creates harmony and balance in a relationship.
“An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound
your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.”
-Buddha
Many of us have such friends who ask for favours very frequently and have little regard for
what's on your plate. They try to flatter by saying, “You are the one who can do anything”. You
need to say “NO” to such friends of yours who try to take undue advantage of your good nature
and inability to refuse.Learn to refuse or say “NO” to remain productive and to minimize stress.
So try to exercise your right to say “NO” even when your best friend is involved. A true friend
will understand. You do not have to try to please your best friend to keep your friendship alive if
your friendship is open and honest. The best way to say “NO” and in a gentle manner is by using
phrases such as “Wish I could, but I can't”; “I know this is important to you, but
there's no way”; or “thank you for asking, but I have to say NO”.
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08. MANAGING FAILURE AND REJECTIONS
A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small
opening appeared, he sat and watched the butterfly for
several hours as it struggled to force its body through that
little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It
appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could
go no farther. The man felt sympathetic on seeing the
butterfly struggle so much. He decided to help it. He took
a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the
cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a
swollen body and small wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expect-
ed that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body. It
didn’t happen! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body.
It never was able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the
restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening
were nature's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings. So that it would
be ready for flight once it became free from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are also needed in our life. They develop our strength. Life
without obstacles and struggles would cripple us and we will not be able to progress. We
would not be as strong as what we could have been. And, we could never fly.
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Success and Failure
We learn by experimenting, evaluating, accepting and taking action again. That’s the whole per-
sonal development process. As you can see, at the core of it it’s no secret of success, but rather
the secret of failure. Failure is the highway to success.
Tom Watson Sr. said, “If you want to succeed, double your failure rate”.
If you study history, you will find that all stories of success are also stories of great failures. But
people don’t see the failures.Let me share someone’s life history with you.
This was a man who failed in business at the age of 21; was defeated in a legislative race at age
22; failed again in business at age 24; overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26; had a
nervous breakdown at age 27; lost a congressional race at age 34; lost a senatorial race at age
45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47; lost a senatorial race at age 49; and
was elected president of the United States at age 52. This man was Abraham Lincoln. Would you
call him a failure? He could have quit. But to Lincoln, defeat was a detour and not a dead end.
All success stories are stories of great failures. The only difference is that every time failed,
they bounced back. This is called failing forward, rather than backward. You learn and move
forward. Learn from your failure and keep going.
In 1914, Thomas Edison, at age 67, lost his factory, which was worth a few million dollars, to fire.
He said, “There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burnt up. Thank god we can start a
new”. Thomas Edison failed approximately 10,000 times while he was working on the light bulb.
Setbacks are inevitable in life. A setback can act as driving force and also teach us humility. In
grief you will find courage and faith to overcome the setback. Ask yourself after every setback:
What did I learn from this experience? Only then will you be able to turn a stumbling block
into a stepping stone.
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How to Accept Failure
Certainly all individuals want to be a winner in every
competition that they participate in and in all aspects
of life in general.
• Talk about how you feel over a loss. Just share your
feelings with your parents or someone close to you.
• Never criticize or blame yourself for a particular
error. Ask yourself what you had learned from that
experience.
Do not let failures affect you, instead try again. De-stress a little and take some time off.
One can always do it better next time.
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The Greatest Gift
Man, of all creatures, is physically the most ill-equipped in this world. He cannot fly like a bird,
can be killed by a tiny insect, cannot outrun a leopard, cannot swim like an alligator, cannot
climb the tree like a monkey, doesn’t have the eye of an eagle, nor does he has the claws and
teeth of wild cat. Physically, man is helpless and defenceless.
But nature is reasonable and kind. Nature’s greatest gift to man is the ability to think. He can cre-
ate his own environment, whereas animals adapt to the environment. Sadly, very few people use
the greatest gift – the ability to think – to its full potential.
IF YOU THINK
If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost;
It’s all in the state of mind.
The man, who wins, is the man who thinks he can.
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2.Lack of persistence
When problems seem insurmountable, quitting seems to be the easiest way out. More people
fail not because they lack knowledge or talent but because they quit. The total secret of success
lies in two words, persistence, and resistance. Persist in what must be done and resist what ought
not be done.
3. Lack of priorities
When we don’t have our priorities right, we waste time, not realizing that time wasted is life
wasted.
4. Looking for shortcuts
There is a story about a king who called his advisers and asked them to write down the wisdom
of the ages so that he could pass it on to future generation. After a lot of work, the advisers came
up with several volumes of wisdom and presented them to the king. The king called his advisers
and said that is too long, people would not read it. They had to condense it. The advisers went
back to work and came back with one volume. The king said the same thing. They came back
again with one chapter and then one page, and the king said the same thing still until they came
up with one sentence that satisfied the king. He said that if there was one piece of wisdom that
he wanted to pass on to future generations, it is this one sentence: “There is no short cut to suc-
cess”.
5. Not learning from the past mistakes
People who do not learn lessons from history are doomed. Failure is a teacher if we have the right
attitude. Wise people learn from their mistakes – wiser people learn from other people’s mis-
takes.
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6. Inability to recognize opportunity
Opportunities come disguised as obstacles. That is why most people don’t recognize them. Re-
member the bigger the obstacle, the bigger the opportunity.
7. Fear
Fear can be real or imaginary. It makes people do strange things and primarily comes because
of a lack of understanding. Fear leads to anxiety, which in turn leads to irrational thinking, which
actually destroys our solution to the problem.
Failure is not the worst thing that could happen to someone. People who don’t try have failed
before attempting. When infants learn to walk, they keep falling; but to them it is not failing so
they get up. If they got disheartened, they would never walk.
8. Lack of discipline
Lack of consistency is poor discipline. Discipline takes self-control, and avoiding distractions and
temptations. It means staying focused. Steam dose not move the engine unless it is confined.
Consistency takes discipline and is very important for success.
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Luck favors those who help themselves
A flood was threatening a small town and everyone
was leaving for safety except one man who said,
“God will save me. I have faith”. As the water level
rose a jeep came to rescue him, the man refused,
saying “God will save me. I have faith”. As the water
level rose further, he went up to second storey, and
a boat came to help him. Again he refused to go,
saying, “God will save me. I have faith”. The water
kept rising and the man climbed on to the roof. A
helicopter came to rescue him, but he said, “God
will save me. I have faith”. Well, finally he drowned.
When he reached his Maker he angrily questioned,
“I had complete faith in you. Why did you ignore my prayers and let me drown?”. The Lord re-
plied, “Who do you think sent you the jeep, the boat, and the helicopter?”
It takes action, preparation and planning rather than waiting, wondering or wishing, to ac-
complish anything in life. Good luck is when opportunity meets preparation. Without effort
and preparation, lucky coincidences don’t happen.
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How To Overcome Failure
Failure happens in everyone’s life.
It is unfortunate that in societies obsessed with success and achievement, failure can be made to
feel like the worst thing that could ever happen to a person. The reality is that failure is common-
place but so is overcoming it and pushing through to more successful endeavours in the future.
There is always something to be learned from the failures.
1. Remain calm.
Whatever you’re feeling about a failure, don’t lose your composure over it. Don’t take your an-
ger out on others. Just do something focused and energized to distract yourself from the initial
intense feelings until they calm.
3. Don’t obsess about what others are thinking. Allow each failure to serve as an opportunity to
strengthen your determination in the face of criticism. This is a far more positive than giving in to
believing the often thoughtless things other people can say.
4. Write down what you’ve learned from the experience; great for focus and review. Failure can
help you discover your best self. Failure is a signal that you’re willing to move on and discover
new talents about yourself
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5. Try Again
Dale Carnegie once said that it was essential to “develop success from failures. Discouragement
and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.” Persistence is the source of success
for the majority of people on this planet. Overnight successes are rare; they are usually people
who have been trying and failing and trying again many times over.
Winston Churchill, the famous Prime Minister of UK, failed sixth grade. He was subsequently
defeated in every election for public office until he became Prime Minister at the age of 62.
He later wrote, “Never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never - in nothing, great or
small, large or petty - never give in. Never, Never, Never, Never give up.”
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09. GOAL SETTING – TRANSFORM YOURSELF
Everybody wants a gold medal. Few people want to train like an Olympian.
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What Skills Does Goal Setting require?
Planning
Time Self
Management Motivation
Planning
The old adage ‘fail to plan means plan to fail’ is applicable to successful goal achievement.
Through proper planning, we can prioritize and maintain focus on the task at hand.
Self-Motivation
Without the desire to achieve, our attempts at goal setting will fail.
Time Management
Time management is a useful skill. If we do not properly consider the timescale required to at-
tain a goal, we will inevitably fail.
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The Eisenhower Box: Effective Time Management
Eisenhower was the 34th President of the United States and his most famous productivity strat-
egy is known as the Eisenhower Box or Eisenhower Matrix. Eisenhower’s strategy for taking ac-
tion and organizing your tasks is simple. Using the decision matrix below, you will separate your
actions based on four possibilities.
3. Reward yourself for your successes, but don’t punish yourself for failure
Acknowledge your success and enjoy the positive emotions that accompany it.
It is important to be resilient in the face of adversity. It’s great to shoot for the stars, but goal
setting is more about what you can realistically accomplish.
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Michael Jordan’s way of Goal setting
Michael Jordan is known as one of the greatest basketball players of all time. He wrote the follow-
ing about goal setting in his book, I Can’t Accept Not Trying: Michael Jordan on the Pursuit of Excel-
lence:
I approach everything step by step….I had always set short-term goals. As I look back, each one of
the steps or successes led to the next one. When I got cut from the varsity team as a sophomore
in high school, I learned something. I knew I never wanted to feel that bad again….So I set a goal of
becoming a starter on the varsity. That’s what I focused on all summer. When I worked on my game,
that’s what I thought about. When it happened, I set another goal, a reasonable, manageable goal
that I could realistically achieve if I worked hard enough….I guess I approached it with the end in
mind. I knew exactly where I wanted to go, and I focused on getting there. As I reached those goals,
they built on one another. I gained a little confidence every time I came through.
…If [your goal is to become a doctor]…and you’re getting Cs in biology then the first thing you have
to do is get Bs in biology and then As. You have to perfect the first step and then move on to chemis-
try or physics.
Take those small steps. Otherwise you’re opening yourself up to all kinds of frustration. Where
would your confidence come from if the only measure of success was becoming a doctor? If you
tried as hard as you could and didn’t become a doctor, would that mean your whole life was a fail-
ure? Of course not.
All those steps are like pieces of a puzzle. They all come together to form a picture…. Step by step, I
cant see any other way of accomplishing anything.
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10. SELF CONTROL AND HABITS
What Are Habits?
Habits are the small decisions you make and
actions you perform every day. Your life today is
essentially the sum of your habits.
Every habit you have — good or bad — follows the same 3–step pattern:
This helpful framework can make it easier to stick to new habits so that you can improve your
health, your work, and your life in general.
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To Change Your Behavior, Change Your Environment
Every habit is initiated by a trigger. It’s easy to not read a book when the bookshelf is in the cor-
ner of the guest room.
Here are a few ways you can redesign your environment and make the cues for your preferred
habits more obvious:
• If you want to practice guitar more frequently, place your guitar stand in the middle of the liv-
ing room.
• If you want to drink more water, fill up a few water bottles each morning and place them in
common locations around the house.
If you want to make a habit a big part of your life, make the trigger a big part of your envi-
ronment. By having triggers throughout your surroundings, you increase the chance that
you’ll think about your habit throughout the day.
How to Stick With Good Habits Every Day by Using the “Paper Clip
Strategy”
Trent Dyrsmid, a young employee began each morning with two jars on his desk. One was filled
with 120 paper clips. The other was empty. As soon as he settled in each day, he would make a
sales call. Immediately after, he would move one paper clip from the full jar to the empty jar and
the process would begin again. “Every morning I would start with 120 paper clips in one jar and I
would keep dialing the phone until I had moved them all to the second jar,” he told me.
Within eighteen months, Dyrsmid became the most successful salesman of the company.
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Trent Dyrsmid’s story is evidence of a simple truth: Success is often a result of committing to the
fundamentals over and over again.
Why did Trent’s paper clip strategy work so well and what can we learn from it?
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What is self-control, and how much does it matter?
Self-control is being able to regulate yourself.
Can you Inhibit impulses? Delay gratification and plan ahead?
Young children with poor self-regulation skills perform poorly in academics and are at higher risk
for poor health.
So how do we foster self-discipline in children?
Help kids avoid temptation: Out of sight, out of mind
Teach them how to identify temptations on their own, and take the necessary action to elimi-
nate them.
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Nimansh-Arjav Grid of Good Habits
Select one activity from grid below everyday and complete the activity. To select the activity, close
your eyes and move one finger on the grid. Stop the finger on count of 10. The activity your finger
is pointing to is your “GOOD HABIT” for that day. Do complete it and select another the next day.
Study Maths No chips for No TV for Walk 3000 No ice-cream
for 1 Hr to- today Today steps today today
day
No biscuits Do a house- Write 1 page Clean your Make a do-
today hold chore today room nation
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11. SAY NO TO DISCRIMINATION
This is a true story.
On a British Airways flight from Johannesburg, a
middle-aged, well-off white South African Lady has
found herself sitting next to a black man. She calls
the cabin crew attendant about her seating.
"What seems to be the problem Madam?" asks the
attendant. "Can't you see?" she says. "You've sat
me next to a black man. I can't possibly sit next to
this disgusting human. Find me another seat!"
The airhostess replies. " 'll go and check to see if we
have any seats available in club or first class."
A few minutes later the airhostess returns with the good news, which she delivers to the lady,
who cannot help but look at the people around her with a smug and self satisfied grin.
"Madam, I've spoken to the cabin services director, and we do have one seat in first class."
Before the lady has a chance to answer, the airhostess continues .........
"It is most extraordinary to make this kind of upgrade and I have had to get special permission
from the captain. But, given the circumstances, the captain felt that it is outrageous that some-
one be forced to sit next to such an obnoxious person."
With that, she turns to the black man sitting next to the woman, and says...
"So if you'd like to get your things, Sir, I have your seat ready for you."
All passengers stood and gave a standing ovation while the black guy walked up to the first class.
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Diversity
“Diversity” refers to the ways that we all are different from one another. Some differences can be
our gender, ethnicity or culture, religion, how much money we have (our social standing), age,
body size, and ability.
Discrimination
Discrimination is unfair treatment of one particular person or group of people. Usually the differ-
ent treatment is because of the person’s gender, religion, nationality, ethnicity (culture), race, or
other personal traits.
Unfortunately, discrimination is something that's still happening every single day. Discrimina-
tion happens throughout the world. It is worse in some countries than in others. Discrimination
strikes at the very heart of being human. It is harming someone’s rights simply because of who
they are or what they believe.
We all have the right to be treated equally, regardless of our race, ethnicity, nationality,
class, caste, religion, belief, gender, language, age, health or other status.
Types of Discrimination
Racial and ethnic discrimination
On June 7 1893, Mahatma Gandhi was evicted from a train in South Africa’s Pietermaritzburg
station because the compartment was reserved for “whites only”.
More than 125 years later, even today, this is one of the most common forms of discrimination.
When people are treated differently or unfairly because of their race; this is called racism. A per-
son's race is a classification based mainly on what you look like, like skin color (white or black,
for example).Racism affects virtually every country in the world. It systematically denies people
their full human rights just because of their colour, race, or national origin.
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Ousting of Rohingya people in Myanmar is an example of racial discrimination. In India, members
of the Dalit community are targeted, by members of dominant castes, for a range of human rights
abuses.
Martin Luther king, Jr.
Martin Luther king Jr. was an African
American born in Atlanta, America during
a time when black people did not share
their equal rights with white people. This
is known as racial discrimination. He
experienced this first-hand when his
white neighbours refused to play with
him because he was black. One day, he
and his teacher were travelling in a bus.
When the bus filled up, the driver asked
them to give their seats to the white people. It was a law then. This incident hurt Martin as it was
injustice to black people. During his college years, he began reading about Mahatma Gandhi and
his teaching of non-violence. Martin believed that this was the only solution for his country’s un-
fair treatment towards black people. He saw this method of non-violence as the perfect answer
for the discrimination in his country.
On 1 December 1955, Mrs Rosa Parks, an African American woman refused to give up her seat on
a public bus to a white passenger. She remained seated. The police came and she got arrested as
it was against the law. Soon a revolt began and people boycotted the use of buses completely and
started walking or using bicycles for transport. Peaceful marches were held all over the country
and police kept arresting those involved in the march.
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Martin Luther King and more than two lakh people led a march to the capital of America, Wash-
ington, D.C. in 1963 where he delivered the very famous speech - “I have a dream!”
“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be
judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.”
“I have a dream today!”
Racism laws were changed in 1964 in America and he was awarded the Noble Peace Prize in
1964 for his efforts to bring equality for the black people.
Gender discrimination
Another of the more common types of discrimination is gender based. In many countries, in all
religions of the world, customs and beliefs exist that deny women and girls their rights.
By law, women cannot dress as they like (Saudi Arabia, Iran) or work at night (Madagascar) or
take out a loan without their husband’s signature (Equatorial Guinea). In Saudi Arabia, they
called for an end to the driving ban, and in Iran, they demanded an end to forced hijab (veiling).
Women worldwide are paid less, on average, than men. Much of this is due to social norms that
consider women and their work to be of lower status
The Apartheid policy ended in 1993 but the social and economic effects are still visible.
Discrimination is against the law as many countries now have laws to end discrimination.
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In India, the right to equality is an important right provided in Articles 14, 15, 16, 17 and 18 of
the constitution. It is the principal foundation and guarantees:
• Equality before the law
• Social equality and equal access to public areas
• Equality in matters of public employment
• Abolition of untouchability
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12. OBSESSION WITH INTERNET
Internet is the most powerful invention and if used in
the positive direction, the internet can prove to be
very productive. Use of the internet is a big part of a
student life. According to a survey, 92% of teens age 13
to 17 go online daily and 71% of teens use more than
one social networking site. Social media platforms —
such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Goo-
gle+ etc along with gaming sites and instant messaging,
allow teens to have 24/7 access.
THE POSITIVES
The internet provides many opportunities to teens for
connection and information gathering. They get
information about news and current events. Access to a wide variety of resources helps them
with school projects, as well as pursuing personal interests such as sports, and music. Other ben-
efits include developing thinking and writing skills as they post to blogs or other online forums,
and connecting with others to discuss shared interests.
THE RISKS
Just as parents are encouraged to monitor where teens are going, who they are with, and what
they are doing, parents also need to be knowledgeable about teens’ internet activities, and talk
with teens about the potential dangers of sharing personal information online (e.g., phone num-
ber, address, passwords). Here are examples of risks the internet poses.
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ADDICTION
Online games on the internet can be addictive to teenagers and children. This can take away your
precious time that should be used for other things more productive.
In addition, they are addicted to an extreme level to the internet for videos, chatting and other
non important activities. This internet addiction can result in disruption of the development of
their mental abilities at such young age.
CYBER CRIMES
Unsuspecting internet users may easily become a victim of criminal elements who interfere with
the emails or do something with the credit card information. Fooling or phishing other people
into believing that websites owned by criminals are legitimate resulted in millions of money lost
Phishing is a cybercrime in which a target or targets are contacted by email, telephone or text
message by someone and sensitive data such as personal information, banking and credit card
details, and passwords are taken posing as a legitimate person.
CYBER BULLY
One of the negative effects of internet on children and students is cyber bully. Students get easi-
ly trapped into it. They are harassed and have to face embarrassment but they still cannot share
such serious experience with anybody. The extremely regular explorations of the sites of social
networking make the cyber bullies easier to do. The cyber bullies always expose and demoralize
these victims. As a result, this will cause students to give a rise in suicidal attempts.
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LACKING CREATIVITY AND DEPENDENCE
Instead of thinking about any things you want to know by yourself, the fastest way they can do is
searching the internet or asking Google. Therefore, the ability of thinking and creation are limited.
They just search on the internet to find the information they need without working their mind.
They are being depended with things they would have to get to work and they rely on internet
search results.
PRIVACY IS DISTURBED
Hacking the internet has become very common these days. Not only the basic information, but
some of your most confidential details might get into the hands of hackers if you do not use the
internet safely.
INSOMNIA
Due to the presence of internet, some students shorten their sleeping hours. They sit on their lap-
tops late at night, chatting with their friends or playing games on the online gaming sites. It might
affect your mental and physical growth.
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Protecting your child from internet safety risks
We need to build the skills and knowledge to identify and manage internet safety risks. Here are
some basic things you can do to protect yourself from internet safety risks:
• Create screen-free areas in the house and keep the use of mobile/laptops limited to open areas.
• Stay in touch with what your child is doing online and how much time she’s spending online.
• Keep Your Privacy Settings On:These settings are sometimes (deliberately) hard to find because
companies want your personal information for its marketing value. Make sure you have enabled
these privacy safeguards, and keep them enabled.
• Practice Safe Browsing:Cybercriminals use lurid content as bait. One careless click could expose
personal data or infect your device with malware. By resisting the urge, you don't even give the
hackers a chance.
• Be Careful What You Download:A top goal of cybercriminals is to trick you into downloading
malware—programs or apps that carry malware or try to steal information. This malware can be
disguised as an app: anything from a popular game to something that checks traffic or the weath-
er. As PCWorld advises, don't download apps that look suspicious or come from a site you don't
trust.
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• Choose Strong Passwords:Passwords are one of the biggest weak spots. The problem with pass-
words is that people tend to choose easy ones to remember (such as "password" and "123456"),
which are also easy for cyber thieves to guess. Select strong passwords that are harder for cyber-
criminals to demystify.
• Make Online Purchases From Secure Sites:Any time you make a purchase online, you need to
provide credit card or bank account information. Only supply this information to sites that pro-
vide secure, encrypted connections. You can identify secure sites by looking for an address that
starts with https: (the S stands for secure) rather than simply http: They may also be marked by a
padlock icon next to the address bar.
• Be Careful Who You Meet Online:People you meet online are not always who they claim to be.
Indeed, they may not even be real. Fake social media profiles are a popular way for hackers to
cheat web users. Be as cautious and sensible in your online social life as you are in your in-person
social life.
• Keep Your Antivirus Program Up To Date:Internet security software cannot protect against ev-
ery threat, but it will detect and remove most malware—though you should make sure it's up to
date. They provide a vital layer of security.
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Solve the crossword of cyber safety and be always safe
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13. JAPANESE VALUE SYSTEM
Once, Swami Vivekananda was travelling in
Japan. He wanted to eat fruits but couldn’t
find any. He said to himself, may be we
dont get the fruits here. A boy standing
nearby heard him. He ran and got a basket
full of fruits. Swami Vivekananda thanked
him and asked “how much I need to pay
for the fruits” The boy said never say to
anyone that you don't get fruits in Japan.
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Human Relations
In Japanese mythology, the gods display human emotions. In these stories, behavior that results
in positive relations with others is rewarded. Honesty and empathy is highly valued.
On 11 march 2011, a powerful earthquake struck in Japan’s north east coast, triggering a mas-
sive tsunami. The earthquake and ensuing tsunami killed thousands and left many more without
shelter and electricity.
Widespread looting is common when such disasters occur. But this did not happen in Japan.
Amid chaos, foreign journalists have remarked on the calmness and the honesty of the victims.
One of the employees of a restaurant wrote this to a friend – “after the earthquake struck, peo-
ple in the restaurant started move out swiftly. In their hurry, I thought people would rush out of
the place, but almost everyone stopped to pay before they left. Even those who had panicked
and ran away, came back next day and paid their bill.’’
Core Japanese Values
The most important Japanese cultural and family values revolve around working together and
living in peace. Some of the biggest Japanese values are:
• Interdependence
Japanese children learn from their earliest days that human fulfillment comes from close associ-
ation with others. Children learn early to recognize that they are part of an interdependent soci-
ety, beginning in the family and later extending to larger groups such as neighbourhood, school,
community, and workplace.
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• Harmony & Politeness
Harmony remains a guiding philosophy in Japan that affects many features of society – especially
that of family and business. Working in harmony is viewed as the crucial element for productiv-
ity. The Japanese are gentle and courteous even if they disagree with what you are saying. This
ethos of cooperation is impressed upon Japanese children at young ages.
• Respect
The remarkably hospitable nature of the Japanese is associated with the term “teinei”, from
the terms “tei” which means elaborate, and “nei” which stands for peaceful. The Japanese peo-
ple do not tolerate any kind of disrespect. Thus, they show their respect for others as much
as they could. The ultimate sense of teinei is about being correct in one’s manners and being
warm-hearted always. Originally, it meant finding inner peace through offering beautiful flowers
to appease the gods. In the modern world, this inner peace is achieved through good manners
and correct conduct.
• Formality
The Japanese language is very formal and observant. It has different styles of speech for people
depending on their status. For example, natural speech changes to be more respectful when
people speak to someone older than them.
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Bowing, Formalities, and Showing Respect
Formalities are important in Japanese culture. How you address others is a sign of respect and
reverence in Japan. This is evident through body language and speech. Greeting someone with a
bow, for example, is comparable to shaking someone's hand.
• The eshaku is a semi-formal bow used for greetings and meeting new people. It involves bow-
ing at a 15-degree angle.
• The saikeirei bow is a 45-degree angle bow used for showing the highest form of respect.
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14. TIME MANAGEMENT IN JAPAN
It became a big news when a Japanese railway company apologised for allowing a bullet train to
depart 20 seconds earlier than the scheduled time.
Japanese people are strict with time. Trains are always scheduled on time and even when they
will be late 1 minute, you will hear announcements from station staff to let people know that
trains are late.
Punctuality has been one of the important factors in building the country after the World War II.
Japanese are educated to do things punctiliously in school and trained to do jobs punctiliously in
company.
Kanban
Nowadays, students are faced with an overwhelming list of things to do: Taking on too many tasks
at any given moment stresses a person out, making them less susceptible to learning. The best
way to avoid this is to use a system that effectively organizes your tasks and helps you accomplish
them.
One of the best management systems for this is the Kanban System.
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What Is Kanban?
The word Kanban (看板) comes from the Japanese language and its literal meaning is a “bill-
board” or a “signboard”. It was originally designed to increase the efficiency of workers in the
manufacturing industry. It was designed by Toyota industrial engineer Taiichi Ohno in order to
maximize the amount of output their factory can do in a day.
How It Works
For students, Kanban can be used to keep track of all schoolwork, from assignments and essay to
review books and quizzes. Kanban helps you accomplish all these tasks by separating them into
three categories:
• Unfinished Tasks
• Current Tasks
• Completed Tasks
For students, Kanban can be used to limit the number of things you need to do now, which pre-
vents you from being overwhelmed.
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Students can use Kanban to list down all the tasks they need to do for the day, then move individ-
ual items one at a time during the study process. This helps you remain organized because you
can see what your progress is every step of the day, while helping you keep track of all your re-
sponsibilities and breaking them up into smaller and easily-accomplishable tasks.
Applying Kanban To Your Studies
One of the key benefits of the Kanban system is that it’s very visual. This is crucial because our
brains recognize and process visual data more efficiently than written data. Kanban can help orga-
nize and increase the efficiency of how we process everything.
The first thing you need to get started on a Kanban system is a board. This will help you keep track
of all your tasks. For this, you can use:
• A chalkboard or a white board
• A poster-sized piece of paper
• A corkboard where you can tack on paper notes
• An electronic Kanban app
Consistency and discipline are key to the Kanban system and can greatly help you in your studies.
Using Kanban
The Kanban system can be applied to single tasks, or multiple tasks. For example, if your task is to
do an essay, you can break down the steps into the following:
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Using Kanban
The Kanban system can be applied to single tasks, or multiple tasks. For example, if your task is
to do an essay, you can break down the steps into the following:
Proofread
Edit
School is such an important part of every person’s life, not just because it teaches them crucial
skills they’ll need in adulthood, it also provides the basis of how they socialize with other peo-
ple. With the Kanban system, students can learn early on how to balance their work with their
social life, helping them become holistically developed adults.
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The Lazy Man
This is the story of a lazy man who was a friend of a king. One morning, the lazy man asked the
king
“why everyone says that I can’t do anything? and even when I go to get a proper job, everyone
refuses me. My enemies have told everyone that I never do any work on time.“
The king said,
“Let’s make a deal. before sunset, you come to my treasury and collect as much gold and pearls
as you can. They will all be yours.“
The man rushed towards his home to his wife. He explained everything and then after hearing
the husband, the wife said, “Go and get the gold and gems now. Time is gold for you”
The lazy man sat down and said, “I can’t go now, give me lunch first.”
after having lunch, he decided to take a nap but instead, slept for 2 hours. Then, late in the after-
noon, he picked a few bags and went towards the king’s treasury. On the way, he felt hot. So, he
sat down under a tree to rest and ended up sleeping for another 5 hours.
When he finally reached the palace it was already late in the evening, it was the time for sunset.
Therefore, the palace gates had been shut before he could reach there.
He lost the golden chance to get rich just because, he didn’t know the value of the time.
Time is precious. Spend it wisely and stop wasting time on unimportant things.
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15. IKIGAI: SCERET OF HEALTH AND HAPPINESS
“Only staying active will make you want to live a hundred years”
The proverb comes from Japan, the origin of the concept of ‘Ikigai‘.
IKIGAI – meaning ‘purpose’ or ‘raison d’etre’ – is the Japanese secret to a long and happy life.
Japan is indeed a good place to look for longevity. At 74.9, it has the highest healthy life expec-
tation at birth. The share of centenarians (people with above 100 years of age) is far above the
global average.
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IKIGAI is seen as the convergence of four primary elements
Discovering your own ikigai brings fulfilment, happiness and make you live longer.
Ten rules that can help anyone find their own ikigai
1. Stay active and don’t retire
2. Leave urgency behind and adopt a slower pace of life
3. Only eat until you are 80 per cent full
4. Surround yourself with good friends
5. Get in shape through daily, gentle exercise
6. Smile and acknowledge people around you
7. Reconnect with nature
8. Give thanks to anything that brightens our day and makes us feel alive.
9. Live in the moment
10. Follow your ikigai
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What you deeply care about can unlock your ikigai
Follow your curiosity. Albert Einstein encourages us
to pursue our curiosities. He once said: “Don’t
think about why you question, simply don’t stop
questioning. Don’t worry about what you can’t
answer, and don’t try to explain what you can’t
know. Curiosity is its own reason. Try to
comprehend a little more each day. Have curiosity.”
A classic example is Steve Jobs’ curiosity for
typefaces which led him to attend a class on
typography and to develop his design sensibility.
Later, this became an essential part of Apple
computers and Apple’s core strength in the market.
We are born curious. Our insatiable drive to learn,
invent, explore, and study deserves to have the
same status as every other drive in our lives.
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