 Lesson 17-Understanding Personal

Relationships
 Lesson 18-Personal Development: Personal
(Week 1) Relationship

I. Introduction

It is said that every kind of relationship is a two-way traffic which

means that all parties should learn how to give and take. There are different
forms of relationships and each of us has a clear description for each of these
forms. We certainly have our own ways of creating and improving these
relationships. Let us try to define each one of them. In this lesson, you will be
able to understand what personal relationship really is. Personal relationship
is practically the kind of relationship that we have with our families, friends,
and partners in life. This definition also applies to our relationship with those
people who are significant to us.

II. Discussion

What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable Expression of Attractions?

As you are happy to see and spend time with your partner, you know that you are in a
stable relationship. No partnership is ever perfect, and when basic conflicts arise, causing tension with
others, you will certainly feel that the relationship is unstable for a moment.
There are many factors that lead to the growth and maintenance of healthy and acceptable
relationships, including:
1. Mutual respect. Respect in a partnership means that each partner trusts and respects the
weaknesses of each other and will never question them.
2. Trust. Often it's normal to get a little jealous; jealousy is a common feeling. But how a person
reacts when he feels jealous is what matters. Though you trust each other, there is no guarantee that
you will have a healthy relationship.
3. Honesty. This one goes hand-in - hand with confidence, because when one of you is not honest, it
is difficult to trust another.
4. Support. It is not only in difficult times that you should be supported by your partner. Even in your
best, you still need support and when time gets tough, your significant other should still be there.
5. Fairness/Equality. You need to have a give and a take in your relationship.
6. Separate identities. In a stable relationship, everybody has to make compromises. But that does
not mean you should have the feeling that you are losing yourself.
7. Good Communication. Are you going to speak to each other and share the feelings that matter to
you? Don't keep your emotions locked up because you are afraid your partner does not even need to
hear about it. And if you need some time to think about something before you are ready to talk about
it, you will be provided some space by the right person to do that.

10 Things That Are Unacceptable in Any Relationship

1. Cheating. If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating should be out of
the question
2. Putting you down. No one has the right to make you feel bad about yourself.
3. Not supporting your dreams. In a relationship, you should be each other’s cheerleaders.
When you feel discouraged, they should tell you all the things you’re doing right.
4. Controlling. This controlling behavior can be a warning sign of physical abuse and should
be taken seriously.
5. Lack of communication. You will never be able to grow together if you don’t discuss your
wants and needs.
6. Unnecessary sacrifices.Compromise is a must in a relationship, but if you feel like you’re
giving up everything, while your significant other is sacrificing nothing, something’s not right.
7. Unreliability. When your cellphone is not working, you need advice, or you’ve just had a
bad day and need a hug, do they come to your aid?
8. Forgetting the memorable day.There’s a stereotype that men always forget
anniversaries and birthdays. Whether that’s true or not, it’s not okay.
9. Self-destruction.Sometimes we fall for people who are in rough situations. There is only
so much you can do, and it is not your fault that they are not willing to help themselves.
10. Not caring about friends and family. When you want to build a life with someone, you
have to accept every part of them, including the people they care about. Your partner not
making an effort to get to know your loved ones can cause a major strain on your
relationship.

Tips on How to Keep Healthy Relationships

Stay happy. Happiness gives you the feeling of satisfaction for both abstract and concrete
things.
Be empathic. Empathizing with another is acting with greater cooperation and overall
altruism—the desire to help, even at a potential cost to the self.
Keep open communication. It provides an opportunity to size up the trustworthiness of a
person by verbally committing to cooperate with another.
Always trust. Working with others toward a common goal requires a level of faith that others
will repay our hard work and generosity. Supporting their interests is also showing your trust.
Show respect. People are likely to give respect to others by being polite, honest, and by
showing kindness all the time.
Be a helping hand. In times of trouble (e.g. mentally/ emotionally), make him/her feel that
he/she always has you on his/her side.

III. Engagement

PERFORMANCE TASKS # 1

 What I Can Do : In a short bond paper, create a MINI POSTER expressing your
attraction, love or showing commitment towards others. It must be done using cut-
outs from magazines, newspapers or other printed materials.

***End of WEEK 1***

  Lesson 19: Becoming Responsible in a Personal Relationships
(Week 2)  Various Roles of Different Individuals in Society and How They
Can Influence People Through their Leadership or Followership
I. Introduction

People seek love, concern, compassion, sympathy of other people essential for them to
overcome challenges in life and to have sense of belongingness. People also find it awesome when
they show the same feelings they receive from others. Having someone to share your life success
and/or agonies in life with may add joy or give relief to one’s life like friends do. However, it may also
bring people to a difficult situation. Thus, learning the art of committing oneself to other people is as
essential as learning to know oneself.
This lesson aims to help you understand the essential ways of becoming responsible and its
importance in developing positive relationships .
II. Discussion

6 Major Elements of Becoming Responsible in a Relationship

1. Mutual Respect. Lack of respect absolutely brings people to an unpleasant

environment and pushes people from respecting one another and themselves, too.
Establishing mutual respect is easier when one is guided by the virtue of the Golden Rule
once uttered by Jesus of Nazareth explicitly stated in Matthew 7:12 which has direct English
Translation “Do unto others what you would want others to do unto you.” This may be simply
interpreted by the famous line “Respect begets respect”.
2. Value Quality Time. Having time for fun will absolutely help you create more memories worth
treasuring. Quality time with your loved ones may mean learning to love them more.
3. Trust and Honesty. Every person deserves to be trusted by someone dear to them
particularly by family, friends, and significant other. It is through genuine trust that person
feels a sense of belongingness and a feeling of being loved.
4. Well-communicated Love. Love we felt may certainly start any form of relationship.
However, it is not the thing that can keep it. Love is just a feeling. What really keeps any
relationship is the love that is well-communicated.
5. Reliability and Security. Each one of us dearly loves to have somebody whom we can
depend on and who will guarantee to protect us from any harm or trouble at any
circumstance.
6. Reliability and Security. Each one of us dearly loves to have somebody whom we can
depend on and who will guarantee to protect us from any harm or trouble at any
circumstance.
Roles of an Efficient Leader that Can Influence People:
1. Set example - a good leader sets the best example. It is the first rule. Walk the talk. Do not
compromise anybody in the organization or team integrity. Never take shortcuts.
2. Assume and do responsibility - you should be guided by your own duties and
responsibilities. Be proactive in guiding, teaching, and developing excellence in everyone.
3. Show Initiative- find out what needs to be done. do not wait for anyone to tell you what to
do.
4. Life-long learner- capacitate yourself. Learn everything you need to know about the
current job.
5. Show enthusiasm- if you come to work happy and cheerful, it provides motivation.
Enthusiasm is contagious. Never let personal issues affect your performance.
6. Willing to serve- this quality is known of a servant leader. Showing this kind of
characteristics can inspire thought and action of your own constituents.
7. Active listener- to become an active listener, you must maintain an eye contact. Pay
attention to facial expressions and body language, and start a sentence with “I” instead of
“You. This will enhance a good communication and understanding.
8. Show empathy- Try to understand where people are coming from and their point of view.
Put yourself in the other people’s shoes.
9. Be sensitive to the need of others- as a good leader, you must be the one who should
know and feel the needs of your constituents.
10.Delegate work- sharing work among members at the organization should be divided into a
manageable task. Explain completely what you are asking the person to do.
 Role of an Effective Follower that Leaders Need
1. Courage to do responsibility- Effective follower feels a sense of personal responsibility
and ownership for his or her own behavior in the organization.
2. Courage to challenge- If the leader’s actions contradict the best interest of the
organization, effective follower takes a stand. Do not sacrifice your own integrity or the good
of the organization just to maintain harmony.
3. Courage to participate in transformation- Effective followers view the struggle of change
and transformation as a mutual experience shared by all members, support the leader and
does not afraid to confront the changes.
4. A can-do attitude- A leader’s job becomes smoother when he or she has followers who
are positive and self-motivated, can get things done, accept responsibility, excels in required
tasks, and willingly accept difficult assignment.
5. A collaborative approach- Each follower is a part of the leader’s larger system and should
realize that his or her action affect the whole. Work effectively as a team member.
6. Courage to serve and subservient- Effective follower understands the needs of the
organizations and seek to serve those who need.
7. The passion to drive personal growth- Leaders want followers who seek to enhance
their own growth and development rather than depending on the leader to do it.

III. Engagement
Written Work # 2
What’s New: Give your thoughts in each situation on how  to become
responsible in handling your relationship with the people around you.

Situation 1: Conflict with the Parents You had an agreement with your parents that you would finish
senior high school without engaging in a romantic relationship. However, you fell in love with this
guy/girl that made you more inspired to study hard and make a lot of achievements. How will you
handle this kind of situation?

Situation 2: Conflict with your best friend (Choose the situation applicable to you/your gender) You
were courted by a varsity player who is so popular in your school. You are also aware that he is your
best friend’s long-time crush. How would you keep the friendship without sacrificing your own
happiness? You are courting a student who is not so popular in your school. You know well that your
friends will mock her for she is not their type. Though you found her so important and very special to
you. How would you make your friends accept her as your special someone?

Situation 3: Conflict with your Significant Other You work with your friends on your research paper.
Most of the time you are with your girl/boyfriend. Your actions and words are so familiar with each
other that is why you get along with each other so easily and work well too without any difficult
feelings except when your girlfriend/boyfriend expresses jealousy over your friend. How would you
help build confidence and trust in your relationship so that you both surpass this problem?

PERFORMANCE TASKS # 2
 What’s  More:
Activity 2. Make a poster or slogan showing different roles of a leader and follower that could
influence people  in a society.  Answer the process questions.
1. What is the message of your slogan or poster?
2. How could you influence others to become a good leader and a follower?
3. Why do young people need to understand the concept of leadership and followership?

***End of WEEK 2***